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so nice that people dont think twice about saying LH about a klal-i call that piggish.
ewww
Observeteen-having dealt with these problems myself numerous times being in kiruv krovim and having had to steer at least 10 girls away from bad boy friends, I’ll tell you that you were def right to talk to her. She trusts you, and is tellling this to you for a reaction. that is a. Be calm with her, build up her self esteem, and my advice is to tell her to listen to Rabbi Wallersteins shiur on Torahanytime.com called the magic touch. It is unbelievably powerful. Maybe just suggest it and let her toy with the idea.
13 is a scary age for someone to be used already. Good for you that you are oding something about it.
I AM APPALED THAT PPL ARE SUGGESTING THAT SHE JSUT WALK OUT OF THE MARRIAGE!
how can someone not knowing the full story and both sides advicate such a thing???
Op-its so sad for me to hear wut you are going through. You need to go to someone who knows you both and not ask advice from everyone. In the mean time, be the best you can be. I know a couple, hu went thru gehemin together. He wouldnt go to counsling, he was abusive verbally and the screaming/ breaking dishes were constant. She didnt get herself together at all and he felt no attraction to her. He slowly started slipping down in yiddishkeit and cursing and missing shacharis became a constant. But she was devoted and determined to make it work. And they started so small. After much pleading and begging they went for a walk and decided on that walk to give eachother 15 minutes a nite, to discuss wtvr they needed to, in quieter voicesand that small thing they kept to. And many times theyd argue those 15 minutes, and it wasnt peaceful. But she davened and made sure for that small time to get herself together nicely and be there, and make it her priority. And her recognized that and appreciated it. I want to tell you its 14 years later and they are an example of what shalom bayis is. A beautiful family and beautiful marriage. he is learning full time now and things worked out. I’m not saying this should be ur solution. Maybe you need to start somtheing small, talk to a rav, wtvr. I’m just saying that im appalled by how easily ppl can suggest to walk out. i understand they want to help you and encourage you and side with you, but then we ask why the divorce rate is so high.
hold strong. go to ppl hu understand both sides, and do ur part and most improtantly daven.
I personally grew up in a home of divorce, and I can def say looking back, that it cldve 100% have been prevented. No, its not like this in all cases. But dont heed advice from ppl you dont know and hu will encourage you to make such a step
The only rite ppl on this blog have is to support you and encourage you to seek other help and sympathize. THAT’S IT.
good luck. I really hope things turn around for you and look happier soon.
rosner! my favorite word is parsniket! thts so cool
i dont get it
love a yid-say it say it! im so curious 🙂
Say, “I know longer want to eat in your home because I dont truest your kashrus.” Nothing like a bit of honesty.
agreed. of course there are circumstances when divorce is necissary, so no one should judge. However, its important to stay married! r Pam said tht 95 percent of marriages can be salvaged if ppl dont come for help wen theyve reached a breaking point. so if its hard, reach out, and get help. but dont just start talking divorce. r avigdor miller said the word divorce shld never be mentioned in a marriage and is poisen
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MG AND BPT. WHY ARE THERE SO MANY DIVORCES THESE DAYS?????? ppl need to work things out not just say if it doesnt improve take out the get. Unfortunely in todays day and age everyone much easier wants the “out” and on to the good life rather then working on something that SHOULD BE PERMINENT! marriage is not something to through in the garbage when things get a bit rocky!
listen, i myself gained a crazy amountin pregancy from water retension. I went from being really thin to plus 50 lbs-not pretty-but BH for good reasons. But you also have to be realistic. He shouldnt reject you, however you shld do ur best to look good and presentable. If the weight is bothering you or him, then try to work out and get rid of it, tell him you understand where he is coming from, and try some more exersize. Just make sure ur both understanding of each other.
dont stifle ur kids bbut keep them safe bederech hateva
i think this is rude to publicly post-wut if you exclude someone from the “Top names” list and a, she sees this and gets hurt or b, she looses business over it. Careful ppl!
alz is git-when jewish singers copy secular music it makes me sick.
Middlepath i think wut you are doing is the right thing its not wrong. To check ur cell and show disinterest isnt normal, its rude. i wouldnt continue going out with a guy hu is that blunt on a date. But, to answer the OPs question more directly, you can tell everything thru eye contact. The eyes are windows to the soul.
Gluck all with finding your zivugim!
mdd i was referring to slinky type of long flowy skirts that outline the shape.
There is nothing wrong with very long skirts.
Really now?
unfortunetly these days very frum ppl have distorted tzinius. Tzinius is a certain class. Its the way a princess would dress . that being said, mere requirements such as, cover your knees doesnt suffice. Yes cover your knees, but does tha tmean you should wear a skirt that has funky sequins all over and sweeps the floor as you walk? its a sensitivity. Our generation unfortunely lost that sensitivity to style. For example, style says wear straight skirts only otherwise ur weird. However, does that straight skirt cover your knees at all times? does it show ur every form and movement when you walk? etce etc. So no, there is not jst a list of requirements that anyone can give you.
I’ll try to find out-I’m not sure that there is a reason for it-it may be more like a chok-just as stepping over nails is….but I’ll see about the wood bli neder
do you like the song “you raise me up so i can stand on mountains….” My favorite.
I’d say start small. Like neutral songs like the above one i mentioned. And delete obscene artists such as raps etc-id list names if i didnt think the mods wld delete the post…
and then go full fledged jewsih-i ttly hear u thats its hard. Its a rly hard tranision.
I personally love older jewish music as it appeals to the heart and doesnt merely copy half way wardly the secular stuff which they cant imitate.
And no, a lot of times wen jews complete with the secular stuff its terrible if you can compare-so id say go to the REAL jewish ones once you feel ready to make the step.