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  • in reply to: What is forgiveness? #1100255
    feivel
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    Joseph that depends on how much of the act was against Halacha, what kind of efforts the perpetrator had made in his life to improve his Middos, his Emunah, was the act against Talmidei Chochomim in general, or against other beloved groups of Klal Yisroel etc. etc.

    but I would say to answer your question, as far as I know, no, it doesn’t necessarily remove all of the punishment.

    in reply to: What is forgiveness? #1100254
    feivel
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    Syag that last line was a peirush on what we say before going to bed. Which refers primarily to things someone did or words they said that antagonized or angered you or you perceived as a slight to your honor and the like, even if done unintentionally.

    Where indeed the makpidness of the offended could be a problem for the perpetrator, if the offense was carried out because the offender wasn’t sensitive or careful enough.

    My second post was directed towards the situation mentioned in your response to my first post.

    But indeed how and why and in what circumstances these “rules” apply are certainly far beyond my comprehension.

    I just try, as I know you do, to understand what I can at my level, to guide me towards trying to serve Hashem as best I can.

    in reply to: What is forgiveness? #1100248
    feivel
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    Of course their punishment in such a case WILL come about regardless of your sentiments. They did a terrible thing to a Yid without remorse and they will be called to account. That is between them and Hashem. It’s not your cheshbon or dependent on your will.

    Your kavanah, as I understand it, should be something like: Hashem you will do what is best for this persons Neshamah and to fulfill Your Justice. But please whatever happens to this person don’t let it be for my sake. Let it be for Your sake. Do not punish them because I am rightfully angry. Punish them because You are angry. I am moichel them as much as the ratio of my humanness to my Malachness will allow. That is my part, that I do because You desire it from a Yid, for whatever Your reasons. And You will surely carry out Your Justice.

    That’s basically how I understand it. If the theologic scholars enter this thread, I can’t quote the sources.

    This is a personal note from me to you.

    in reply to: What is forgiveness? #1100245
    feivel
    Participant

    Joseph, syag

    No one says it’s easy.

    Every night before we go to bed we give mechila to EVERY Yid, and we cover all cases, even if it happened in a previous life, and we make no mention of their remorse or lack of it. It is completely unilateral.

    And we say let no one be punished on my behalf. We try to do this with a full heart.

    Do you want to be responsible for Hashem “being forced” to punish his beloved child because you are makpid?

    in reply to: ELUL and fear #1105912
    feivel
    Participant

    Who says?

    The adrenaline, sympathetic nervous, and cardiovascular responses are all non goal oriented.

    If a lion is approaching you and your friend, you can use the generated energy to subdue your friend and throw him to the lion, just as well as attacking the lion. If the lion then changes his mind and leaves, you can flee from your ex-friend.

    in reply to: ELUL and fear #1105909
    feivel
    Participant

    Fight the Yetzer Hora, and flee from chait.

    in reply to: Natural Health and the Sun (Or a question for Stam) #1098962
    feivel
    Participant

    That’s ok. You don’t have to bother.

    As to your proposal for current locational studies, great idea, if you ignore the gaseous properties such as diffusion and susceptibility to convection.

    As to the “reverse engineering” idea, well that should be easy and reliable enough. I say they should go for it.

    in reply to: Natural Health and the Sun (Or a question for Stam) #1098958
    feivel
    Participant

    Interesting. These are studies done before the Industrial Age that measured uv levels in various locations? I’d love to look over those studies. I couldn’t find them on Google. Maybe you could guide me in the right direction without posting a link?

    in reply to: Natural Health and the Sun (Or a question for Stam) #1098954
    feivel
    Participant

    People say (not me) that the sun naturally causes no harm. But mankind with the explosion of the use of toxic airborne substances such as CFCs has damaged the natural atmospheric filtering of the UV light produced by the sun, artificially raising the amount reaching the earths surface. Possibly requiring an artificial response of sunscreens as the lesser of two evils.

    in reply to: Maybe I Just Shouldn't Say Kaddish? #1101308
    feivel
    Participant

    I’m not claiming any rights.

    I’m not making any Halachic arguments.

    Im not trying to win or debate or poskin anything.

    I’m only trying to help wolf come to a decision by pointing out the obvious.

    That there is more to communication between people than the mere recital of words.

    Besides facial expressions and body motions which may not have a schichus here, there is enunciation, inflection, tonality, “nigun”, spirit, and so on which are reflections of the mind, of kavana.

    There is also a deeper, more nebulous “something” spiritual that comes from a direct connection between Neshamos. Did you ever hear someone speaking “from the heart”. Even if he is a poor orator, a tznua in facial and body motions, even if you don’t understand much of what he is saying, it has an impact.

    All this has an effect on the listener which in turn has an effect on the listener’s response.

    I could go on for a long time but I really was trying to avoid spending time on this that should be obvious, and beginning another cycle of empty back and forth with no toeles.

    in reply to: Maybe I Just Shouldn't Say Kaddish? #1101300
    feivel
    Participant

    Probably

    in reply to: Maybe I Just Shouldn't Say Kaddish? #1101292
    feivel
    Participant

    No just common sense

    in reply to: Maybe I Just Shouldn't Say Kaddish? #1101290
    feivel
    Participant

    I do

    in reply to: Maybe I Just Shouldn't Say Kaddish? #1101286
    feivel
    Participant

    In other words I’m raising the possibility that the kavana of the responders is influenced by the kavana or lack of kavana of the reciter. I have no specific source for this but it doesn’t argue on your Gemorah, and it’s logical

    in reply to: Maybe I Just Shouldn't Say Kaddish? #1101284
    feivel
    Participant

    Sam your Chiluk was clear. I stated that lchora the Chiluk may not be so definitive. There may be a difference in the impact of their responses depending on what exactly they are responding to

    I don’t believe the responses to words of praise are the same as responses to one who is standing and actually praising Hashem. Or so it seems to me.

    in reply to: Maybe I Just Shouldn't Say Kaddish? #1101281
    feivel
    Participant

    If he isn’t able to think and feel what he is saying, then he is not praising Hashem. He is reciting words of praise. That’s something but not the same as being osaik in praising Him. I don’t believe the responses to words of praise are the same as responses to one who is standing and actually praising Hashem. Or so it seems to me.

    in reply to: Sunglasses assur? #1098352
    feivel
    Participant

    Just as an aside sam, there is no ocular condition known to medical science wherein it is dangerous to be without sunglasses on a short term basis. Sunglasses are worn primarily to decrease discomfort and squinting, and for cosmesis. There ARE certain situations where the regular use of uv or infrared blocking lenses (not necessarily sunglasses) is theoretically advisable to prevent the long term progression of certain chronic conditions. But to almost need eye surgery because someone was without sunglasses for a few hours or days is utterly ridiculous.

    in reply to: Sunglasses assur? #1098334
    feivel
    Participant

    Okay then, let me try to reduce the weight you say I lent to the notion that there can not be a negative side to a chumra:

    I hereby state that there can be a negative side to a chumra. I never implied otherwise but if you inferred that I did I hereby formally retract such implication.

    In particular, regarding refraining from wearing sunglasses, I have heard that there are some horror stories regarding that conduct.

    Perhaps you can post said stories. Besides probably being fascinating, it would certainly demonstrate the point you would like to make clearer. Namely that there are chumros that have a negative side.

    Thank you

    in reply to: Sunglasses assur? #1098329
    feivel
    Participant

    My comment was certain to offend some people. I’m not surprised that Sam was one.

    But in any case it should have been clear from my post that I was not addressing my remarks to someone who doesn’t like “certain (or too many) chumros”. Rather to someone who is offended by the concept.

    .

    in reply to: Sunglasses assur? #1098321
    feivel
    Participant

    I’m speaking of chumros (a concept that is dear to me, certainly not abhorrent as it seems to be to some) in general. I know very little regarding the viewpoint of any community specifically about sunglasses.

    in reply to: Sunglasses assur? #1098320
    feivel
    Participant

    Who dreams up this nonsense?

    Not that someone who’s ultimate goal is to arrive at the cemetery having fulfilled his obligations in the most minimal way possible, could possibly understand. But it’s dreamed up by a group of Yiddim with awareness of their debt to The Ribono Shel Olam, who seek to fulfill His will with mesirus nefesh, who have a sensitivity and a feeling for what behaviors belong to the goyish velt, and wish to remain as far away as possible from those mannerisms to bring nachas to The Abishter. Whether they are required to by Halacha or not.

    in reply to: Jokes #1202834
    feivel
    Participant

    Right, but as far as their assumption in interpreting the bartender’s question, they would certainly assume he would not ask them a question that they could answer only in the negative or with inherent uncertainly, thus eliminating the possibility of answering in the affirmative. And since the likelihood of each indeed wanting a drink was relatively high (being that they walked into a bar) he would be depriving himself of the profit. (Also assuming he had a personal interest in the profit (either as the owner or commission)

    DISCLAIMER: I understood what I said before I wrote it but I make no guarantees as to whether or not it makes sense after I wrote it.

    in reply to: Jokes #1202832
    feivel
    Participant

    I need a drink

    in reply to: Jokes #1202831
    feivel
    Participant

    Wait I’m confused, does that support me or you?

    in reply to: Jokes #1202830
    feivel
    Participant

    Your times up.

    If they were good logicians, since it was impossible for the first two to answer the question as referring to the group, they would have assumed the bartender was using the language colloquially, and asking them individually. Therefore the third WAS correct.

    in reply to: Jokes #1202829
    feivel
    Participant

    Admit defeat now and you will not have to suffer further humiliation.

    in reply to: Jokes #1202828
    feivel
    Participant

    It will be a cold day in December, Daas Yochid, when your logical mind surpasses mine.

    in reply to: Jokes #1202827
    feivel
    Participant

    Besides, they were in Alabama and certainly would have interpreted “you all” as in “y’all” which implies he was asking them individually.

    in reply to: Jokes #1202826
    feivel
    Participant

    You’re wrong!!!

    I DO know the first two guys. They were very poor logicians.

    in reply to: Jokes #1202824
    feivel
    Participant

    It’s true the third one MIGHT be correct. But he might also be incorrect.

    (Unless you know those guys.)

    in reply to: Jokes #1202822
    feivel
    Participant

    He had no knowledge of whether or not they wanted a drink.

    Had the first one wanted a drink he would have responded to the question: “I’m not sure”.

    And had he not wanted a drink he would have responded also; “I’m not sure”

    in reply to: Jokes #1202820
    feivel
    Participant

    The first two were certainly correct.

    The third one drew an unsubstantiated conclusion which may or not be correct.

    in reply to: Chaveirim #1096027
    feivel
    Participant

    As a matter of fact this thread is disgusting and should be immediately deleted, not closed, deleted. Such a lack of gratitude is an embarrassment for the op even if he doesn’t recognize it.

    If he wants to apologize, and he should, he can start a new thread.

    in reply to: Remember the Old Timers? #1106204
    feivel
    Participant

    They didn’t “allow” my post to go through!

    They don’t know HOW to delete!!

    You think deleting is easy?

    If you do, you don’t know anything about the great skill of moderating.

    It took years for me to master deleting alone.

    Jumbo jet pilots? Simpletons!

    So why do so many posts get deleted? Simple. They put the Deleter on auto!

    It simply randomly deletes posts. Didn’t you ever wonder why that perfectly innocent post of yours got deleted?

    Didn’t you ever wonder why they never answer when you ask them why it got deleted?

    Well, now you know.

    in reply to: Remember the Old Timers? #1106202
    feivel
    Participant

    When I “left”, they changed the locks.

    (And posted armed guards)

    in reply to: Remember the Old Timers? #1106201
    feivel
    Participant

    Yes.

    A motley bunch of over-caffeinated. power-mad, unrepentant tyrants, who never appreciated my true genius.

    in reply to: Remember the Old Timers? #1106197
    feivel
    Participant

    And, I was a member first, before I unwittingly got drafted into that band of thieves.

    in reply to: Remember the Old Timers? #1106196
    feivel
    Participant

    I made no such suggestion!

    I just wanted to complain.

    It’s much more fun to complain than make suggestions.

    The moderators know this too.

    They are sly and crafty and deliberately ruined my fun.

    in reply to: Remember the Old Timers? #1106193
    feivel
    Participant

    Great. Now you made my post in the “outrageous” thread irrelevant.

    Thanks a lot moderator.

    in reply to: That's Outrageous! #1097082
    feivel
    Participant

    I am a long time member of a well known online Yeshivish forum. I think I qualify as an “old timer”.

    There is a thread on that forum titled: “In MEMORY of the Old Timers”

    Usually the phrase: “in memory of” implies they are deceased!

    Outrageous!

    feivel
    Participant

    It’s always quite acceptable here to question,criticize,point out his past behavior ,and even embarrass Joseph.

    Kind of an understood unwritten rule of the CR. even new posters get the hang of this pretty quickly.

    I suppose you can say he brought it on himself, he is to blame for this, he keeps repeating the same behaviors. And you’d indeed have a good point.

    But I’d ask two questions:

    Does unattributed quoting, copy-pasting, even multiple screen names have much to do with the points he’s trying to make?

    And is it the middah of a proper Yid to publicly point out someone’s flaws? Especially to do so in the comfort of social acceptability and mutual support?

    (I say “especially” because it is akin to the lowly degrading “lynching” mentality)

    I’m talking generally, not necessarily about this thread. I haven’t really read it much.

    in reply to: ladies davening #1095440
    feivel
    Participant

    If you are finding Davening difficult just when you need it most, many have shared this with you. Just remember the little bit of calling out to Hashem that you do manage to accomplish, even if it’s just a sigh (while having Hashem in mind) is very powerful when it is so hard.

    in reply to: Whose parking spot is it? #1094901
    feivel
    Participant

    Tos B’M ??? ??????. Bottom of bais amid aleph.

    I’m not to good at writing Hebrew. I’ll translate here. You can check on my translation.

    “And this that it says later daf 118 aleph, that seeing Hefker is koneh. This is that he did some maaseh such as that he fenced it in with a small fence.”

    I guess some maaseh that isn’t an actual kinyon, otherwise what does the seeing accomplish.

    in reply to: Whose parking spot is it? #1094899
    feivel
    Participant

    Yekke.

    Don’t remember the sugya. But I think the masksna is that it’s not koneh unless certain things happen. im yirtzeh Hashem perhaps I’ll have a chance to look it up later today.

    in reply to: Whose parking spot is it? #1094892
    feivel
    Participant

    Its (sort of) the first sugyah in B’M.

    Seeing something with the intention to acquire it doesn’t work.

    The first one to do a Kinyon gets it. I guess the question would be what’s a “kinyon” on the right to use a space.

    feivel
    Participant

    I don’t believe he is giving a psak Halacha.

    He is merely doing a great Chesed, because he loves every Yid, by informing them how to be a proper Yid, an eved shlayma. How to give nachos to The Ribono Shel Olam should you desire to, to at least try to pay back for the infinite kindness He has bestowed upon you. How to merit a beautiful cheilek in Olam Ha Boh.

    in reply to: Girls name Raylah #1094648
    feivel
    Participant

    ” Even if there is no halachic chiyuv, it is simply a lack of respect to ignore the direct instructions of such a great man.”

    And I would add: foolish, and dangerous.

    in reply to: Pollard #1094186
    feivel
    Participant

    Please excuse the all caps.

    I didn’t mean to yell. Just wanted to visually distinguish my words from the quotes. Italics would have been better but I didn’t want to relearn how and as I recall it was a tirchah to do so. Maybe next time.

    in reply to: Pollard #1094185
    feivel
    Participant

    Mandated?

    Automatic?

    From his lawyers statement upon notification of his release:

    “The decision is not connected to recent developments in the Middle East”

    DECISION? WHAT DECISION?

    ” Had parole been denied, Mr. Pollard would have been required to serve an additional fifteen years in prison.”

    “HAD PAROLE BEEN DENIED”? WHY THATS IMPOSSIBLE. HIS RELEASE WAS MANDATED!

    REVIEW? ASSESS? DISCRETION? WHETHER? WHY ITS MANDATED ITS AUTOMATIC !

    “Over the next several months, in advance of the hearing, we engaged in dialogue with the DOJ, and submitted extensive written materials to the Parole Commission and the DOJ in support of parole, demonstrating that Mr. Pollard had an exemplary prison record, and that there was no possibility that he would commit any further crimes if released. We also secured employment and housing for Mr. Pollard in the New York area, and made that information available to the Parole Commission as well as the DOJ.”

    MY, WHAT IGNORANT LAWYERS. THEY DIDNT KNOW THAT HIS RELEASE WAS AUTOMATIC.

    in reply to: economy #1094156
    feivel
    Participant

    M agent

    It’s always so wonderful to see Yidden speaking about Hashem.

    Not to forget about him and speak and think in the language of the foolish haughty nations within which we have been placed to be tested.

    Hashem is not only in the Chumash and in the Siddur.

    He is here! His plans are proceeding right on schedule according to His Ratzon.

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