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I lived in Kensington for a while after getting married, while I was finishing college. When we were packing to move out, to NJ, we realized that we had packed something that we needed for dinner – some ingredient, I don’t remember exactly what – let’s say an egg. My wife went to a neighbor to get some. She knocked next door, but nobody was home. She went to the next house (only two doors down from us!) and knocked. A woman opened the door, and my wife said hello, and said, “I live two doors down – is it possible I can borrow an egg?”
The woman looked at her, and said, “Oh, did you just move in? I don’t remember ever seeing you.”
Derech HaMelech: No, I don’t recognize that it’s my job to support them. If it was limited to the best, the future leaders, then yes, it would be – but not the way it is now. I support some people who I believe have a future as a leader – people who are roshei kollel, who have semichah and are looking for positions, etc. but not people just sitting and learning without a plan for the future.
Thank you again for the well wishes. This morning I was feeling light-headed (probably from anesthesia still in my system), and when I was walking downstairs in the morning, I lost my balance and fell down my stairs. I’m ok, just bruised up, but I really can’t seem to catch a break.
I didn’t feel any pain for about a week. I saw the Dr. to follow up, and he said the stone was gone – they couldn’t see it on the ultrasound. Turns out they were wrong, because on Sunday, I was back in the ER with worse pain than last time. I had surgery this morning to remove the stone, and am now recuperating from that.
Healh: neither. They sent me home with pain meds and another med that’s supposed to help it pass faster. It hasn’t passed yet, but the pain is almost completely gone.
Last night I was in agony. It was probably the worst pain I’ve ever had in my life. My wife called Hatzalah, and I went to the emergency room. Turns out that now I have a kidney stone also.
Mods, when I post a reasonable reply, why doesn’t it get posted?
I can’t follow the conversation, so I can’t moderate them.
Thank you everyone! I noticed a weird lump on Thursday morning (a week and a half ago), and went to the doctor later that day. I had a strangulated inguinal hernia that was also incarcerated. I went straight to the hospital and had surgery that night. They originally told me I’d be home for Shabbos, but on Friday, I developed a fever and my white blood cell count was very high. I ended up staying in the hospital over Shabbos, and went home after Shabbos was over. I finally returned to work today. I’m feeling much better, I just can’t lift anything for a while. I do still have pain at times, but they gave me Vicodin for that.
If anyone wants to storm the Feifdom, feel free! My wife and I love having guests! Be aware that we already have guests lined up for Shabbos lunch this week, so if you come then, it might be crowded!
If it’s something that is required for the action, it’s not considered a hefsek.
MiddlePath: I agree about RtL! Great album! My favorite solo is The Thing That Should Not Be – it’s just so different from everything else.
I listened to an old favorite of mine – Shmelke’s Niggunim
The debate thread is a joke. The mods aren’t allowing any MO stuff through.
There are some co-ed schools in the MO world because we recognize that there are people out there with a low level of observance who need them. They believe it’s a big thing, and if it wasn’t available, they’d likely go to public school instead. So, given the choice between these kids going to public school or having a co-ed Jewish day school, they opted to have the day school, so that the kids still get a Jewish education. I know kids who started there, realized that it wasn’t ideal, and asked their parents to switch them to a boys-only school. The principal of the school looks at these kids as their greatest success stories.
I’d be interested in being part of a team, not doing it myself. I agree that Mod-80 shouldn’t be moderating.
Here’s my issue, which I will demonstrate by giving an example that has happened in the past:
Someone bashes MO by saying, “MO women don’t dress properly.”
I respond, “Well, plenty of chareidim have gotten in trouble for XYZ, does that mean chareidi Judaism is about doing XYZ?” I’ve written specifics when it happened. However, those comments never get through.
The lights are dim the road is rough
Through dangerous paths we must go
We travel through Golus with fear in our hearts
Each Jew has a place in the heart of Hashem
We are so far yet so near.
Chorus:
Outstretched in times of need
Together we will succeed.
We hope for release to return to our home
Our eyes are burning with tears.
Chorus
I would never participate in such a debate here. The mods are clearly leaning towards one side, and they’d censor too many of the things coming from the MO side.
Thanks for the well wishes! So far so good – I used a tiny amount of water to take my meds this morning, definitely less than the shiur, and that’s all. I took all my pills with the one mouthful – antibiotics, pain meds, and one other that I need.
I will need another small amount of water in an hour or so for another pill, but other than that, I hope to keep going without needing to eat at all or drink anything else.
I was planning on working at first – I don’t have many vacation days, and I need them for the Yomim Tovim.
Then, I had an emergency surgery a few days ago, and am still recovering. I would be out sick even if it wasn’t Tisha B’Av. Now I might not be fasting (my Rav said if I feel lousy I am required to eat and drink, as I am 4 days post-surgery and considered a choleh). I definitely can’t sit on the floor, as it would cause severe pain. I did make sure to get a ride to shul tonight – I can’t drive because of the pain meds.
In Teaneck, it is supervised by the local Rabbonim, although I don’t believe they officially give the hechsher – I think they act as mashgichim for someone else. In Elizabeth, it is under R’ Teitz’s hechser.
bein_hasdorim: If you put quarters in meters like that, you will get a ticket!
How about stopping the criticism of Modern Orthodoxy that abounds here on the CR?
Most posters here know nothing about MO. They only know what they heard from other ignorant people, who have it drilled into their heads that MO is bad. Do some real research, spend some time in a MO community, and you’ll see that MO people don’t look for every kulah and heter out there.
In Europe, it’s true that there were many women who didn’t cover their hair. That was another mitzva that was overlooked there, along with shatnez and some others. That doesn’t mean it was ok.
I heard from a reliable source that when R’ Aharon Kotler came to the US, his wife didn’t cover her hair either. She started doing it after they moved to Lakewood, when R’ Aharon asked her to.
There were many things that were overlooked in past generations. Our observance of mitzvos has grown.
Modern Orthodoxy advocates learning secular education for 2 purposes.
First is for parnassah – MO does not push the kollel lifestyle, and believes a person should provide for his family.
Second is to better understand things. For example, learning trigonometry can better help someone to better understand parts of Maseches Sukkah. We all believe that everything is contained within the Torah, so we learn secular knowledge while recognizing that it all comes from Hashem, and will help us better understand things in a religious context. For example, most halachic medical experts come from MO circles, not from chareidi circles.
Deal with it. There’s not much that can be done, unless you want to spend a lot of money.
R’ Yisrael Belsky has a teshuva on this. I believe he says not to listen to upbeat acapella music. The issue is that music will bring you to dance. Upbeat acapella can do that. Slow music, even with instruments, is allowed.
It’s not always so clear about that. In Passaic, when the community was forming the local Hatzalah, R’ Meir Stern (the Rosh Yeshiva in Passaic) was against it. He felt the local 911 system was fine, and Hatzalah was not needed, and would cause unnecessary chilul Shabbos. They went ahead and founded it over his objections anyway.
In Teaneck, there is no Hatzalah. There is a local volunteer EMS that is mostly Jews anyway, and their response time is excellent. On Shabbos, it is staffed by non-Jews, but the response time is still great.
Last night we had polenta stuffed with cheese, with marinara sauce on top.
Today we had pizza.
For the rest of the week (only 2 more nights), we’re having pasta one night, and eggs another night.
On Sunday we will probably have pasta again.
Some missionaries came to my door last week during my Shabbos meal. I answered the door, and saw two women standing there. I asked if I could help them, and they said they wanted to talk with me. They asked me, “Do you believe there will be a time when all our stress will be gone, and the world will be a much, much, better place?”
I said, “Yes, but that’s where our common ground ends. We have very different beliefs about how we’ll get to that point, and I really don’t have much interest in discussing it with you. Have a great day!”
Wolf: He wanted to imply that Mizrachi people talk durin davening.
shlishi, nobody argued on that point here. R’ Moshe held hat height. R’ Soloveitchik held 3 feet was enough – and R’ Soloveitchik was a big enough gadol to rely on.
The point of this thread was to define Modern Orthodoxy. Let’s get back on track.
R’ Moshe said that a mechitzah should be the height of a woman’s shoulders. He said in modern times, 5 feet is enough. R’ Soloveitchik held that 3 feet is enough.
R’ Moshe also held that a mechitzah made of glass is fine, as the issue is to prevent mixing, not seeing.
DovidM, have you ever read R’ Moshe Feinstein’s teshuvah on mechitzos? R’ Soloveitchik’s? The main point of the teshuvos is that the point of a mechitzah is to show a separation between men and women, not to hide the women.
As for the seating, having separate seating is a recent thing. When R’ Moshe Feinstein married off his children, there was mixed seating. When R’ Aharon Kotler married off his kids, there was mixed seating. Separate seating was just an additional chumrah that was adopted recently by chareidim, most likely taken from chassidim, who have been doing it for longer.
The Frumguy: No, MO don’t look for kulos. We just don’t accept unnecessary chumros as halachah. We don’t all hold the minimum zman for motzei Shabbos – the shul I daven in definitely doesn’t daven at the earliest zman. Chalav Stam is an issue I don’t want to get into again – but it’s not a kulah, being makpid on C”Y is the chumrah. As for pas Yisrael, as in the chareidi world, it is gaining popularity. Many chareidim still aren’t makpid on it. It’s not only Modern Orthodox. As for the tznius issues, the chareidi world invented many chumros, yet still can’t seem to get their act straight. Every week I hear about the tznius crisis in Lakewood, how women are dressed to kill, etc. ut just because Modern Orthodox women might keep the basic halachah, without the additional chumros, they’re labeled as not being tznius? Why is that?
Modern orthodox don’t take the “easy way out”. Chareidim choose the hard road.
One of the major differences is how to handle the modern world. Both MO and chareidi Jews agree that the world is filled with things that are dangerous to a frum Jew. Let’s take the internet as an example.
MO says, “Yes, the internet is dangerous, but we recognize that we can’t block it out. Therefore, let’s educate ourselves and our children about it, and show them how beautiful the proper path is. Therefore, when the temptation arises (as we know it will), we will be better equipped to withstand it.”
Chareidi Judaism says, “The internet is dangerous. Therefore, let’s assur it. If our children can’t access it, they won’t have to face the temptation.”
Three chassidim are sitting around a table on Motzei Shabbos telling over Rebbeshe ma’asos while eating their Melava Malka. The Rebbe walks by, and asks them what they’re doing. They respond, “It’s a minhag to tell over Rebbeshe ma’asos on Motzei Shabbos!”
The Rebbe replies, “Lav davka”, and walks away.
The first chassid says, “Lav davka on Motzei Shabbos – it should be all week!”
The second one says, “Lav davka Rebbeshe Ma’asos – we should say over all types of ma’asos!”
The third one says, “Lav davka it’s a minhag – it’s a chiyuv!”
ronrsr and zahavasdad, you’re both right. If it was taking 2 random people, and having them have a baby, the odds would be 1/48 million. Since the couple was already married, that part is already given, so it’s only 1/365.
A friend of mine once asked R’ Dishon something similar at a Shabbaton for couples going through infertility. It was R’ Dishon who made the point I said earlier – being angry at God means you realize He’s responsible for it. He said hat doesn’t mean it’s ok – anger is a bad middah, and must be avoided. Bitachon is realizing that everything that happens is the best thing that can happen for you. If we work on our bitachon, we also decrease our anger, because we realize that we should be thankful, not angry, even when something happens that seems bad.
If you’re angry at God, it means that you recognize that He’s responsible for what is happening to you. That, at least, is a good start.
Cold Stone Creamery ice cream is kosher. However, not all the toppings and sauces are. Some stores only use kosher toppings, and these stores have hechsherim. You can go into any store and buy their pre-packaged products – most have a hechsher on the container.
I believe they sell Pepsi.
I’m curious about most people here – do you spend more time on YWN, or on Facebook? If you want to do something, delete the account you spend more time on.
I had this recently. I got food, double-wrapped, from a nearby restaurant. The restaurant warmed it for us (there were a few other frum people there) and we ate it from the pans. We also put plastic plates (which the kosher restaurant had given us) under the pans to catch any spills.
This past Shabbos was so hot, we changed our usual menu.
We had gefilte fish, because it’s cold.
Instead of chicken soup, we had gazpacho.
Cold chicken cutlets with salad instead of hot chicken with kugel.
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The halachos of warming things up are very complex, and there are different shitos on them.
I know of a respected Rav who holds that you can leave your oven on a low temperature (well below boiling) and then put dry items into it to warm up – if you can remove it by hand, it’s obviously not yad soledes, and ein bishul achar bishul for dry foods.
Just because you don’t agree with these does not make it assur for you to eat the food.
I think it depends. As we all know, people shouldn’t converse with the opposite gender, even by writing. If the father is sending out invitations, he should address it to “Rabbi/Mr. Ploni and family”.
However, let’s say there a case where the chosson/kallah has no father involved – either because of a death, divorce, or some other reason. In such a case, all letters should be addressed to “Mrs. Plonis and family”.
The question is what to do if there’s a guest that is single. In such a case, I think a posek needs to be asked as to how to address the invitation. Maybe address it to “Current Resident”?
R’ Shteinman did not have an air conditioner for years. When it was pointed out to him that visitors to his house were uncomfortable in the heat, he had one installed. I’ve been told that when there are no visitors, he turns it off.
Pac-Man: you dare attack R’ Willig and R’ Lichtenstein? They are two of the biggest Rabbonim in the world! R’ Lichtenstein knows the entire Shas backwards and forwards, and is respected by Rabbonim all over the world!
R’ Willig is a posek of the highest caliber, and a respected rosh yeshiva. Maybe your Neturei Karta buddies don’t like him because he supports Israel, but that doesn’t give you the right to attack him.
I hope Hashem punishes you for the motzei shem ra you’ve said here. You deserve it.
As for Modern Orthodoxy not following their leaders, you’re completely wrong. Just because we have different leaders than you doesn’t mean we don’t listen to them. For those who don’t listen, it’s not b’shittah. As far as R’ Willig’s statement is concerned, he is correct – advice is not a psak halachah. He doesn’t say if you think a Rabbi is wrong just because you think you know better. He clearly states it’s only of the Rabbi didn’t have all the information.
As for the infallibility of Daas Torah, chareidim made it into something that it’s not. Chareidim believe that a gadol can not make a mistake. Well, guess what – they can. R’ Shmuel Kaminetzky said straight out after the whole Lipa concert fiasco that their decision was wrong, and was influenced by someone with a lot of money. Is this infallibility? Even Moshe Rabbeinu wasn’t infallible. Only Hashem is never wrong.
bpt, that is not true. We are supposed to forgive people as well. There are different aspects – bein adam laMakom and bein adom lachaveiroh. We can forgive for our part, and Hashem needs to forgive His part as well.