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I would like to suggest an answer, as a mother and grandmother of both boys and girls. A young men takes on most mitzvas at the time of his bar-mitzvah. For a girl/woman, we are responsible for the most important mitzvas at the time that we marry and start a family. Just think how a kalla at her wedding is the ‘star’ of the occasion.
There are text-to-speech converters, where you can drop a few paragraphs into a box, and the text will be read to you. I used it when I needed to study for a defensive driving course.
and was a little short on patience for reading and rereading.Is it really the case that fertility is declining? What I recall, from the mid-20th century, is that most families I knew had 2-3 children. Five or more seems to be more typical today.
Try walking back and forth from the refrigerator to the table and to the kitchen sink. Bend up and down while moving packages in and out of the refrigerator. Lift grocery bags. Move hampers and laundry baskets. Pick up toys from the floor.
(and these activities have other benefits, too.)I’ve been using remicade for 12 years. At that time, humira was not yet approved for treating Crohn’s disease. It works very well.
Later, I was told that remicade may eventually be less effective, at that point I would switch to humira. Spending a half day every 8 weeks or so at the doctor’s office or hospital is a minor nuisance (depending on your work schedule), but the results are good. If your doctor is not ready to recommend one or the other, see if there is another doctor who can advise you. I have a doctor who does not like to make decisions (is he afraid of being responsible for the outcome?) So I read all the information, make a preliminary judgment, and then check with a family member who is a gastroenterologist, and is willing to give advice.What else would you expect from a Sirian? Siriously?
Just a suggestion (maybe I should try it!) – each time that you play a game, set aside another quarter for tzedaka. It will slow you down, and make you more conscious of how many games are taking up your time.
Definitely an out-of-town lifestyle. There is one Vaad HaKashrus that is universally accepted, a proper eruv, and people will still greet a fellow Jew.
It’s really very simple. For the unaffiliated Jew, their last remaining connection to Judaism is events like the Passover Seder. And they take very seriously what they read in the Haggadah, where it instructs them to Lean to the Left.
Yes, there is life outside of Brooklyn.
Rabbi Hoffman is learned, intelligent, and a good speaker (although I have rarely heard him speak in public). He also teaches and leads chesed projects at local schools.
1. Donald Trump is America’s Howard Beale moment.
2. Far more likely that Trump will learn to be “Presidential” than that Hillary Clinton will be honest.
3. Trump’s biggest fault is that he’s not a professional politician. Haven’t we had enough of those?
For some people, shul is a place to connect with their friends and neighbors as much as a place to daven. A smile, wave, or a whispered greeting should be enough.
If space allows, you may try to spread the word that you are trying to establish a silent section for those who want to better focus on the tefillah.
btw, this is the reason that I chose a shul where the women have a balcony. The space near the mechitza tends to attract the big talkers.
Try a foil cookie sheet.
Listen to your parents. That doesn’t necessarily mean following their views in every regard, but the more that you listen attentively and seriously consider their opinions, the more they will trust your judgment.
I tried pointing out to my child a long time ago, “Think how much more you know and understand now than you knew a few years ago – What makes you think there’s nothing left to learn?” (and btw, it didn’t work.)
Hmmm. Let me see, this was many years ago, but I made sure that we had the old time toys without the bells and whistles, and that’s what was out for the kids to play with on Shabbos. Meals, family time, table settings, kiddush, walking to shul (even if they go just for the last 1/2 hour) – the day is different in so many ways, children are learning about Shabbos very early.
You have the right to remain silent. Anything you say can, and will be used against you.
You may wish to enjoy the excitement privately for a while before sharing the news. Grandparents first. Friends, etc, later.
I’ve been taking the A train from Far Rock for more than 25 years, and never had a problem. The trains run often, so it is a lot more convenient than the LIRR. It can be a little noisy when the schoolkids are traveling. The biggest surprise was when I chose to take the subway into Manhattan on a Sunday – most of the other passengers were family groups.
Downhill, mostly. The other choice is not a lot better. It’s an uphill battle.
If our partners need to believe that we are weaker, I think we are strong enough to deal with it.
Artzeinu Tours had some very good rates.
JEP-LI has been collecting the leftover pre-packaged snack foods after Purim for the past several years.
How about a list of people who pass by a snow-covered walk where the homeowners need help, and complain instead of lifting a finger? (or a shovel)
No, I expect him to wait so the dishes are washed after we’ve both finished.
The definition is not by inches of snow, but by a combination of snow and sustained wind speeds.
Funny, I thought that when Israel experienced a drought, it was due to all of the tourists praying for good weather.
It is important to note that until there is an effective treatment or cure, genetic testing is more vital with every succeeding generation.
DaasYochid – no, I was not suggesting that testing doesn’t help. As for the second, if the only goal is avoiding genetic mishaps, a more diverse population can only improve things.
But back to the original topic, testing, screening, and family questionnaires to make decisions about marriage. You can expend a lot of effort looking for a partner with no history of problems, but there is never a guarantee. Most important is who you will share your life with.
I have crohns, and it made me a lot more slender. (maybe it helped!) There have been some very difficult times, but right now my health is good. And btw, I know several other adults with crohns, and all of their children are in good health.
Two thoughts to ponder –
1) by reducing the number of marriages between two carriers, we are increasing the number of children who are carriers and
2) many genetic disorders are prevalent to a particular ethnic group or geographical origin, so the healthiest combinations may be between more distant groups, ie European and Syrian, Moroccan, Ethiopian.
It ain’t necessarily so. Some of the services, ie the performer, caterer, printer, may be donated or provided at a reduced price.
Charities use this vehicle because it works. It gets attention, and many people open their hearts, and their wallets, when they are being wined, dined, and entertained.
If you are questioning whether your ticket price is considered tzedaka for the purposes of calculating maaser, or a charitable tax deduction, check with your lor (local orthodox rabbi) or accountant. Often a fund-raising dinner will indicate that the value of the dinner is $$$, with the balance considered a charitable contribution.
The answer may be to lead rather than just follow. Make sure that there are trash receptacles, direct the kids to use them. Pick up a few things yourself, some will follow your example.
Withholding a get for any reason, interfering with visitation (except at risk of kidnapping or harm to the children) is a good idea if you wish to prove that being spiteful or proving a point is more important than being an adult and moving forward with your life.
There are some couples (I’m thinking in particular of an aunt and uncle married nearly 65 years) that find it difficult to go on alone, and the 2nd is lonely and lost and does not live very long after the husband or wife passes away. Your parents are together now.
There were some simchas that were important to me, occasions involving close friends, that I had to miss. We learn to value and appreciate the happy occasions even more.
Total 296 steps. After repeating the pattern 98 times, for 294 steps, you are two steps from the end. You then take two steps forward, and done. No need to take another step back.
Yes, and more crazy than spending that amount on a coat. A coat keeps you warm and doesn’t require time and expense for maintenance. I remember a PTA tea when I first moved to this town. The other mothers were turned out like it was the most important place they had to go. (how sad for them!)
Did you connect the ‘audio out’ headphone jack on the tape player to the microphone port on your computer?
What was the question? Is Turkish Air safe from Jews? Not anymore, more Jews are traveling with them.
I understand the desperation, but isn’t our complete lack of unity the real underlying cause? In a real Torah community, where we apply every other sanction, both in the synagogue, the community, and the business world, there would be a very small number of cases where we have any reason to consider resorting to harsher measures.
Most prescription eyeglasses are not reused here. Lenscrafters collects donated eyeglasses. Google ‘donate eyeglasses’. Bloomberg had an article last year describing that the economics of shipping and repairing made donating ‘a feel-good waste of money.’
Common reading glasses are more reusable. Some shuls have a basket of reading glasses for people who do not rely on the eruv.
Been there, done that. Think how lucky you are – all of the vain, superficial, self-important, hypercritical in-laws will drop out, leaving the compassionate and the sensitive. Saves a lot of your time screening the families.
Special treatment? Maybe you are assuming that this has something to do with the parent’s money. There could be a legitimate reason that this child was allowed to keep his cellphone, and in the example above, he was not using the phone – he received an unsolicited call.
Another story, my daughter was called by the school about her 5 year old son, who was seen hitting a classmate. Explanation – one of the other boys had hit him first. So why did he hit this child, who had not hit him? Because his parents had warned him that he is not to get in a fight with anyone smaller than him, so he picked on one of the bigger boys instead.
and according to the American media, a Jew who is observant in any way is ultra-orthodox. Can anyone tell me what that actually means? I don’t know anyone who defines himself as ultra-orthodox.
I understand the feeling that you don’t want to deceive your family, but ever hear of the concept of TMI – too much information? Yes, be truthful, but consider that your parents may not want to hear you spell out exactly how you are rejecting their values. Drops some hints, make a few comments about your plans and activities and wait to see if they are asking questions. No need to rub their face in your reality. Remember – “I appreciate what I’ve learned from you, but religion is not a central part of my life right now.” Leave the door open. Two years out of high school?! Think how much you and your perspective have changed in the last few years, what makes you think that there is nothing left to change?
I believe in science. Scientists are observing the universe around them to determine the rules of how our world operates. We know there are rules, and we also know that G-d set the rules and can change or suspend them.
Actually, Far Rockaway lowered the bar when the last pub standing, the Dew Drop Inn, done dropped out.
Ouch. I know it doesn’t help, but you are far from alone. What can you say? If you are learning with someone, you can answer, “I’m learning with …. right now.” You could also just try changing the subject, ask “Where is your daughter/nephew/grandson going?” or “I’ve heard some very good things about the new high school that just opened in your area – what kind of students are going there?” Best of luck.
It may be helpful to try to replace the disturbing images with images of people acting properly and respectfully.
Didn’t you say that your employer is frum? Even if the workplace is non-Jewish, or completely secular, you should be able to tell your boss that at the end of the day, when you were seeing the last patients, the other workers were leaving and you are not comfortable being left alone with a stranger. It is the employer’s responsibility to provide a safe working environment. He would be completely liable if you were harmed in any way.
9 days of mushroom spinach lasagna? no matter how good it is, that seems excessive.
before the Tisha b’Av fast? Something light and dairy, with lots of fruit.