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There are a lot of disaffected young adults (20’s) who are likely to be attracted to this “orthodoxy” which crosses many red lines, but they can still call themselves observant because the leadership tells them it’s OK.
A president should show compassion so I think Cain erred on that announcement, however, I agree with him if he is pointing a finger at the “entitlement” generation who believe it’s all coming to me…..
A fundamental difference between the products of the printing press and the computer. If I pick up a sefer to look at it, I only have in front of my eyes a sefer. If I pick up an Apple product, I have in front of me not only what the contents of the sefer, but a host of very objectionable material as well.
Suggesting you inquire at the blog called imamother, a frum website that deals a lot with parenting little kids.
When is the White House supposed to respond?
Challah pudding, there is a good recipe online just substitute the soy milk for the dairy milk. Calls for 10 cups of challah cubes (chunks), also uses apples. Delish warm or cold, all sorts of uses.
Personally I would place tuition in the category of necessary monthly expenses, as opposed to the list of luxuries. Whether tuition is too high is another thread.
mikehall: and for raising children who undersand the meaning of mesiras nefesh through role modeling: the children see in the mother someone who gives of herself to others who need her, not only looks after her own satisfaction.
Mikehall: to develop the brain in the pursuit of raising secure, happy and intellectually curious yiddishe neshamas.
When a person says we must be a 2-income family then the question must be about standard of living. If we are talking about trying to put meals on the table and meet monthly expenses, it’s one thing, but if it’s about buying an expensive house,imported furniture, cars, designer clothing & sheitels, the latest gadgets, the list goes on and on, well, should the little kids have to sacrifice having their mommy raise them for the gashmius?
Mommamia: maybe the outcome has to do with the preparation. If a mother approaches child-rearing thinking negatively and assuming she is not valued among her peers for being a full time mother, she is less likely to want to cope well, and will not put out her very best. On the other hand, are the high schools and post-high schools preparing girls well for motherhood? Or is the focus on something else?
Feif un: check if there was some incident where something you did affected someone else’s kids, maybe not intentially but carelessly? Just suggesting……
Sorry, I do not have anyone in shidduchim now, but hatzlocha…. One more thought—-children are bashert just as our spouse. Raising children challenges parents to mature, gain wisdom, become more resourceful and practice self-restraint. Most of all raising children is a chesed. The children we are blessed with are the right match to help each of us improve ourselves.
does anyone know how and when a response will come from the white house? will they post it on the website?
If you can’t buy the expensive educational toys, tap your own creativity to engage your kids, they are so amenable to games you make up!
Part of the problem is that we don’t realize the potential that our babies, toddlers and pre-schoolers have to learn about their world. If a woman would spend hours to make herself into a good mechanechet for a salary, why would she not understand the parallel at home with her own children? Very young children respond to their mother educating them in amazing ways. Read to your babies, soon they will begin to sit still and be engrossed in the pictures and mommy’s explanation of them. Use educational toys and show the children how to use them. Help develop your little one’s vocabulary by speaking frequently to them and showing you understand what they are trying to say to you. Teaching very young children makes them happy as they master elements of their world, and builds confidence and self-esteem. If we see our little ones as only being capable of doing what we ask them in return for a candy, its understandable that the moms are looking elsewhere.
There is intellectual stimulation to be had in raising kids, plenty of it, but we are not taught this way. There is a lot of social pressure to believe it is more prestigious to do something other than raise one’s own kids.
He should consult the Chabad on Campus section of Chabad’s website. They can probably tell him where the largest frum populations are on campus. Also, I believe Rutgers, NJ should be mentioned in this list.
Parents are afraid of their kids today, saying no has become the dreaded ordeal, this seems true from the smallest to the biggest kids. With the little ones they get prizes for every correct behavior, that years ago we were just stam expected to do because it was right. With the older ones we’re afraid to tell them they can’t go to sem or have all the perks their friends have, for fear of rebellion or mental health problems. It’s sad.
Does your local bikur cholim have a caregiver respite program? This could help your wife and alleviate stress. It certainly sounds like you could benefit from some extra help in the household.
I would not take a child to the Met. You will see all kinds of pritzus and statues there. Science museums geared for kids are usually more parve, but check for rotating exhibits that can be problematic. New York Hall of Science in Flushing is great for kids. Also Liberty Science Center Jersey City.
On the webpage check the link “Learn about petition thresholds”; it says there that 5K will earn a response.
If people are signing more than once the petition could get thrown out, according to the terms posted on the website. So I hope all of the 5K are legit.
The signatures are being added at a furious pace by Jews allover the country. They have almost 4000 now.
You know, I wish I didn’t have to wait until Purim to see that one again about Tim the new neighbor, from, Missouri was it? A really funny look at our lifestyle from the viewpoint of the goy next door.
First, I think she is struggling with the practical matter of how do I fill the hours (esp. summer) on Shabbos. The answer of course depends on whether she is married/with kids, or single. If single, she needs to find groups of singles in her community that get together on Shabbos, attend davening and shiurim, etc. Maybe try to make connections in other communities so she can vary her surroundings on Shabbos sometimes. Then, you bring up the issue of how to “disconnect” from electronics on Shabbos, this is neither a BT nor FFB issue, it is a 21st century issue. I believe it is Naaleh who has a campaign now to try to encourage people to separate from their devices for a period of time, to experiment and see if they can actually survive without the ipad, etc. This is a separate issue from Shabbos and if a person is so addicted that they cannot face life without the device, then the problem will extend into Shabbos.
There’s something disturbing about the “pecking order” that seems understood and accepted here. Where are parents to encourage each child to shine and prevent one from domineering while the others cower? How about each sibling learning to respect the others?
Do you have anyone there helping you get through this?
Is it possible that just as a Kalla has a special Koach at her Chuppa to give the bracha for shidduchim, a person who has just had a yeshua has a special koach at that time to daven for others who are still in the same matzav, whatever it was?
Can someone PLEASE tell me how to get a copy of his Purim article from last year? I never laughed so much…..
Hashem sends customized nisayon for each family, forcing all to look at themselves to see what needs changing.
Many Germans today feel deep regret over the actions of their ancestors. Nevertheless, they are the grandchildren of Nazis.
Ask your school to get involved in sensitivity training to the class so that the kids will be more aware and inclusive. As for the call sometimes kids’ words can be enigmatic, we can’t always know exactly what they mean or what they are trying to get across because they don’t say things accurately. I would check with the boy’s mother.
If you are truly worried about your kids marrying gay or intermarrying, keep them happy to be part of klal yisrael. Once they leave, all is hefker. Mock weddings in camp are not the problem here.
flatbush: you are right to pay close attention to what happens at recess; a successful or unsuccessful recess can sometimes color the entire school experience. And you were also right to invoke the memory of this past summer—the elementary recess is where many kind of “derech” can begin. The staff has responsibility to make sure no kids get seriously wounded (emotionally) at recess.
This is complex. I would say save the kid while you still have a chance. If the father isn’t with the program, the kid is going to have a rough journey.
speaking of billboards, how do people manage to work in Manhattan, daily, for years, surrounded in every direction by shmutz.
kapusta, OK, thanks for making the correction
kapusta: only fun if you’re not the one suffering, I guess.
bomb: are you in science? (metastatize)
Physical hitting is only the beginning; huge damage is done by words. A true story, years ago, in a large MO yeshiva, a tenured Rabbi who made a practice of announcing in front of the class regularly that “(name of boy) you’re a failure”. In those words. He would target different boys during the year. I know one sensitive kid who was already hanging on by a thread and could have used some chizuk……too late now.
You’re right, it’s too early now to think of starting an org, but maybe in the future. Chazon is doing a great job, but I think it would be more helpful if their sort of presentation was ongoing instead of a one-time only, and if more groups were doing the same kind of education within the yeshivas.
Bomb. OK, not only Kiruv but a voice representing the masses. Maybe you can develop a program and take it to schools, similar to Chazon.
Truthfully, your post went through me like an arrow, having watched a teen who asked questions not only be unanswered, but scorned and rejected until he finally left.
The criminals who used to be tethered to their PCs & laptops at home are now roaming the streets carrying smartphones.
WIY: some of the talmidim suffer the effects throughout adulthood, and sometimes severely, through psychological damage and leaving yiddishkeit, so it is not just for ranting; the issue of incompetent mechanchim should have a place in these discussions, but to be fair, so too should mechanchim and administrators be able to vent if they choose.
Could try being in touch with Rabbi Gluck in Monsey-his org is called Areivim; he does placement.
Please don’t diminish the training of a doula. They are trained in the same way midwives have been trained for thousands of years, by attending births and assisting experienced midwives.
bla: it’s possible that taking time off from school may become necessary, for now let’s assume you will start school and try to work academically. First you need to stop letting your imagination go wild as to exactly how circumstances will be once you are in school. The fact is, you simply don’t know the future, including exactly what school will be like this year. Even if you have had repetitive experiences in the past, it doesn’t guarantee everything will repeat this year. Take each event, emotion, as it occurs, don’t anticipate so much that might happen, until you are in a fever because of your imagination. That being said, you do need to immediately connect with someone who will be of long term assistance to you. I’m wondering if this is a case of “been to therapists, psychiatrists, taken meds, etc. and nothing helped?” If not, then it is certainly time to try to find someone you can confide in, whether a relative, friend, Rabbi or Rebbetzin, or mental health practitioner.
bomb, yes, I think you have what to offer in kiruv