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Sounds like bullies to me. Give them a wack on the behind and another on their way out. It’s none of anyone’s business what a venue offers. If you don’t like it, don’t visit.
For serious issues like gay parades in Jerusalem, lock and load, yes. That could cause Heavenly decrees.
However, the Ben Ish Chai says teaching Torah to those who don’t know how to learn erases such decrees.
Where I am, I am a mashgiach and I know what kashrut is like here. I don’t consider some food shops kosher enough despite their licence, so I simply don’t eat there. I cannot tell anyone why for heavy halachic reasons, but I don’t make a big deal of it.
Mashgiach Agent might think 3 months dating is long — where we are here, that is lightning fast. Sydney is not like you American Jewry. Families here interfere a lot and you need to know who we are to be sure. A lot of newlyweds are divorcing at alarming numbers.
I did not say I wanted to kill her for her disrespect. Only to disintegrate her. I should think the distinction is apparent. She can do that garbage in a reform “synagogue”, not in my orthodox shule. That impudent woman knew what she was being deviant.
As a principle I won’t buy any seforim from stores that sell abominable womens tallis. Which means 90 percent of the Judaica stores in the world I cannot buy books from…
A few weeks ago on Shabbos night, a woman said kaddish in my Chabad shule. Don’t know who she was, but I burned with disgust. Disgust! I don’t know how the sages turned a person into a heap of bones, but I would have done it and stuff the paperwork…
And there were women saying bircas kohanim at the Kotel.
May Hashem slap down the yester h for the brazen affront to His honour. Or I’ll do it myself.
Read the biography of the Baba Sali. The white book.
Mikvah in the morning will banish the chitzonim influencing the wrong thoughts.
Anyone?
I have a translation edition of the Zohar bought long ago. May I ask someone to tell me the name of this “known apikoros” so I know if it is my copy?
We think we are something we really are not.
Lets not kid ourselves. If we were frum why are we still reincarnating time after time? The yester h doesn’t mind; another lifetime of sins to collect. The issues we have today are baggage we hauled from our previous lives.
We need to make tikun and try to clean up ourselves.
Coffee is an addiction like smoking or drugs or alcohol. When you have you are calm, when you don’t you are edgy.
I have never drunk coffee. Too smart for that.
Oh! Almost forgot… and become religious SLOWLY.
Slowwwwwly.
You change too fast, you will not recognise yourself. There will be an emptiness inside you. You will slip back. I have seen it before unfortunately. Kosher food, Shabbos, Yom Tov, modest dress — bit by bit so you will get accustomed.
Easy. I’ll tell you how…
First… read the Artscroll book 5 Great Lives.
Then Sefer Chofetz Chaim. Either the Artscroll blue book or the recently Israel Book Shop one which is very good.
Then Orchos Tzaddikim to learn the good/bad side of 27 different emotions.
Then Derech Hashem from the Ramchal to understand the world.
Then Mesilas Yesharim by the Ramchal too.
Then beware, your yester hara within you will become stronger to compensate for your increased level. You are a capital asset of several decades investment. The goat face will not take losing you well. Further be advised, he gets vengeful if you make too much teshuva — any teshuva — and is known for striking at the people close to you out of spite.
At that point it is vital to read the book Remove Anger from Your Heart. That yellow book. Vital.
This is for a man.
For a lady… hmm, long skirt to the ground will cause the malachim to “smooth your path.” I would also recommend reading the short book Geder Olam (modesty in dressing, not mix dancing at weddings, married hair covered). The Feldheim edition is very good. Honesty, be sincere and speak nice never gossiping, and Heaven will help.
I’m reading the Halacha of the Ben Ish Chai. It is very good to read because he’ll give you the deeper reason for not/doing something the Kitzur Shulchan Aruch doesn’t say. He frequently quotes the Shulchan Aruch of the Alter Rebbe so heknewthe Chabad customs, and abundantly quotes the Chida and Rav Palachi and other authorities — the Malbim and Rav Eibshitz too!
From the seforim, sadness, depression and anger affects memory. Too much olives too. But olive oil and happiness strengthens memory. That’s why Chabad is always humming nigunnim. They know.
Read Sefer Habayis by Rabbi Yosef Lerner on hospitality of the home. Very paramount to know.
Guests at the table enough times can earn the bracha of Avraham Ovinu himself. It also atones for one’s transgressions, and it is vital to escort guests out the door even a short distance.
The outside world is a major factor. We are dispersed and pressured to conform. But hey, each to their own. Each have their pathway in life. We try our best, and hope to make enough amends.
Freak out if not engaged by 19? My gosh….
I must remind myself not to judge. These must be closed communities who know nothing of the outside world. Each to their own. It’s not like a soul has the choice where and to who to be born to.
All I can say is our Sydney community of orthodox Jews are completely different.
I have to ask regardless… at 18 or 19 or 20, what livelihood do these very young newlyweds have to support a family? How can anyone afford anything? Nevermind, I probably won’t like the answer. 🙂
Islam is a religion of peace. If the goverment says it than it must be true.
Gosh, I’m happy I don’t live in that men holding hands with men, weather disaster and race hating American country. And all the streets are numbered instead of named. How would I find anywhere?
But on the plus side, your seforim have cheap shipping or free shipping… Hmm. Nearly balances things up.
What jealously? OBVIOUSLY your wife has to be agreeable. Guests at table is how people get to know one another and network for dating.
Who cares. Just have a normal phone and use it in a kosher way.
Better to control anger and speech.
Og’s mother inlaw! Are you joking? You call 22 yo old for marriage?
lilmod, I am not on any high level. The Chofetz Chaim says if you trust the judgement of the Heavenly Court and don’t argue it, immediately they give you rachamin.
Avi beat me to it. I was about to quote a very similar pasuk. Even if wild street dogs come bounding toward a person, say the pasuk calmly, casually — watch as they suddenly veer away.
One is a dog, one is a coffee maker…
lilmod, if a dog sank its teeth in you that is not exactly a good indication. You should have had enough Torah learning and mitzvos that the dog should have been even a bit respectful. The fact it had no fear of you…
Hmmm…
Sefer Kav Hayashar tells of an incident during the time of the Arizal where a woman did adultery and when the adulterer man died he came back as a dog and tried very hard to get inside her house. The pious husband kept hitting it and driving it away. One day he forgot to lock the door properly. The ugly looking dog leaped in and found the cheating wife in bed. Fell upon her and bit her repeatedly until they heard her shouting from the Arizal’s house.
Perhaps that dog had an issue with you in some way? Dogs just don’t touch any person.
Be that as it may, a contrite heart and mitzvos will always protect a person and change a decree for the better. Nothing to worry about! Reading the Chofetz Chaim each morning is excellent par excellence, especially the new Israel Book Shop publication one.
Parenthetically, if Heaven wants you to have a dog, you will get a dog. You have very little control over anything life other than how you respond to a situation.
Happygirl is correct. But I know a few ways that will cause Moshiach to come faster. Don’t discount us out yet.
I know from tzaddikim in history who knew it – the yestzer h threatened to give them personal attention if they continued.
He did that with Rebbe Elimelech too — the rebbe told him where to go. I think the yetzer h sometimes think we tremble at the sound of his voice. Where’d he read that memo…?
The Me’am Lo’ez explains the invaluable benefit of taking the extra 10-15 mins of saying the korbanos an ketores.
In the Drashot of the Ben Ish Chai Halachot (the blue English book) parsha Vayechi gives 13 protective benefits of saying it.
If you say it enough times you will say it pretty smoothly. But the higher benefit is saying it slowly with intent. The Rashbi says we don’t appreciate what it can do, or we’d make a crown out of it.
The Arizal married his cousin and many Chabad rebbeim have done it too.
Personally, I would never.
What’s amusing — but perhaps not so — is that each time I make a significant tikun on my neshama these last few years, or try to seriously nullify anger or another midda, the yester h takes revenge. Within a few days he’s strikes at me in some way. And if I am too strong, he makes a hit at the people closest to me. I’ve never seen such a dishonourable coward in my life.
I want Moshiach, I just need more time to fix myself. I began reading a large variety of mussar seforim a few yrs ago — and I fume these books were not taught in school. I am years behind schedule…
Just pointing out, if Moshiach comes too soon a person won’t have time to do enough teshuva and tikun and some punishments carry over into the era of Moshiach.
If a person stutters, says the Chofetz Chaim, it meant that they were bad mouthers and didn’t make amends. If they can’t talk at all, mute, they were lifetime slanders and loshon hara-ers. If you see a person bent over and can’t stand straight, that one was massively arrogant. Can’t see properly? Looked at too many women etc.
So I ask you all, how SOON do you want Moshiach? Because we need to rectify ourselves beforehand. Now say, Heaven will help us speed that — anyone like physical affliction, ailments, suffering to cleanse one up?
Effective, perhaps. Not delightful to experience.
So I want Moshiach, but I want to rectify myself through Torah learning. Better that way. Reading the Aggadah like Ein Yaakov and Menoras Hamaor is very good to do that. Especialy reading pages of the Zohar. But ones needs to be clean from anger and have a mikvah in the morning first…
Throwing in my prutah’s worth opinion…
Interfering with another family’s affairs is absolute arrogance.
Absolute disrespect of their thinking, sovereignty, free will and sheer rudeness.
To think one knows better than another is sheer audacity. Have your private affairs intruded and see whether you are equable with it too. What other people do or don’t do is done of anyone else’s business.
What is the pressure? The uncertainty? Easy. Just say I am an orthodox person and i don’t touch the opposite gender anytime i want.
I am an orthodox man and women extend hands to shake many times. It’s awkward everytime. “I cannot shake hands with a lady for religious reasons.” If you are particular, then Heaven will help you, as the Talmud assures.
My shule is one of the few that has ZERO talking. The two other shules I sometimes visit has issues with talking but they recently put up many signs advising on that. It’s great to see.
Anyone who goes to a rampant talking shule is a complete fool. Ksil. The tefilla does not ascend in a place like that. There is no bracha.
Now! If only I could stop the meangless chatter inside the mikvah!
Travel diary of R. Ovadia Bartenura has current info on them. The Chida’s diary too.