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  • in reply to: When Moshiach Comes #671322
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    We learnt that when Moshiach comes we will pick bread from the trees – The brocho we say is Hamotzi LECHEM which is for when Moshiach comes iy”H

    in reply to: Most Moving Jewish Song In Your View #1096811
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    A Yiddishe Mamma by Yossele Rosenblatt.

    in reply to: Please Share Recommendations For Children’s Fiction #670133
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    I would recommend Pollyanna – a great read and a great lesson.

    in reply to: Most Efficient Way To Eliminate Warts #670948
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    Put Havdalah wine on your warts.

    in reply to: Mothers-in-law #668779
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    There is a skit that is often played out at sheva brochos. It is a conversation between 2 daughters in law. One appreciates so much that her MIL sends her kugel every week while the other complains and says does she think I can’t cook? and so the skit continues how the same favor can be looked at in 2 different ways. It depends on attitude!

    in reply to: Crazy World: Russian Billionaire Buys Hitler’s Vintage Benz #668743
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    Russian must have nazi blood in him,

    in reply to: Broken Engagements #954228
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    PLEASE make sure there is a shtar mechila if there was a broken engagement. The hurting impact is enormous.

    We have an elderly couple living accross the road. He was engaged before the war. He met his wife who was more beautiful and very wealthy. He found his kalla and aked her permission to dissolve the engagement. She was so bitterly hurt while she had to accept he no longer wanted her she cursed him. He married his wife. I am sure he wishes he could turn the clock back.

    He has a life full of unusally difficult tzoras.

    in reply to: Mothers-in-law #668769
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    It is only once you become a mother in law do you realise how hard it is to say/do the right thing. I try not to give advice but if/when I do I usually find myself apologising first! – I am working on myself to overcome that. I know I can#t be that bad because my daughter in law has begun asking me advice…

    in reply to: Chanukah Party Game? #838142
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    I created a chanuka bingo – with pictures so all ages can play. Great fun.

    in reply to: Bochurim in Japan #668517
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    The court sat all of last week but have delayed it for 4 weeks for the prosecutor to prepare more questions. My brother flew to Japan and sat throught the case. He was asked to come to show support. Most Japanese who are brought to this court have no support from their families as they know the likely outcome is to be incacerated in the worst prisons.

    The bochurim were brought in with shackels around there hands and legs. They are not allowed to wear proper shoes. They were pulled into the room with chains.

    They have lost loads of weight maintaining their want to keep kosher. They have been told by the Rabbonim to eat the goyshe bread.

    The father asked permission of the judge to shake hands with his son. Judge agreed – they have had no physical contact for 19 months.

    The bochurim need our tefilas.

    in reply to: Lets Bring the Geulah Closer #668419
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    If only putting quarters into meters would bring the Geulah closer!

    It could be the beginning of a “chain” of chesed and goodness that we need to create to bring the Geulah!

    in reply to: Therapy Stigma #690344
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    The problem is ignorance! if you say the “T” word people go quiet and chnge the subject. I know Binah and Hamodia are trying but I don’t think it is enough.

    mybat: I think you will know if someone is getting the right therapy if they are willing to go back to the therapist and if they begin to feel supported – that someone understands.

    in reply to: Yet Another Indication That Moshiach is Close #1154761
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    We have to look between us for signs Moshiach is close. Look for special Kindness, Chesed and for those being mvater…

    in reply to: Support Groups #668246
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    pookie, I think you need to be more sensitive.

    in reply to: Tu B�Av – Put the Girls in the Freezer #668142
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    I have said it before but will say it again . Remember for a shidduch: We are looking for partners for our children and not ourselves.

    There have been a few divorces here this week. Families are all great families but the children are just not made for each other….

    What is so bad if my mechutainista wears a hat on her shietel I dont! I have one mechatainsta who is divorced. People asked me how could I? B”H my daughter is very happy.

    We need to consider our children.

    in reply to: How Best to Show Gratitude #734637
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    I have a cousin who has suddenly become blind. She is in her early sixties. _ A good friend of mine broke her ankle complications set in and she is still hobbling along on crutches some months later..

    I had a throat infection and was unable to swallow my own saliva. (Never realised the greatness of swallowing!)

    I am writing the above just to remind us that it is when the going is smooth we need to show our gratitude not when something is “broken”

    in reply to: Dealing With A Bully #667290
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    Most bullies are very troubled people. I think this should be the first consideration whether you are a parent tutor or victim.

    in reply to: The Role Of A Frum Man Controversial? #671178
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    A mans life must be lead by Torah. If in all he does you can “see” his yiras Shomayim even if he works he is performing his role.

    in reply to: Netillahs Yudiem, Osher Yutzer, #666211
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    Talking about washing hands do you wash mayim achroinim? Do you leave it to the man of the house? Just Shabbos??

    in reply to: Netillahs Yudiem, Osher Yutzer, #666210
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    Can you wash hands in the bathroom?? I have heard different ideas.

    in reply to: Stories of Courage #666776
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    I am fighting a serious illness. I don’t call myself courageous! I know I need to keep positive and daven that Hashem will give me many more years to live (do mitzvas and shep nachas) and hopefully be Zoiche to Moshiach Tzidkainu BimHairo.

    in reply to: Cantorial Music #667767
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    Yossele Rosenblatt

    Moshe Hershtik

    in reply to: Netillahs Yudiem, Osher Yutzer, #666207
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    APushetaYid

    asher yutzer only 4 times?

    4 times is a must but many have taken on a “chumro” of 6.

    in reply to: The Role Of A Frum Woman, Controversial! #666831
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    I went out to work after the hanhola sent my boys home for not paying tuition. They knew we were going through a sticky spot and really had not a penny to pay. Within the year we saw how each person suffered with family problems. (We did not wish it on them)

    It taught us a lot. My husband and I sat down to prioritise what had to be done in the house and how we could help each other. It made a difficult time a lot easier…

    in reply to: Netillahs Yudiem, Osher Yutzer, #666200
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    I was told not to wash negel vasser and not to say asher yatzer when getting up in the night only to wash hands.

    in reply to: Good Forwards (Emails) #1059462
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    A few months before I was born, my Dad met a stranger who was new to our small Tennessee town. From the beginning, Dad was fascinated with this enchanting newcomer and soon invited him to live with our family.

    The stranger was quickly accepted and was around to welcome me into the world a few months later.

    As I grew up, I never questioned his place in my family. In my young mind, he had a special niche. My parents were complementary instructors: Mom taught me the word of G-d, and Dad taught me to obey it. But the stranger He was our storyteller. He would keep us spellbound for hours on end with adventures, mysteries and comedies.

    If I wanted to know anything about politics, history or science, he always knew the answers about the past, understood the present and even seemed able to predict the future! He took my family to the first major league ball game. He made me laugh, and he made me cry.

    The stranger never stopped talking, but Dad didn’t seem to mind. Sometimes, Mom would get up quietly while the rest of us were shushing each other to listen to what he had to say, and she would go to her room and read her books (I wonder now if she ever prayed for the stranger to leave.)

    Dad ruled our household with certain moral convictions, but the stranger never felt obligated to honour them. Profanity, for example, was not allowed in our home… not from us, our friends or any visitors. Our long time visitor, however, got away with four-letter words that burned my

    ears and made my dad squirm and my mother blush.

    My Dad was a teetotaller who didn’t permit alcohol in the home, not even for cooking. But the stranger encouraged us to try it on a regular basis. He made cigarettes look cool, cigars manly and pipes distinguished.

    He talked freely (much too freely!) about sex. His comments were sometimes blatant, sometimes suggestive, and generally embarrassing.

    I now know that my early concepts about relationships were influenced strongly by the stranger. Time after time, he opposed the values of my parents, yet he was seldom rebuked… and NEVER asked to leave.

    More than fifty years have passed since the stranger moved in with our family. He has blended right in and is not nearly as fascinating as he was at first. Still, if you were to walk into my parent’s den today, you would still find him sitting over in his corner, waiting for someone to listen to

    him talk and watch him draw his pictures.

    His name?…. We just call him, “TV.”

    He has a younger sister now. We call “Computer”

    in reply to: The Role Of A Frum Woman, Controversial! #666798
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    I think this a very serious discussion. In this day and age a lady may have to go out to work to supplement her husbands wages. She has to know the responsibility she carries by going out to work. It is important that she has her household duties organised. It is also important to realise that her husband is grateful for the effort she is putting in to the household. The husband may feel terribly guilty for not being able to bring in the full parnossoh required. In these cicumstances ladies remember kol kevoida – dont speak to other people build up your husbands confidence….

    in reply to: A Job in Israel? Any Ideas #684267
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    Creating jewellery

    renting dresses, bridesmaids kalla etc

    teaching reading

    helping weak students in school

    taking care of a special needs child, maybe after school

    or elderly person

    Hatzlocho It is a special privelege to live in Eretz Yisroel

    in reply to: The Role Of A Frum Woman, Controversial! #666780
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    Keep to the dinim of tzinius. Do your work well – Don’t listen to loud music. Do not call men by their first names. In turn put a stop to men calling ladies by their first names. IMPORTANT: Do not have have conversations other than pertaining to work.

    in reply to: Netillahs Yudiem, Osher Yutzer, #666184
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    Do you wash asher Yatzer after going to the bathroom during the night? Do you do negel vasser first? I have heard conflicting minhagim?..

    in reply to: IS There a Shidduch Crisis?? #666929
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    I run a large shdduch group. We try to be helpful and understanding as to the wants of parents/ and perspective shidduchim.

    However in the last few months the reuirements have become such that makes suggesting shidduchim difficult.

    The typical list I get from parents runs like this:

    1. Money – at least half an apartment

    2. Five years “kest”

    3. Girl can be up to size 6

    4. Girl must have good job

    5. Boy must be at least 5.8 inches

    6. Boy should write a sefer etc

    What hapened to MIDDOS?? My Fatherz2l told me to look for partners for my children that will keep them happy.

    While parents are being unrealistic there will be a crisis.

    in reply to: Good Forwards (Emails) #1059459
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    Sold for a Quarter?

    As he considered what to do, he thought to himself, ‘You’d better give the quarter back. It would be wrong to keep it’.

    Then he thought, ‘Oh, forget it, it’s only a quarter. Who would worry about this little amount? Anyway, the bus company gets too much fare; they will never miss it. Accept it as a ‘gift from G-d’ and keep quiet’.

    When his stop came, he paused momentarily at the door, and then he handed the quarter to the driver and said, ‘Here, you gave me too much change’.

    The driver, with a smile, replied, ‘Aren’t you the new rabbi in town?’

    ‘Yes’ he replied.

    ‘Well, I have been thinking a lot lately about going somewhere to worship. I just wanted to see what you would do if I gave you too much change. I’ll see you in Shul on Shabbos’.

    When the rabbi stepped off of the bus, he literally grabbed the nearest light pole, held on, and said, ‘Oh Rebono Shel Olam, I almost sold a Yid for a quarter.’

    Our lives are the only thing some people will ever read.

    This is a really scary example of how much people watch us as JEW, and will put us to the test! Always be on guard — and remember — You carry the name of HaShem on your shoulders when you call yourself a ‘JEW’.

    Watch your thoughts; they become words.

    Watch your words; they become actions.

    Watch your actions; they become habits.

    Watch your habits; they become character.

    Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.

    I’m glad a friend forwarded this to me as a reminder.

    So, I choose to forward it to you – my friend.

    May HaShem bless you; I hope you are having a wonderful day!

    If you don’t pass this on to anybody, nothing bad will happen; but, if you do, you will have reminded someone he/she is being watched.

    in reply to: Chizuk #665340
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    Since writing this post I have learned the hard way the importance of DOING. I have a friend who has just become seriously ill. She appreciates phonecalls and offers of help. Unfortunately she is so busy, with doctors she is not up to asking friends for specific favours. She told me those who sent in suppers, cake good books etc are those that are even more appreciated.

    in reply to: Good Forwards (Emails) #1059457
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    At the turn of the twentieth century, two of the wealthiest and most famous men in America were a pair of Jewish brothers named Nathan and Isidor Straus. Owners of R.H. Macy’s Department Store and founders of the A&S (Abraham & Straus) chain, the brothers were multimillionaires, renowned for their philanthropy and social activism.

    In 1912, the brothers and their wives were touring Europe, when Nathan, the more ardent Zionist of the two, impulsively said one day, “Hey, why don’t we hop over to Palestine?” Israel wasn’t the tourist hotspot then that it is today. Its population was ravaged by disease, famine, and poverty; but the two had a strong sense of solidarity with their less fortunate brethren, and they also wanted to see the health and welfare centers they had endowed with their millions. However, after a week spent touring, Isidor Straus had had enough.

    “How many camels, hovels, and yeshivas can you see? It’s time to go,” Isidor decreed with edgy impatience in his voice. But Nathan refused to heed his brother’s imperious command. It wasn’t that he was oblivious to the hardships around him; it was precisely because of them that he wanted to stay.

    As he absorbed firsthand the vastness of the challenges his fellow Jews were coping with, he felt the burden of responsibility. “We can’t leave now,” he protested. “Look how much work has to be done here. We have to help. We have the means to help. We can’t turn our backs on our people.”

    “So we’ll send more money,” his brother snapped back. “I just want to get out of here.”

    But Nathan felt that money simply wasn’t enough. He felt that the Jews who lived under such dire circumstances in Palestine needed the brothers’ very presence among them: their initiative,their leadership, and their ideas. Isidor disagreed.

    The two argued back and forth, and finally Isidor said, “If you insist, stay here. Ida and I are going back to America where we belong.”

    The two separated. Isidor and his wife returned to Europe, while Nathan and his spouse stayed in Palestine, traveling the country and contributing huge sums of money to the establishment of education, health, and social welfare programs to benefit the needy. Nathan also financed the creation of a brand-new city on the shores of the Mediterranean. And since his name in Hebrew was Natan, and he was the city’s chief donor, the founders named it after him and called it…Natanya.

    Meanwhile, back in Europe, Isidor Straus was preparing to sail home to America aboard an ocean liner for which he had also made reservations for his brother, Nathan, and his wife. “You must leave Palestine NOW!” he cabled his brother in an urgent telegram. “I have made reservations for you and if you don’t get here soon, you’ll miss the boat.”

    But Nathan delayed. There was so much work to be done that he waited until the last possible moment to make the connection. By the time he reached London, it was April 12 and the liner had already left port in Southampton with Isidor and Ida Straus aboard. Nathan felt disconsolate that he had, as his brother had warned, “missed the boat.” For this was no ordinary expedition, no common, everyday cruise that he had forfeited, but the much ballyhooed maiden voyage of the most famous ship of the century. This was the Titanic.

    Nathan Straus, grief-stricken and deeply mourning his brother and sister-in-law could not shake off his sense that he had had a rendezvous with history. The knowledge that he had avoided death permeated his consciousness for the rest of his life, and until his death in l931, he pursued his philanthropic activities with an intensity that was unrivaled in his time.

    Today, Natanya is a scenic resort city of 200,000 and headquarters to Israel’s thriving diamond trade – one of the most important industries in the country. And in almost every part of the city, there is some small reminder of Nathan Straus’s largesse, his humanity, and love for his people. His legacy lives on.

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    in reply to: Kids as Young as 3 Can Have Chronic Depression #664810
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    I think it is important for parents not to stress their children out.

    e.g child comes homes from play group and parents say how upset they are that child does not know song that was taught…or parent refuses to give child a piece of cake because he is too fat… These things can make a detrimental impression on a young child.

    in reply to: Tznius Support Group PLEASE WOMEN ONLY, even reading #665271
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    You are right chops, However, keeping the top button open of a blouse may look with it but one is oiver a lav

    in reply to: Tznius Support Group PLEASE WOMEN ONLY, even reading #665262
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    Does anyone have opinions on open necks? I think it seems to be a big problem.

    in reply to: Shopping Online #664181
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    I have found shopping online a brocho especially when you know exactly what you want to buy.

    in reply to: What Should we do About so Many Collecters? #664679
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    Remember Hashem looks how we treat people. My most humbling experience was going collecting with a very needy lady. I learned that It makes such a difference when the money is given with a smile and a brocho. The person collecting really does not want to hear your difficulties.

    Be thankful to be able to give and not be the one who is collecting.

    in reply to: Cleaning #668784
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    Goodness poor you! – If you are finding it so boring maybe treat yourself to disposables a few times a week. – Dont make the beds leave them open for airing….

    Is there anyone who could help you with cleaning? Did you think about paying someone to do these chores??

    in reply to: B’simcha! Yidden! #664230
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    Look for something to be grateful for and be happy about it.

    in reply to: What Should we do About so Many Collecters? #664649
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    I think its how you give your donation. We have between 10 – 15 collectors some nights. We give small donations to each. My husband gives this with a smile and with many brochos we rarely have a collector who complains! (I am trying to learn from my husband)

    in reply to: B’simcha! Yidden! #664226
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    The idea is to hold on to the Simcha of Succos and maintain through the Winter. We need to work hard to maintain it…

    in reply to: Mutar To Go To Mekubalim? #857391
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    Many years ago we went to a mekubal. He told us some of the mezuzas we had were posul. He was right.

    We had just moved and bought new mezuzos by someone we were told was a reputable sofer. The Sofer would not admit to his mistakes until we threatened to take him to Din Torah….

    Going to the mekubal was a bit spookie but was also uplifting and the problem we had soon went after we got new mezuzas

    in reply to: Bochurim in Japan #668509
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    This Sunday night Yosef ben Reisel will be tried

    in reply to: Chinuch for Toddlers #664294
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    Do you not have a library that you could takes tapes or CDs from? Uncle Moishy has some great tapes with songs about helping mummy and going to bed on time. It all depends what ideas you are looking to concentrate on. It has nice “exercise” songs, and songs about e.g siddur or Shabbos table. Mitzva tree songs can be heard on the Chabad site. Hatzlocho

    in reply to: Chinuch for Toddlers #664291
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    How about some Uncle Moishy / Mitva Tree tapes and CDs.

    There are great childrens books out there too.

    in reply to: (Sarcasm) HaRav HaGaon Rabbi Ehud Barak paskens that Kol Isha is mutar! #663843
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    Why do we even have a thread with this sad rubbish??

    in reply to: Help With a Speech #664005
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    Remember best speechs are those said on one leg. Maybe not literally but one cannot balance longer than about 5 minutes on one foot. Keep your speech to 5 minutes. Short speeches are most appreciated!Say a short Devar Torah and convey your brochos to the family. Hatzlocho

    in reply to: Medicines and Antibiotics #664132
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    Mybat, I really hope your husband is feeling better and stopped coughing. If not, insist on full blood test and chest x ray. – My son had chronic cough and after months of antibiotics inhalers etc, blood tests with the help of an xray pinpointed what medicine he needed.

    I think we have to be proactive where antibiotics are concerned. They are a marvellous drug in the right time. We don’t want to become immune to them.

    We should all be Gezunt in shtark bezras Hashem.

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