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Baking,puzzles and some board games.
I Know Something Good About You
By Louis C. Shimon
Wouldn’t this old world be better
If the folks we meet would say –
“I know something good about you!”
And treat us just that way?
Wouldn’t it be fine and dandy
If each handclasp, fond and true,
Carried with it this assurance –
“I know something good about you!”
Wouldn’t life be lots more happy
If the good that’s in us all
Were the only thing about us
That folks bothered to recall?
Wouldn’t life be lots more happy
If we praised the good we see?
For there’s such a lot of goodness
In the worst of you and me!
Wouldn’t it be nice to practice
That fine way of thinking, too?
You know something good about me;
I know something good about you.
I give my G.P Shlach Monos every year. I feel it is a way to show my appreciation and I say so!
You have had interesting suggestions. Have you considered gardening? Your sons could grow their own fruit & vegetables. 3D jigsaw puzzles are great. Have you thought about baking?
Fruit!
Lavdavka: “we fress a whole day”
It is up to us to work on ourselves, to be satisfied with less. Many don’t even have the funds to eat out.
I don’t think over indulging will hold up the geuloh. What about our behaviour Bein odom Lchaveiro??
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Cleaning help would be great. Could you find someone to take the children out or keep them occupied in the house?
Smiling is contagious,
you catch it like the flu,
When someone smiled at
me today, I started smiling too.
I passed around the corner,
and someone saw my grin –
When he smiled I
realized, I’d passed it on to him.
I thought about that smile,
then I realized its worth,
A single smile, just like mine,
could travel round the earth.
So, if you feel a smile begin,
don’t leave it undetected –
Let’s start an epidemic quick
and get the world infected!!!
There is a great restaurant/take away – Deutsch in Rechov Meah Sharim under Bdatz
Do we not have enough Jewish charachters that we have to dress up in theirs?????
What is with the parev ideas like international costumes?
I usually decorate my house with balloons. I bought a huge 5ft. clown which I put up.
Have you seen the helium walker balloons? They are great fun.
We cannot do the mitzva with cards.
We also have to consider if the person we give a card to, would/could have benefitted from getting mishloach monos.
I don’t like when I hear someone say” I am not bothering with mishloach monos this year I am just giving out cards!”
The whole of Yerushalayim was in an uproar!
A well-known man, a Belzer Chasid , and his wife had just given birth to their first child – a boy – after being childless for twenty-eight years! The sholom zachor that Friday night was the event of the year. Well over a thousand people came by to wish Mazel Tov to the proud and exhausted father. The food supply ran out in short order as did the drinks, but no one seemed to mind. At the height of the celebration, the crowd quieted down as the father indicated that he would like to say a few words.
” Moreh V’Rabbosai ,” he began in a loud voice, “thank you all for coming and sharing in the simcha. Although I have no more food to offer, let me at least tell over a story which I’m sure you’ll appreciate.”
The ecstatic new father composed himself and continued. “When I was a bochur learning in the Belzer Yeshiva , there was a cleaning lady who would come by every day to tidy up and scrub the Beis Medrash and adjoining rooms. She was a fixture in the yeshiva and devoted her life to maintaining the yeshiva building. She was, however, not a wealthy person by any stretch and as her own family grew, she was at a loss of options as far as taking care of her children. She decided to bring her kids with her to work, and as she cleaned and mopped in one area of the building, the young children would run amuck, screaming, crying and generally causing quite a commotion, in the rest of the yeshiva. At first, we put up with it, we even thought it was cute for a time. But after a while, the kids really began to ‘shter’ us in our learning and davening. Try as we might to control them, they wouldn’t listen and continued on in their childish games and noise. A number of younger bochurim asked me, as one of the oldest in the chaburah , to ask her not to bring her children anymore to the yeshiva.
“I agreed to talk to her and I brazenly walked up to her and told her that her kids were disturbing everyone in yeshiva and she should find some sort of alternative method of child-care for them. I’ll never forget how she looked at me with tired eyes and said, ‘Bochur , you should never have??? ??? ????
(the pain and anguish that one goes through when raising children.) The crowd gasped.
“As many of you know,” continued the father, “my wife and I have been to countless doctors who’ve recommended every sort of treatment. We moved abroad for awhile to be near an ‘expert’ which proved to be fruitless. One last, extreme treatment was offered and after trying that, it too, turned out to be just a fantasy; we felt doomed to a life without the pleasure of raising a yiddishe family.
“After that last attempt, as we walked back into the apartment that we lived in for the past twenty-eight years, our entire sad situation hit us full force, like a ton of bricks. Together, we broke down crying and ask for forgiveness. I spent hours on the phone until I came up with an address, which I ran over to immediately. She did not recognize me obviously, but when I told her over the story, a spark flickered in her eyes. I tearfully apologized for my harsh words and she graciously forgave me with her whole heart.”
Beaming from ear to ear, the father announced, ” Rabbosai , that took place exactly nine months ago!”
Everybody, Somebody, Anybody and Nobody
This is a story about four people named Everybody, Somebody, Anybody and Nobody. There was an important job to be done and Everybody was sure that Somebody would do it. Anybody could have done it, but Nobody did it.
Somebody got angry about that, because it was Everybody’s job. Everybody thought Anybody could do it, but Nobody realised Everybody wouldn’t do it. It ended up that Everybody blamed Somebody when Nobody did what Anybody could have done!!
Namelee:
Its not about getting drunk but about feeling good or maybe a bit high.
There is a huge difference between letzonos and clowning around. Letzonos would be making fun of people whereas clowning around would be making fun to make people happy.
Vinahaphoch Hu would be changing any din that may be hanging over us, or our friends by making them happy.
Think about friends or neighbours who might not get many mshloach monos. Think about those who are extremely tight for money for basic food and let your thoughts for Purim Preparations begin with them. Have a great one. Remember you can achieve on Purim that wht you can achieve on Yom Kippur.
Oh No. Purim is not a time for Letzonis. Remember Purim – KYOM HAKIPPURIM! Definitely no one who is “roaring drunk” should be walking around. I know 3 personal stories of people who made “letzonis” on Purim who suffered for it.(I will tell you one) A chaver of my son did not have children for 10 years. After getting the all clear from doctors a Rav asked him to reflect back – what he or his wife may have done. He remembered making a Letz of someone on Purim. He finally traced him down and got his forgiverness. Only after that he had a child.
It may be worth you learning more about the mitzvos of Purim and what we can achieve through them.
My idea of Mishloach Monos is for it to be fun and cheap! Money I save can be added to Matonos Levyoinim. I try and buy food that the groceries are putting on sale. Most have sales from Rosh Chodesh. I send a small basket which I try and decorate really special with ribbons and e.g smiley stickers. I want people to smile when they get my package and not think “oh no more food.”..
A learner/his wife must know and realise to have a home where the man is seriously learning BOTH need to sacrifice their gashmiyus. I am writing from experience. I am amazed how my son and daughter in law mange with much less than their other siblings because they are determined to keep on the path they mapped out for themselves. E.g No or very little air conditioning in the Summer in Bnei Berak
Maybe some dips like chummus, techina etc with cut up vegetables? or even falafel?
Unfortunately in the last few months we have had quite a few divorces. It has come to light that in most cases the parents were looking for a good family rather than what could make their child happy.
I think this is a big problem. I run a shidduch group and countless times (yes countless times) we have problems because the parents want/need? something different than their children want. In some cases we feel parents are looking for a “suitable” family rather than a suitable partner.
Thank You all so much for your kind words and tefillas. I know it all helps. B”H I am benshed with an amazing husband and family. I also have a Rebbe who I can speak to at any time.
I have had chemotherapy on Tuesday which really is testing but I know that iy”H in another few days I will begin to feel better and stronger Bezras Hashem.
I do look for things to be grateful for which helps. e.g I tell my children : If you feel thirsty and have a drink and feel good be happy! At the moment it is difficult for me to drink as chemo makes a very dry mouth. I am looking forward to enjoying having a drink soon!
em es -I know its easier said but don’t make such cheshboinos! You are redding a shidduch to help people. Often those in the parsha are just so peeved by people suggesting things that did not work out, through being hurt, they say thoughtless things. I just think to myself “nebech”.
I am now going through the hardest test in my life _ I daven no one should experience it. I have lost all my hair to chemotherapy. I was never someone who used cosmetics. I now do and know I look better with eg.painted eyebrows rather than no eyebrows. Stupid lady comes over to me (she knew my health problems) and says its not fitting for you as a chasidishe lady to use cosmetics. B”H it did not bother me for too long – Now I just think of her (rightly or wrongly) as a fool!
I would only send a son to a serious yeshiva that has an excellent hashgocha and own dorm. For me it was very important that my shvere lives in Eretz Yisroel so he was able to “keep an eye” on my son too. It also gave my son a good feeling to know his zeida was close by.
Ask typical questions – What happens shabbos? does the yeshiva provide meals?
every day Suppers?
Is there proper supervision at night? Till what time are bochurim allowed out at night?
Hatzlocho
Paysach Krohn in one of his shuirim says something so sensible. Comments people say will only hurt you if you let them! Let it go right over you. It is very difficult but it can be achieved with practise. I write this from experience. I have had my share of insensitive comments and the first 2 or 3 may hurt but I try and have succeeded in letting hurtful remarks go over my head.
I just think now that people who say these remarks are “nebech” or a “Rachmonus” themselves.
Sorry Oomis 1105:
Chocolate has also been found to be infested – primarily nut variety.
Worms are not supposed to eckle you but you are suppose to learn e.g what fish dont have worms. e.g Here in England Salmon does not have worms in the flesh. They were found to have lice on the skin and so I buy my salmon skinless MINUS the head because the head is a parsha in itself. Coley is another fish here that does not have worms in the flesh and so it is a popular fish used for mincing.
Once you learn the correct way to check fruit and vegtables what is your problem??
Bombmaniac
I wonder where you got the information that the eyes pop out of frozen worms.
The breaking of a sheretz helps only in the event of “bitul” that is when the bug is lost and can not be found. a half bug is also “ossur. So frozen fruit and Vegetables still need checking for half bugs. Cooked bugs whether half or whole are forbidden.
I have a friend who is a young almono (51)R”L She said whatever she does is not good enough. If she goes out and smiles – People comment “goodness how does she smile? does she not miss him? etc” If she does not smile people say – “Why is she so depressed?”
She has these remarks said to her face!
Have fruit available for anyone feeling peckish between meals. If you have younger children in the house have a platter of cut up fruit or/and vegtables in the fridge.
Rabbi Falk (From Gateshead) The Posek Hador in worms told us in a shuir that worms are not here to deter us from foods but it is our responsibility to learn how to check each fruit /veg correctly.
I know that Rabbonim around the world have forbidden rasberries as they have been found to be heavily infested and it is almost impossible to clean them as the infestation lives in the flesh.
There is also a huge difference in checking of fruit and veg depending on where you live. E.g strawberries here in England have not been found to be infested.
Incidentally when cooking fish put the fish into boiling water or into hot oil thus any worms will not come out of the flesh.
Let’s get to the root of what is going on.The Mechaber in Shulchan Oruch Yoreh Deah 84/16 States that “all” worms found in fish; in the stomach are ossur, and in the flesh or between the skin and the flesh are mutar. It is accepted since the gemoras time(that means from Kabolas Hatorah)That the worms in the fish flesh is kosher.
Look in Rav Moshe Vai’s sefer and you will see the impressive list of Poskim that ruled that the worms are kosher.
(Esther’s Husband)
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so called Rebetzin came over to me after having a stillborn – “You do know these things happen for a reason – Have you been keeping dinim properly??”
My husband never goes to sleep Shabbos afternoon. He claims it is the best time to learn!
Don’t blame Shabbos on how you feel – Think about what you do on Shabbos.
Are you overeating? Eating enough fruit? Drinking enough water? Consuming too much alcohol?
Take on something spiritual – even extra Tehillim.
Have a great Shabbos.
What helps me cope with the loss of my dear father z”l is considering what he would have wanted from me in every situation. It has become harder as the years pass but I perservere and I find it comforting.
This is a very loaded question. A boy and girl cousins or not, will get too friendly if allowed to have long conversations together. They can talk but in a family setup with others around otherwise becareful!
Tracht Git
Vet es zein git!
If Hashem took you to it
He will help you through it!
why do we think we have a heter to do what we like on Purim? Similarly some people are lax with Tzinuis during the Summer. We must remember the Torah is with us throughout the year!
My daughter was in the silver store when a lady came in and bought 18 silver vases. She was so excited that her daughter was engaged. She gave a vase to each shadchan that had suggested and tried the 18 times before MR Right came up!
If you are a chronic sufferer you need to take multi vitamins. I was surprised but it makes the world of difference. Change your toothbrush!
take a clove of garlic for stomache upset or cold. best swallowed whole.
All these things are sent to test you. Do you accept all these lille difficulties with complains or happily and remember there is a Master Plan.
I love this thread. I can’t wait for Moshiach. When Hashem brings us Moshiach He will give us the Koach to withstand Chevlei Moshiach. Are we honestly waiting for the Geulo?
I Look around at my neighbours – four of them are doing major construction work to their houses worth hundreds of thousands of dollars. Would they happily leave their houses to move to Eretz Yisroel? I felt good when one neighbour told me she put the cheapest tiles down in her kitchen because Moshiach is coming so she will happily leave her kitchen behind! What is with those who spend a small fortune in decorating their gardens?
I can’t wait for there to be peace among Klal Yisroel -Chasidim yekers litvaks etc. May Moshiach come speedily in our days Amen
Smoking not only affects the smoker but his/her friends, family spouses, children. Can you live with that guilt?
Smoking is such a ghastly smelly habit and a big money waster.
Use sterilising solution used to sterelise babys bottles
“Hamavoirach yisborach” also a nice reply to a brocha