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I have to agree that many therapists can destroy a marriage and family. One must be wise to whom they see. One’s mora d’asra should be the first stop.
That being said, if a wife tries to become her husband’s mashgiach, not only won’t it help, but it’ll backfire bigtime.
The real question is thus:
Considering he should better daven at home with a hat rather than at a minyan without a hat, does that mean if he won’t have a hat either way (he’s away from home and forgot his hat) he should daven at home (without a hat/jacket) or should he daven with a minyan (without a hat/jacket)?
Essentially, the question is whether the problem is davening without a hat/jacket (bchlal) or the problem is davening in a shul (with a tzibur) without a hat/jacket.
If Rav Chaim can issue a public letter addressing this issue, I see no reason it isn’t a valid topic.
Rav Chaim Kanievsky: Rav Shteinman Is The Manhig HaDor
I believe one of the moderators (42) has an email he gives out. Perhaps he can facilitate the connection.
Sheilos Rav and Halichos Chaim are Rav Chaim’s seforim, reviewed and approved by himself. (Halichos Chaim are questions that were posed to Rav Kanievsky by Rav Yisroel Taplin of Lakewood, NJ, and the answers he received, with Rav Chaim’s review and haskama of all the content.)
Chazal never argue over metzius.
Yes, Avi. Hundreds of thousands. There are over a quarter million Satmar alone. Add in the many many other Chasiduses. Add in the Litvaks in Eretz Yisroel that speak Yiddish.
Avi: Hitler said the same thing you said about the Yidden; That they will only be only in a museum. Look at where Yidden and Yiddish are today. Hitler is in der erd, and manifold hundreds of thousands of Torah Yidden speak Yiddish as a first language.
She could get married before college. Or in college. Since when is college an impediment to marriage? It shouldn’t be. Especially since marriage is a lot more important.
Dr. Pepper,
So all those stories where really true? Wow!!!
charlie brown:
Doc said “I’ve posted all the stories I can think of“. Where did he say they were necessarily true?
Wow! Do you live in Siberia or something?
midwesterner: What ad has NASI previously retracted?
There is always someplace else.
Also, if you sleep in the train station, is the train conductor guilty of gezel sheina every time he rides through the station?
No, since the non-snorer could sleep elsewhere and yet chooses to sleep with the snorer.
I believe it to be a square tefach. Meaning it can’t be a full linear tefach.
They are a Mechallel Shabbos.
Why is it harder to change bad habits once you are married, Astrix?
AZ:
NASI’s position all along has been there is not enough boys and there are too many girls in the shidduch market. This new program seemingly does nothing about that. How does this alleviate the issue of older boys marrying younger girls?
Also, about three years ago NASI had a program that paid shadchanim a few thousands per shidduch. That didn’t work out, apparently for financial reasons, and was discontinued. Why would this program not suffer a similar fate?
youhavekiddingme: You don’t elicit much empathy when crying all about your vacation, recreation, hanging out, and traveling expenses.
agitation: The anarchism isn’t responsible to make a marriage work (or even in selecting a marriage partner.)
Why read novels, when you have the coffee room?
Astrix, you take a girl that its going nowhere with to the bar? Or you’re pulling our legs?
And you won’t have fun if it is going somewhere, Astrix?
So how do you anticipate new stories coming up, Doc?
Think if someone goes to a restaurant and washes on Motzei Shabbos without ever intending to have a Melave Malka, did he fulfill having a Melave Malka even though there was no kavanah.
Inspired to what?
If you receive a toy in the mail on Shabbos, you can open it assuming you won’t break any wording (lettering)?
Would it not be much simpler to simply auction the girls? Establish a marketplace and “sell” to the lowest bidder. Boys would submit the lowest price (bid) they would accept as a dowry. The boy submitting the lowest bid wins her.
Of course prior to the beginning of the auction there would be a meeting of buyers and sellers (like a singles event), where the buyers (boys) can decide which products (girls) they wish to bid on. And the sellers (girls) can choose which bidder (boys) to approve submitting a bid for them.
gefen – because they don’t just read it. They respond here too.
These factors may play a result in whether it is permitted or prohibited:
Is the package mail?
Is the package for a toy?
Is the package for food?
Is the package for utensils?
Is there wording that is being broken when opening the package?
LOL gefen. Nasi reads this thread as soon as you or anyone posts here.
One second. It isn’t just 13K for the shadchan. It’s 13K from the girls side. The boys side is going to be expected to pay the shadchan on top of that.
sam4321: Even if the kavanah must come second, per the Nefesh Hachaim (?), the kavanah still must be present for the mitzvah to be chal.
Like said, the LH, MSR, and Rechilus discussions — which probably constitute a majority of discussions — are far far worse than the pitfalls of halachic discussions.
Forgive my impudence ma’am, but if I saw someone wearing the same suit and tie as myself I’d be more than happy to sit next to him at any wedding without giving it another thought. More than likely I wouldn’t even have noticed unless it was pointed out. So please do explain what the big deal is if another woman is wearing the same dress as you at a wedding.
It’s always a good idea to know the folks you are redding!
Does the Mechaber pasken like the Rambam that follows the Gemara in Kesubos? If so, what changed?
Perhaps the OP’s point #2 is referring to the Mishna in Sanhedrin 81B that states “HaBoel Armis Kanoyim Pogim Bo” (A Zelot may kill while the action is still taking place).
The Gemara elaborates on this concept and says we learn it Mediverei Kabalah from the Posuk Boel Bas Ail Naychor.
Shitas Rabbienu Tam and those that argue on him are located in
Tosfos Kesubos 3b Devirei HaMaschil (In the paragraph that begins) V’Lidrosh L’hwo.
It means they don’t have any yiras shmayim/ i.e. Unfortunately today too many folks don’t realize how hot gehenim in fact is. If we would stress more how bad the punishment (gehenim) for sin is, there are some people who otherwise would sin that would then refrain…..
Could not agree with you more No One Special.
Clearly the punishment is a deterrent for many, even if not all.
It’s in the mussar seforim. (No, I don’t recall all of them offhand, but there are many.)
Why all this spilled yiddishe gelt on wedding gowns that you wear one night? It is such a chaval. There are more important things.
Do you really think the problem these kids have is nobody convinced them sufficiently that gehenom is really hot?
Unfortunately today too many folks don’t realize how hot gehenim in fact is. If we would stress more how bad the punishment (gehenim) for sin is, there are some people who otherwise would sin that would then refrain.
The Gedolim, including Rav Elyashev and Rav Ovadia Yosef and many many others, all said the Beis Yaakov and the heroic parents who went to jail were absolutely correct and the accusations of discrimination and action of the supreme court, said the gedolim, were lies. B”H the gedolim and the beis yaakov prevailed.
Who loses them? The Litvaks or the Chasidim?
How would you define raglayim ladavar?
It seems that the argument is over when one is not absolutely sure of the situation.
Derech HaMelech/gavra_at_work:
Why does the Gemorah make this point? What is it trying to convey/teach/alert us to?