WinnieThePooh. regarding your statement “what would make a learning boy go out with you “etc, this is one of the main problems in the shidduch world today. The fact that a boy who intends to learn and have his wife essentially support him holds all the cards is sad. Moreover, one would hope a “learning boy” has time to fit in a little derech eretz and shulchan aruch in his busy day. Perhaps recognizing the value a girl who tok upon herself to become frummer or giving girls a chance even if they did not go to THE Seminary is worth something as well.