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No one posted the one about the ultra frum BJJ girl who informs the boy she is dating that she asks people to call her ”Baska” so as not to pronounce the Shem Hashem by saying “Basya”. He replies “in that case please call me Keilikaku”.
I was told that the following took place with the parent of a friend of mine be a few decades ago. The boy was supposed to go out with this girl who he wasn’t thrilled about, and just before the date he was told that another girl who he was very interested in had become available. He figured he’ll just act over the top and get the first girl to reject him. He gets to the house and and they offer him some cake. He says “cake? I LOVE cake! “They offer him some Pepsi and he says “WOW! PEPSI! My favorite! And so on during the date as well. After the date he gets a call from the shadchan who exclaims “What did you do? He thinks to himself oh boy, I really rubbed them the wrong way. The shadchan continues, “they loved you! The parents and the girl are so excited and looking forward to the next date!
It could potentially be ok as long as boundaries are kept and the relationship with him is put in the context of being a frum Jew who prioritizes Torah and your relationship with Hashem above all else, and the goy is clear about this.
If you are shaky in your frumkeit and/ or very vulnerable emotionally then that is not a safe relationship to be in. First and foremost have a kesher with a Rov whom you connect with and run it by the Rov….
Sad, but if that what floats your boat what’s the question. I have an 04 sienna that I purchased used with low mileage over ten years ago and I couldn’t be happier with it. I could have spent extra money on a car that would impress, but it always come at the expense of something else- money spent on kids and family, etc etc, and often engenders envy among peers and neighbors. Do I really need that? Do I really want to make the statement loud and clear to others that this is what’s important in my life? I’ll pass….