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tznius–it can make you look interesting…and height—short people feel off-balance sometimes,especially when the baby is not tiny anymore.but as with anything else:if it works for you and does not look inappropriate on you–do as you feel comfortable!

Almost any 2 people in the world can make a marriage work if they have both had a decent upbringing and possess good midos,tolerance,the ability to compromise,and a healthy sense of humor.When the pattern develops:disrespect,domination,verbal abuse(sometimes physical abuse)-and then keeps escalating….when the one who brings this into the marriage gets support instead of the increasingly distressed victim…real suffering…real crises…divorce is the only solution…and no one in the world has the right to cause further pain by judging,guessing,and ostracizing…just speak to anyone in the parsha.

and that doesn’t mean saying”I WAS listening!I can even tell you what your last sentence was…you want to know why I still didn’t clean out the garage,right?”(by the way,I don’t have a car or a garage–just giving a common scenario)

1.PARENTS: Fathers should do all they can to foster a healthy self-image in their daughters with regard to their general appearance.A girl’s first “male to impress”is her father.Together with a mother who is generous with compliments(ex.”Hashem gave you a beautiful face,bli ayin hora”)the girl will feel good about herself.Secure, she is less likely to be bursting to “test the waters”(am I pretty enough?)with every/any male as she starts realizing her innate power to attract…

2.The Spirit of Tznius:If a girl grows up with the sensitivity to tznius,it is easier for her to make better decisions when shopping for clothes.Here are a few examples.A mother can remark casually”you know,today I saw a beautiful outfit..I was debating with myself-should I get it?It’s a bit snug/showy..I decided to hold off.Guess what?In the very next store,I found a much nicer outfit–and it was half the price!See how Hashem loves when we try to do the right thing?”OR:”Sweetheart,that top really does look attractive on you…maybe a little too attractive?I guess that’s the nisayon of being so nice and slim..let’s look for that same color,just a looser style….”

3.TEENS NEED TO MAKE A FEW MISTAKES:Fighting and arguing rarely leaves them with a good taste in their heart for tznius..At this point,it’s more along the lines of:”I know you want to look classy-not cheap.I trust you’ll make good choices.”AND IF THEY MAKE MISERABLE CHOICES…IT’S BETWEEN THEM AND HASHEM.YOU TAUGHT THEM,YOU GUIDE THEM–BUT ULTIMATELY THEY HAVE BECHIRA.

networking–ask and ask.

I keep a few numbers handy for general shaylos.Whomever I reach is the one I know Hashem wanted me to reach.For shaylos where the person needs to have had an ongoing relationshio with you in order to answer properly– over time,you kind of get a sense of the best times to reach him successfully.But the rav has a family,and people should want the rebitzens to be able to see their husbands,and the kids to see their own father–without having to call up and pretend they have a shayla!

“and an ayin tova above all….”