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I think I know what the ads “seeking mature(non-nisayon) woman” mean.
And I think I can finally apply for those!
Who said Wolf meant himself?
Feminist??
Ok,this thread is giving me a headache…
I wish you all well,but (sigh) a lot of you have NO IDEA what is really taking place out there….
And what Torah-abiding(?) men are doing to Torah-true women…in court,in bais din…I’d write a book but it’s all Chilul Hashem.
“little” confused here
This is where remembering that prayer overrides mazel–and teva–comes in.
Statistics are simply not an issue in shomayim.
I tell myself…if the challenges I have are unusual…the yeshuah can be above teva,too!
Wolf.I’ve often wondered about that.I think certain evil/cruel people really do earn “maximum sentencing”…but do Chazal discuss that anywhere?
Well,if she’s very aggressive,we’ll know why.
Haleivi:I was not a moredes…and was encouraged to be moichel the kesubah. Just take the “get” ’cause he’s finally giving it type of thing.
Aishes,you are right,it’s not anything to doubt.However,when suffering is intense,and one feels oppressed by tzaros,he may temporarily doubt Hashem’s love for him.The more he REMEMBERS THAT HE IS INDEED LOVED,THE BETTER HE WILL FEEL.
Nothing personal,mdd.You just hit a sore spot.Don’t attack me,please.
Divorce on demand??
I have zero mechila for every single person who forced me to stay married to my ex and allowed him to stay and torture me all those extra years…You sound like one of those characters…
Al rishon,rishon…
1.No.
2.A drug/alcohol addiction which has progressed to the point that if the person tries to stop, he experiences withdrawal symptoms which drive him crazy…and when he’s at last sober/clean he soon realizes all the many bridges he burned behind him,and feels depressed…I have helped people in both of these matzovim…and let me tell you,their lives are a virtual gehinnom.
3.A moment or an hour of deep boosha…feels like gehinnom.The longer one feels it,the “hotter” it is….
With all due respect…You are a man without a plan.That money will disappear in no time.I have 2 bochurim a few years younger than you,and if any of them chose to do that I seriously would not sleep a single night.Here are just a few reasons:
1.Tel Aviv is as bad as -or worse than-Manhattan.And so are many secular communities/neighborhoods in Yerushalayim.
2.For every yeshiva(which you’re not even gonna be protected by)there are seminaries…the streets are filled with bochurim and girls….nisyonos abound.
3.You don’t want to be a burden on your sister,but then your expenses living on your own–WITHOUT A JOB-are going to be ridiculous.
4.Kibud av va’aym is nothing to sneeze at,either.
My suggestion?Try to meet an American girl who shares your dream of living in Eretz Yisroel!!
Personally the only time I feel really put-together is with my sheitel on.It is definitely a madreigah to wear the less-glamorous head coverings,and I’m not being sarcastic,but a person needs to feel good about her appearance(esp.when the metabolism goes on strike!).
Brooklyn Yenta,thank you.Just to point out,though:
As a kaf z’chus for SOME of them(I’m not saying all), I want to explain that some husbands do a pretty good job turning their wives OFF of whatever type of yiddishkeit they represented,thus the “off-the-derech” behavior of SOME divorcees.
It is extremely important to see them exactly as one would view a Holocaust survivor who lost his faith because of his experiences.COMMENDABLE?Perhaps not.Understandable? Yes.And only for Hashem to judge?Definitely.
knesset hagedolah
There are many English sefarim on Parshas Sh’mos that surely deal with that topic.You can also connect to Pirkei Avos which teaches us that having a “layv tov” is above all,the finest way for a Jew to live,according to some.It also discusses jealousy.
Gehinnom is…..1.a devastating illness 2.an abusive marriage 3.an addiction one cannot control 4.deep humiliation 5.wondering if Hashem loves you….
Gan Eden is….1.GOOD HEALTH 2.PEACE IN THE HOME
3.SELF-CONTROL=SELF-RESPECT 4.ENJOYING A FINE REPUTATION
5.KNOWING THAT OF COURSE HASHEM LOVES YOU….
If you wanted to know literally??
All I know is….the”basement” is HOT.REAL HOT.So…
remember your password
So right…I was responding to those who say an agunah can only mean one thing.Today,it means more,that’s all.As far as your post,can you clarify exactly what you mean?
It sounds like your local dentist might be selling it on the side!
Some very not-dull people are single/newly single,my dear.Surely you meant to explain yourself?
Whatever the technicalities are…in 2010,if a guy refuses to give his wife the “get” she legitimately begs for…she is called an agunah.As far as I know,no one has updated the term to a word more technically correct.(Suggestion: Almanah-WannaBe) I don’t say that to hurt real almanos Chas V’sholom,but to depict the suffering of the trapped victim.
Each person must truly know themselves…My friend is a secretary in a boys school– but if anyone gets too friendly with her, the mere look on her face scares the living daylights out of them.
I, on the other hand,wouldn’t take such a job because I know I will end up being a magnet for the downtrodden who mistake a courteous smile for an invitation to get married.You gotta know your personality and put up gedarim GALORE.You will NEVER BLUNDER WITH GEDARIM…AND DON’T LET ANYONE TALK YOU OUT OF sticking to WHATEVER FENCES YOU SET UP.
That is actually the Lubavitch “havara”,is it not?
As a divorcee,I have noted that some people think we might have divorced our yiras shomayim together with our (in)significant other…and tend to be thought of as “bored” or “hefker”.We most certainly are neither.Please don’t cheapen any of us…
Thanks!…Say bye-bye to eclipse!I WONDER IF PEOPLE CAN TELL who posters are by their style after a while!
My h.learned for many years,I taught part-time in frum schools and frum offices in the summer.But if any office situation even began to infringe on proper tznius behavior,I politely quit.
To be dan l’kaf z’chus when people unwittingly hurt us is a madreigah too.did anyone hear ever read the poem”when caring people stumble”?
with same email address it doesn’t work
The only legal significance is that IF the judge could care less,h/she can apply pressure.
pool our savings(what savings?)
On etiquette:I was on my way out of the bank this morning and because I was engrossed in a phone call,I didn’t realize the door had been opened for me by a black woman.I am very polite to everyone in general,but this woman started shouting:”YOU GOT NO MANNERS!I HELD THE DOOR OPEN FOR YOU AND YOU DIDN’T EVEN SAY THANK YOU!NEXT TIME I’M GONNA SLAM THE DOOR IN YO’ FACE!!”
(sigh)I miss Canada.
I feel like I’m applying for a visa to get out of Europe…
An agunah is a woman who has requested a “get” and is being refused.She is trapped!
And why does the OP need to share gritty details in order to be deemed eligible for a “get”?I am sure she has a good reason.
me too,my friend’s sister,G.S.by the way,haifagirl,if you post a dvar torah,i promise to read it!
This d’var Torah on Parshas Vayayshev is dedicated l’ilui nishmas my mother.
Perfumalosophy is a term I coined to remember that Hashem,as with Yosaif Hatzadik, never gives us one iota more tza’ar than we are meant to suffer.365 days a year those caravans carried the most foul-smelling cargo.Yosaif is there,but ONLY TO BE TRANSPORTED–NOT TO SUFFOCATE FROM THE STENCH–so …lo and behold,the wagon smells like awesome perfume.
I see that with every bump and crease I encounter along the road,there are always a few “lights in the tunnel” to make the journey manageable,even joyful!And when it’s really too much…time for a new door to open…I am “released from prison”.
In a word:Perfumalosophy.