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eclipseMember
Haha, you need to change your subtitle to HumbleBoy:)
eclipseMemberAnd it should keep on getting better every year after that!
eclipseMemberMyPureNeshama: Just wishing you THE BEST YEAR YOU’VE HAD YET!
eclipseMemberMany parts are – for men especially – but if you don’t “pace yourself” and add a little bit at a time, you may get burnt out. Then again, I’m not a rabbi.
eclipseMemberHi Shopping. Try headphones or a walk?
eclipseMemberWIY: Yes, did that soon after posting, and had a fine day,b”h.
Shopping613: Sometimes your posts are funny, so thanks!
Lev: No, what did you do there?
Goq: Yes, in that conversation I explained why there would be no more conversations:)And thanks for the compliment!
mobico: Thanks for the compliment!
eclipseMemberIt seemed like a good idea at the time:)
eclipseMemberThanks for “pointing that out”:)
eclipseMemberSign up at Shabbat.com (it’s free!) and type in your city.You may be pleasantly surprised to find other Jews in (or closer to)your neighborhood.
eclipseMemberThis Shmini Atzeres I will be a “born-again” Jewess. All birthday checks may be mailed to…oh, never mind.
September 8, 2013 4:48 am at 4:48 am in reply to: Popa's reflections on Motzaei Shabbos; Haazinu #973017eclipseMemberBeing that Sarah “complained” exactly once in the Chumash, which was one of the times (or the only time?) Hashem told Avraham to listen to her words (re: Yishmael),I think it’s a poor example. I also wouldn’t use one of the Imahos for a joke about women. Popa,yita,…come on, now, you love your MOTHERS at least,don’t ya?
eclipseMemberNechomah: Good going!I was tested in a different way…I may not have passed “with flying colors”, but my keeping the above in mind definitely helped!
September 8, 2013 3:48 am at 3:48 am in reply to: Now that Rosh Hashana is over are you going back to your old ways? #974228eclipseMemberWe’re not ignoring the question, we’re thinking….
eclipseMemberHabits are hard to break. If a person is accustomed to doing something all year, it’s not always easy to stop “cold turkey”. Or, maybe it was urgent?
eclipseMemberTalking to MYSELF, not preaching, just thought others might enjoy the “prophylactic” chizuk.
eclipseMemberI officially stopped posting until after Rosh Hashana, but this thread title caught my eye, and all I can say is: MyPureNeshama, you MUST publish this! So well-written! It’s the harsh truth, that behind SOME rebellion is terrible, irreversible trauma. I would only add that perhaps not EVERY teen in this state has gone through such extreme trauma, since as we know, sometimees people simply make incorrect CHOICES. But I plead with any poster who feels like bashing this thread, which is clearly being written in GREAT PAIN: “Hold your tongues” unless you can post respectfully, please! And MyPureNeshama:I just want to say,that even though it’s normal to feel absolute and justified repulsion to your abuser(s),NONE of the behavior you decribed – NONE of it – brings a Jewish girl deep happiness. A temporary “high”, a little fun,yes — but happiness? I think you yourself would be the first to admit that true joy is NOT a component here. Always remember that genuine, loving, frumkeit DOES exist. This year, try and find an authentic Jewish woman who has a bit of time for you: You will see, a TRUE Jewish life (MINUS the horrible abusers, and some overly-judgmental people)can bring you lasting happiness, and inner peace. I’ve experienced abuse, not the kind you are referring to here, but it’s still painful, and I can honestly say that staying close to Hashem is the wind beneath my wings, and probably the reason my own children have the strength to endure B”h,despite challenges.
eclipseMemberLev: Having a DMC (sorry guys) over a game of pool is nice all the time, and coming to you for shabbos is nice every once in a while.
Doesn’t that make you lose the pool game? I don’t know much about pool, but I’d lose any game I was playing during a DEEP MEANINGFUL CONVERSATION.
eclipseMemberinterjection: You “did” means you “came back” because you realized it didn’t have to be “all or nothing”?
eclipseMemberstreetgeek: You explained that very, very well. You are right, very angry or very depressed people simply are too preoccupied to deal with the effects of their actions/inactions on others.
(sigh) We live in complex times, indeed.
eclipseMemberOh!!(as in orange)
eclipseMemberFeif Un: Wow!!!!
streetgeek: Thanks. Makes sense. Now,if you are a girl, I have a question – not an accusation,just a question: Why do girls who are struggling with tznius expect THE MEN WHO DO TRY VERY HARD TO GUARD THEIR EYES to be relaxed and comfortable around them when they are improperly dressed? To be treated respectfully (which the girl herself seeks), one should be willing to honor the sensitivities of others, too, no? Please note, I have had very direct experience observing this phenomena, and it’s hard to for me to grasp.
eclipseMemberLonging4Israel: Yes, sometimes I’m grateful for the-exposure-by-default that I’ve encountered in my life! It’s helped me numerous times. Other times, I wish I didn’t have to know ANY of it:)
eclipseMemberthe-art-of-moi: Some of your lines should be patented, they are so stunningly eloquent!
Examples: “…at that point i was in too much emotional pain to realize that i could get all that from Hashem…” and
“the place where the healing happens is in the persons heart and it can happen anywhere.”
Kol Hakovod!
I wasn’t referring to a specific case.
eclipseMemberSometimes knowledge of their “world” helps, but is it essential? For example, I can tell a teen that many goyim are cruel, not rachmonim by nature, and that TV shows often thrive on other people’s anguish, and they can argue. Then I can say, do you think “Simon” or “Bruno” have a right to crush and humiliate people like that? Then they have this guilty smile, like “this yeshivish lady has a point there”!
eclipseMemberLev: By sprinkling, you mean not too intense, right?
Torah: Which leading question/premise did you mean? That I didn’t seem to be promoting immersing oneself in the culture to get someone else out? I still want to know if they NEED that, because there are SOME people, usually those with previous exposure to it-who left it behind- who are better cut-out for that aspect of kiruv.
eclipseMemberlolz…what does the “z” stand for? (That’s Z as in ZEBRA)
eclipseMemberThe-art-of-moi: You are right, it’s a case-by-case thing, but may I ask if “the first option” eventually led to the second? Or it’s not a necessary sequence of events?
Longing-for-Israel: Wow, many kids must feel you understand their struggles well. Question: Must the “combination approach” be jumpstarted FIRST by meeting the kids “b’asher hoo sham”/where they are right now, and THEN a bit of both? Or there are really no hard-and-fast rules for this?
eclipseMemberFeif Un: Thanks for posting. Yes, I know many who made a U-turn on their own, but you must have experienced kindness and unquestioning acceptance from the group of Jews whose lifestyle you now emulate, correct? Now, since you don’t hate all the people who are a bit more yeshivish,or just NOT modern orthodox (I hope?),is it because they pretend to agree with everything you do, or because they treat you respectfully while fully adhering to their own principles,at the same time?
eclipseMemberAmein, thanks.
eclipseMemberOh Shreck….may next year be a year of “Samchaynu Kmos Inisonu”…No more tire blow-outs, no more being misunderstood when you meant well, ONLY a year of Kulo Tov.
eclipseMemberI’m not the mean type, so I’m sorry if my post came across that way. I just didn’t know what you meant, because I thought you were older. Sorry it came out stupidly.
eclipseMemberkkls45: I did. 2007 was an insane year, and I think I was a size 4. Severe stress does that. Apparently “secondary” stress causes one to gain it all back and then some. And mild stress causes you to post your life story in the CR:)
eclipseMemberTry China: they aren’t allowed to keep more than one.
mobico and nfgo3: It’s a parenting style, more than the actual number of children. Look around, and look closely.
eclipseMemberthe-art-of-moi: School? Does Mommy know you’re up?
eclipseMemberShticky Guy: Thank you!
Syag: I also laughed at that!
eclipseMemberShopping: Apparently not:)
eclipseMemberGoq, the same hospital? Or a town with that name?
eclipseMemberHerr Doppelganger???
Who is that?
eclipseMemberwhich experience? (Gee, I’ve had so many!)
eclipseMemberSuper advice, everyone!! Wow, thanks!
the-art-of-moi, I’m gullible; you are kidding, right? I meant, from what I know of Russia, sorry that wasn’t clear.
eclipseMemberPopa, do you know I secretly think that ALL the time? That it would probably be a great motivator? (Uh, I guess it isn’t a secret anymore!)
Anyway, good, practical advice. Thank you!
eclipseMemberPlease try not to give me obvious advice like, did you try diet and exercise?(the answer is of course, but I’m not always consistent) Or, it’s the inside qualities that really matter. That is 100% true, but both sides ALSO want to LIKE how the other person looks; it’s the reality. And while in Russia, we over-40’s would simply seem “healthy” and maybe even “kraseeva”….here, the standard for “healthy-looking” can be quite different. By the way, before my filter was adjusted, I once stumbled upon a BEAUTIFUL mussar shmuz by a young blogger on how grateful we must be for our bodies: SICK PEOPLE, suffering physically, WOULD TRADE WITH US IN A SECOND. And we women criticize ourselves to death, over perceived flaws that aren’t even so awful… I don’t know if she is even Jewish but her name is “Nicole Kellerman”.
eclipseMemberHa Ha…with a “touched” doctor!(I think that was a delicate way of saying strange or “wacko” many years ago; he is, you know, touched)
eclipseMemberOk, Popa’s in the mood for a brawl:)
eclipseMemberYou boost my self-confidence, Syag!
I have 3 “connections” there….and was born in Edgewater Hospital before moving to Canada. Believe it or not, my doctor’s name was Dr. (get this:)WACKO! What a way to be welcomed….
eclipseMemberhey Torah, that’s amazing!!!!
eclipseMemberYes,Syag, but so do a lot of people. Besides, EVERYone is younger than me!
August 28, 2013 5:48 am at 5:48 am in reply to: What is the biggest Chesed that anyone has ever done for you? #1021683eclipseMemberBelieve me.And protect me.
eclipseMemberOhhhkaaay. This thread was quite a success….
eclipseMemberCelia: Why is everyone else so quiet? Oh, they’re sleeping. Well, I’m going,and don’t talk about me when I leave,ladies. As they say, don’t hate me because I’m beautiful!HaHa, if your glasses are in your applesauce, I’m beautiful.
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