@Teshuva…..”You have to be careful that you are giving up your zivug without being understanding and conscious of the fact that you are not perfect either. The last thing you would want is for Hashem to pass judgement on you for that and replace the zivug with one who you are fooled by and ends up causing you to have a tikkun for passing judgement yourself without allowing Ha’kadosh Baruch Hu to be in control”

relax son, you’re acting like you know the mechanics of what goes on up there. We don’t know the reasons for kapparahs or how tikkunim work…I wouldn’t try to predict future punishments of what might happen if the OP turns down this person…