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CHANI—-
I CAN’T BELIEVE YOU!
What did you write about me?
“Chewing his cud”?
I thought we had a truce about the plunger story. That story at the end about Dovid- at least you ended it at “and let’s leave it at”.
I’ll still open the car door for you but you just lost window privileges.
J/K- Can’t wait to see you.
havesomeseichel-
From the items you mentioned for being a good girl: how many of them apply before one is married?
“Women must take care of the family, make dinner, raise the kids, and many times work too.” It’s hard to give someone a grade on those items before they are married.
AZ-
I’m sure you’re a nice person but from the way you word some of your posts it seems as if you feel that your opinion is fact and can not be questioned. Before hitting “Send Post” please read over what you wrote keeping in mind that those who read it do not know who you are and will not hear your tone or see your facial expressions.
That being said let me try to explain why I feel that “I think it is much harder for a guy to be a “good guy” than for a girl to be a “good girl”.” is relevant.
This story happened about 7 years ago. A guy asked a shadchan to set him up with a girl from a nice family. The shadchan knew that the girl wouldn’t be interested since he missed shachris with a minyan 3-4 times a year (so he was there only about 99% of the time). The shadchan didn’t want to get on their bad side by mentioning a guy who they felt was “below par” so she asked me to. (I know the family and I’m not a shadchan so I have no reputation to lose.) The girl was running a successful internet business from her parents house and was able to keep her own hours. Normal waking time for her was between 10:00 and 11:00 (she was makpid on the zmanim though).
The mother wouldn’t hear of it. “My sons are at shachris on time every single day and I want the same thing for my daughter”. Oh really? Who are you fooling? Definitely not me. I was in Yeshiva with them at the time and I knew who was at shachris on time and who would do a 10 minute “quickie” right before seder.
While she may be considered a “good girl”, the same schedule for a guy would not be considered a “good guy”.
I don’t know who the guy was or his current marital status but the girl is 28 and single.
So AZ, it’s quite possible that after this didn’t work out he pursued a 19 year old thus creating a “gap”. If you look at the big picture you might find many cases where a girl did not give the guy enough leeway and he pursued someone younger instead.
As far as your question, “WHO are the “not good” guys marrying.”
Maybe they are marrying out of Yeshivish circles and thus reducing the number of eligible single males in Yeshivish circles.
She was born a Red Pepper but her color returned when she stopped screaming. My oldest son was born a Yellow Pepper and we almost had to postpone his bris.
Setting all joking aside, when I was a Little Pepper I got in trouble at school for being a Fresh Pepper and luckily my grandmother was there when I came home. My grandmother, who is a natural ally of mine, told my mother it’s her fault because she used to kiss my feet when I was a newborn.
(Now you know why Bubba maases are called Bubba maases.
Here’s another Bubba maase my grandmother will never let me forget. She keeps telling me that if not for her I’d only be 29 inches tall. When I was a Baby Pepper and playing on the floor someone stepped over me. My hero grandmother chased the person and made them step back over me thus allowing my growth to continue.)
I worked it out in Excel and left it on my home computer. I didn’t save the file but I didn’t close it either. Assuming the other Dr. Pepper doesn’t close it (or any of the other Peppers for that matter) I can repost it this evening.
I actually submitted an answer but it didn’t get posted.
I guess it was wrong. 🙁
If I understand your question correctly the table would look like this:
(The charges for Plan A are rounded to the hundreth of a cent.)
Amount of Seconds Plan A Plan B Plan C Plan A saved over Plan B Plan A saved over Plan C Plan A saved over Plan C
1 0.02 0.1 1 83% 98% 90%
2 0.03 0.1 1 67% 97% 90%
3 0.05 0.1 1 50% 95% 90%
4 0.07 0.1 1 33% 93% 90%
5 0.08 0.1 1 17% 92% 90%
6 0.10 0.1 1 0% 90% 90%
7 0.12 0.2 1 42% 88% 80%
8 0.13 0.2 1 33% 87% 80%
9 0.15 0.2 1 25% 85% 80%
10 0.17 0.2 1 17% 83% 80%
11 0.18 0.2 1 8% 82% 80%
12 0.20 0.2 1 0% 80% 80%
13 0.22 0.3 1 28% 78% 70%
14 0.23 0.3 1 22% 77% 70%
15 0.25 0.3 1 17% 75% 70%
16 0.27 0.3 1 11% 73% 70%
17 0.28 0.3 1 6% 72% 70%
18 0.30 0.3 1 0% 70% 70%
19 0.32 0.4 1 21% 68% 60%
20 0.33 0.4 1 17% 67% 60%
21 0.35 0.4 1 13% 65% 60%
22 0.37 0.4 1 8% 63% 60%
23 0.38 0.4 1 4% 62% 60%
24 0.40 0.4 1 0% 60% 60%
25 0.42 0.5 1 17% 58% 50%
26 0.43 0.5 1 13% 57% 50%
27 0.45 0.5 1 10% 55% 50%
28 0.47 0.5 1 7% 53% 50%
29 0.48 0.5 1 3% 52% 50%
30 0.50 0.5 1 0% 50% 50%
31 0.52 0.6 1 14% 48% 40%
32 0.53 0.6 1 11% 47% 40%
33 0.55 0.6 1 8% 45% 40%
34 0.57 0.6 1 6% 43% 40%
35 0.58 0.6 1 3% 42% 40%
36 0.60 0.6 1 0% 40% 40%
37 0.62 0.7 1 12% 38% 30%
38 0.63 0.7 1 10% 37% 30%
39 0.65 0.7 1 7% 35% 30%
40 0.67 0.7 1 5% 33% 30%
41 0.68 0.7 1 2% 32% 30%
42 0.70 0.7 1 0% 30% 30%
43 0.72 0.8 1 10% 28% 20%
44 0.73 0.8 1 8% 27% 20%
45 0.75 0.8 1 6% 25% 20%
46 0.77 0.8 1 4% 23% 20%
47 0.78 0.8 1 2% 22% 20%
48 0.80 0.8 1 0% 20% 20%
49 0.82 0.9 1 9% 18% 10%
50 0.83 0.9 1 7% 17% 10%
51 0.85 0.9 1 6% 15% 10%
52 0.87 0.9 1 4% 13% 10%
53 0.88 0.9 1 2% 12% 10%
54 0.90 0.9 1 0% 10% 10%
55 0.92 1 1 8% 8% 0%
56 0.93 1 1 7% 7% 0%
57 0.95 1 1 5% 5% 0%
58 0.97 1 1 3% 3% 0%
59 0.98 1 1 2% 2% 0%
60 1.00 1 1 0% 0% 0%for the first minute.
As the amount of seconds approaches infinity the percentage of the amount saved from one plan over another tends to 0.
Take a look at the last 30 seconds of the 10th minute:
Amount of Seconds Plan A Plan B Plan C Plan A saved over Plan B Plan A saved over Plan C Plan A saved over Plan C
5,972 99.53 99.6 100 0% 0% 0%
5,973 99.55 99.6 100 0% 0% 0%
5,974 99.57 99.6 100 0% 0% 0%
5,975 99.58 99.6 100 0% 0% 0%
5,976 99.60 99.6 100 0% 0% 0%
5,977 99.62 99.7 100 0% 0% 0%
5,978 99.63 99.7 100 0% 0% 0%
5,979 99.65 99.7 100 0% 0% 0%
5,980 99.67 99.7 100 0% 0% 0%
5,981 99.68 99.7 100 0% 0% 0%
5,982 99.70 99.7 100 0% 0% 0%
5,983 99.72 99.8 100 0% 0% 0%
5,984 99.73 99.8 100 0% 0% 0%
5,985 99.75 99.8 100 0% 0% 0%
5,986 99.77 99.8 100 0% 0% 0%
5,987 99.78 99.8 100 0% 0% 0%
5,988 99.80 99.8 100 0% 0% 0%
5,989 99.82 99.9 100 0% 0% 0%
5,990 99.83 99.9 100 0% 0% 0%
5,991 99.85 99.9 100 0% 0% 0%
5,992 99.87 99.9 100 0% 0% 0%
5,993 99.88 99.9 100 0% 0% 0%
5,994 99.90 99.9 100 0% 0% 0%
5,995 99.92 100 100 0% 0% 0%
5,996 99.93 100 100 0% 0% 0%
5,997 99.95 100 100 0% 0% 0%
5,998 99.97 100 100 0% 0% 0%
5,999 99.98 100 100 0% 0% 0%
6,000 100.0 100 100 0% 0% 0%If there’s something I’m not understanding about your question please let me know.
(I’m not sure if I understand what you mean by “how much percent is the average billed savings”.)
I once created some Dihydrogen monoxide on an international flight by not closing the cap to the seltzer bottle tight enough.
Luckily it was before 9-11-2001.
I’m not sure if this was mentioned before (and I apologize if it was) but how about the seminaries teaching that it is not important to get married at 19 or 20?
I know this is going off on a tangent with regard to the age gap- but I think it is much harder for a guy to be a “good guy” than for a girl to be a “good girl”.
Waking for shachris at say 7:00 A.M. 6 days a week and say 8:00 A.M. on Shabbos to follow a yeshiva schedule is much harder than getting up for zman krias shma and going back to sleep until zman tfilla for those taking college courses in the late morning or afternoon.
Putting in a full day of serious learning is much harder than “doing Raizel Reit”.
In my opinion there are many girls who would not be “good guys” had they been an guy, yet they wouldn’t consider anyone who’s not a “good guy”.
Darling Husband of mine has been very busy recently tutoring for the regents (pro bono).
Is there any way we can have a thread dedicated to different regents exams, letting students post questions and DH or others answering them, so he doesn’t have to answer the same questions to different students over and over again?
Littlest Pepper is a girl.
Thanks for the Bracha!
This is for the first zman that a bochur is in the yeshiva.
Just out of curiosity- why would someone post something on the Internet that isn’t correct? 🙂
Check out Wikipedia- (under “Beth Medrash Govoha”)
“An exception to the non-dating rule is that the student may continue to date a girl, if he started seeing her before the semester started.”
It also explains the “or else”-
“If a student is found to have broken the rule, the senior faculty will generally not attend the wedding (which is considered an honor), and there may be other disciplinary consequences, such as the suspension of student from Yeshiva indefinitely.”
Please don’t all attack me for this, but shouldn’t a bochur speak with a rebbe he is close with (or a competent rov who will give him the time to explain his personal situation) and determine when the correct time to start going out / sitting in will be?
With out getting into too many details, when my husband was around 22.5 he spoke with his rebbe who told him to wait at least another year before starting to date. (one of the reasons was “If you’re learning good now, why jeopardize it by starting the next stage of your life?”) Yeah I had to wait longer for him but it was definitely worth it.
My father told me before I started dating that every person (both male and female) should only take into account what’s best for them and not what others say will solve the crisis.
As far as the comment about revoking the cherem, it won’t only solve the singles crisis, it will also ease the stress on fathers-in-law. LOL
OOPS-
Wikipedia says that the Freezer is over on Shiva Assar B’tamuz for those entering after Pesach.
Sorry for the confusion.
Freezer Rule-
For bochurim coming for “summer zman” (after pesach) – can’t date until after Tisha B’av.
For bochurim coming for “winter zman” (after succos) – can’t date until after Tu B’shvat.
For bochurim coming for “Elul zman” – only bochurim with connections are accepted and the Freezer Rule is waived for those.
Be sure to reserve a rental car months in advance.
Supposedly a bochur entering yeshiva may continue dating a girl he is currently going out with. He must write her name in an envelope and give it to the yeshiva. If he gets engaged they open the envelope to make sure it is the same girl. (Or else?) He also has the right to ask for the envelope back to destroy if need be.
It’s me, the first Dr. Pepper (besides my father-in-law). “The Doc” only earned his Ph.D. 3-4 years ago. He asked me to take over his user-name for the time being, although he might take it back if he sees what I wrote about in the “Funny Shidduch Stories” thread.
Thanks for the Mazel Tov wishes, littlest Pepper turns 6 moths old today.
Thanks shaatra,
I’ll pass on the message.
Oh no,
I don’t know if I’ll ever figure him out.
Thank you ames for your opinion.
My first priority was to marry someone who I respect for who they are, what they stand for and what example they will be for the next generation. I pursued an advanced degree so that I would be able to support him long term if need be. I am proud that I was able to support him for a few years while he was learning just about full time and finishing off his Ph.D. After seeking advice from his Rosh Hayeshiva and being told that the kids are at the age where they will benefit more from being raised by a mother I left my full time job and he went and got one.
Although it did not come to this, I believe that I was ready to give up a gashmius lifestyle and live a kollel lifestyle for the sake of his learning if he was sincere about it.
But I do agree with you that if someone is not ready to live a genuine kollel lifestyle then they should not attempt to because of love or social pressure.
Thanks for the wishes, the baby is now almost six months old.
Did my husband post it somewhere? I’m curious to see what he wrote.
Thanks
I know many of you won’t agree with me on this, but in my opinion the first criteria is if the guy is someone you respect or not.
That’s all I was looking for; someone who was kind and honest, someone I could respect.
If he wanted to learn full time and was willing to sacrifice for it then I was willing to put in extra hours to make it work. If he valued his learning but was not on the level to give up on gashmius (and he was open about that) and wanted to work, then I respect that also.
Of course the guy will be nice to you on a date, but you also have to look at how he treats others cuz that’s how he’ll be treating his wife a few years after they get married.
Did he block someones driveway when he came to pick you up?
Did he take up two parking spots?
Did he leave enough room for the person in front of him and behind him to leave?
Does he respect other drivers on the road?
Did he adequately tip the parking attendant/ taxi driver/ waitress and thank them?
When he talks about others (friends, teachers, relatives) is it in a positive way?
Believe it or not- when I was teaching and one kid would use inappropriate language to another kid- more often than not they said that they heard their father using those words to their mother.
I might have ended up marrying a type of person I never knew existed when I started dating, but he is always polite to everyone and he is a great role model for our kids.
Thanks Mr. Mod for the trouble you went through to edit the post. I apologize if some of the language was below par (maybe my clients/ patients are getting to me?).
For those who didn’t see it the long post is the second to last one on the previous page, right before the short one.
I just have some questions for you Mr. Mod;
1. Can you put the changes in bold so other readers can know where to use their imagination?
2. Did you find those edited parts funny?
3. Can the Mod Board use the original version when choosing the Post Of The Year?
Thanks again
Mr. Moderator-
I really don’t mind if you do any editing.
Thanks and have a Gut Shabbos.
I typed up a whole long post but t got lost somewhere. Could it have been too long?
Well anyway, hee’s the par referring to that story:
Soon my battery started to die so I asked him if he wants to call back on my friends private line and I asked my friend if I can talk in her room privately. I told him to call me at 555-1234.
Over the phone we made up to go out the next Sunday also at 3:30, but this time it would be different since my whole family was going to be home. 10 minutes before the date I shooed all my younger siblings down to the basement and warned them about coming out before one of my parents gave the all clear signal. I also promised them the cake which was set up on the table but no guy ever touches. My parents planned to escort the two of us out the door as soon as possible since one of the bathrooms was clogged and they were expecting the plumber.
Soon my battery started to die (and I left my Black and Decker car starter at home LOL) so I asked him if he wants to call back on my friends private line and I asked my friend if I can talk in her room privately. I told him to call me at 555-1234.
I was really looking forward to the next date now that I thought I knew him better. Over dinner he tells me that he wants to show me something as he put his hand in his jacket pocket. I was secretly hoping it would be something innocent like a family picture as opposed to his favorite graphing calculator, but it was neither.
When the waiter came with the bill he took it this time but he had a perplexed look on his face. The receipt said not to include the tip on the credit card.
So he left it under one of the plates and went to thank the waiter for the wonderful service. After we left he had this horrible thought that someone might have seen him hide the tip under a plate and will snatch it before the waiter gets it, so we stood by the window watching until the waiter took it. (Sometimes I just wonder?)
To spare everyone from the rest of the details- we eventually got engaged.
Thanks everyone for the warm welcome.
A friend and I had the wedding of another friend one night and I had wanted to get a ride there with her. I like totally forgot that she was on a date and was going to have her date drop her off there after the date. I kept on calling her cell phone over and over again because she wouldn’t answer. I finally realized and was like OMG why didn’t she turn it off before hand?
She didn’t marry the guy, but I did!
(It’s a funny story how we figured it out 🙂 I’ll try to post it sometime.)
No- Mishnayos.
Same here Mepal.
Actually there are three if you include my father-in-law.
If I had to guess one thing that was going through his head I’d guess brain-freeze. LOL
mepal
I’m also Dr. Pepper but not the one you are thinking about. I’m substituting for my husband for the time being. (I’ll let him know you miss him.)
I just consulted my husband (or “The Doc” as he likes to be referred to as) and he explained the scenario in somewhat more detail.
The mishna in Makkos Perek Gimmel Mishna Yud brings down the different opinions on the number of lashes on receives- either 39 or 40. When will it not make a difference?- when the messenger of Bais Din who is administering the lashes already deserves 39 sets of makkos for prior aveiros performed. While he is giving lashes to another person the counter counts to 39 and gives him a warning not to whip him anymore. He continues with one more whip.
So if the correct amount of lashes is 40 then he did nothing wrong and he is still liable for 39 sets of 40 lashes (1,560 ouch!). If the correct amount is 39 then he is now liable for an extra set for wounding someone, and now he is liable for 40 sets of 39 lashes (also 1,560).
My question above “Why is someone who does so many aveiros sitting on a Bais Din giving lashes?”- the mishna in Sanhedrin, perek tes mishna hay says that if one is liable for two sets of makkos he gets put into a cell and fed barley- not appointed to bais din to administer makkos?
KOLALHAMAYIM
Why is someone who does so many aveiros sitting on a Bais Din giving lashes?
Hello,
Dr. Pepper here filling in for my husband, Dr. Pepper.
This happened to my friend many years ago.
Her date took her for a long walk on a hot day. He told her that when they reach the end of the trail he’s going to buy her an ice cream. When they reached a street vendor and he asked for two ice creams he realized that it would be cheaper to walk to the super market and buy a box of 6. So they went to the supermarket and bought a box instead.
After they each ate one he didn’t know what to do with the other 4, so on the hike back he asked her to hold the box while he ate the remainders.
They did not get married (she’s a nutritionist).
I agreed to go out with a girl but when I called her to plan a date she said that she has cousins who live out of town that she is going to for Shabbos so maybe next week. A close friend of mine who just got married and was always asking me to come for Shabbos lived in the same city as her cousins so I decided to try to go there for Shabbos.
My friend said that I could come over for the Shabbos day meal, but not sleep there, but he would find someone to put me up.
At the meal he told me of a place nearby to go for the date- it was a mall attached to a hotel, and on the bottom floor of the mall was a food court that empties out after 8:30 P.M. The spot he suggested was under an atrium with some trees behind an elevator that is as private as you can get in a mall. His wife also said that she knew my date from seminary.
I took the girl there but she didn’t feel comfortable in that spot (she didn’t like the music in the background) so we went to the hotel lobby and talked there.
The next day my friend called me and asked why I didn’t go to the spot he suggested. Apparently another friend of ours from high school was also in town for a date and was staying by him. (This guy was very nervous about his first date and didn’t want anyone to know about it, which is why my friend didn’t want me to sleep by him. This guy ate out for the Shabbos day meal so my friend had me over then.) His date was also in seminary together with my date and my friends wife so the charming young couple decided to send us both to the same place at the same time and then they would come check up on us to see how it was going.
The date did not end up working out for us and I highly suspect it didn’t work out for the other couple either. (My friend didn’t tell me which classmate it was but I assume he would have if it ended up working.)
One mistake I ended up making on the date- the girl made a box of home made cookies for me for the long ride home, but I got hungry on the date and ate it there. (I did share it with her though.)
I had a date one evening and my father let me use his car.
The girl seemed to be very nervous and couldn’t stop touching everything. At one point she opened up the glove compartment and started looking through the items there. (I thought it was kind of nosy but my father knew I had a date and if he didn’t want the girl looking through the glove compartment he should have locked it.)
She pulled something out and asked what it is. Glancing her way I said that it was a tire pressure gauge, and explained how it’s used and how to read the white stick that slides out to determine the pressure.
“So why does your father keep it in the car?” she asked. I thought it was a good question since it meant that whenever I wanted to check the air pressure on my basketball I had to bring the ball out to the car. (But it did save my parents from driving into the kitchen when they wanted to check the tire pressure.)
Out of the corner of my eye I noticed that she pulled out the white gauge and I decided to play a little joke on her. While looking out the windshield and pretending that I didn’t see I said, “we used to keep it in the house but my younger siblings would pull out the white stick and that stretches the spring on the inside and renders it useless. It’s kind of expensive, close to $150, so my father decided to just keep it in the car.”
She quickly pushed the gauge back in, put it in the glove compartment and closed it. She didn’t touch it for the rest of the date.
(It didn’t work out but not because of that.)
This guy I know thought of a great idea for a date and spent a few weeks planning it and setting it up. Comes Chol Hamoed Succos and everything is ready except that he has no one to go out with. He calls some shadchamnim explaining that he really needs a date quickly. Finally he gets one.
He takes the girl to an open park where they allow visitors to drive and park on the grass. He takes her for a walk then says, “Are you hungry? I brought bagels and cream cheese, let’s go have a picnic”. She says that it’s a great idea. As they approach the car he says, “Oh, but it’s Succos, what should I do?”.
“OMG, I didn’t think of that!”
“Good thing I did” he exclaimed.
He then popped open the trunk and out jumps a portable succah, unfolding by itself and landing right in front of them. He then unfolded two golf chairs (they each had armrests and a pocket for drinks), he throws on the sechach and they had their picnic.
(They did not marry each other.)
GoldieLoxx-
Thank you for your sympathy. I do honor your opinion but I respectfully disagree. If there is someone who is not a mentch the best place to find out about it is on an early date. Think about how much harder it will be for the guy, after he has some emotional attachment to her, to end it after the 5th date (or C”V even later).
The title here is “Funny Shidduch Stories” so let’s get back to “Funny Shidduch Stories”.
A friend of mine picked up a girl for a date and asks “Do you have a valid Drivers License?”
“Yes, do you want me to drive?”
“No, have you been driving for at least three years?”
“Yes, why?”
“I just got my Learners Permit and I need someone in the passenger seat who has had a valid Drivers License for at least three years.”
(They did not get married.)
ames-
Had I considered it a privilege to go out with her in the first place I would have behaved differently. Do you actually think that the dates with my wife went the same way?
Jax-
I’m still waiting for some of yours.
ames-
We’re coming from different places. While you may look at a bridge as “the guy being cheap” and the tunnel as “the guy being a mentch” we look at it differently.
The toll notwithstanding, a tunnel is a mere hole in the ground while a bridge is a graceful structure with its towers standing proudly hundreds of feet above the river supporting the massive cables which create a perfect parabola while carrying the roadway across the river in one sweeping arch.
After she answered the phone, without even saying “excuse me”, she lost her bridge privilege. (She had already lost window privileges but I wasn’t ready to take away front seat privileges as of yet.) Before we got into the tunnel I informed her that we are approaching a tunnel, that the phone call might be dropped and “it’s rude to just cut someone off while they are in the middle of talking”, so she might want to say good-bye. She said to her friend, “Chavi- I’m actually on a date now and the guy said we’re about to go into a tunnel and we might get cut off, so I’ll call you back when he drops me off… Uh, I’ll tell you how it went when he drops me off, OK?”.
ames-
I didn’t take her over the bridge, just to a park near the bridge (does that scare you?). Crossing a bridge on a date with me was a privilege that had to be earned and not a given. My wife earned that privilege on all dates except for one (she was bragging that she knew the order of the 3 East River Bridges- Brooklyn, Manhattan and Williamsburgh- but then admitted that she couldn’t tell them apart and used the Roshei Teivos of her favorite car, B-M-W, to remember the order).
By the way- after what the girl did on the second (and last) date, she got a call on her cell phone and answered it, I knew it couldn’t be you.
A classmate of mine from an engineering class proposed to his wife on a bridge. He knew that if she is scared she’d be more likely to say what he wants to hear. The first one to wish them Mazel Tov was they guy in the toll booth (he thought he would get out of paying).
Make two piles. One has 90 pennies the other one has 10.
The 90 penny pile has X tails while the 10 penny pile has 10-X tails (and therefore X heads).
Turn over all the pennies in the 10 penny pile and now that pile has 10-X heads and X tails.
Now both piles have X tails. (Although X can be any integer between 0 and 10 inclusive.)
Can you let me know when I can give a shot at it?
I’m waiting very patiently.
Thanks
(Is it just me or is the formatting messed up in this thread?)
General Office
Can you turn any of them over?
areivimzehlazeh-
It’s definitely a good one but I still have my doubts that it’s true.
Stories like this happen because girls have no idea what goes on (or is supposed to go on) in yeshivas. One girl asked me why anyone would want to be a dorm counselor if that meant that three nights a week he wouldn’t be able to learn in the Beis Medrash after 10:45 P.M. I explained that some guys, even serious ones, who put in a full day of learning just don’t have the strength to learn after night seder. I was dreading the question as to how late I stay in the Beis Medrash every night but it never came.
It’s a two way street though. After a shadchan once scolded me saying, “How could you say no to her? Do you know that she was almost picked for G.O. in 11th grade?”, I was determined to find out exactly what G.O. is. None of the dates that I asked gave me a good answer except my wife. “G.O. is a waste of time which is why everyone likes it. Imagine you’re in a boring class, there’s a knock on the door and some students come in singing and dancing- think of what a relief it brings”. (By the way, my wife never ran for G.O. but that’s not what made the shidduch, we didn’t get engaged until a few dates later. She did agree with me though that I was correct in not reconsidering my decision based on her almost being voted G.O.)
One of my brothers told me that when guys from his yeshiva would take Brooklyn girls to Manhattan on a date they would take the [Brooklyn Battery] tunnel on the way there but use one of the bridges on the way back (to save $3.50 at that time) if they knew they were going to say no. I guess if the girls knew about this it would give them a heads up that the royal “D” is about to come.
This story was also going around his yeshiva but no one knew who it happened to (or if it is true at all).
Guy is talking and quotes the Yated. Girl asks, “How are you able to read the Yated if you’re supposed to be in the Beis Medrash whenever you have a free second, and you can’t bring the Yated into the bathroom?”
Guy answers, “When I go out with girls like you I’m back earlier than expected. I’m afraid to show my face in the Beis Medrash, so I go to my room. There are no seforim in my room since I’m supposed to be in the Beis Medrash whenever I have a free second. So I read the Yated…”
That’s right, don’t forget the Constant.
anonymisss-
You can’t say I didn’t try!
ames-
Sure, that’s why I took her out again.
Jax-
Thanks, now let’s hear some of yours.
Mayan_Dvash-
Some of these thing just can’t be made up.
(Part of the reason why I didn’t mention the pressure tactics or what happened on the second, and last, date was that then it would have been too hard to believe!)
areivimzehlazeh-
Sure, send them my way.
squeak-
For her sake I sincerely hope she did.
Not sure where this fits into the story but on one of the dates she told me that her father will not allow Internet access into the house and her boss blocks it at work. Every so often she asks her boss to unblock it so she can download updates for the programs she uses. While the block is lifted she quickly checks onlysimchas to see which guys she dated are engaged.
Some time after I dated her some guy from yeshiva tried setting me up with her. He said he knew the family very well since when a family member of his (from the same city as her) was sick and he went to be with them, her father let him hang out there to keep up with his college work. According to this guy, the family had 3 computers with cable Internet connection. (This was back in 2001 when, in general, having “Internet” meant using dial-up for AOL.)
ulisis-
The integral of (1/baomer) dbaomer would be ln |baomer|, (don’t forget those absolute value signs, unless you specify that baomer is strictly positive).
However the integral of 1/(ln(10)*baomer) dbaomer would in fact be Log(BaOmer) since Log (base 10) BaOmer = Ln (Baomer) / LN (10), and stam Logs (no specified base) are base 10.
=> Log (base 10) BaOmer = Log(BaOmer)
What if he smokes but doesn’t inhale?