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sorry that doesnt even deserve a chesed laugh
dhl144Memberany suggetions people!? help??
dhl144MemberSeats for what are sold out?
dhl144Memberthe goqLakewood is a twenty minute drive from Deal.
KollelWife: ty i will check those sources.
dhl144Memberwhy do you assume that X didn’t send regards? it is very possible that the person sending regards saw X starting speaking to him, then u came up in the convo and he said, “o u know speak to him send regards!” I have sent regards for ppl many times and ppl hav sent regards to me vry normal thing I dont chop your reason to bash it…
dhl144MemberI voted good luck yw fan!!
dhl144MemberFashionablee:LOL!!!!!!! your so right!!!
BME: IM SORRY THE CONCEPT OF MODESTY DOESN’T ONLY APPLY TO WOMEN!! IT APPLIES TO MEN IN THE SAME RESPECT!!
I learnt the halachot of the way men have to dress and what they should and shouldn’t wear and what must always be covered and it isn’t much easier for a boy to be a seniut person over a girl it is very hard!
dhl144MemberThank you for offering advice but I really dont understnd what your trying to advise me to do. Could you or someone else try to explain to me? bc you must have good advice.
dhl144MemberFellowJew1234:I dont know y I thought I was probably the only SY that is registered on this site lol. You are right that being silent is the best way to handle this situation.
Honestly it is really hard to believe that this was posted. Why should someone care so much and pay attetion so much to other peoples lives that they should post a question on this website about this matter.
This is not the true yeshiva world in the YW by the true ben torah materialism should not matter. I am part of the sy community. I am religious and will do anything to be close with the ppl in the community who truly do things to strengthen their avodat Hashem, and there are many.
Driving expensive cars, living in big houses, and dressing with highlined clothing is what you may see on the outside but unfortunetly that is just another test, and our community obviosly struggles in this field but every community has there struggles…
dhl144MemberI have gotten a lot better and have gone for proffenssional help.Thats why i know so much and have so much advice for you. I keep hearing from you that you feel low and you feel like Hashem is giving you so much pain one after the other…Could u be a litttle more specific? what pains are u realy going through that you ‘need’ this rebbe’s help w/? also u cant ever have anything against Hashem. Hashem is your source of everything! You can only thank hashem to the best of your ability even if it means at the end of your shmone esrei ttyl gotta go
dhl144MemberNo I dont think u hav to immediately break off. My mistake I was understnding ur situation to be more serious then u are now describing it. YOu inky talk to this rebbe at length ur sayin twice a month…Thats nothing compared to wat i was doing. I was talking to this rabbbi, hanging in his office with him, going on his errands with him, and sometimes i wasnt in yeshiva just bc he wasnt there! u see my situation was much more serious then yours…You could stay connected with this rabbbi w/o brking off ur relationship but u must stop feeling like w/o him your life is over, and worth nothing bc thats totally not true. You are in yeshiva and you are learning thereby strengthening your connection with Hashem and the reason you are in this world is to serve Hashem. If you are learning you are building ur connetion therefore helping your reason for being in this world. Im sure there is a lot more good that you do….So no dont break up ur close relatioship with this rebbe that you find special in your life. A good peice of advice that i can tell u has worked for me is try rationalizing with yourself over situations…lets say your in this rebbes sshiur and he is talking to another bochur answering his q’s and he compliments that bochur for asking a vg question and you start feeling that jealousy burning up inside of u talk to yourself this will put YOU in control! tell yourself y you should not feel this way and y these thoughts are irrational. it will probably feel wierd in the beginning like that ur talking to yourself and giving yourself advice…calming yourself down.. but you will see that after a few times this will eventually change your feelings and you’ll god willing eventually automatically realize in your mind y these feeelings are irrational and they wont even come to hurt u anymore! this is going to be the most amazing feeling. Why do u say that w/o this rebbe ur life feeels like nothing? i know thats not really true maybe you are just giving yourself that excuse so u hav a reason to turn to this rebbe for help but b4 u go to him tell yourself that i am not worthless w/o this rebbes help. He will be there for me whenever i truly need him and i dont have to proclaim my life worthless w/o him… bc I just want to hav a connection w/ him… my life is worth a lot and i am a gr8 person either way and i cud still talk to him…But bottom line y do u say ur life is worthless anyway? i dont think u really hav a true answer do u?
dhl144Member2cents:what you said in your last paragraph was so smart and correct. The reason I became so attached to this rebbe was partially bc he wasnt a profffssional and way to sensitive to my feeelings. whenever I needed him instead of making me get over, wtvr was givin me anxiety, by myself he would always give in and allow me to spend time with him to the point where I needed him almost the whole day!
takewhatlifegivesyou:What grade are u in? mesivta? our situations are different but still probably very similar in many ways…i’m in 3rd year bais medrash and I became dependent on the mashkiach of the yeshiva…& i meant evn if u think ppl are looking at u and reaalize the situation your going through you must realize its not true! nobody notices. Are u doing anything trying to prevent the situation from getting worse? even more out of hand? the earlier u start to break away from this terrible feeling the better off you’ll be thats what i have learnt bc right now u are deep in this hole and it might be very hard for you to get out of it. But the faster you begin to pull yourself out and start to break away to make it a noamal relationship the better off you’ll be bc you want to be in control…thats forsure if you dont back off a little soon then your rebbe is going to be the one that’ll throw you off and i’m only telling u this for your own good its going to get to the point where he’ll need you to stop being so attached to him. if he is the one that throws u off, as oppose to u breaking off extremly slowly but surely, it’ll hurt u very much. you will feel very bad and its going to be much harder to get over it…You must take coontrol! you must start even tommorrow to break off.
dhl144Membertakewhatlifegivesyou: Omg this is scary how similar our situations are/were i would dread when the yeshiva was having off weeks in advance or maybe just days but it was so hard it felt like weeks! And then during the breaks I would make every effort to see the rebbe and to talk to him… our yeshiva had in and out shabbats every other week and I would have to go talk to him after evry shabbat that i wasnt in yeshiva so that i wouldn’t miss him so much! omg i wish i could talk to u about this it was/is the most difficult thing… how long ago did u go through this? are u still in the yeshiva? what did u do during ben hazmanm? and of course u probably felt like other ppl realized but they completly didnt notice a thing!
dhl144Membermenucha12: what does “pilates” mean?
i’m on a carb diet very hard in the beginning but its been about a wk and it gets much easier… there is a lot to eat as time goes on u come up with alot of different things its really getting easier for me..
anyone think we should start a “carb diet” post? people will post great ideas for ppl with carb diets! im not reallly fat im just a little nervous that im getting there bc im almost twenty one and i started to gain wait i just hit 150lbs so i wanna cut down till i get really skinny again. After all yeshiva bochurim need to diet
dhl144Membertakewatlifegivesyou: Sure I had to leave bc i became too attached and i felt like i would get jealous and feel sad (anxious) whenever he would talk to other ppl and i would need ro spk to him right away at would be terrible! thank god it calmed down but now it gets bad every so often
April 29, 2012 9:50 pm at 9:50 pm in reply to: I love the coffee room when im bored like right now! #871162dhl144MemberTHink First:lol no I dont! I thought they werent around anymore. Those are actually my initials..
April 29, 2012 2:05 pm at 2:05 pm in reply to: I love the coffee room when im bored like right now! #871159dhl144MemberYitay:I was a little tired over shabbat but i made sure not to sleep bc i knew that i wouldnt be able to sleep at night so its not worth it…
dhl144MemberIm on a diet its so hard but CAN BE DONE dont giv up!! u cud totally do it I am doing no carbs but since i cant jusst stop cold turkey i decided to 1st go to eating litley… Like these sixty calorie pitas everytime i would normally hav a regular sandwich and trying to cut down soda limiting to meals…and no candy or snacks.. and fruit fruit fruit!
dhl144MemberA fun mesechet I learnt a few months ago was Rosh Hashana and it was espacially fun bc it was nogaya…Try it When is this learning gonna be?
dhl144Memberomg i hav no clue forget it…
April 29, 2012 4:11 am at 4:11 am in reply to: Davening With A Minyan vs. Davening Without A Minyan #871561dhl144Memberit is the worste feeling for a man that davens w/o a minyan it makes u feel horrible especially wen ur on a tight schedule (like me) my schedule is packed and when i miss my minyan and have to leave to get to work at nine in the morning…so i gotta get up and daven and it cuts my davening so short! 🙁 it makes me feeel horrible no kavana and i cant go slow i gotta speed!
it feels amazing wen i get up and just pull myself out of bed for a minyan…
a big sugggestion DO NOT SNOOZE once u snooze and let yourself feel that amazing feeling of falllin back asleep youll never get up in time…!
dhl144Memberhey is there a game going on now? fill me in!
dhl144MemberWhat a beautiful message! very nice ty!
dhl144Membersayididit, MASKIM!!!!!!!
dhl144Memberderszoger:ok so since i missed my twentieth yr I guess Ill start now but talk about goals for my 21st bday.
SayagLchachma:lol I wish I was as good as I sound…But at least I pride myself in having these thoughts and hopes for becoming a true ebed Hashem…And lol of course u can count!!!
dhl144Memberwhat makes 20 over 21 a key age?
dhl144Membera peshat that comes from some1 that is using his stomach instead of his brain simply put
dhl144Memberyou hav to make sure that in your eyes the person has a nice personality that you agree with… you have to make sure your goals are the same….want to raise the same type of family. Love is not the means of a marriege one mustn’t be unattracted but love isn’t a big factor. It’s more to “like” and love is a lifetime of work after a marrieg that is when love is built between a couple when you hold each other up through pain and hardchips when you are happy together when you put all your might to conquer whatever tests Hashem may throw at you. When you work tirelessly to raise children together….as all this is done thats what results in generating love between two people.
dhl144MemberSAYIDIDIT: ty for agreeing!! lol Its reallly amazing sometimes i felt like i could reallly spill out my emotions Im 4sure going to start listening to it after sefira god willing
dhl144Memberyup but how long do you want to work? just the summer? from wen to wen and when would u wannna start?
dhl144Memberyes there are many jews that drive german cars… no question I always c it maybe not in your circles…
dhl144MemberHi you are frum bh and you know that your purpose in this world is to serve Hashem i never had thoughts to go off but I cud hear where your coming from that you want thrill as a matter of fact I was just thinking about that 2day that if I wasnt religious maybe my life would be more fun but you gotta keeep telling yourself and engraining it that you know why your here Think of fun things that u can do and do creativve things maybe get involved with chesed Could u ask more specific questions? i would like to help.
dhl144MemberBTGuy: YOur saying that bc ita a german car? Thats besides the point…Anyway I hope you dont drink Dole apple juice because thats made in Germany also. I also hope that u do not eat French Fries with Heinz ketchup bc the family that owns Heinz are major anti-semites.
Driving an expensive car is totally keneged what we hold if we are in this world to serve Hashem and we are here to do things that will make our connection to Hashem stronger; Driving expensive cars is not somehing that will help us with our avodat Hashem…
I’m saying this even though I come from a community where we are so materialistic people are favored for it and it’s out of control spending where families get torn apart as a result of fighting over materialistic things.
dhl144Membergad elbaz, I like israeli music…It is exciting and original. Not the typical oy oy oy
dhl144MemberAre u looking for a hotel? There arent any hotels in Deal that are kosher. I am from deal and I will help u out I jjust need some more specific details as to what u are looking for
dhl144Member20 now but will be twenty one in less then a monnth!!!
dhl144MemberTHe Goq: ty!! I was so curious and I was also so curios if there is any1 deciding if a post is appropriate or not lol ty!!!
dhl144MemberYC: I am in college now I didnt think in a million yrs that I would be but not 4 your reasons bc I thought I would be learning in yeshiva… I left yeshiva bc learning full time wasn’t working out for me but I looked for months for a job and nothin that I could support a family with really came up. SO I decided to join a college.. Im in Brookdale still frum I learn every night. Im majoring in Paralegal although Im not sure if thats exacly wat i wanna do but i wasnt going to just go to college w/;o any direction… Maybe u should consideer colllege just for one semester thats what i did this past semester and im loving it.. I also didnt wanna be in college forever I just wanted to do it so that I could Get a job and eventually get marrried and support a family. Good luck! but dont totally throw off college not as bad as it sounds and i chose to shooot for paralegal bc it only a yr and a half of colllege
dhl144Memberlol THe Goq is funny!!!
dhl144MemberTHe GOq: Hey!!!! Yup Im new to Yw!! I love the coffee room lol
ANd no i dont have extra floose to juust chuck but i could spend my floose on that stuff if i want but i know its worthless!!!!
dhl144Memberyw moderator your on a roll!!!! lol!!!
dhl144Membercould i hav a subtitle!?!? lol! im so curios what i would get!
dhl144Membercould someone pls tell me what the MOD thing is i really dont know and everyone says it!!
dhl144MemberI love love his song “Memekomecha” not sure how to spell it slow heart wrentching that was put out in the cd that had light green on it
dhl144Memberso haleivi your saying it is fine to ask Hashem for a sign?
dhl144Member147:Thank you so much for that beautiful insight!!! I really wish i cud have a real seder with some1 even just a short few min a dy just to find a sefer or someth in english on the beauty of hashem and the “ma rabu masecha Hashem!!!” I want to hear what more ppl have to say!
Syag Lechachma:Thank You!
dhl144MemberWhat does the topic of this post mean?
April 22, 2012 8:44 pm at 8:44 pm in reply to: What to research b4 going on the shidduch date??? #869772dhl144MemberWORKING: Are u serious a little to much stress on what kind of dishes the girl uses i dont think thats going to make so much of a difference
April 22, 2012 8:42 pm at 8:42 pm in reply to: What to research b4 going on the shidduch date??? #869771dhl144MemberI’m sorry I logged off! ty for answerin Yes i hav a plan Im majoring in paralegal. i am frum and want to lead a very religios lifestyle my goal is to raise a family that will truly serve Hashem!
dhl144Memberif smoking is the only issue defenetly go 4 it not the bigggest deal
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