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Good. Cold weath…oh. Never mind.
You’re est bet in this type of situation is to start yesterday. Maybe last week. That’s what I would suggest if it was the night before a test and essay.
Such as what?
To get to the other side.
I lost. I’m really bad at this game.
I think I read somewhere that we use approx. 2% of our brain!
That’s a myth. It’s not true. We use most of our brains.
In the Zilberman yeshivos they learn at a slower pace with lots of chazarah.
It must have been so easy in the midbar. Ok everyone, all tents, 30 feet to the right. DONE!!
Assuming that the ?? was chametzdig altogether. Which I doubt since ??? is also called ??? ?????? like the ??. The ?????? ???? has a really beautiful piece on it.
For a ???? to do the ????????? in the ?????????????????, does he have to be a ??? ???
I’m tempted to say yes because it says in ????? ?’ ?”?-?”?, that ??? ??? was taken “??? ?? ???? ??? ???”.
One of my Rebbeim once brought a kvittel from his wife to the Steipler. The Steipler glanced at it and pushed it away saying “ksav isha”. So this Rebbe rewrote it in his own handwriting and presented it again. This time “nusach isha”
After he wrote it in his own words the Steipler finally read it.
I heard this story first hand.
I was told of a certain yeshivah that worked with OTD bochurim that would bring them to the Steipler. They would line up the ones that wore tzitzis in front of the ones that didn’t but they said the Steipler always knew.
I heard of a certain wife who shares a husband in common with my own wife who told me first hand that she sat in the Steipler’s chair when she came back from visiting Rav Chaim’s Rebbetzin. If you are a girl you should go to.
Because he was not the ??? ???, the doctor was.
Right Makes Might!
You just need a better fashion sense.
It’s big and it’s red.
Don’t push it.
… some might even say a yid is a yid… period.
Reb Ahron said “a goy is a goy…is a goy” (‘…’mine)
Because he’s angry. Is this a trick question?
Modern Yeshivish:
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/what-does-modern-yeshivish-mean
Tuna Bagel:
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/what-is-a-tuna-bagel
Greasy:
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/what-does-greasy-mean
Heimishe:
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/heimish-what-does-it-mean-to-you
Modern Orthodox:
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/modern-orthodox-judaism
I’m sure I can find more.
Who’s ‘we’ white man?
I would say it’s been about a month since we last treated this subject to exhaustion. So it’s time about time to do it again.
I think beet like the red vegetable not beat like an egg
I once had a dream to patent a triangle shaped flying vehicle. It had a glass dome on top where you sit inside an small box things that made it fly. It came in family size too.
But my mother probably through out my plans that I had drawn and I don’t have the creativity I had when I was 8 anymore to remember how it was supposed to look.
I guess civilization will need to wait until someone else creates them now.
My mother always taught me not to talk to strangers at all. Plus I grew up in NY where the minhag hamakom is to not greet strangers at all. So no hi’s or good shabbos for me.
And if you pass me in the street, please ignore me, so that I won’t feel uncomfortable ignoring you.
Have you spoken to anybody that was OTD and came back?
It really is scary just how twisted peoples’ minds can actually get when not trained by a competent teacher.
To think how many poor lost souls still think in 5771 that cities outside of NY might not be called “out of town”. Rachmana L’tzlan.
I can only hope that in shamayim they will have a din of tinok she’nishbah. ??? ????? ??? ????. We need moshaich already.
Is she Jewish or does this somehow connect to something Jewish somewhere that makes this relevant to me?
Why are they soser each other that there needs to be a machlokes? The Sifsei Chaim discusses both of them as mitziyus.
That’s true of girls and boys but it passes. She needs to know that when she’s ready, you’ll be there. Try to get sleep and not seem frazzled all the time so that you don’t give her guilt trips that will drive her further away. Take care of yourself so that you can take care of her too.
From one side or another the whole frum community is rooting for you and your daughter to come through it whole a strong.
The Sifsei Chaim has a two volume set on Emunah and Bitachon that covers a lot of inyanim including bechirah and hashgacha if you ever want to check it out.
I looked in ???? ??????? but I didn’t see it there. If anyone has a set of ???? ????? ???? give it to me. Or barring that maybe you can look it up there.
If you bumped it for me, I didn’t answer because I don’t know what else to say. I’ve tried to explain what I think is correct and you disagree, so I guess ??? ????? ??? ??? ???? ????? ??? ????
I’ve spent a few years among families of Rabbonim who teach in kiruv Yeshivos and bring these off the derech boys home on a regular basis. I would say that because their children understand that they are playing a part in trying to help, they tend to objectify them rather than learn from them, often referring to them as “the bochurim”. All the while these kids will happily play with them.
So maybe you can explain to the rest of your kids that daughter X is going through a difficult time but we all really want her to get better so let’s show her extra love by doing xyz. In this way maybe they will feel that they are part of the helping initiative and distance themselves from her actions while still showing her love.
Also, your daughters actions as you describe them really show that she is doing it out of anger. Eventually her anger will pass as she grows up and what will happen then can be heavily affected by your actions now. I definitely agree with Shrek that she is testing the waters. Show her your unconditional love now.
If she is still ‘talkable’ try to have some mother-daughter time once in a while. Maybe just the two of you going out to eat. Discuss normal things with her, instead of chastising her or telling her how pained you are. Tell her that no matter what, you still want that relationship with her above anything else.
If she is not receptive, then take the initiative. If you know she will be going out one night, leave her a peckel of her favorite food or treat on her pillow or in a place where she will definitely get it. Leave her small things, just to show her that you think about her, but don’t want to intrude into her space until she is ready to talk.
Remember that above all, she is suffering from pain and anger that she doesn’t know how to deal with. Your love can help her more than anyone else.
The first ???? sounds similar to the idea in .?”? ?:
???? ????? ???? ?????? ???? ????? ??? ????? ???????
A proposal paper?
Seriously, some shadchanim take this a little too far.
So slang is like a form of acne?
binah:
I am not saying that a parent should be makpid on their kavod especially if their children have a hard time with it. But that it the mitzvah aspect of it. I am trying to argue that the mitzvah aside there is still a midah tova to work on even if a parent was mochel.
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Is hakaras hatov a mitzvah or a midah?
There is an element of hakaras hatov to a parent but I don’t think that this is where the parent gains his right to respect. Hakaras hatov can be between peers as well. And and aged person is deserving of respect regardless of whether he did a favor or not.
From the bechinah of the mitzvah (if hakaras hatov is a mitzvah), I would ask the same thing as earlier- if a person is mevater do I still have the mitzvah?
I saw this minhag somewhere and since then I don’t do blow out fires anymore. I will try to find it again.
By relationship I mean state of association between two entities.
Parents, the aged and teachers are givers. They give over chinuch, life experience and wisdom. Children, the young and students receive those things.
The nature of the relationship between a giver and a receiver is that the giver is higher than the receiver. Try to pour from a carton of milk on the floor into the cup on the table.
The nature of the association between a parent and child is that the parent is above the child. By virtue of being ‘higher’, they command respect. That is the nature of respect- it is given to those above us.
If I had to say where the ‘right’ to command respect comes from I would say by virtue of attaining the higher position.
The ?????? I think comes from the relationship itself, irrespective of the mitzvah.
I agree that it is bad middos to feel insulted, but at the same time, it I think it is also their right. But that is their problem. My problem is to make sure that they don’t get put to that test to begin with.
Again, I’m separating the mitzvah from the relationship.
Dama ben Nesinah didn’t have a mitzvah of kibud av, yet he was still rewarded. I think this is because regardless of the mitzvah there is still this inalienable relationship that exists and he exemplified it.
I think there are two components here:
1)The halachic requirement
2)The relationship itself
Even if a parent is mochel on his kavod I definitely think that a person is misaken his middos by standing up for the parent.
Is kibud av a din on me or on my father? Meaning, if my father is mochel on his kavod do I no longer have a mitzvah of kibud av? Or do I still have a mitzvah of kibud av, but I won’t be oyver by not standing up for him?
I would think that it is the second. The nature of a parent/older person etc. is intrinsic to the parent/older person vis a vis the child/youngster. You can’t separate the ‘parent’ from the ‘person’ from the aspect of the child, there is only the aspect of ‘parent’. Whatever the parent does with respect to the child has to always be approached with the perception of ‘parent’.
So too, age is as inseparable from a person as the color of his eyes. The relationship between a youngster and an older person has to always reflect that.
They are all people, but one of them is wearing an immovable ‘crown’ on his head and the other isn’t. By virtue of that crown, he deserves honor.
From the aspect of the halacha and the parent/older persons’ own tikkun hamidos, I would imagine they should not feel slighted.
But from the aspect of the nature of the relationship it is understandable and I would argue their right to feel slighted.
Trumah is not comparable because you are not required to give Terumah to a specific kohen, he can’t mun you for it. You do have to give kavod to a specific parent.
The mitzvah of tefillin is not for kavod hatefillin but for the toeles the person gets for wearing them. Kibud av is for the kavod of the father and their is also toeles to practicing it.
1) menuchas hanefesh
2) as much time as I want to discuss whatever I want with my Rebbe
3) the ability to be mechanech others
As a fourth thing I might want to teach tbt how to count to 3
Don’t worry about anxiety.
I have an Abba and a Ma who is sometimes called Mommy.
I am a Tatty.
Maybe it’s vnohapuch hu.
Does anyone else ever spend time working on a post to get all the sources right only to press “Send Post” and receive the message:
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