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Call any orthodox jew. Tell them that you’re in a situation where it is challenging to observe, and that you’d like to spend shabbos with an observant family. I don’t know anyone who could have the heart to refuse such an open request. (If they can’t host you they should be able to make arrangements for you…)
Search mavensearch.com for numbers of orthodox synagogues across the fruited plain…
Okiale:
There is a dispensation in halacha, (restrictions do apply, for rules and regulations please consult with an Halachic authority…) called ‘kavod habriyos’. I.e. when the honor or pride of a person will be compromised as a result of keeping a specific halachic requirement, Chazal dispensated with that particular requirement as to save that persons honor. A prime example is Tallis. It is generally prohibited (bittul aseh) to wear a garment of four corners which does not have Tzitzis attached. However if ones tzitzis tore off when he is in a public area, and taking off his attire will be a great embarrassment for him, the law of ‘kovod habriyos’ does apply, and he need not strip of the four cornered garment until he reaches a private location.
I would venture that, all the more so, where refraining from doing the mitzva will be the source of embarrassment, that this should override your minhag. This, of course, would not replace your minhag, and would only apply where you are in a place where everyone else is doing the mitzva.
(Parenthetically, I might add that a ‘scarf tallis’ or ‘neck tallis’ is not an issue at all’ because these are not considered ‘wearing’ in halacha.)
Having said that, I would like to suggest that a minhag of a conservative kehilla does not have the halachic binding of a minhag. A minhag is considered sacred in halacha for the reason that, whoever instituted the minhag, understood all of the talmudic background sources, and after careful deliberation the concencus was to act in that manner. The conservative ‘minhagim’ were enacted without that careful and honest deliberation, and therefore must give right of way to normative halacha.
Another disclaimer: Let not this be a harbinger of other modifications you would make in your observance in order to conform with your new kehilla. The conservative are not doing a great job of bearing the torch of Torah, as has been passed on, unchanging, for 3,328 years (minus four weeks and four days).
Reb Shlomo Paritcher was the star talmid of Reb Boruch Ber at Knesses Beis Yitzchok in Kovna. He attained renown as a Rosh Yeshiva at Reb Meiles Yeshiva in Vilna and was recruited by Reb Shraga Feivel Mendelowitz in 1935.
Read all about him in ?????? ? available on Hebrewbooks #20292
After his death in 1945, his rebbetzin remarried Chief Rabbi Isser Yehuda Unterman. [A number of amusing quotes are famously attributed to her.]
His seforim were published by Reb Michel Yehuda Lefkowitz of Bnei Brak, who was a talmid of Reb Shlomo in Vilna. [Additional Shiurim were published in Yeshurun 8, and by R CD Sorotzkin of Lakewood (i believe), however these are less popular.]
old man: Don’t know where you’ve been, but today Reb Shlomo is more famous than Reb Yaakov Kamenetzky (who lived 40 years past his death!) if not in the street, than in the Yeshivos, where his seforim have become classics and in Eretz Yisroel where Reb Yaakov is far less known, and Reb MY Lefkowitz was a leader of Torah Jewry for a number of years.
Ask any seforim salesman which is a bigger seller: Emes LeYaakov (aside for the volume ‘al haTorah’ which is a huge seller) or Chiddushei Reb Shlomo. The answer will be unequivocally the latter.
That’s as far as ‘fame’. As for “his greatness in torah” I don’t believe that you, or myself, or any other reader of this post is in the position to express an opinion either way.
geordie:
I don’t know why anyone is surprised. We’re talking between the two WW. Who wasn’t affected? Anyhow, the fact that you never heard of grandchildren of the C”C who were lost to yiddishkeit L”A is a reflection of your lack of basic historical knowledge, as it is very well-known.
Zahavasdad:
The story was told by R Shimshon Pincus. Here’s a link:
http://beta.hebrewbooks.org/reader/reader.aspx?sfid=19972&ocr=%D7%94%D7%9C%D7%9C+%D7%96%D7%A7%D7%A1
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This is the most recent journal which is available through Hebrewbooks. I don’t know if this means that it was discontinued, or they simply did not post any of the further publications…
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1. There is a big difference between relying on a ness, and davening for a ness. The former is foolish, the latter, depends on if one is davening for a ness nigla or ness nistar.
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3. Sam2, You’re not sure yourself what the exact question posed to R’ Elyashiv (who was known to answer questions very literally – exactly how they were worded by the one posing the question, I’ll add that we don’t know how polished your Yiddish/Ivrit is…) and your not sure what his answer was. It’s not very responsible of you to publicize it.
The question as posed by newbee in this thread is not in anyway addressed by ‘we have to do what is normally done to take care of ourselves’.
4. newbee, not exactly sure what is your difficulty with “??? ???? ?? ???? – ??? ?? ???? ???” please explain.
Speaking of gaba’im, please refer to my new thread: The Most Thankless Jobs
1. The question should divided to two: Halachic and moral.
2. Halachic discussion is twofold as well: A. Hilchos Tzedakah, B. Hilchos: i. Lifnei iver ii. MeSaye’ah. [This is assuming that the issur of smoking is unequivocal. This can be debated, though not in this venue. (A doctor told someone I know that one cigarette a day will not harm him.)]
Disclaimer: Although I am far from having reached the level of asukei shma’atsa aliba de’hilchisa, I would like to suggest some points, leaving the verdict for those more qualified.
A. Hilchos Tzedakah: The halacha requires us to provide the destitute with their needs, ‘Dei Machsoro’ (this is not translated as luxuries). This probably does not include feeding an addiction (aside, perhaps, for one of coffee 😉 )
However, giving funds (cash, check, wire, transfer, or money order) as opposed to providing the cigarettes directly, is not necessarily considered providing for the addiction, provided that he has other things to spend money on (such as shoes for his children for yom tov). More on this contrast below.
B. i. Hilchos Lifnei iver, ii. MeSaye’ah: This involves two very complex, and though often intertwined, distinct sugyos. It would seem:
i. Because the pauper presumably has enough money on him to purchase cigarettes, this would probably be considered ‘Chad ibra de’nahara’ (same side of the river), and would not constitute Lifnei Iver.
ii. Since he is not providing cigarettes, but money, this probably does not constitute MeSaye’ah.
Since halachicly there is no compelling reason not to give, you would still be left with your mitzvas aseh of tzedakah, and issurim for turning the ani away.
3. Moral question is basically do I refrain from giving a child who is in dire need for money because he is likely to use some of his money to buy a knife, which he may use to hurt himself.
Since your intention is altruistic, to provide the ani with his (unalienable) necessities, you can assume that your money will be funneled toward that specific cause. This as per the famous story with Reb Chaim of Volozhin.
Joseph: Neither does Adopt-A-Kollel. I presume there are multiple different arrangements, however from what I have heard, the adopting shul/community/ business does not cover even a third of the adopted kollel’s payroll.
Coffee: Aside for the cuts for kollel funding there were additional cuts such as stipends for large families that were drastically slashed. Such cuts were understandably catastrophic for many kollel families. Kollels had a greater pressure to pay more, and on time.
Parenthetically I may add, “they” didn’t start anything. One ‘Zakai’ was privileged to devise and carry out this unbelievable ‘zikui harabim’. May we all be zocheh to such awesome ‘zechuyos’ of our own. Amen.
First off, I’d express my amazement that you managed to see ‘their passion, their faith, their values and their fierce devotion to an ancient tradition’ in an age which the true face of Torah Jewry is so rarely manifest. This reflects the ‘Ayin Tova’ which you apparently are blessed with.
From your words it is also apparent a number of other great traits which make me believe that you are as good a candidate as ever for conversion. These, coupled with your [legitimate, as you have authentic Jewish blood running through your veins (this on the authority of Halachic giants such as R Y.S. Elyashiv o.b.m.)] feeling of connection should help smooth the transition.
If my intuition is correct, you have it in you to succeed in adapting real fast, and will be ready for shidduchim in short order.
Thirty is not that old these days days, but fortify yourself and be prepared for some very hurtful encounters along the journey. This applies for almost everyone in shidduchim, all the more so for newcomers to our insular community.
All said, I encourage you to go for it! May you merit to feel the Divine Countenance in all your endeavors.
Charlie, what exactly is your mesorah? Who has transmitted this mesorah to you? Please trace this ish mipi ish (this is the only meaning of mesorah which I am familiar with) as far back as you can.
gavra, your quote: ‘OURtorah, a maamin believes that Hashem gives what he wants us to have, regardless of hishtadlus. Nevertheless, hishtadlus is a chiyuv.’
A huge Machlokes in Machshava, and certainly not pashut. Certainly here, where many would say that not getting an education nowadays is Atzlus and a choice not to do appropriate Hishtadlus, it is much less Pashut.
My take: to chalk up the decision a yungerman makes not to pursue a higher education to atzlus is wrong.
Besides, this entire conversation is basically moot, because studies show that the salary/income gap between those who have degrees and those who do not is closing steadily.
Addict: 1stly, could be, but stam sofer in the common vernacular (in other words: stam) denotes soferei sta”m.
2ndly, even if they are not redundant, they most certainly are superfluous. Just like tuna fish. Make sure that you’re in the right thread….
Baruch: that applies to VIN and PIN as well. Good one!
Gavra, that comment about atzlus is quite presumptuous, supercilious , patronizing, and downright inaccurate (read: a libelous lie). The average serious Israeli yungerman wakes at 6.30 to be back from davening at 7.30 to take 2+ kids to gan/caretaker and help his wife with the morning routine, getting another 3+ kids out to school, running to make the hasa’a to kollel at 8.15, often grabbing a bite on the jasa’ah, or skipping breakfast altogether. The time on the hasa’a is also not wasted, often there will be a Seder in the van, or he will learn half oof the day’s daf, or m.b. yomis.
After for hours of breaking his head on the sugia, (how much does university studying actually strain your mental capacity?) he either naps on four chairs in the kollel or runs home to pick up the 2+ kids from gan. It’s 2.15 when he arrives home, (on Tuesdays he will spend 2 minutes outside his door flipping through the Yated which is delivered for free that day before tossing it in the receptacle.) 3.26 he is running again to catch the hasa’a, panting he takes his seat and pulls a pocket mishnayos out. 8 o’clock finds him walking through his front door, does some homework with his older kids, sits down for pita and chummous, and is out the door to night Seder and ma’ariv. At eleven he writes/types some of his chidushim/sikumim of the day, and shmoozes with his wife. At 12 he comforts his 2 year old who woke up crying, hopefully by one he’s in bed, often chazzering the morning’s limud in his head so he’ll be able to jump right back into it in the morning. At 3 a.m. he makes a bottle for the newborn, and at 6.30 his alarm clock rings. This is an atzel?!?
R Moshe Hillel Hirsh shlit”a: 1. Is a talmid of Reb Ahron Kotler so it makes sense that his outlook follows that of his rebbe. 2 Is Rosh yeshiva in Slabodka in Bnei Brak, one of the most intense insular strongholds of that city. 3 Most probably graduated high school, possibly a public one… 4 and most importantly was addressing only people who are earnestly interested in his opinion, and intends to follow his instruction. As for everyone else, he was not speaking to you. This includes everyone on this site, as he has often advised against using the internet for non-commercial purposes.
Liquid cash
Cash money
Challah bread
Pita bread
grocery store
chamisha chomshei torah
Sofer sta”m (I assume that every sofer is qualified for sta”m, hence stam sofer would imply sofer sta”m…)
Bad headache as opposed to mild headache. Basically you’re picking in a colloquial usage of the adjective “bad” as meaning intense.
Criminal lawyer in contrast with a lawyer that deals with legalities such as to ensure a document is binding.
Why is this information noteworthy? If these Yidden would chalila be mechalel shabbos bifarhesia would it evoke a similar outrage or indignation? My point is that even if you think it’s terrible, we are all aware that ba’avonoseinu there are many Yidden that are estranged from the right path. Why would you choose to highlight this particular deviation over others? I suspect Zionist leanings….
We, as Americans should respect the OFFICE of the POTUS. All should agree that it is for the honor of the entire nation that its leader is honored and respected. Anyone who has ever been to D.C. cannot ignore the feeling of malchus emanating from those austere edifices.
Thus, our president (as well as all public officials) should be regarded with respect, even if it is undeserved. It is not his as a person whom we respect, but rather the chair which he occupies. This should apply even if he is impeached by one body of congress, as long as he has the job.
That said, the president is not divine, and his mistakes and shortcomings should be called out, either in a respectful manner, or in private.
I should add that if your complaint is just for the sake of grumbling, better hold it. You will have gained nothing, and the wisest of all men advised: “Even in your [private] chamber, a king you should not curse, for the bird of the heavens will carry the sound, a winged one will tell the matter.” (Translation mine.)
This applies to all Americans. As for Yidden, it’s best to lie low in galus (which includes the gola on our sacred land). “Hatzpinu atzmichem ad sheyaavor olamo…”
The issue as I see it: Thousands of hats are sold by Borsalino to our communities with a hefty profit margin. They have been taking advantage of the fact that in our communities hats haven’t yet gone the way of the ice box, nor will they be in the foreseeable future. They have been hiking prices steadily. They know we need them. What we need to see is if we can gather together under one banner to urge them to lower prices, under threat of changing our style (go over to kangol or stetson as a group). We cannot underestimate our bargaining power, as we are likely a large percentage of their customer base. (It’s not the 1940’s anymore…)
It is neither Communist nor capitalist. It’s common sense.