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Someone tried to redt me a shidduch with a boy who was coming home for pesach. My parents asked what will happen if they still want to continue after and he’s supposed to go back to ey. They said what do u mean? Dating “so long” is the “goyish” way to do things.

That’s one way to get pressured.

Finally a parsha where they aren’t still single and you’re acting like it’s a crisis?

While I enjoy an occasional shiur, I was never one to go to weekly shiurim etc, (some girls are into it, some are not.) and now that I’m married I really don’t have that much time to listen to shiurim in general – definitely not weekly. However, by Shabbos meals, and every so often my husband will tell over something he learned that he thinks I would enjoy or would inspire me. Plus we try to learn something every night during supper. Why don’t you something like that? It can certainly keep up the level of hashkafa you want. Even if she agrees to go to shiurim, at some point life might get too hectic, and she may just stop going altogether.

Health – Not sure if you were serious or not but it doesn’t sound like they’re having such major marriage problems that would require divorce or therapy c”v. Although seeking advise from rabbanim and other knowledgeable people is always a good idea, you seem to imply that their marriage is on the rocks. Every one has differences and arguments in a marriage (and this is a pretty typical one) – nothing wrong with that! Question is how to deal with it.

Trim – how about suggesting to her – without even mentioning her spending habit, that you think it’s a good idea to start a savings acct, or CD, etc. – give her a good excuse/reason (for the kid’s weddings, buy a house- whatever will work for her.) Decide together on a certain percentage or amount of what you earn each month will go into this acct. Then if you can afford and there’s still a few dollars left, if she really wants, let her buy something sometimes! It’s ok to OCCASIONALLY splurge on yourself (or spouse) as long as it’s in control. If there’s no extra, maybe she won’t feel the need to spend.

You just have to realize that they’re going to preach zionistic so tune out when they do that. Even the separate tours meet other tours and sometimes stay in the same motels. Best to go with friends so you can stay “on track”. And have fun! And extend your trip if you can – it’s worth it.

As far as taking things along – just the usual clothes, bathing suit, HAT/CAP = very impt, backpack…

Not to give a psak, but I keep chalav yisroel and eat Oreos. I was also told (in addition to what you mentioned) that there are people with milk allergies who can eat them. (I know someone specific who can.)

thanks men for working so hard to earn a living, and for learning Torah, and for coming home after a hard day of doing both and helping arnd the house too!

Btw, maybe the women aren’t online bec they’re busy preparing supper and taking care of the kids and the house, so you can come home to a nice hot meal in a clean house after your hard day at work!

People have different interpretations of the word heimish. My husband’s family is heimish – and the way I’ve heard it defined most is that you come from chassidish background, and may have a few chassidish minhagim, but not chassidish all the way. My guess is that the connection to the word “heim – or home” is that they are following some of their traditions from the alte heim, but that’s my own take on it.

It is not the OPPOSITE of yeshivish – as you can be both – we are also yeshivish. And of course there are different interpretations of yeshivish, but that’s another whole topic lol.

I heard if you eat less a few days before the fast your stomach will shrink so you’ll need to eat less. (I learned this might be a reason why eating the day before Yom Kippur is considered like fasting for 2 days – it makes it harder to fast so it’s AS IF you’re fasting 2 days)