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Lots of Yeshivos and shuls benefit from stolen goods.
Dress as a nun.
I think their issue is more about the money hat yeshiva guys get from he government without having served in the military. Some want to tie that stipend to military service.
There are other things chareidim could do besides serving in the military. They can do Sherut Leumi instead. I believe serving in Magen David Adom qualifies for that – let more chareidim work in MDA, and they can continue to get the stipend. There are plenty of other opportunities in Sherut Leumi that would be acceptable for Chareidim.
I went on Birthright years ago, so I don’t remember all the places we went. Here are some of the ones I do remember:
Yerushalayim – we walked through the old city, obviously went to the Kotel, as well as the tunnels under the Kotel.
Tzfat – they took us to some of the old shuls there
Dead Sea
Masada
Golan
Tel Aviv
Yad Vashem
Mt. Herzel
Jaffa – we went to a big shuk there
T’verya
Kibbutz Lavi
We also went to help out one day by going to a center which collects items for poor families. We sorted out clothing by gender and size, and helped arrange various appliances into different categories.
Overall, I had an amazing time, and would recommend the trip to others. Just make sure you choose the right trip organizer, as most of them are not for frum Jews.
bh18: Did that really happen? Stealing someone’s mail is a federal crime. She could get into real trouble for that!
Yes
I walk close to a mile to go to shul every Shabbos. I also hurt my knee recently, and am nervous about walking in the snow. The only other shul near me is a Chabad house where the members are meshichist, so I refuse to daven there. I might end up davening at home this week.
Ferd is a loud-mouthed loser who just likes to insult people.
In this thread: http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/throwing-bleach-at-r-nuchem-rosenberg-to-achieve-justice
he called me names and insulted me numerous times. He has done this is other threads as well.
Obviously the mods are ignoring the rules when they feel like it. It needs to stop, and Ferd should be banned for his comments.
gavra, perhaps if you apologize for your chutzpa towards a huge talmud chacham, you will make some progress.
If the Shema Yisrael is the one I’m thinking of, here are the original words, as sung by Sarit Hadad:
Kshehalev boche rak Elokim shomea
Bitfila ktana chotech et hadmama
Shma israel Elokai ata hakol yachol
Natata li et chayai natata li hakol
Shma Israel Elokai achshav ani levad
Chazek oti Elokai ase shelo efchad
Kshehalev boche hazman omed milechet
El halo noda hu lo rotze lalechet
and here’s the translation:
When the heart cries only God hears
The pain rises from the soul
A man falls down before he sinks
He cuts the silence with a small prayer
Shma Israel, my God, you are the mighty one
You gave me my life you gave me everything
A tear in my eyes, the heart cries in silence
And when the heart is silent the soul cries out
Shma Israel, my God, I am all alone now
Make me strong, my God, so I will not be afraid
The pain is great and there is no where to run
When the heart cries time stands still
A man sees his life passing in front of him
He calls his God as he stands on the edge of the deep
If someone graduates medical school, you generally call them Doctor, no matter how old they are. It has nothing to do with age, it is a title that you’ve earned by virtue of passing the exams needed.
If someone gets semicha, they’ve earned the right to be called Rabbi. Does that mean you always have to? Probably not, but when using a formal address, you should write their official title.
Whether you have respect for them or not is up to you. If the semicha is from a yeshiva you don’t hold of, then don’t show them the respect to their face. Obviously, don’t use them as your Rav.
It’s a terrible thing that he isn’t being buried in a Jewish cemetery. That said, I do envy the schar he will receive for always defending Israel. He stood up for Israel against those who opposed it, even when it wasn’t politically correct to do so. This unwavering dedication to the safety of our brothers and sisters will no doubt grant him a huge zchus in the next world.
I recommend To Kindle a Soul by Rabbi Keleman.
Mods: Sorry, I checked it again – he said it’s an open letter to Yeshiva World.
Correct, an open letter on his blog
Bear: He’s not trying to bend the rules, he’s trying his hardest to stay within them. Everyone slips up sometimes. As long as we realize that when we do it’s wrong, and we try to do better, we’re on the right path. He claims that’s what is going on with him.
How can you judge him when he has such a terrible situation to live with? He is trying his best. He says he came out about his situation to show others in it that you can live as a frum gay person. Personally, I think a frum person who is gay and is able to resist his temptations 99% of the time is amazing. I wish I was able to resist 99% of my temptations to do wrong.
Unfortunately, with your lashon hara here (which obviously I am not mekabel), you are a far cry from resisting 99% of your temptations.
He has a website where he posted it. He said that some friends showed him the posts about him here the other day, and he wrote it as a response. He submitted it to YWN, but also wrote he didn’t think they’d post it because he gets into some details they likely wouldn’t want to publish.
Nothing was ever submitted to YWN
Bear, did you read the letter that this Ger wrote in response to your accusations?
He says that he knew being gay was wrong. He suppressed the desire as much as he was able. Did he slip sometimes? Yes, and he writes how he was wracked with guilt and cried about it after.
He converted because he was told when you convert, you become a new person and your old self is gone. He hoped it would rid him of these desires he had. It didn’t.
He married a woman, and went to therapy for years. Nothing helped, and he resented his wife. He says he is now OTD because of the issues he has with the chareidi world and how they handled (or didn’t handle) his situation.
He recognizes that acting on his desires is wrong, and tries to avoid it as much as he can. Being gay and frum is a terrible situation to be in, and I have a lot of pity for people in that situation. Imagine knowing that you have to go through life alone, unable to act on your desires – it’s a tremendous burden!
Don’t insult somebody you know nothing about. Be dan l’kaf zchus.
Maybe it wasn’t really fifty dollars, but five dollars? After all, it seems clear you’re not sure where a period (or decimal) should go, so maybe you were wrong? Maybe it was fifty cents?
As haifagirl said, please study English some more. I’m sorry about the situation you’re in, but that’s not an excuse for the grammar (or lack thereof) in your post.
I also agree with Goq, with one more piece. I’m also not a big fan of when people change diapers in public. When my kids were babies, I never changed them in public unless there was absolutely no other choice. I’d go to a bathroom, even if there wasn’t a changing table. I got a very large changing pad and disinfectant wipes, and I even did it on the floor of a bathroom stall once.
I definitely think the woman overreacted. A simple, “Excuse me, it really bother me when people do that, would you mind going to use the table in the bathroom?” would have been fine. Her reaction was way over the line.
Your response about her marital status was also way over the line.
daniela: I don’t see what animal owners have to do with this. There was no indication the woman owns a pet. I have friends and neighbors who own pets and they are extremely nice people. I can assure you that they don’t enjoy cleaning up after their dogs or changing litter boxes. That’s why there are so many products out there to help with it so the owner doesn’t have to touch the stuff or get too close to it. You also have no clue whether the woman is Jewish or not.
Of course I do! I’ve gotten into trouble for protecting some of my younger siblings, but I didn’t care. Family is extremely important. Yes, we argue at times, but they’re still my siblings.
I heard that the yeshiva there had some difficulties after R’ Altusky left to go to Darchei Torah in Far Rockaway. He was very popular, and some guys from the yeshiva followed him there. Afterwards, some people who would have gone to Montreal went to Darchei Torah instead.
The tablecloth and candlesticks are set up on Friday afternoon. Usually my kids enjoy putting on the plates and silverware while I’m in shul. In the summertime, they’ll do that on Friday afternoon also.
I just wonder if any of those supporting Weberman and claiming there was no evidence actually sat through the entire trial themselves, or read a transcript of the case. If you didn’t, how do you know what happened? Because a biased “Rebbe” told you what to think? If you don’t know all the facts, you can’t say there was no evidence. Read through the entire transcript with an open mind and then get back to me.
147: Oh please. Maybe anyone who uses the Ponovezh Rosh Yeshiva as their Rav and didn’t listen to him will lose their chelek. But most people don’t rely on him, and therefore are not bound by their psak.
Responses like the ones here are exactly why we have these problems in the Jewish community. People, WAKE UP! It wasn’t just the word of the girl. The therapist confirmed it, and said the symptoms were those of a victim of abuse. I believe I read that the victim had told the therapist even before Weberman told her father about the boyfriend, so the reason Weberman gave is utter nonsense.
Enough of the covering up! It happened in Torah Temimah, it happened in other places, and it now happened in Williamsburg. When will we stop assuming it’s all anti-semitism and start really working towards putting an end to it?
The victim’s father has had to come out multiple times and say he did not support his daughter. Why? Because his business collapsed after the “Rebbe” told people not to use him. The family is not welcome in the community. Instead of giving them much needed support, they were kicked out. No wonder other victims didn’t want to come forward, with such mafia tactics!
The DA said that the cover-up and intimidation used by the community is worse than any mafia tactics he’s seen in the past. One chillul Hashem wasn’t enough, now they’re going for more! It’s time to really look around and see what’s going on, without rose colored glasses.
dhl: Wow, we share a birthday (although not the same year, I’m quite a bit older than you!)
3 litvaks and a chassid were visiting a friend for Shabbos. At Seudah Shlishi, the host puts out a plate with 5 pieces of herring on it and says, “Enjoy! Don’t wait for me, I don’t like herring.”
Each guests grabs one piece. They are all eyeballing the one piece left on the plate, not wanting to seem like the greedy one for taking the extra piece. Suddenly, the lights go out. A piercing scream is suddenly heard! Just as quickly, the lights go back on.
There, on the plate, is a hand holding the last piece, with 3 forks stuck in it.
gavra_at_work: As someone who learned in R’ Bender’s yeshiva, I can attest to that! I well remember on my first night there (for dormitory orientation), R’ Bender spoke about the security guards who were there for our protection. Many of them were black. He said that if he ever heard anyone saying anything racist about them, there would be immediate consequences, even if it wasn’t said in front of them. He said if he ever heard someone say the “N” word about them, it would mean an immediate expulsion, no questions asked.
The Chassidishe Gatesheader: We do know in some cases that X can cause Y. For example, the Mishna Brurah says that talking during chazaras Hashatz causes shuls to be destroyed. We know that doing kibbud av v’em properly leads to long life. Where we have a source for something, there’s nothign wrong with relying on it.
It’s when people make up things (like when people blame things on a lack of tznius these days) that it becomes a problem. But as I wrote above, I believe there is a source that says homosexuality causes nature to go haywire.
I don’t remember where I saw it, but I once learned that gay marriage is a distortion of the way nature is supposed to be. When this becomes commonplace and recognized as legitimate, it causes the derech hatevah that Hashem set up to change. So yes, it can be that gay marriage causes more storms, earthquakes, etc.
Do I know 100% for sure that it caused it? No, but I know it’s a possibility. As for it being our fault, it might be. I did write to my representatives urging them not to support it. I guess I could have done more.
We need to show that we will not support it no matter what, and no matter what other things these people do, as good as it may be. When Bloomberg was trying to get support in NY for it, Agudas Yisrael honored him at their dinner, for all his help funding yeshivos. This must stop! If someone supports it, do not show any honor towards them! Hashem will get us the money we need, but we need to show our opposition to such groups.
I’d love to see the original article referenced by the OP. Does anyone know where it can be found?
I wish I was in a position to help, but unfortunately I’m not. My wife has been unemployed for a long time, and our savings have dwindled to next to nothing.
One thing I can offer as advice is this: try to help others! You never know how it can help you later on. Here’s an example.
The wife of a friend of mine has helped out numerous people with various things – marrying off kallos without money, baalei teshuva, she helped a geyores with no money get new kitchen utensils, etc. They’ve never been rich, and just make ends meet, so she says she volunteers her time since she can’t help with money. She approaches various people she knows and gets donations of money, items, and other things.
A few months ago, their Shabbos hot plate broke. They tend to have a lot of guests, and had a very large, expensive hot plate to keep the large amount of food needed warm for the meals. They weren’t sure they could afford to buy a new one. So she called a store she had approached for various cases in the past, since she knew they sold them. She said to the owner, “My hot plate broke last week, and I need a new one. The one we had was very expensive, and I don’t have the money to replace it. Can you recommend a similar one that might be cheaper?”
The owner called her the next day and said, “I’ve spoken to you numerous times where you were always helping out others. I found out that you never took a penny for helping them. Now it’s your turn!” He sent them a new hot plate for free. Not only that, she had called a few stores to shop around for the best price. 2 other stores did the same thing! When she called to tell them she didn’t need 3 of them, she was told to keep them anyway – she could have one for Pesach, and one as a spare in case it was ever needed.
They kept one for Pesach, but true to her usual self, she gave away the 3rd one to a baal teshuva who was just starting to keep Shabbos!
My point is, if you help other people, Hashem will help you when you need it too.
I should ask Feif Un to post again. I think he was one of the original members here.
When I go to davening during the week, I make sure to dress appropriately. Even if it’s a Sunday where I was doing housework, and was wearing jeans and a t-shirt, I’ll change for davening into a nice button-down shirt and regular pants.
On Shabbos, I wear a suit and white shirt. The white shirt is my item that is special for Shabbos. I won’t wear one during the week unless it’s for a special occasion.
Tonight is the Bonei Olam dinner in Lakewood. If you’re in Lakewood, please go and support this wonderful organization!
That depends on how much you can afford to pay. Request what you can’t afford.
I drove my kids to school, and my wife to work.
Then I washed dishes, put away laundry, and did some other cleaning, so that my wife could relax when she got home.
Then I picked the kids up from school and spent time with them until they went to bed.
golfer: On my trip, we didn’t have to worry about reheating. The food was always fresh, whether a the hotel or stopping at a restaurant with a hechsher. It was never reheated.
Another thing to bear in mind is water. If you go in the summer, make sure to bring extra money for water. You don’t realize how hot you get because it’s a dry heat, but you can easily get dehydrated. On my trip, our bus driver sold water in 1.5 liter bottles. Make sure you have money for it!
I went on one that was mixed. It was supposed to be a frum group, but there were people on it who weren’t shomer Shabbos. There was a minyan every day, 3 times a day. In fact, one of the guys in my group who wasn’t shomer Shabbos actually asked to borrow tefillin one day to try them on! That alone made the entire trip worthwhile.
There was always kosher food, only with hechsherim the OU approves of.
Yes, they are Zionists, and yes, they have a Zionist agenda. I think that’s great. All Jews should appreciate the great gift Hashem has given us.
My brother went on an all boys trip. They are available, just look for them.
Overall, I had an amazing time on the trip, and would highly recommend it to others.
There are a few reasons brought down for nittel nacht.
The Korban Netanel says it’s a form of aveilus.
The Chasam Sofer rejects the opinion of aveilus, and say if that were the case, we’d be allowed to learn hilchos aveilus. It also would last the entire night, not just the first half. Instead, he says that the Christians would go to church at midnight for services. If they were running to pray and the Jews were sleeping, it would look bad for Jews. However, if the Jews got up at midnight, it would look like they were copying the Christians. So they instituted a rule not to learn the first half, but to stay awake doing other things. At midnight, they would begin learning.
The Sefer Kedushat Tziyon says it’s to teach us a lesson. Jesus was a student of R’ Yehoshua ben Perachya. Before he turned bad, he was an accomplished and learned talmud chacham. He’s an example of the mishna in Avos, that says Torah learning, while important, is not the primary goal – actions are (living the Torah, not just learning it.) Therefore, on this night, we suspend learning to practice the actions.
In any case, most of these reasons don’t apply anymore. Only the last reason does, and playing cards or chess is certainly not the actions that the mishna in Avos refers to.
The Chazon Ish criticized those who held of nittel, and made sure to learn extra that night. The Steipler learned as well, and even told others not to let him know when nittel was, so he wouldn’t be distracted from his learning.
So they only post the ones that aren’t true?
Well, I wrote my hate post. The mods didn’t publish it. Mods, why can people write terrible things about MO, but I write something about chassidim and it won’t get published?
Bigger people than you say to use it. You don’t like it, don’t use it. I believe the Rav in my community won’t be mesader kiddushin unless the couple has one.
When I bought my house, the washer and dryer came with it. The washer was a GE model. I had a problem with my dryer, and had a repair guy come to fix it. He noticed my washer and told me that GE is not a good brand for washers/dryers, and I could probably expect to be calling him again soon for it.
Sure enough, about a month later, it started making loud noises, and shaking like crazy while running. By that time, I had a service contract with PSE&G, so I called them down. The guy said the bowl inside had cracked, so water had leaked, and the whole inside frame was rusted. The machine was finished, couldn’t be fixed, and I needed to buy a new one. I avoided GE at all costs!
There is nothing great about Yiddish.