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gavra_at_work: As someone who learned in R’ Bender’s yeshiva, I can attest to that! I well remember on my first night there (for dormitory orientation), R’ Bender spoke about the security guards who were there for our protection. Many of them were black. He said that if he ever heard anyone saying anything racist about them, there would be immediate consequences, even if it wasn’t said in front of them. He said if he ever heard someone say the “N” word about them, it would mean an immediate expulsion, no questions asked.
The Chassidishe Gatesheader: We do know in some cases that X can cause Y. For example, the Mishna Brurah says that talking during chazaras Hashatz causes shuls to be destroyed. We know that doing kibbud av v’em properly leads to long life. Where we have a source for something, there’s nothign wrong with relying on it.
It’s when people make up things (like when people blame things on a lack of tznius these days) that it becomes a problem. But as I wrote above, I believe there is a source that says homosexuality causes nature to go haywire.
I don’t remember where I saw it, but I once learned that gay marriage is a distortion of the way nature is supposed to be. When this becomes commonplace and recognized as legitimate, it causes the derech hatevah that Hashem set up to change. So yes, it can be that gay marriage causes more storms, earthquakes, etc.
Do I know 100% for sure that it caused it? No, but I know it’s a possibility. As for it being our fault, it might be. I did write to my representatives urging them not to support it. I guess I could have done more.
We need to show that we will not support it no matter what, and no matter what other things these people do, as good as it may be. When Bloomberg was trying to get support in NY for it, Agudas Yisrael honored him at their dinner, for all his help funding yeshivos. This must stop! If someone supports it, do not show any honor towards them! Hashem will get us the money we need, but we need to show our opposition to such groups.
I’d love to see the original article referenced by the OP. Does anyone know where it can be found?
I wish I was in a position to help, but unfortunately I’m not. My wife has been unemployed for a long time, and our savings have dwindled to next to nothing.
One thing I can offer as advice is this: try to help others! You never know how it can help you later on. Here’s an example.
The wife of a friend of mine has helped out numerous people with various things – marrying off kallos without money, baalei teshuva, she helped a geyores with no money get new kitchen utensils, etc. They’ve never been rich, and just make ends meet, so she says she volunteers her time since she can’t help with money. She approaches various people she knows and gets donations of money, items, and other things.
A few months ago, their Shabbos hot plate broke. They tend to have a lot of guests, and had a very large, expensive hot plate to keep the large amount of food needed warm for the meals. They weren’t sure they could afford to buy a new one. So she called a store she had approached for various cases in the past, since she knew they sold them. She said to the owner, “My hot plate broke last week, and I need a new one. The one we had was very expensive, and I don’t have the money to replace it. Can you recommend a similar one that might be cheaper?”
The owner called her the next day and said, “I’ve spoken to you numerous times where you were always helping out others. I found out that you never took a penny for helping them. Now it’s your turn!” He sent them a new hot plate for free. Not only that, she had called a few stores to shop around for the best price. 2 other stores did the same thing! When she called to tell them she didn’t need 3 of them, she was told to keep them anyway – she could have one for Pesach, and one as a spare in case it was ever needed.
They kept one for Pesach, but true to her usual self, she gave away the 3rd one to a baal teshuva who was just starting to keep Shabbos!
My point is, if you help other people, Hashem will help you when you need it too.
I should ask Feif Un to post again. I think he was one of the original members here.
When I go to davening during the week, I make sure to dress appropriately. Even if it’s a Sunday where I was doing housework, and was wearing jeans and a t-shirt, I’ll change for davening into a nice button-down shirt and regular pants.
On Shabbos, I wear a suit and white shirt. The white shirt is my item that is special for Shabbos. I won’t wear one during the week unless it’s for a special occasion.
Tonight is the Bonei Olam dinner in Lakewood. If you’re in Lakewood, please go and support this wonderful organization!
That depends on how much you can afford to pay. Request what you can’t afford.
I drove my kids to school, and my wife to work.
Then I washed dishes, put away laundry, and did some other cleaning, so that my wife could relax when she got home.
Then I picked the kids up from school and spent time with them until they went to bed.
golfer: On my trip, we didn’t have to worry about reheating. The food was always fresh, whether a the hotel or stopping at a restaurant with a hechsher. It was never reheated.
Another thing to bear in mind is water. If you go in the summer, make sure to bring extra money for water. You don’t realize how hot you get because it’s a dry heat, but you can easily get dehydrated. On my trip, our bus driver sold water in 1.5 liter bottles. Make sure you have money for it!
I went on one that was mixed. It was supposed to be a frum group, but there were people on it who weren’t shomer Shabbos. There was a minyan every day, 3 times a day. In fact, one of the guys in my group who wasn’t shomer Shabbos actually asked to borrow tefillin one day to try them on! That alone made the entire trip worthwhile.
There was always kosher food, only with hechsherim the OU approves of.
Yes, they are Zionists, and yes, they have a Zionist agenda. I think that’s great. All Jews should appreciate the great gift Hashem has given us.
My brother went on an all boys trip. They are available, just look for them.
Overall, I had an amazing time on the trip, and would highly recommend it to others.
There are a few reasons brought down for nittel nacht.
The Korban Netanel says it’s a form of aveilus.
The Chasam Sofer rejects the opinion of aveilus, and say if that were the case, we’d be allowed to learn hilchos aveilus. It also would last the entire night, not just the first half. Instead, he says that the Christians would go to church at midnight for services. If they were running to pray and the Jews were sleeping, it would look bad for Jews. However, if the Jews got up at midnight, it would look like they were copying the Christians. So they instituted a rule not to learn the first half, but to stay awake doing other things. At midnight, they would begin learning.
The Sefer Kedushat Tziyon says it’s to teach us a lesson. Jesus was a student of R’ Yehoshua ben Perachya. Before he turned bad, he was an accomplished and learned talmud chacham. He’s an example of the mishna in Avos, that says Torah learning, while important, is not the primary goal – actions are (living the Torah, not just learning it.) Therefore, on this night, we suspend learning to practice the actions.
In any case, most of these reasons don’t apply anymore. Only the last reason does, and playing cards or chess is certainly not the actions that the mishna in Avos refers to.
The Chazon Ish criticized those who held of nittel, and made sure to learn extra that night. The Steipler learned as well, and even told others not to let him know when nittel was, so he wouldn’t be distracted from his learning.
So they only post the ones that aren’t true?
Well, I wrote my hate post. The mods didn’t publish it. Mods, why can people write terrible things about MO, but I write something about chassidim and it won’t get published?
Bigger people than you say to use it. You don’t like it, don’t use it. I believe the Rav in my community won’t be mesader kiddushin unless the couple has one.
When I bought my house, the washer and dryer came with it. The washer was a GE model. I had a problem with my dryer, and had a repair guy come to fix it. He noticed my washer and told me that GE is not a good brand for washers/dryers, and I could probably expect to be calling him again soon for it.
Sure enough, about a month later, it started making loud noises, and shaking like crazy while running. By that time, I had a service contract with PSE&G, so I called them down. The guy said the bowl inside had cracked, so water had leaked, and the whole inside frame was rusted. The machine was finished, couldn’t be fixed, and I needed to buy a new one. I avoided GE at all costs!
There is nothing great about Yiddish.
Health: I looked up what R’ Moshe wrote about an eruv in Manhattan. He originally wrote that he held it wasn’t good. However, he wrote that yesh al mi lismoch, and he would not be against those who used it, because they did have a valid opinion to go by. He even wrote that this is a machlokes in halachah and Hashem is rejoicing over it!
Later, R’ Aharon Kotler wanted to sign strongly against it, and asked R’ Moshe to join in signing a letter. Out of respect for R’ Aharon, he signed. He write a letter saying that while he initially wrote a different opinion, he signed that letter for R’ Aharon.
So to the claim that nobody can argue on R’ Moshe, even R’ Moshe himself said that he understood the opinion that the eruv was good even though he didn’t agree, and felt there was nothing wrong with relying on those opinions.
TheBear: You’re completely wrong with your history of MO.
MO people didn’t look to Rabbonim from Europe for leadership. We simply respect them for who they are, because (shocker!) we don’t automatically look down on those who don’t share the same hashkafos as us.
Right-wing MO will not join with the yeshiva world. We are doing just fine, thank you!
I did some more digging into the gelatin thing with R’ Ralbag.
He does not allow regular gelatin. He allows Kolatin, which is gelatin made from properly shechted cows. It also has the OU hechsher on it.
R’ Ralbag was contacted regarding Trident gum, some of which had his hechsher. He stressed that regular gelatin is not kosher, but said a special run was produced with Kolatin in it.
I never heard of R’ Ralbag saying regular gelatin is kosher. I do know that he allows a synthetic gelatin to be used. Even if he does allow it, I never heard of any other Rav allowing it. In fact, every MO Rav I’ve ever spoken to told me not to use the Triangle K hechsher.
As for the UWS eruv, I honestly don’t know much about it. I assume there is a Rav they rely on. But to your point saying that nobody can argue on R’ Moshe zt”l, would you say the same about chassidim who use the eruv in Brooklyn? After all, R’ Moshe made it very clear that an eruv couldn’t be made in Brooklyn either. Or do you think chassidim can argue on R’ Moshe, but MO can’t?
My Rav told me he follows R’ Moshe with the eruvin. Most MO Rabbonim I know do the same. I did speak to a Rav who was a talmud of R’ Tuvia Goldstein zt”l, who told me R’ Tuvia held the Brooklyn eruv was allowed, and could be relied on. Would you say R’ Tuvia was able to argue on R’ Moshe?
I once went to daven Mincha at Rabbi Landau’s shul in Brooklyn. I was looking for a parking spot. I was getting a bit nervous, because it was getting close to shkiah, and I wanted to catch the last minyan.
I finally saw a guy getting into his car to pull out. He pulled out, I pulled in front of the spot, with my turn signal on, and shifted into reverse. Suddenly, a guy comes and zips head-first into the spot. I got out of the car and asked him, “What do you think you’re doing? That was my spot!”
He replied, “It’s almost shkiah, I need to catch the last minyan! Sorry!” and he ran off to the shul.
I’m sure Hashem really appreciated his tefillos that day.
HaKatan, you’ve claimed many times that MO is matir issurim. You’ve been asked what issurim they are matir, but have never answered with anything other than Zionism. Please realize that many big Rabbonim disagree with that, as they hold Zionism to be perfectly fine. Can you provide an issur that MO allows?
As for Daas Torah, MO definitely believes in asking a Rav halachic shailos, and not just deciding things for ourselves. However, we don’t believe that Rabbonim are necessarily experts in all areas. If I’m sick, I call a doctor, not my Rav. If I’m looking to buy a house, I’ll speak to a real estate agent and a mortgage broker, not my Rav. I speak to my Rav about matters that affect me spiritually. I sometimes ask my Rav about others issues simply because he is experienced in other matters and I value his opinion, but I take that as advice, not as an absolute psak that must be followed.
I think I’m going to write a hate post also. Not necessarily what I believe, but enough facts to make it legit. I’m gonna start working on it tonight. Let’s see if the mods post it.
Mods, why is it that the threads about Weberman were all closed, yet this thread remains open, allowing Hakatan/Joseph to spew his hate filled views?
The yeshiva that my kids go to keeps the doors locked. There is a security guard who needs to buzz you in, and he sits right by the door, so he can escort you somewhere if necessary.
If he’s not there, like if he’s using the restroom, you’ll wait. I’ve had to wait before to be buzzed in because he was away from the desk for a moment.
The school also has regular drills with the local police to know how to handle a shooter in the school.
When a terrible person gets convicted of a crime, yes, I will be happy. Not because there are problems in the Jewish community, but because the problems are on their way to being resolved. Instead of the years of cover-ups that happened, the issue must now be dealt with. Instead of sacrificing innocent children to protect some animals, the animals will be taken care of as they deserve.
That’s why I’m happy. I wish we didn’t have the problems with these sick people to begin with. But they are there, and I want them to be dealt with.
HaKatan, I don’t think that’s a good answer. Years ago, R’ Gifter gave his famous speech attacking YU. He said they did what they did to get government funding. He said the money comes from Hashem, not the government, and you can’t go even one bit against what is right for government funding. I think if he were alive at the time Bloomberg was honored, he would have been dead-set against it.
Ferd: I based my post on information I had read. It seems that information was wrong. I did not intend to lie, I simply received false information – kind of like all the Satmar chassidim who listened to their Rebbe regarding the Weberman trial.
I apologize to the one anonymous dispatcher who was accused of refusing to help. I made no accusations against the other Hatzolah members, and therefore no apology is required.
I have nothing but the highest respect for Hatzolah members. I’ve used their services before, as have many relatives of mine. My Rosh Yeshiva, R’ Yaakov Bender, helped found Hatzolah in both Flatbush and Far Rockaway. I admire those who volunteer their services for Hatzolah, and wish them nothing but success.
Health: Not everyone is against him, and even if most are, it doesn’t speak to them. It all comes down to one person – the Satmar Rav in Williamsburg. Most of the people will go by what he says, even if they disagree. If he’s wrong, it flows down to everyone else. With regard to the whole Weberman case, he was wrong.
You wrote “Hatzolah (if they responded)”. Hatzolah was called. They refused to respond because of who he is. They can lose their license for that. No doubt people will cry anti-semitism, but it’s only because of their hatred for this hero of a man.
A few points:
R’ Nachum did NOT go to the attacker and tell him that his father was next. He had written online that he was thrilled Weberman was found guilty. He then wrote that Mr. X (I won’t post the name here) should pack his bags and get ready to join Weberman in prison.
Later, while he was walking down the street, Mr. X’s son walked up to him and threw a cup of bleach in his face. This account was verified by other people on the street who witnessed the attack.
What was really sad was that Hatzolah was called, and when they were told who the victim was, they refused to come.
aCookieJar: You wrote,”The reason experts are concerned about abuse is because child abuse causes children to go OTD.” I can’t believe that this is true. We should be concerned about abuse because it is a disgusting, perverted thing which harms people, whether they go OTD or not. According to you, if there is abuse which does not cause someone to go OTD, would it be ok? Abuse is wrong because of the act itself, not because of the results that come out from it.
Feif Un has informed me that he will not be returning. Popa, I told him your question, and he said to go troll your boss so you can get fired.
Feif Un,
I know you said you were leaving. But you don’t know what’s going on here! Popa revived his advice thread just to make himself relevant again! Your advice thread was the original, better one, so I’m reviving it as well. Please come back!
Now I’m going to walk over to your desk and tell you that I posted this.
iced: Now you’re just getting ridiculous, making things up. I won’t be responding to you anymore.
akuperma: You’re stretching with conspiracy theories now. Seriously, read some real info about the trial and you’ll see that there was evidence. As for the publicity, you are aware of how a jury is treated, right?
akuperma: There is not always physical evidence such as bruises. Even if there were, bruises can fade in a few days – who says she went to her doctor during that time?
You say nobody noticed? Untrue! The parents testified that they complained to the school and were told that if they continued to complain, their daughter would be expelled. Weberman took her on a drive to Monsey alone, at night, which Satmar hold is strictly forbidden! The parents again complained, and again were threatened.
iced: Why is everything bad anti-semitism? The prosecutor was likely chosen because he is a good prosecutor, not because of his religion. He works for the DA’s office. That’s all. He was found guilty because the jury believed the evidence against him – of which there was plenty.
Don’t forget that Weberman also admitted on the stand that he is a thief, and used tzedakah money from a charity he runs to pay his own personal bills – he took $11,000 in one month! He used it to pay his children’s tuition, and also to buy clothing in what can be described as a store that sells women’s clothing which should only be seen by her husband (and not just plain undergarments). He obviously isn’t very concerned with honesty.
akuperma: Oh please! It’s rude to the defendant? Who cares about a piece of dirt like him, who molests children?
There was no evidence? The girl testified that he molested her. She had gone to a social worker because she was having problems. She didn’t snitch right away. It took the social worker many hours of therapy to get it out of her. She also underwent a full psychiatric evaluation which determined that she had gone through a severe emotional trauma relating to abuse.
You want halachic evidence, with 2 witnesses who saw the actual act? You won’t find it. Bus this isn’t a beis din, this is an American court. They have the right, according to the Torah, to set their own rules and laws, and we are required to follow them.
You say it’s anti-semitism? Why, because he was found guilty? That’s the old battle-cry of many Jews whenever they’re caught doing something wrong. The guy did something wrong, and he was caught. End of story. How are you so sure he was set up? What do you know about the case?
There were other victims who came forward, but were scared to testify. The victim and her family were offered a bribe of half a million dollars to leave the country and drop the case. Chassidim were arrested for taking pictures of her in court (which is illegal) and posting them online. Never mind that the Satmar Rebbe the internet is 100% assur. They posted the pictures to harass her! Why all the harassment? They were obviously trying to hide something.
HaKatan: You list all the things you claim Israel did wrong. The fact that they haven’t had peace isn’t an issue. We’re still in galus, and there won’t be peace. More Jews died in WW2 than in Israel – would you say we shouldn’t have been in Europe either?
The fact is that Israel watches out for all Jews, all over the world. Just recently, when some Satmar drug smugglers were in prison in Japan, who stepped in to help them? Israel! Israel helped the people who hate them, the Satmar chassidim! Did any Satmar people say, “Hey, Israel might not be that bad!”? Of course not! But Israel didn’t care. They saw Jews who needed help, and they did whatever they could.
Who rescued the Satmar Rebbe from the Nazis? A Zionist! But of course, the chassidim decided to cover that up, and don’t tell their kids that.
You should learn a few things from Israel and the Zionists.
Health,
If a beis din decides that a conversion is good, it’s good, end of story. Perhaps she wasn’t married yet when she converted, and hadn’t thought about covering her hair?
There are many places where it’s brought down that once a geirus is completed, we don’t invalidate it, even if we see the person sinning the next day.
Now here’s a question for you. A person is converting. They keep kosher, Shabbos, taharas hamishpacha, everything. The guy will learn 14 hours per day. He also happens to be a Zionist, who supports the Israeli government. Would you say the geirus is good?
Medium Size Shadchan: Lots of people also invested in Facebook when it went public. They did regret it.
In hindsight you can make judgments easily. Looking forward, you never know how things will turn out.
I think you should invest your life savings, and take out a 2nd mortgage on your home to invest as much as possible in this. You can make millions!
Oh, what’s that? You can lose it also? Nobody can predict the stock market? Wow, thanks for telling me!
The shul where I daven for the amud on the Yomim Noraim says almost all the piyutim. They usually follow the Artscroll machzor – if it says most congregations omit the piyut, they skip it. Otherwise they say everything.
Oh, and there is a mechitzah.