Forum Replies Created
-
Posts
-
musser zoger: I believe it’s the Rambam who says there will be two parts to the times of Mashiach. In the first part, life will continue as it does today, with one big exception – it will be clear that Hashem is the only God, and everyone will accept that. We’ll have a Beis HaMikdash, and will do avodah, but there will still be a Yetzer HaRah, and we will (likely) still do aveiros. It will be comparable to the times of the 1st Beis HaMikdash (except with no other religions).
After this time comes Acharis HaYamim, which is when it says Hashem will slaughter the Yetzer HaRah and the Malach HaMaves. It seems that the time referenced in the davening is the 2nd time the Rambam mentions.
When I read through the Avodah part of davening, it makes me wish I could see the actual Yom Kippur avodah in the Beis HaMikdash! To see the red thread changing color, and actually knowing without a doubt that our teshuva was accepted? Amazing! Imagine the simcha of the people when they saw the thread change color! As much as I davened, do I know that my teshuva was accepted? Can I really be sincere when I said I won’t do an aveirah again, knowing that within a few days after Yom Kippur, I probably will slip up again? We never know for sure. But back then, they did know!
There’s a whole tefillah about how radiant the Kohen Gadol appeared when he left the Kodesh HaKadashim. To actually see it in person would be amazing!
When Mashiach comes, we will merit to once again experience Yom Kippur as the Torah says it, explained in the Gemara, and laid out in detail in our tefillos. Let it be soon!
It really depends on what the standard is, and what the expectations where at the beginning.
If it’s something that is a basic, required halacha (such as hair covering in 99% of cases), it is likely different than something which is a chumrah (such as always wearing tights, or wearing sleeves down to your wrists.)
In any case, when it comes to matters of religion, a Rav should be consulted. If it’s causing tension, it’s helpful if the Rav is knowledgeable in counseling. If not, ask him for a recommendation for a good counselor who is knowledgeable in halacha, as it’s a main part of the tension.
My Rosh Yeshiva, R’ Bender shlita, told me the following when I was engaged (probably not word for word): “Don’t get too caught up in chumros! I once had a talmud who got married, and had an issue. His wife decided to be machmir and always cover her hair even when they were alone in the house, based on the Gemara that says it’s praiseworthy for the walls of a house to never see a woman’s hair. She even covered her hair at night, sleeping in bed. What was the issue? The husband thought his wife’s hair was beautiful, and enjoyed looking at it. Her always covering it bothered him. They came to me for advice, and I told her that being beautiful for your husband and maintaining Shalom Bayis is more important that not allowing your hair to be uncovered when alone with your husband in the house. It’s a bigger zchus to make your husband happy!”
Of course, this applies, as I said, in cases of chumrah, not basic halacha.
So here are two different cases:
1: “They met when they were involved in the same conversation on an internet site. Their conversation went well, and they continued to talk. They took a while to get to know each other, and thought there was definitely a real connection. After a while, they got engaged.”
2: “Their parents thought it would be a good match. They sat down on a couch together with their parents for half an hour or so, and everyone spoke together. They then had half an hour or so to speak alone. They didn’t hate each other, so they got engaged. Then they didn’t see each other again until the wedding.”
Which case sounds worse?
The Daily News reported about kapparot yesterday. The had someone from Skver who was talking about the effects of the heat we had this week. It seems close to 2,000 chickens died in their crates because of the heat. When they are left out there without food or water to the point where they are dying, it is pure tzar baalei chaim! Things like this are the reason why I refuse to do kapparot with chickens – I want not part of the aveirah! Until these people clean up their act, we should all be doing it with money.
I didn’t have such a hard time other than feeling disgusting on Shabbos afternoon for not having showered in a few days. Yes, I felt like I didn’t want to each much. So Friday night I had a very small meal, with no guests. We put the kids to bed early (they’re only 5), and had gefilte fish and chicken soup. There was some chicken in the soup, so we had the meat as required for Shabbos. We had some other things on the hotplate in case we were still hungry, but my wife and I both agreed we weren’t hungry at all, just tired, so we went to sleep early. There’s no mitzvah to stuff yourself to the point where it’s uncomfortable!
Are you referring to Silbiger? According to Google, the address is 1769 51st St.
Cherry Coke Zero
R’ Schlomo Bochner and his staff at Bonei Olam were Hashem’s delivery men to give me and my wife our children.
According to their website, there are now 4,267 children who had Bonei Olam as their delivery people. While we wish nobody had to struggle with infertility, the amazing work Bonei Olam does makes it much easier to handle!
Wasn’t this story posted already last week?
ETA: Not even last week, just a few days ago:
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/allegorical-story-the-children-fight-over-the-box
If someone (a non-Jew!) dares to drive a car down the street in some parts of Israel on Shabbos, people scream “SHABBOS!!!” and throw rocks at the car. They claim it’s to protect the kedusha of Shabbos. Yet a non-Jew has no chiyuv to keep Shabbos, and the land doesn’t need the non-Jew to keep it.
The Har HaBayis has kedusha within it, even when the Beis HaMikdash is not built. The Muslims build their mosques there and fill the area with their tumah. The Har HaBayis is holy, and yet we stand by idly while this happens to it! We should be ashamed of ourselves!
I personally have written letters to and spoken to Knessset ministers about the Har HaBayis. I’ve urged them to take control away from the Waqf and return it to Jewish control. I was laughed at.
An interesting note about Metallica is that in their early days, they were actually not into any really bad stuff. Sure, they drank lots of beer, but that was about it.
Their lead singer started drinking more heavily shortly after their bass player died in an accident, when their tour bus flipped over from a patch of ice. When that happened, their music changed drastically, and many fans complained about the new style.
After years of heavy drinking and substance abuse, he went to a rehab facility and turned his life around, and they’re making better music than they have in years. Not everyone who likes metal follows that “lifestyle”.
I’d love to have some Jewish metal to listen to – and not that trash Metallish, which was just Jewish songs played with electric guitar. I mean real thrash metal, with Jewish lyrics.
Burnt Steak: I also know people who went to school with David Draiman, but I don’t know much about his teen years other than what is written on Wikipedia.
It should be noted that he is a strong supporter of Israel, and speaks out strongly against all anti-semitism. There are some celebrities who think it’s “cool” to collect Nazi memorabilia, and he has bashed them for it. The Jewish spark is alive and well in him! Let’s hope it grows further!
There’s a difference between not liking something and having to forgive someone for doing something halachically wrong.
No, because any government money you get is a gift. They have no obligation to support you. If you don’t make enough money, either find a second job, have your wife find a job, or cut down on your expenses.
The financial difficulties don’t come from him. Hashem allocates a certain amount of money for you no matter what the government does. If it’s not enough for you, daven for Hashem to give you more.
So Torah^2, you basically want everyone to see things the way you do, and respond to posts you feel are inappropriate in the same way that you do?
You need to work on your anivus.
How about possible answers to “Does this make me look fat?”
I won’t eat turkey.
Not because I’m extra machmir. I just can’t stand the taste of it!
I think there are a few issues here.
In this case, the “meat” was grown from stem cells, not from nothing. I’d assume the stem cells need to be from an animal that is kosher, and was properly shechted. If it’s not, wouldn’t that make the meat treif?
The thought of buttel b’shishim occurred to me. However, doesn’t the rule only apply when the small amount doesn’t affect the taste of the final product? In this case, the entire product is based off of the small amount, so it definitely has an affect on it. Would we say buttel b’shishim applies here?
After my proposal, she reacted by saying “Yes!”
Then she started laughing. We didn’t call family right away – we wanted some time to ourselves to talk without our phones ringing every 10 seconds. Our families knew I was going to propose, so it wasn’t like they were left in the dark.
Joseph: You don’t know of gedolim who got divorced? R’ Malkiel Kotler wanted a divorce, but his wife wouldn’t take the get.
I believe R’ Shlomo Feivel Schustal got divorced (although he remarried.)
And don’t forget the founder of the Beis Yaakov movement, Sarah Schenirer, was divorced twice!
rebdoniel: you compare yourself to the Sridei Aish, because you think you can’t connect with anyone on an intellectual level? LOL!
When I rented an apartment, we had the mezuzos we inherited from the previous tenant. We had them inspected and found they were kosher but not mehudar at all. The sofer said he’d say 2 of them were kosher b’dieved. We replaced all the mezuzos with mehudar ones.
Shortly after, we bought a house. We got lucky that while a Jewish tenant was taking over our apartment, the landlord wanted to do a lot of work there first, so we were told to take the mezuzos with us. We needed more than what we had in the apartment, so I called my uncle who is a sofer and asked him to get me some. He lives pretty far from me, but luckily, we moved in May, and a co-worker of mine was visiting his in-laws for Pesach, who live near my uncle. He brought them back for me.
It turned out we mis-counted the number we’d need, and were one short. I put up one of the old non-mehudar ones temporarily, and ordered one more mehudar one. When it came, I switched it. I gave the others to a Rav who told me he could use them to give to people sometimes when they needed them quickly.
DaasYochid: I finally got ahold of that album, Mesorah! My sister found a copy of it in my parents’ house. The quality is spotty in a few places, and part of the last song gets cut off, but I’m still glad to have it! If you want, I can have Feif email it to you.
Just bring up all the brands, and tell the cashier to check the prices on them. Keep the one you want, and let the owner put the other ones back on the shelf. When he’s restocking his shelves every five minutes, he’ll realize he should use price tags.
Tisha B’Av is not just about the churban Beis haMikdash. It’s about all the suffering Jews have had through the centuries, even until today. It’s about what we’re missing – the fact that we don’t realize exactly what the Beis haMikdash means is what it’s about as well! We mourn that we are in golus. Eichah yashvah badad – we sit alone.
My Rav told a story of a man whose wife died in childbirth. Every year, he would sit his son down and tell him the story of how his mother gave her life to bring him into the world, and what an amazing person his mother had been.
One year, on the yartzeit, the father sees the son in shul, mumbling kaddish. The father was furious! “This is how you repay your mother? By barely mumbling kaddish? Do you know what an amazing person she was? How can you do this to her?”
The son responded, “No, actually, I don’t. I’ve heard from you about my mother, but I never experienced it for myself. How can you expect me to appreciate her fully? I wish I had met her and gotten to know her, but unfortunately, that couldn’t happen.”
This is our situation. We don’t fully understand our loss, because we didn’t experience the Beis haMikdash. But we can mourn the fact that we didn’t see it, and that we still haven’t seen it.
Mourn for what you can understand. Those who lost relatives to the Nazis yemach sh’mam. Those who lost friends or family to the Muslim terrorists. We mourn all the tragedies on Tisha B’Av.
May Hashem soon wipe away all our tears, and may we never know tragedy again!
golfer: Maybe he’ll be a b’chor, and will be able to do avodah then.
midwesterner: Even if it’s machlokes, it had no point here other than to insult those who keep Yom Ha’Atzmaut. It definitely is not made up – as you said, it’s a machlokes, and there are many Rabbonim who keep it.
Let’s not get into a debate during the 9 days about it.
Tzom Gedaliah is very different than Tisha B’Av. We don’t keep hilchos aveilus on Tzom Gedaliah.
So you’re asking if anyone will do it, not knowing if anyone will, and saying we need to get our priorities straight? Why don’t you first find out if anyone is planning on going before saying something? Maybe our priorities are already straight!
I happen to have “won” in the drawing for All-Star Game tix. I had my code to order tickets. But when I realized the date was Tisha B’Av, I gave the code to a non-Jewish co-worker so he could go instead.
Do you approve of my priorities?
HaKatan: R’ Yaakov Kaminetsky said in 1967 that is was a neis. He also said Shehecheyanu and Hodu when it was announced that the IDF had taken control of the Har HaBayis.
I guess you think he was an apikores also.
truthsharer: And they did it in secular court! Should we all go and do to them what they did to Weberman for going to secular court?
Satmar these days is one big chillul Hashem.
No, excuse me – 2 big ones!
gavra, I agree with you. Cindy needs to go find a job – as do Chareidim.
rebdoniel: So you have no problem saying that a get may not be valid when most Rabbonim hold it’s fine, but when some Rabbi claims the entire marriage is voided, and there’s no get at all (not even a questionable one), you think it’s fine and won’t lead to any mamzerim?
As for the Rambam school being mixed, R’ Schachter has said that R’ Soloveitchik had it mixed out of necessity. There weren’t enough girls to allow for separate classes, so he mixed them. It was to only be temporary until the class size grew. He said that other schools asked R’ Soloveitchik about it, and he told them NOT to mix the classes, they should remain separate.
playtime: It means it’s fully mixed, men and women learning together.
musser zoger: He’s taking a page from Satmar. They make up quotes from R’ Chaim Kanievsky, he makes up quotes from the Chazon Ish.
He’s completed obsessed with bashing Zionism. You could start a thread about anything, and he’d find a way to bring Zionism into it.
He recently posted about an article he had written for a website. I looked for the article, and it had his full name. I was curious if there were other articles he had written (since in the article it said he was a writer), so I did a search. I found his LinkedIn page, which says he “learns” in Hadar.
HaKatan, do you have a source for that claim about the Chazon Ish?
As for Satmar, while they may not be Apikorsim, I do know one thing: Hashem does nit like it when brothers fight in the streets outside the cemetery on the yartzeit of their father.
Sam2: I agree with you. I was just posting what they say on their site. rebdoniel “learned” in that “yeshiva”.
Mods, if you’re going to edit my post, please at least post a bold EDITED on the bottom. You left out some of what I wrote.
Sorry, I should have.
rebdoniel: You keep digging yourself into a deeper hole. You say that the RCA isn’t dealing with Agunos because they won’t accept Rackman’s “solution”. Pretty much every Rav said Rackman’s “solution” doesn’t work halachically. You don’t compromise on halachah for a difficult situation. You try to find an answer within the confines of halachah.
Rabbi Angel’s conversions are not viewed all that favorably by most. It’s not the politics in it, it’s because he doesn’t always do it properly, according to halachah.
Your defense of Yeshivat Maharat is laughable, as almost everyone has come out against it, except for Avi Weiss and his chevra.
You wrote about an article you wrote recently, which I looked up. I noted that you “learn” in Yeshivat Hadar, which on their website proudly note that they are “The first full-time egalitarian yeshiva in North America”.
In short, your beliefs are way, way different than most people here. Yes, I have differences also – MO vs. Yeshivish. But your differences are at a different level.
edited
DaasYochid, if you’re referring to Feif Un, you have it wrong.
He was pretty much OTD while still in yeshiva. One of the Roshei Yeshiva wanted to expel him, but the highest RY there told the other one to let him stay, because after the year was over he’d want to leave anyway, and he wasn’t influencing anyone else – he kept things to himself.
If anything, it was in college (where I first met him), that he became more frum. He had some extremely bad experiences in yeshiva which made him not want to be frum. One of them was being told some of the same things I was told – that college guys can’t be frum. He asked the Rebbe if that meant his (Feif Un’s, not the Rebbe’s) parents weren’t frum, since they went to college, and he was punished for being chutzpadik.
Feif Un “dared” to ask the questions that yeshiva guys are not supposed to ask – he dared to ask “Why?” and he was ridiculed for it. For a religion that supposedly encourages questions, the right-wing yeshiva system is certainly doing a great job of doing the opposite. That was what drove Feif Un OTD. It started when he was in elementary school, and got worse over the years. In college, he realized that you can be a good Jew and not be sitting and learning all day, and decided to give it another try. That’s a big part of why Feif Un is so adamantly against chareidi Judaism – because he saw the hypocrisy in it, and their willingness to throw those who don’t fit into their system to the wayside.
In case you’re wondering, yes, I did check with Feif Un before posting this stuff about him, and he gave me the ok.
After one year of beis medrash (meaning post high-school) in Darchei Torah, I decided to go to college. The Rosh Yeshiva, R’ Altusky, tried to talk me out of leaving. I told him I wasn’t cut out for learning, and I couldn’t sit through seder every day. He knew all this, and had even told me I wasn’t learning as well as I should be, and was wasting time during seder.
He replied that I didn’t know what college was like, and that there’s no way for someone to go to college and stay frum. He said the only way for a Jewish man to stay frum was to stay in yeshiva and learn. When I told him, again, that I didn’t enjoy learning all day, and it was time to go to college so I could make a parnassah, he said I should just keep trying, because eventually I’d grow to like it, and learning is way better than working.
When I went to R’ Bender and told him what R’ Altusky said, he told me, “Don’t listen to him. He obviously doesn’t know you well, and he just wants everyone to sit and learn whether it’s the thing for them or not. You should go to college so you could earn a parnassah – just make sure you’re in yeshiva at least part of the day while you’re in school!”
I spoke with my Rav (who’s an RCA member) about the letter over Shabbos.
He said the membership of the RCA was never consulted about the letter, and the first they heard of it was when it was leaked. He said the internal message board for RCA members was the busiest he’d seen it in a long, long, time – and none of it was positive. Most members were furious with the 3 people who wrote the letter, and they let them know about it!
He said that Friday afternoon, an internal letter was sent to RCA members from the 3 writers, apologizing for claiming that they spoke for the membership of the RCA, when they had never discussed the issue. He did not know if they will also be apologizing to Chacham Ovadia.
He also told me that while he doesn’t always agree with R’ Stav’s position on many things, he does recognize that he’s a huge talmud chacham, and he has tremendous respect for him. He also respects Chacham Ovadia tremendously. He said he doesn’t know the context of Chacham Ovadia’s remarks about R’ Stav, so he can’t speculate on why it was said.