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If the cop doesn’t show up on the appointed date and you do, the judges (in NYC) just force you to come back on another date.
I don’t know know the law, but when the cop didn’t show for my hearing, the judge dismissed it.
Also, check this out:
I figured most thirteen year old boys would have an easier time proving such a thing to a doctor rather than a rav.
Actually, they would probably have two men checking stealthily in the mikveh.
If it is an issue,
What’s the “if”?
two Jews who are gedolim can look and say eidus
I think that’s what he meant.
Marriage is not for everyone.
Many of those can work on themselves (for many, it’s hopeless).
(by the way, how do you italicize? Thanks!)
I’ve been wondering the same thing. JK
<em>(by the way, how do you italicize? Thanks!)</em>results in:
(by the way, how do you italicize? Thanks!)
a parve cheeseburger
That actually wouldn’t be a problem since both the meat and cheese are fake.
If you were driving and you had a child in the back seat who was complaing they had to go to the Bathroom.
Not a fair comparison; kavod habrios is docheh.
If this ain’t, what IS Maris Ayin?
Beef in almond milk, “kosher” cheeseburgers, fish blood, human blood, a non Jew doing work in your house on Shabbos even if he’s paid by the day, spreading out wet clothing on Shabbos…
My answer to all the older guy shidduchim posts -You can marry an older guy even if you’re young and even if it isn’t PC.
And even if the gemara strongly advises against it? (Yevamos 101b)
1) Some poskim allow the color of salmon to replace the normal simanim (scales), but some don’t.
2) I can’t understand why bishul akum isn’t a problem, as well as the spices (although there are ways around the knife problem).
3) The only salad which would not be problematic would, besides for not having anything sharp, would not have vegetables likely to have bugs (or dressing). Also, again, the knife is a problem for any vegetables, unless you can ascertain that it was properly cleaned.
4) Maris ayin might not apply according to some poskim, because it’s become common to meet business associates in a non-kosher restaurant. Eating something would make the problem worse, since the majority of foods (even salads) served are not kosher.
DY: But normally, you don’t have to check, so as far as we are concerned, he is “Bar Mitzva”, due to the Chazaka, and we have no chiyuv to check.
Here, as with other dinei D’Oraysah (such as Laining Zachor), the individual must be checked.
Yes, I was just nitpicking on the distinction between a “bar mitzvah” and a “bona fide godol”. I would have distinguished between a “13 year old” and a “bona fide godol”.
I fail to see the need to wait beyond the thirteenth birthday (assuming the hairs are present). It can easily be determined via medical exam if the hairs are present (if the boy himself is not believed).
AS per Shulchan Aruch (167 – 3) we do indeed check (but he is not believed because we would first need to determine if he’s a gadol before we give him credibility).
dy: No Chazaka D’Rava
DY- Saairos. Thus, at least 13 years of age and possibly more.
Well, then, they’re not “bar mitzvah”.
When I see the same guys inflicting pain over and over again on so many girls, with girls getting turned off from dating, and the feeling of Yay-ush setting in, I feel someone should tactfully, but effectively Hocheach Tochiach es Amitecha, otherwise we’re all enablers.
That’s all good and well (not really, but you know what I mean), but calling them OTD, no matter the semantic gymnastics, is, shall we say, a bit over the top.
Not just bar-mitzvah, but a bona fide godol.
What’s the difference?
r-b,
Yes, I was just pointing out the perspective of the older sibling.
Of course, it’s not a simple matter, and each case must be evaluated separately.
I know a family in which the older sister met a young man but felt he wasn’t for her, so she suggested him for her sister. They are now married, but the older sister is still single several tears later.
I know of a different story in which the younger brother married before his older sister, who refused to speak to him until the day she died (a spinster).
Another story I’m familiar with involved two brothers. The younger one was told that he does not have to wait, but he chose to, regardless. The older one finally got engaged, and two months later, the younger one found his bashert.
I could go on, but my point is that it’s a complex issue, and one never knows how much pain could be caused to either party/
Hmmm where have I seen that before…
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/proper-pronunciation-of-words-in-prayers#post-257773
Everyone should have a “dating coach”
Thanks for the advice, but I don’t think my wife would be too thrilled. 😉
The term OTD is too strong, but yes, this is a big problem. The older singles often (if not always) do need some form of guidance. I don’t know why you single out the men, though, there are plenty of single women with the same issue.
The gemara in Sanhedrin uses the actions of the Avot to derive laws for Noachides, not Jews.
The gemara in Kiddushin uses the actions of Avraham Avinu to derive laws of nasi shemachal al k’vodo, which is for Jews.
The sources in rishonim and acharonim for assuming that the avos kept the mitzvos are numerous.
Mazel tov! I guess you did read the “slow down you move too fast…..” thread.
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Why is it fair for an older sister to suffer the tremendous humiliation of seeing her younger sister get married first?
Tell her mazel tov from all of the folks in the CR!
Daas Yochid (who does not consume any babies)
No, because I’m not smart enough to.
The average number of unmoderated posts still up when YW-42’s posts appear in the CR. ?
Would you remove masechte Yevamot from the beit midrash? From your personal shelves?
I haven’t read the article either, but I think your analogy is poor. This article was printed (apparently) in a publication with features for children.
Yes, that you’ll probably have even more white in your 40’s.
There are different levels of Cheresh.
That’s true.
If someone can consent or object to a get, they probably arent a true cheresh.
He could still be a cheresh and not be able to give a get to someone he’s married to mid’oraisa, such as a case of yibum.
They may remain married even if he is married to someone else? You wrote that he paskened that cherem d’Rabeinu Gershom does not apply in such a case.
From the little I saw, it seems so. This obviously would not be practical in a country which prohibits polygamy.
So in a case where an eino m’daber v’aino shomeia is the only brother, the almana remains an agunah for the rest of her life?
I believe so (obviously, you’re assuming that the brother outlives her).
As far as I know, a true cheresh cannot give a Get either.
True, if he is an eino m’daber v’aino shomeia. The cheresh for whom only yibum (followed by a get) is an option (but not chalitzah) is a m’daber v’aino shomeia (or vice versa, an eeleim)
One of the cases involved a young widow whose yavam was missing his right foot, preventing her from performing chalitza.
Pischei Teshuvah (165 – 3) brings several sources which deal with such a case.
Most hold to do yibum. Beis Meir ads that cherem d’Rabeinu Gershom does not apply in such a case. The cherem not to give a get without her consent also does not apply, says Bais Meir, because he only married her for the mitzvah. It is implied that they may remain married if they wish.
My wife is my best friend. Last time I checked, I was male and she was female.
I guess we’re just sinners. 🙂
Well, apparently, it is only assur for males and females to be friends with each other, but one on one should be okay (at least if you’re married). ?
this publication is free to print whatever they want 1st amendment
And anyone outraged is free to call the publisher and complain.
Mazel Tov, Toi!
The people who helped me write it.
The Rav investigated the matter and ruled that due to the circumstances (i.e. the alternative being that she remain an agunah), yibum could be performed with the proviso that the couple divorce immediately afterward.
It’s the same reasoning as with a cheresh.
(I believe the subsequent Brisker Rov’s are also known as The Rov.)
Not AFAIK; “The Rov” is reserved for R’ Velvel.
As far as use of the term “The Rav” for Rabbi J.B. Soloveitchik of America, the “A” instead of the “O” is a giveaway.
Pac / Man,
Thank you!
*You’re
Your welcome!
Okay so the guy has actually gorgeus hair
Then he’ll probably take off his hat in the taxi so it shouldn’t get messed up.
Mod 80 & Yossi Z.,
AYC was referring to Shavuos.
amongst Sefardim, yibum is still an option today?
Not as far as I know.
Daas yochid:he actually doesn’t drive
Well, then, according to one poster, it’s hopeless anyway.
I know a guy who didn’t take off his hat until the vort. He was bald.
Do ashkenazi poskim consider it chal at all?
It’s chal, just not allowed.
It depends what type of car he’s driving.
So a cheresh *must* do yibum today (since he cannot do chalitza)?
What if the cheresh is married (and Ashkenaz thus under Cherem D’Rabbeinu Gershom)?
I would venture a guess that the cherem was not instituted for such a case. Even if he’s not married, he immediately gives a get.
Why not?
Because he’ll have the wrong kavana.
If I would tell you, it wouldn’t be a secret.
do we force him to perform chalitza?
If at all possible. Yibum is not done nowadays (except if the yovom is a cheresh).
What if the brother isn’t religious and refuses to do it, where does that leave the widow?
An agunah, lo aleinu. Obviously, everything possible is done to convince him to do it.
KIsh Echad,
You can still fix a spelling error as long as it still says “edit” after your post.
Crisis?
It got you to look at the thread! 😉
My comment was a rhetorical, rather than literal, response to apushtayid. If you notice it was reversed verbatim.
OK, so for thick headed people like me, please explain what point you were trying to get across.