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To make it easier, I’ll post on this thread. And in case the link in my sn is removed, here it is: http://kosherhaircut.com/.
The halacha is that if someone is davening Shemonah Esrei when the tzibur is up to Modim, he stops, and silently bows, not to appear to be a kofer.
The same might be said to apply here. *NOT* lip synching when the tzibur is singing Hashem’s praises might be worse than lip synching.
I wouldn’t trust anyone that gave a hechsher on chalav akum mamish. There is a big difference between not using a kula and not accepting its existance.
The OU doesn’t lose credibility for relying on a kula from R’ Moshe Feinstein Zt”l and being clear about it.
Even if some don’t agree with R’ Moshe.
hello99,
I f you could give me an exact mareh makom for the Pri Chadash, I would appreciate it. I only saw the PM”G quoting him (seems clear issur, not a chumra, so I’d kike to see the source).
The CHZ”I is referring to a mechallel Shabbos.
Aries is correct. It’s also a serious halachic question, and a shaila must be asked before elective surgery is performed.
Your welcome, it’s a pleasure to post something which not an argument. 🙂
We all play the keyboard.
since tzaraas is a spiritual onesh, right?</em.
Spiritual cause, physical manifestation. I’ve also wondered if the tzaraas associated with fish and meat is the same as the one associated with loshon horah (the tzaraas mentioned in the Torah).
Shaking hands is a very good example. Still assur.
That’s actually a machlokes, although most poskim assume it’s assur (and if it is, it’s yehoreig v’al ya’vor). The machlokes is, I believe, based on whether or not that’s considered derech chiba. In other words, although some hold , as you say, that it’s not derech chibah, others, whom most pasken like, hold it is derech chibah.
First, I clicked “coffee room” on top of the page. Then, I clicked the blue “sticky” thread on top, called “Searching CR For Old Threads”. I clicked the link in Shticky Guy’s post (http://j82.us/searchyw.php) which leads to a modified Google search page programmed by chofetzchaim. I typed “Thanksgiving” in the search box, and clicked “Search the Coffee Room”. The thread you wanted was third on the page.
I made the link appear as it does by typing:
<a href="http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/school-busing-on-thanksgiving-in-lakewood">-->Here it is.<--</a>yossi z.,
B’ezras Hashem, the right one, at the right time (may the right time be soon!)
MindOverChatter,
Thank you.
Goq,
You’ve given the CR a warm and fuzzy feeling. Great job!
Health,
We’re in agreement, except on the meaning of the word “inherently”.
One of the national hashgachos used to give hechsheirim to milchigs hot dog and hamburger buns. At this point, only the Triangle-K does that.
Why would someone think that’s muttar? (Y.D. 97)
aries,
You’re right, the pressure is more, but we don’t know that Bush would have done anything under these circumstances either. Either way, he needs our tefillos and we need to keep on pushing.
BTW, “inclined to consider clemency” means nothing. Obama’s probably considered it also.
I’m starting to feel like a fool
And secondly, if we are not worthy of “being in the know”, and therefore arent privy to the names of these Roshai Yeshiva that back up this program, how does it help us if they are “well known”????
Apparently, the rabbonim & RY don’t want there names published in a public forum. The questions AZ has answered are apparently able to be publicized. I don’t see the contradiction (I do see where AZ comes off a bit terse, though).
Why is it any crazier than dangling money in front of a shadchan to get the same result?
Because the boys are asking for the money after the chasunah, not before. 🙂
I bought this shirt before I was aware of DaasYochid and Derech HaMelech.
I wasn’t necessarily advocating your (or anybody else’s) wearing white shirts or any specific type of shirt, just defending those who do.
Anything wrong with that?
No.
About a year ago I had an important business meeting and made a point of getting a light blue shirt for the occasion to avoid using a Shabbos shirt.
That’s fine, I was defending those who wear white shirts during the week against the implied criticism.
Just curious, do you also wear a light blue shirt to weddings?
aries,
I’m no Obama fan, but Clinton and Bush didn’t grant clemency either.
Can someone tell me what Prust means?
Not tzniusdik (but “prust” is more blunt).
I have come to believe that DY ans AZ are the same person.
No, it’s just that AZ has taken me hostage. You can call the SWAT team back. 🙂
At this point, I would go so far as to suggest using some of the money to PAY boys to go out with girls.
Okay, I won’t take you seriously.
I dont take myself seriously, neither should you.
I shouldn’t take myself seriously, or I shouldn’t take you seriously? 😉
ItcheSrulik,
DH: That doesn’t address my point and you know it.
I thought it did, so I obviously also missed your point. Could you please explain?
Health,
You can’y assert that a nose ring is inherently pritzus if the Imahos wore them.
To Mr. Harry (Mr. Lakewood),
There were three practical ideas, and no hot air.
Do you have a financial interest in Leithauser?
midwesterner,
AZ was talking about the original letter, which is what apushtayid was questioning. You are referring to the newer initiative, on which no signatures were ever published.
AZ: YOU NEVER ANSWERED HIM…WHY NOT??
He did answer, at the beginning of this post.
In some communities white shirts are strongly linked to Shabbos.
Sure, those communities in which the men only wear colored shirts during the week. 🙂
Would you prefer the word paralyzed ?
No, that would still be completely inaccurate. To repeat, she is FREE to go out with anyone who agrees, although nobody is under any obligation to go out with her.
I’m not just arguing semantics; my point is that having a girl give a yes first won’t change the equation, it will only cause her more heartache.
Wolf,
So the increase is actually greater than 4%?
Is this even OK according to Halacha?
It’s not inherently assur, as soliek points out, but a part of tznius is not standing out, and with our contemporary styles, I would think that it’s currently assur.
Its called hyperbole. Something this topic cant see to get enough of.
Hyperbole means exaggeration of something which does actually exist. Since in no way, shape or form is a girl held hostage by a boy not agreeing to go out with her, the term is still being misused.
Sam2,
We might think that Kavod Hatzibbur or Kavod Hatorah etc. dictates that we always wear nice clothes (white shirts) to represent that. OC 53:18 tells us that’s not true.
You’re misunderstanding the S.A. . See M.B., and specifically what he says in the name of the Pri Chadash.
Josh31,
chulent is a “special maychel shabbos” and should be saved for shabbos, and eating it before shabbos is a zilzul in the kavod shabbos.”
I feel the same way about white shirts.
You consider white shirts a “special maychel shabbos”? 🙂
Seriously, there are two differences. First, there is specifically a minhag to eat cholent on Shabbos (based on the dispute between the Perushim and one of the groups of kofrim about how to understand “lo s’vaaru aish b’chol moshvoseichem”. Even if white shirts were only worn on Shabbos, I don’t think it reaches the status of “special beged Shabbos”.
Second, white shirts are not only worn on Shabbos. They are worn for most formal occasions, such as weddings, bar mitzvahs, business meetings, shul dinners, etc. (I would mention that many yeshivaleit wear them for all occasions, but that would still call into question how that was allowed to develop).
littleapple,
I use one of the Jewish companies, whose name I probably can’t use here, since they also operate a competing news website (although YWN is much better!).
K-9 is supposed to be excellent, free, and fully customizable, but it doesn’t work in conjunction with my proxy filter.
“how shocked I was that there were no responses”
I clicked on SaysMe’s link, and there were responses.
Thank you, Shticky Guy, for your kind words.
Originally sung by MBD on the Suki & Ding Hallel All-Star tape, it also made it to one of the early HASCs (I think 5) and MBD Kumzitz. It was originally the title song of an album by Laibele Haschel a”h.
apy,
I agree, anyone should speak to his own rav for guidance and not rely on what it says in the paper. It should be noted that NASI’s two initiatives dealt with the issue from a shadchan’s perspective, they never told parents to hold off on an otherwise promising shidduch because of age.
Your earlier post, about the girls being held hostage, is incorrect, because until the boy says yes, she is free to go out with someone else. Also, the boys are not just simply sitting around idly until they come around to giving a yes, they’re going out with someone else!
I would hope that most people have a filter (maybe that’s why you got no responses, since you seem to be referring to a stand alone lock). I think all (or at least most) of the filters have an option to lock the internet requiring a password (mine, for instance, doesn’t allow any access without a password, and even with password, many sites are blocked).
The password feature comes with the filter at no extra cost.
To your last point, I too will defer to the Gedolei Hador when it comes to manipulation and its appropriateness – when they are not deliberately misled into making tbeir decision. In this case. I am certain they would retract if they had real facts.
In any argument involving people who claim to defer to gedolim, there will always be those who defend their position by claiming that the gedolim were misled. I think it’s a bizayon to them to assume that they’re so naive, so that their opinion is worthless. They’re not so simpleminded to be constantly tricked by bad intentioned people.
That two times now that you have tried to call me stupid.
I don’t think you’re stupid, I just don’t think your train of thought is logical in this case.
In any case, I’ll repeat myself so you have another chance to digest or ignore my point.
I really don’t think you need hard statistics to realize that our population is b”H growing at a rapid pace. Anecdotally, to be sure, all of the schools that I know have larger younger grades than older grades. And any shadchan I’ve spoken to knows more older girls than boys.
There is a precise mathematical formula to figure out what annual percentage population increase there will be based on average number of children per family – TFR – Google “Growth of world population during various epochs of earth history can be calculated by a well-known formula”. True, I don’t have an exact number for the TFR in our community, but it’s certainly well above the replacement level, and more than compensates for the slightly higher number of males born. The question is to what extent, but the highest recorded TFR in the world is above 7, at which the annual growth would be about 3.5%. Replacement rate is about 2.1, so anything in between would still indicate a population growth, albeit less.
So we can use a “seicheldik” approach, and try to do something about the issue, or pretend that there’s only minimal growth, that the shadchanim are delusional, and there’s no shidduch crises. We then continue to let many bnos Yisroel suffer, because we didn’t do a precise statistical study. I would opt for the former.
Your posts on other topics have given me the impression that you’re a talmid chacham.
I’m a good faker.
Is there an inyan of being dan lekaf zechus a nameless anonymous organization?
It’s not so anonymous; it’s quite easy to do a little Googling to find out, so I think the question is moot (I happen to know who it is and give him credibility, so maybe I’m biased). Otherwise, it’s an interesting theoretical question, but the better question is if loshon horah (or motzi shem ra) is muttar in such a case; I don’t think so, since this is a real organization. (I’m not saying you specifically said LH, but some certainly did.)
It makes people want to ask every possible question this time around and not make any assumptions.
I’ve stated my agreement to that statement, and so has AZ. My issue is with some people’s tone.
AZ mentioned that they have dayanim for arbitration, but at that point the girl or her parents are trying to get money back that is no longer in escrow so the burden of proof is on them, not on NASI. There do not seem to be any safeguards preventing the money from being removed from escrow prior to resolving the dispute.
I don’t know the details of the contract, but I would think that the period between the engagement and the wedding would be sufficient to at least notify the accounting firm that there’s a dispute, so that the money doesn’t get released.
1) Normally, I think it should be kept short. I would stress than a strong effort should be made to meet sooner, rather than postponing it.
2) You’re probably right, but you can’t be sure because you don’t know why it was called off. I don’t think checking stops until they’re engaged.
3) You’re absolutely right (in normal yeshivishe circles).
r-b,
I actually posted before you’re post was visible. I just meant the irony of the name “Yochid” being held by two posters.
the problem isnt “finding” them, the problem is getting their mothers to say YES!
rc,
If the mothers aren’t saying yes, how are the boys going out and getting married?
For the record, “daas_yochid” and “DaasYochid” are two separate posters (ironically).