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welcome back 80; we miss you. Even when you post as feivel it doesn’t have the same ooomph
Or the same regularity 🙁 – the CR was better off with your constant input.
WIY,
Google “eat like a horse”.
Good, smart, fine, accomplished older girls having to put out big big big bucks to get Shadchanim’s attention, is humiliating to the older girls.
Is it more humiliating to put out money and get attention, or to not put out money but not get attention?
How do we listen to it on the web?
honestly I am hanging on by a thread.
Just curious, which thread is that? 🙂
Why have I never seen an overweight horse?
The reason some people are obese is because although they should eat like a person, they eat like a horse. This is not a problem for a horse.
So there is a solid year age difference right there. The bas kol seems OK with it, too bad for AZ
AZ can confirm or deny, but I think he’d be ok with a one year difference.
BTW, I don’t follow your cheshbon – where do you get a year?
Have you tried Norton Cold and Flu 2012?
+1
DaaasYochid, obviously “??? ???” means something which an intellectually honest person knows he cannot answer. I presume that you do not phone your rav when you wake up in the morning and ask if you should do netilat yadayim.
Agreed. That’s actually the type of thing I meant in my original post, but I retracted because that’s not a “psak”.
It’s interesting that in the case brought in B’er Moshe, the shoel’s friend thought it wasn’t even a shaila! The Debriciner was warning people to be intellectually honest, and that anything which is not clear cut should be asked. Netilas yadayim is clear cut (now, whether or not the water needs to literally be within 4 amos is not as clear cut).
When the generator broke in my son’s Yeshiva, HaRav Shteinman ruled that bathroom and stairwell lights are Pikuach Nefesh.
He allowed a Yid to turn them on? And if so, would he also allow it in a private home? Or (much more likely) perhaps a dormitory setting is different, so if the Debriciner was mattir in the home, there would have to be a different reason. I haven’t seen the teshuva, but if he was mattir, it may have been in a situation where there were small children, who have a din of choleh, so amira l’akum would be permitted.
1) Tos. says the bas kol is for the zachor.
2) Bas ploni doesn’t identify the girl, just her father.
3) Some rishonim say that zivug rishon/zivug sheini doesn’t mean first marriage/second marriage, so many people might not be marrying their zivug rishon, and therefore not the person mentioned in the bas kol.
The bottom line is as apy says; do normal hishtadlus but have bitachon in Hashem.
is the NIKON d3100 the best dslr out there?
how can I afford it
Make a shidduch for a 30 year old young woman who’s name is on the new NASI list.
If there is a cantillation that is a stop (like etnachta, revii, zakaif katone, pashta, etc) on the word that ends with Havara Petucha, then that cantillation stops the effect of the Havara Petucha.
Which is an explanation of why we generally sat “borei p’ri hagafen” although “borei” is havara pesuchah (ends with aleph) – apparently, tere’s supposed to be a pause between “borei” and “p’ri” (some do actually sat “f’ri”).
(I got my information from dailyhalacha.com, I’m no dikduk expert).
Gateways, in all fairness.
What have they done?
I would probably call it a grammar issue rather than a spelling issue.
AZ,
RC: go for it, and your suggested method of implementation is……
Rc pointed out that (s)he feels it can’t be implemented when (s)he said, “here is [my solution] although i know it cant be implemented”.
Here is what the Be’er Moshe says about asking a shaila:
http://hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=888&st=&pgnum=76&hilite=
?????? ???? ???? ?????? ??? ??? ?? ?? ????? ?????, ????? ???? ???? ????, ???? ?? ??? ???? ??? ?? ??? ?? ??. ????? ??? ????? ?? ?? ????. ???? ???? ???? ?? ??? ???? ?? ??, ??? ???
???? ???? ?? ??? ?? ??. ????? ??, ????? ????? ??? ????? ??? ??? ??? ??? ????, ????? ?? ???? ??? ?? ??????, ??? ????? ?????? ???? ??? ????? ????? ???? ??? ??? ????? ??????? ?????, ??? ??? ??? ??????? ???? ??? ???? ??? ????? ??????? ?? ??? ????? ????.
He then explains why it’s assur, and concludes,
????? ???? ??? ??? ??? ???? ????? ?????? ?? ???? ??? ???? ??? ??? ?? ????? ?? ??? ????? ??? ????? ?? ????
DaasYochid
True we all paskin for ourselves but if we know Halacha then we arent paskening, we are keeping halacha. You need a psak when you are in doubt. Of course if one doesnt know much Halacha its very hard to even know what is a shaila.
You’re right. The term pasken implies that there’s a shailah, in which case unless one is himself very proficient in the pertinent halachos, a posek needs to be consulted.
I retract my previous post.
<em<>You’re implying that the public perception of our rabbonim and R”Y is that they are hypocritical
Narishkeiten. For every Rov who is undersigned, there are hundreds who arent. As with almost every issue that doesnt involve a clear Mitzvah D’Oraisa, many opinions exist.
Your post doesn’t address mine. I was referring to the ones who did sign, and apy’s implied skepticism regarding how the public perceives their intention.
The fact that someone didn’t sign does not indicate opposition.
Apy,
You’re implying that the public perception of our rabbonim and R”Y is that they are hypocritical and are suggesting a solution for the masses which they would never follow themselves or suggest for loved ones. I hope you’re wrong, and that the general public’s trust has not been so horribly eroded.
I am just curious to know how their REBBETZINS, mothers, sisters, and DAUGHTERS truly feel about this endorsement and the NASI program.
Now that their names are listed, you can probably ask them.
I can tell you that I asked some of my female relatives, out of my own curiosity, how they felt about it, and they were positive. Hardly scientific, but the assumption that all females are against it is untrue.
Happym19, crazybrit was assuming that your screen name was based on your age, and that you wanted to change it because you had a birthday.
In case you want a new screen name, you can simply open a new account with a different email address. As long as you don’t use both to appear as two different posters, the mods should be fine with it (although you never know if one mod wasn’t paying attention when this rule was taught in mod school 😉 ).
R-b,
Thanks for reminding everyone of my past sins, but you know, I’ve done teshuva. 😉
In theory, the mods could assure that no real mischief goes on by giving every legit member a subtitle (it could be as simple as repeating the screen name) but I suppose it would be tedious.
“Health –
I like to Pasken for myself when I can. But you have to try to take out any Negious.”
WIY –
Health
You gotta be kidding me. Please tell me you are joking?!
WIY, we all pasken for ourselves. The more one knows, the fewer shailos need to be asked of a “posek”. Negius comes in not only in deciding what is assur or muttar, but also in deciding what needs to be asked.
A troll deliberately asks questions or posts threads that are guaranteed to cause trouble, and then sits back and watches everyone duke it out.
In my case, I don’t think I’ve started any threads, and I usually get down and dirty myself!
Rc,
Boys need to come home earlier from israel.
Mathematically, that should help.
RYs need to own up to this crisis by imposing takanos
You were right that takanos are difficult to implement. There’s enough negativity towards programs that are purely voluntary; imagine the backlash if R”Y tried to impose their will by force!
that mothers of boys respond in a reasonable amount of time.
If the lack of timely response is causing the boys to put their dating on hold, then you’re right to associate it with the disparity in numbers. If, however, there is no immediate answer because the boy is already busy with someone else, I don’t see what there is to do about it – there’s no point in a boy (or his mother) giving a definite “no” if there is a possibility that at some point he’ll want to meet her.
There is a way to close the gap that the R”Y of some yeshivos could implement – the post E.Y. yeshivos could limit acceptance to bochurim under a certain age, which would “force” them to return from E.Y. sooner. This is actually implementable, but many factors would have to go into such a decision.
DY, not THAT much older!
I’m not sure how much older you thought I meant.
I should clarify that NASI does not seem to be advocating literally encouraging girls to wait to get married, but obviously if the 22 and 23 year olds are focused on, it would lead to fewer 19 year olds getting married.
(and really, it is not by choice, much of the time – they are sometimes pushed into it before they are ready)
Well, that’s not Hashem’s doing, it’s the doing of those pushing them to get married before they’re ready – also human bechirah.
If you’re right that girls are being pushed into getting married before they’re ready, then advocating shidduchim with “older girls”
would be beneficial anyhow.
DY is a troll
Someone finally figured me out. 🙂
Soliek,
On a different thread, AZ posted the following (referring to the current NASI program):
This program is endorsed by the following Rabbonim and Roshei Yeshiva
Rav Moshe Brown Shlita (Far Rockaway)
Rav Kalman Epstein Shlita (Queens)
Rav Yaakov Forcheimer Shlita (Lakewood)
Rav Shmuel Fuerst Shlita (Chicago)
Rav Moshe Mordechai Lowi Shlita (Toronto)
Rav Yaakov Neuberger Shlita (Teaneck)
Rav Shlomo Feivel Schustal Shlita (Brooklyn)
Rav Dovid Weinberger Shlita (Lawrence)
Rav Herschel Welcher Shlita (Queens)
The Rabbonim and Roshei Yeshiva had accidentally signed a death warrant on the Kollel and Yeshiva system!
I completely fail to follow your logic. The rest, therefore, is also incomprehensible to me.
(through an unbalanced spokesman)
Your personal attack does nothing to enhance your credibility.
pba – The poster is less than an hour old.
Yes, but this is a personal question and a regular poster might want to separate it from her regular screen name.
Now, had the poster asked, “I’ve always wanted to marry a learning boy, and I am going out with someone who seems to be a baal midos, I hear he’s a big masmid, and he has a wonderful personality, but someone told me that when he was learning in E.Y. he didn’t ibber meiser and took a cigarette once a month. Should I marry him?”, I would say (s)he’s definitely a troll.
DY is a troll
Which is?
Which is different for each individual. Some of these rabbonim allow young women go to college, some probably don’t.
Many young women teach, many take other jobs.
Rav Moshe still only meant it as a Chumra, I think.
It seems to me that he considered it assur, but not necessarily because of amira l’akum, rather, because of zilzul Shabbos.
He holds it is Amira l’Akum
He says ????.
Just curious what the Rabbonim who endorsed this program suggest and approve these girls do?
Probably the same they are recommending for the already plentiful group of unmarried 20-22 year old females.
Oomis,
“Hashem did not create more female lives than males lives…”
It seems evident that He did, if there are so many of them.
There aren’t more females than males, there are more females who have chosen to enter the “shidduch scene” than there are males who have entered the scene.
That reality is a human choice – the societal decision to have the more populous age group of one gender (19-20 year old girls) begin to seek their spouses at the same time as a less populated group – the 22-23 tear old boys.
Yitayningwut,
Try this:
Exactly like cholov hacompany.
You mean chalav akum. There’s no such thing as cholov hacompany anymore because the government no longer inspects the dairies for which species the milk comes from.
chassidishY.U.type,
????? ????? ???????
Popcorn,
That’s an unusual scenario, because one can still light after the z’man on Yom Tov, from an existing light.
Oomis,
Still improper to use (if one is concerned with the origin of the word), but for a different reason.
Apy,
Do you think anyone has better priorities than we do?
You can’t bring a ???? from one incident.
I wasn’t. Yitaynigwut has demonstrated his mentchlichkeit before.
If one ever forgets to light {and not for the reasons that you “adorable” state that happened in your circumstances} and does have to light an extra candle, this only continues until the following Yom Kippur inclusive.
Not according to the Shulchan Aruch (263-1).
http://hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=14171&st=&pgnum=72&hilite=
Yitayningwut,
You’re a mentch.
R-b,
That SG meant nothing teefer than what you knew he meant.
Oh, THAT kind of chazarah. 😉
Seriously, the Dirshu method is very effective. I may have the details wrong, but it goes something like this:
Every day, learn a particular amount, after chazering the limud from the previous day.
Chazer everything from the week on Shabbos.
Chazer all of that once a month.
This is short term, aside from any project to constantly chazer all previous limudim.
SG,
Actually, I meant the “pshuto shel mikra” as under stood by the “mavinim”, which, I guess, is not actually the pshuto shel mikra.
Make sure you use a blech.
Health,
Would you like me to go through the posts of yours, before the milchama line, in which you could have been more respectful?