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“So people should date (and marry) baal teshuvos even if they are looking for a frum from birth?”
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No, they should not.
Being BT, I also can’t see the reason, why BT would like to marry FFB. Do they really want to have a spouse and in-laws, who hate them?
We like to talk about ahdus, but we don’t like bt, geirim, litvaks, chassidim…just name it. B”H we like ourselfs.
welldressed007- thanks a lot for your post!!!
“CV: We don’t need to. But he’ll naturally be angered that his gaaividik watch that he spent a fortune on was one-upped by a cheap imitation that few can tell any difference between. Don’t wear the imitation to anger him; but be advised that’ll be his likely reaction”
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Do you really think, that rich people have no clue cheap imitations exist? And if they know and don’t buy these imitations, most likely they have a reason for it and they will not have the reaction you predict.
“Wear a fake Rolex that cost $100 and that looks real and like it cost $40,000. Then you’ll make the rich guy with the real watch angry”
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And why, exactly, we need to make a rich guy angry?
Ten yours ago the price of a coffin (in a Jewish funeral home) was in a range between $ 900.00 and $ 36,000.00
Most likely, some people willing to pay $ 36,000.00 for a coffin and some – $ 40,000.00 for a watch.
I don’t think it is anybody’s business, how people spend their own money.
As WolfishMusings said: “once a person meets his tzedaka obligation, he’s entitled to spend his money as he wishes”
Even if you can learn from Torah how to heal people , today to open the office or get a job in a hospital, you need to get a licence. This means you need to get a secular education. And not only a doctor need a licence to get a job.
Also, if every Jewish man will learn full time and every Jewish wife will work as a morah part-time, every Jewish family will live in poverty. Who will give a Tzedaka if no one works? How morah, who has 5 kids and a husband in a kollel, will pay 5 tuitions and the rest of the bills? If every man learn full time, it means father-in-law also learn and can’t support his son-in-law.
I don’t think Rav Shteinman doesn’t know about this.
I truly believe, that we can’t quote Rav or anybody else without giving all details of the speech and situation in which this speech was given.
It is a good idea for a man, who wants to learn full time – he will have 2 fathers-in-law to support him.
“Some follow the practice of distributing garlic to those present at pidyon ha-ben feast.
Reason: certaine books mentioned the immense spiritual significance of the pidyon ha-ben feast. It is said thet whoever participates in such a reast is considered to have fasted 84 fasts. Bu distributing garlic, a small quantity of which can spice entire potfuls of food, we enable many others “to share” the meal of the pidyon ha-ben”
From book “Rite and Reason. 1050 Jewish Customs and Their Sources” by Shmuel Pinchas Gelbard.
WORST: anything besides English
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So, for you loshen Kodesh and mame loshen just a few of them?
after i hang up i say to myself boy what a moron.
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Why? How are they supposed to know that hundreds of people have access to that line?
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Why? How are they suppose to know who call them, if moron from your Yeshiva did leave his name?
“when we have children we are gonna have a nanny…i work hard for my money…”
So, it will be nanny’s children. Because not you, but nanny will see the first smile and first step…not you, but nanny will find the first tooth… not you, but nanny will hear the first word… not you, but nanny will spend most of the day with children…
” Examples that come to mind are Stalin’s Russia (both 5 and 6 day weeks)”
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In Stalin’s Russia was 5 and then 6 BUSINESS DAYS week. But on calendar even in Stalin’s Russia were written the same 7 days – Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday. Only one week people worked Monday-Friday, next week Sunday-Thursday, next week Saturday-Wednesday and so on.
“No. I am aware of a number of grandfathers who are still in Kollel full time”
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1. Their in-laws still support them?
2. Who support their sons-in-law?
“If you start comparing English and Yiddish most words will be almost the same.”
But it does not work this way with slavic languages. I add equivalents in Russian, only a few words sound almost the same.
nose = nooz = ??? (nos)
hand = hant = ???? (ruka)
ear = oiyer = ??? (uho) h- like in “cholim”
good = gut = ?????? (horosho) h – like in “cholim”
year = yohr = ??? (god)
brerad = broit = ???? (hleb) h – like in “cholim”
butter = puter = ????? (maslo)
milk = milech = ?????? (moloko)
cheese = kayz = ??? (sir)
father = fohter = ???? (otetz)
mother = muter = ???? (mat’)
brother = bruder = ???? (brat)
sister = shvester = ?????? (sestra)
month = monat = ????? (mesjatz)
hear = hoor = ??????? (slishat’)
hour = oor = ??? (chas)ch – like in “cholen”
side = zeit = ??????? (storona)
soup = zup = ??? (sup)
salt = zaltz = ???? (sol’)
water = vaser = ???? (voda)
cold = kalt = ????? (holodno)h – like in “cholim”
hot = heis = ????? (zharko)
warm = varem = ????? (teplo)
arm = orem = ???? (ruka)
stay = shtein = ???? (stoj)
stone = shtein = ?????? (kamen’)
go = gei = ??? (idi)
gold = guld = ?????? (zoloto)
silver = zilber = ??????? (serebro)
coper = kuper = ???? (med’)
diamond = dimant = ????? (almaz)
Does Torah mention how long peyos should be or how they should be held (in a front or behind the ears, strait or curly)?
“Keep your receipts and if your contribution totals more than $250, you’ll need an acknowledgement from the charity documenting the services you provided”
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This statement is not accurate. Open IRS web-site.
If you cut ONE check for $ 250.00 or more – you need a receipt for it
If you cut a FEW checks for the same organization for total amount of $ 250.00 or more – you don’t need a receipt for each check or for the total amount of money you gave to this organization during the year. Every check treated as a separate donation.
“It’s to prepare you for the rest of your life as boys… you know, getting a good education, including a masters degree, so you can support your family… working 8-12 hour days just to make ends meet… training your mind to be analytical so you can understand the insurance policies, mortgage documents, and retirement/bank accounts your tzaddik won’t have a clue about…”
the best post!!!
“Why do ONLY seminary girls get to learn navi?”
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Not ONLY seminary girls. Young boys in yeshiva learn it too.
cinderella- go to the site and check archives
“So why do rebeim tell boys to work?”
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Maybe because K’tubah states, man should support his wife.
Shticky Guy
“Hotel lobby, Bucharest:
THE LIFT IS BEING FIXED FOR THE NEXT DAY. DURING THAT TIME WE REGRET THAT YOU WILL BE UNBEARABLE”… etc.
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Can YOU say this in Romanian/Japanese/Chinese/ French or any other language?
What make you think in every country people MUST to know English on the same level as their native language?
They make these “funny” notes, because tourists from America do not speak/read/write language of the countries they visiting.
In BP you can find a lot of posters in Yiddish and if you are not able to read it – it is your loss.
In Paris they translate notes for YOU in broken English and this make you laugh – learn French and read original notes without translation.
If you can, please excuse my English, it is not my first and not my second language.
bein_hasdorim – “cv; If you don’t like the taste or smell, stay out of the kitchen! I wouldn’t want to offend your senses.”
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I accepting your advice and living this “kitchen”. The best way to defend yourseft ( not only from taste and smell, but also from AZ ) – do not go to the places, where you can be offended.
bein_hasdorim,
I apologize for my English – it is not my first and not my second language.
It does not matter your jokes smell OR taste not good. The key words are “not good”, because they have discriminating smell / taste (whatever word you prefer).
sle – Why you need to go to Asian nail salon? Because they charge less than American girls? Because you do not have Jewish salon to go? What make you think girls from Asia can’t have in their work place what they have? They don’t bring avoda zarah to your home/life – YOU coming to them.
bein_hasdorim, 600 Kilo Bear – if your posts are jokes, they smell not really good
Why should girl accept a date before she/her parents checked a prospective shidduch out?
“I never said anything about going to college. I actually don’t think people should attend secular colleges”
Do you know any not secular medical school?
Great topic, thanks to every one. You really made laugh loud!
I don’t think it is normal for a man to discuss publicly how girl was dressed.He need to discuss this with shadchan. Interesting enough, he never explained what he concider to be casual.
We are ALL sitting at the computer…(pointing out the obvious).
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You can sit at computer on a low chair (I’m sitting)
Ask mod. for my e-mail
I may be wrong, but I think “mir” means “me”, not “I”.
You really had to give up a lot. For me everything was much easier. I came to US, when I was not observant, with $191.00 in my packet (leftovers after I paid for all paperwork to get out from country I was born) and 64 lb of luggage (all what I was allowed to take with me). I left everything behind before I became BT. It was nothing to give up any more. The only things I had to change – not appropriate clothes, way of thinking, acting, TV. I even did not have to give up movie, concerts, etc – at that time I didn’t make enough money for it any way. What was really painful – to be rejected by my family. But I found my Father in Haven.
Only my aunt, who lives far away, accepts us in a way we are. The rest of the family simply ignore us. We are crazy in they eyes and they don’t need crazy people around.
Pants, tv, movie, not kosher food, etc. not a big loss. They are not missed.
Getting harder to work without vacation, 15 days vacation my company gives = days of Jewish holidays in a most of the years.
Would be nice to be on Yom Tov with grandchildren, but not enough vacation days to travel to/from another state.
I will not say we “gave up”, I will say “we made our choice”.
IUseBrains – I agree with you. Just want to add a few words. “Boy” has to keep the same attitude toward his wedding and his future family expenses and pay for everything from his own packet. The truth is – he is a BOY (mommy’s boy), not a MAN.
“So you can pass the meals thru them, for when the occasional long term “time out” is called for.”
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Funny…, but actually we not allowed to bring food to the bathroom 😉
Today I got a letter from Eretz Israel. The man describing his financial situation and asking for help. He also included a letter of recommendation, signed by R. Meyer Brandsdorf. The date of this letter caught my attention – Tuesday, 11th of Cheshvan 5675. Today is year 5771. Out of curiosity I converted this Jewish date to English date and I got – Shabbos, October 31, 1914.
I hate do not trust people, but it is hard to trust this letter
I learned a history of costume in a college. Probably Google is more reliable source.
Sari is not a dress. Sari is 5 to 10 yards of fabric, which draped on a body of woman without sewing (pins used instead). Under this draped fabric woman wears pants made from the same or matching material and a short ( till waist line) top with very short sleeves. If you will take off pins, which hold the drapes, you will get back long piece of fabric.
I agree, if store will sell skirts 2-3 inches longer, women will buy it.
From another hand, when on Shabbos Rav of the shul wearing a shtroimel and his wife and daughters wearing skirts, which do not cover their knees, no one store owner can be blamed – the community girls follow the Rebbetzen. Unfortunatelly, this is the real story.
I will take 110-118 inclusive, bli neder.
“Why do you think your shul doesn’t have women speakers?
Is it because they have nothing worth hearing? I doubt it. It is because it is not tznius”
I’m not argue with you. Just asking. What about Rebbetzin Jungreis?
If girl spent 12 years in this type of school, most likely she wants to be married to the boy, who will learn at least 12 years in a kollel. In this case the graduation is the only turning point from the time, when you will stop paying $ 5,000.00 per year to time, when you get ready to pay $50,000.00 a year to support your son-in-law. So, ask your wife to take a camera to graduation. Do not make a big deal.
I think it is not about wearing makeup, but about doing this in front of the husband. It need to done in private. Let him see the result, not the process.
Dear parents, who have daughters,
Please work very hard to make enough money to support all your sons-in-law, all your grand sons-in-law and so on. Being grown and mature people you need to understand, that man, who learn all his life and never work, will not be able to support his children. So, it will your responsibilities to support all future generations. Please work hard and do not complain your children request money for down payment. This is the way you raised them. You put in their heads the idea, that man can be mature to get married and have children, but not mature to support this children. You put in their heads idea, that woman suppose to be the mother and the father – take care of the house you bought, of the children she brought to this world, of the husband who helped her to have this children (but very busy to help take garbage out) and work at the same time. Why you complaining? Why they should respect you – you are not in Kollel, you JUST working. It does not matter YOU working to support THEM. You doing this because you want it.
And, yes, I have a daughter. Her husband working and learning. I can’t see anything wrong with this.
a mamin
“As far as overcharging, a store can charge whatever they want…. “
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I believe, you need to review Halacha.
“Not too many heimish folks will accept a $10 an hour job”
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They will accept, if they will pay for bread and shoes less than you pay.
$10.00/hour = $ 20,800 /year before tax
“One should try very hard to get blessing from his father and mother, even when he is independent of them. By doing so, he fulfills the mitzvah of kibud av va’em. Similarly, in communities where it is common practice, it is a mitzvah to kiss their hand when he sees them, specially on Shabbat and Yom Tov” (Honoring Parents in Halachah. A practical guide. By Rabbi Tzuriel Ta’aseh)
“At the same time, the Chofetz Chaim himself was seen shoveling snow out of the walkway of his Yeshiva’s beis medrash so that his students could have a safe walk. If the Chofetz Chaim himself could do chores and the honor of the Torah was still upheld, then how could the Torah’s honor be affected by a Yeshiva student doing chores? On the contrary, it shows kavod to the Torah because the student shows kavod to his parents and/or his wife, both critical Torah values”
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And I read, that grandson of Chofetz Chaim was also helping his wife around the house, while he was learning in kollel
From another hand, Rebbetzin Kaminezki ( Rav Shmuel’s wife) has a strong opinion, that Jewish woman should not cleaning her house, she suppose to have a cleaning lady. I heard this from Rebbetzin. So, I assume all working people should work a little bit harder to pay for cleaning ladies in their homes and for kollel men’s homes