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dovrosenbaum……..
As I’ve stated I have 4 dogs. They are dogs, they are not people. Their only clothing are woven collars necessary to both hold their license and rabies tags and attach the leash if need be.
They are all rescues, not expensive purchases from puppy mill breeder.
That said, if they take ill, they receive appropriate medical care. One doesn’t just end a life because medical care costs money. Even if that life is canine, not human.
Expensive is a relative term. I don’t know what you earn, it’s none of my business. You don’t know what I earn, it’s none of your business, suffice it to say I would not have 4 dogs and their accompanying expenses if I could not easily afford it and all my other obligations are met.
dovrosenbaum………..
to put it bluntly, who are you to decide whether I should spend money on a veterinarian bill or have to give that same amount of money away to “serve the needs of the people?”
That sounds like the dogma of a totalitarian or Communist state.
What I earn is mine. I give far more than the biblical tithe in tzedaka. If it gives my family pleasure to have pets and maintain them in a healthy state, it is not for someone else to decide that ‘my money’ should have gone to meet needs of other people.
That attitude is no different than begrudging my wife a new dress for Pesach or suggesting we eat noodles instead of beef, because the additional cost could have been spent on the needs of other people.
As long as I make the money and am properly charitable, I am entitled to spend the rest as I see fit, as long as it is legal and moral.
Besides, Veterinarians are entitled to make a living. They have great expenses in their education and equipping a practice. Who are you to say they shouldn’t have a chance to recover the cost and provide for their families.
As long as I am not asking others for financial help for my family, you have no right to pass judgment on my spending.
Before Pesach, I am marrying off a daughter. I am not going into debt to do so. It may be a more lavish simcha than you think necessary. But it will provide parnassah for the venue, caterer/workers, orchestra, florist, baker, and other vendors. What’s more for every dollar spent on my daughter’s simcha 50 cents is being donated to a Kallah fund. I have no obligation to do so, I do it gladly.
Joseph………..
How wrong your observation is. I am the complete opposite of a pro-gun activist.
I’ll not get into such a debate on this board as I don’t hope to change minds and my mind won’t be changed either.
Joseph…………
It varies with the task.
If I do the work (senior partner) it is more expensive than if it is done by an associate or paralegal..
Most in office work for established clients is billed at $350 per hour. Trial work is generally $525 per hour (8 hour day minimums-as I have to clear my calendar and am at the beck and call of the judge).
None of this is for criminal work, which I don’t do. Some things are flat rate: adoption, divorce, wills, trusts, probate.
These rates are comparable for established (over age 50 lawyers) in my area…certainly less than NYC rates.
That said, it’s important to realize that billing rates don’t equal profit. All the overhead/expenses of the form have tgo come out of the revenue.
Many long time clients get preferential rates and we do a great deal of pro bono work as well.
I have not raised rates since 2010 and don’t expect to do so before I retire. My children who will take over the practice will decide what they’ll charge when they are the bosses.
The Queen……
It is not embedded in your DNA, it may have been drilled into your psyche by your parents, grandparents, teachers and other elders.
Attack animals have been used to control people of all kinds over the millenia. Dogs don’t persecute people, other people do, and they use assorted tools to aid in the task.I type this at my desk. My 8 year old Yorkie is lying in a bed on the desk next to the computer. My grandson is on the rug playing with two of our other dogs.
My brother in law, who has lost his sight in a 30 year battle with diabetes is training to walk with a seeing eye dog. We are all comfortable with dogs, all grew up with them as pets and have no embedded fear/loathing in our DNA.
Flatbusher……..
I don’t have an off the rack body.
If you truly feel that just adjusting length on an off the rack garment leaves you with the feeling that the garment hangs properly on your body, moves smoothly with your every movement and has no spots where it either hangs loosely or is a bit too clingy, then off the rack is fine.
If, however, you can afford it, and want to choose the fabric, colors, collar, fit, shoulder style, padding, the rise of the slacks, etc. and have a custom suit and shirts…the chances are you will not go back to off the rack.
The quality is such that they tend to last longer than off the rack and if you wear classic styles they will be in your clothing rotation for many years.
My tailor has all my measurements. Often I stop in only to pick fabrics. Sometimes, I buy fabrics when traveling and the tailor only provides labor.
These days I typically pay about $1200 for a 3 piece suit and $45 for long sleeves shirts (ordered by the 1/2 dozen) plus material. Interfacing, linings, buttons and trim are included in the labor price. All have my name embroidered inside the garment and shirts have my monogram on the sleeve cuff.
The midnight blue suit with a burgundy pinstripe I wore to a political event last night is about 10 years old. It looks as if it was made last month. It shows no wear and has held its shape beautifully. The pants are constructed with a 5 inch high gripper band to hold my shirt tails in place and have suspender buttons in the pants. I wore a white background shirt that had the same burgundy pinstripe as the suit. A burgundy toe with midnight blue emblems completed the outfit. This was appropriate for the occasion or court or seeing clients in my law office. As I’ve explained in the oast, when I was a young lawyer starting out, a wise mentor told me ‘only the judges wear black’ I wear midnight blue or charcoal gray to court. My Shabbos suits are black
RebYidd23
If you think that neckties are just a more grown up version of a bib you do not know the historical development of neckties and their decorations.
Neckties became a way for former military members to show their past association when wearing civilian dress. The diagonally striped ties are know as Regimental or Reps. The particular color combinations told others which regiment of the British army you had served in.
Similarly there are school ties and club ties. When the average prep school or Ivy League student or graduate was wearing a Navy Blue Wool Blazer, grey flannel slacks and a white shirt, the emblems on the navy tie told others which school he had attended or which fraternity he had joined.
After Yeshiva I attended an Ivy League University and law school. Those symbols on my ties were very useful in making business connections as a young lawyer. What today is seen by most as a fashion item started as a means of rank and identification.
Even to this day in better mens stores in the UK sales of striped ties are often restricted to former members of the particular regiment. I can remember 40 years ago wearing a striped tie I had bought in NY while on a business tripe to London. A retired miltary man who had heard my Yankee accent while observing the stripes on my tied took offense that I was wearing a tie without a tie to his regiment.
sefardi guy………..
Maybe his father or grandfather changed it, but he was born Sanders.
Flatbusher………..
Nothing about me is slim.
I have my shirts custom made for me, same with suits and slacks. I’ve done this since we left the clothing business in 1976. The initial cost is higher than off the rack, but they last far longer and are far more comfortable. It is not unusual for me to put on a dress shirt that was made 10 or 12 years ago. Granted I keep about 3 dozen shirts in my daily rotation.
flatbusher….
I wear 100% cotton shirts. I am blessed with a teen-aged daughter who finds ironing very relaxing.
I only wear silk ties. I don’t like the look or feel of man made materials. That said the silk tie also holds a knot better than polyester. I wear a tie that suits my mood and the occasion. Mostly dark colored, and sometimes I buy two of the same and have my hatter convert one to a matching hat band.
BTW>>>my great grandfather was a tie manufacturer, he set my grandfather (his SIL) up in the shirt business. When I was young we sold both lines in my father’s clothing stores. This was known as vertical integration. The government stopped oil companies and movie studios from doing this, but not the garment industry.
My weekday minyan is quite small so we tend to have regulars for each day of the week, unless someone has yahrzeit, is in sloshim or a visitor offered the amud.
That said I tend to daven for the amud on Tuesdays. This has only gone on since 2009 when my father Z”L was niftar. We have a family minhag that one doesn’t say even a reader’s kaddish while both parents are alive, I didn’t even daven for the amud on my Bar Mitzvah all those years ago.
For many years I lived in another CT city. The shul I belonged to was the result of a merger between Litvak (nusach Ashkenaz) and a Russian (Nusach Ari) shuls. The Litvak name went first but the shul davened Nusach Ari. I davened with my trusty old Tikun Meir Siddur–nusach Ashkenaz. For years the shammos tried to get me to daven for the amud and I always refused. He tried to sweeten the deal by saying I could daven my nusach. It never happened.
Now that middle daughter is to be wed soon and SIL will be in the neighborhood (working for me) I hope he’ll take over Tuesdays–he has a much better voice.
I’m under the impression that most ashkenasim don’t eat Rump steak in the US…so who needs a hashgacha?
Unlike Abba_S, I am a lawyer. I also grew up in the retail business and managed many of the stores owned by the family.
Which cashier gets relieved first is a management decision. It has nothing to do with seniority (in a non-union shop). The front end supervisor gets to decide who gets relieved and in what order.
You write that you worked a 7.5 hour shift and had a 30 minute lunch and 15 minute break.
You did not tell in which state you work. Labor laws vary by state. Here in CT the employer would have to grant you a 30 minute unpaid meal time after 5 hours of work. Other breaks, whether paid or unpaid are not required by law in an 8 hour shift. Breaks are negotiated between employer and employee. In most companies they tend to be standard by classification of employment and may be listed in an employee manual.
As for unpaid work time, that also varies by state. In CT an employee can not be required to clock in or out more than three minutes before the start of paid work or three minutes after work ends. Generally partial hours are divided in 10ths. If you handed in your till in the cash office and clocked out at 7 minutes past the hour, you’d be paid for 10 minutes. If you clocked out 3 minutes after the hour, you’d not be paid for the time. The 3 minute window is to make sure the employee is actually in position and ready to perform labor when the shift starts, not walking to a work station or putting on an apron, name tag, etc.
Other states may have different laws. That said, you are working in an unskilled job and are easily replaced. Call your state labor department and ask about the number of minutes you can work and legally not be paid. If the employer is in violation, find a way to bring it up in a casual conversation, such as you read on the intgernet that a company in X state was fined because its employees were working more than 5 minutes after their shift without being paid. You’d hate for this company to get caught doing the same thing and suffer penalties, when it could be corrected.
I think that a family is more comfortable when there is not a huge difference in socio-economic and education levels.
The new entrant to a family who comes from a lesser position should not have to feel uncomfortable about their circumstances or should their parents be forced to put on airs or go to expense they can not afford to keep up with the new in-laws. Also true, is that my child should not have to hide his/her wealth if marrying into a family of lesser means. If my son is the recipient of a large diamond that has come down thru the family, as well another jewels and sterling, etc. why shouldn’t his wife feel comfortable wearing and using them? She won’t if they are much bigger/better than those of her mother/sisters etc.
I don’t flaunt my money. My home is not the most expensive in the neighborhood. I don’t buy a new car every year. I don’t live above my means and give accordingly. BUT, no one should assume marriage is an automatic entree to my pocket.
This is not to say that I’d have a problem with a prospective SIL whose parents are of limited means. I would not expect him to go into great debt to put a ring on my daughter’s finger of same size and quality as her other sister wears. That said, he should not presume on a first date to negotiate his future support. If and only if there was interest on the part of my daughter and he passed the parent sniff test should this topic be broached.
I got a call from a rebbi at a yeshiva my 2nd son attended years ago. He told me that our family name was being circulated as a good catch because I had money, only 3 daughters and could easily afford to support a son-in-law and grandchildren. I found this offensive. The rebbi then said that he advised baal baatim such as myself to never buy a named space in the yeshiva…no brass placque on a classroom, etc., as that would make my children targets of wealth seekers, rather I should give anonymously.
I thanked him for his advice, but explained that my zaidy, Z”L taught me we had an obligation to show our name on donations to encorage those we know to make similar gifts. The rebbi replied: Make the donation in memory of or in honor of someone in the family and leave off the name of the donor from the placque.
Having 3 girls and 2 boys. Both boys married, one girl married, the second girl’s chassanah is set for before Pesach (3rd girl too young), that our girls rejected a second date more times than our sons.
It became blatantly obvious to our daughters that the dates had been led to believe that I was to be their meal ticket, something our daughters loathe.
This is not to say that I would not offer to support the couple for a period of time in the beginning of their marriage. BUT this is an offer for me to make, not a request/demand/condition to be laid out to a young lady on a first date.
Considering we have 4 dogs, it would not be a consideration in accepting an invitation.
We do tell invited guests that we have dogs and that they are very friendly and like to greet and play with visitors to our home.
We also warn that if you are allergic don’t visit as 2 of the dogs shed, the others have hair not fur.
We have a large fenced yard, and when we retire to the dining room, the dogs will be outside (weather permitting) or closed into the children’s den.
Here in the country, we’d be hard pressed to find non-dog owners, including the shul rabbi.
That being said, we also have a cat, but she lives in the master bedroom suite and doesn’t mix with guests.
We had one particular acquaintance who refused invitations for years based on the dogs, until last year when we had a week of very hot summer weather and she called my wife and asked if she could attend an all ladies swim party wife was hosting for charity. My wife told her only the one female dog would be in attendance.
nggo3
The Dewey reference is to show that we can have unexpected results
That is what may be strange in politics…there is no sure thing. Many a racehorse has stumbled approaching the finish line
nfgo3
Part of the function of this forum is to educate its participants, that’s why I pick nits when it comes to nomenclature and facts.
A caucus is different than a primary. Most states have primaries.
Suspending a campaign is not the same thing has dropping out of the race (which likely will occur). The campaign committee can still raise funds, advertise, etc and is dormant but could be resurrected should the Republican Convention be deadlocked and decide that Bush would be a better compromise candidate than the leading 3.
It also keeps the time requirements for reporting at the the longest legal length.
I just came back from a Democratic multi-town committee meeting here in CT. Our current State Senator (from a neighboring highly minority city) asked that we hold a fundraiser in our town next month as he/she would not be facing a primary. The senator was told we’d consider it. After the Senator left the room, a potential candidate who had suspended his run for the nomination 6 weeks ago presented enough petitions to force a primary.
Strange things happen in American politics. The Chicago papers published Dewey defeating Truman in 1948……………..
Flatbusher…………….
what high schooler takes out a loan? Anyone of them that applies to a seminary that will be giving college credit in an arrangement with a college in the USA.
15 Years ago when my eldest daughter wanted to spend a year in an Israeli Seminary, she was courted by one who offered college credit in conjunction with Cape Cod Community College. She was told she could fill out a FAFSA form and qualify for subsidized Stafford student loans, as well as Pell grants, etc.
She ended up not applying to that Seminary. She went to one in the USA and I sent her for the summer to stay with my sister and same age daughter in EY. BUT, other friends of hers did take the student loans to cover the year in Seminary.
Similarly, boys take the students loans coming out of high school to cover a year learning in EY at a Yeshiva that grants college credits through Touro.
nfgo3
Wish you’d get your facts straight.
The Republicans had their South Carolina primary this week. This thread is addressed to Democrats who will hold their South Carolina Primary Feb. 27th.
There was no primary in Nevada. The Democratic Party held caucuses in Nevada this week.
As I posted above. Jeb Bush will be on the ballot in the CT Republican primary. Just because he announced he was suspending his campaign doesn’t take him off the ballot. Should he win any delegates, they will be his to horse-trade at the national convention this summer.
That said, the Republican Presidential wannabes are quite lacking in what it takes to lead this country
Joseph you have just repeated what I stated in my reply to DY 7 hours ago
AviK
Military law applies on the base for members of the military. They subject themselves to it when they are sworn onto service. Military law doesn’t apply to local civilian employees on the base. They are subject to local laws and courts.
The military mail APO/FPO addresses are for the convenience of the military, not the foreign government.
An analogy might be made with Indian Reservations here in the US. Having 2 major casinos on Indian land (Foxwoods and Mohegan Sun) right here in Connecticut the topic comes up often. If you slip and fall while visiting the casino you have to sue in the tribal courts, not state courts. Your entry is considered consent to jurisdiction. Employees (mostly non-tribal members) are not covered by state wage and labor laws. However the land is still part of the sovereign United States, not the tribe. The tribes cannot erect customs and immigration checkpoints and/or negotiate treaties with other nations.
AS for standing, I do not pretend to know enough Illinois state law to expound on their requirements for standing. They may be far different than the federal court requirements. Without reading the suit one does not know the exact claim being made to exclude Cruz from the primary ballot. This case has nothing to do with the national election in November.
DassYochid………….
In legalese, ‘issue’ has a meaning that may be different from what you mean when you write issue.
When you write that it doesn’t seem logical, I think you mean that lack of logic is a concern of yours.
There are things that bother or concern me as well, but does noit mean they rise to the status of a legal ‘issue.’
Unfortunately, the English language is not precise. Different words have different meanings and interpretations in different places and contexts.
Unlike the French, we have no Academie Francaise, the final arbiter on word meaning and what is permitted to enter the dictionary.
Joseph…
How can you decide if the Plaintiff(s) in the current Illinois case have no standing?
Have you read the actual suit? Have you read the assorted 8 year old McCain suits that never went to trial?
A suit that is dismissed does not mean a verdict was rendered in favor of McCain and that he was ruled a native born son.
In none of my comments do I state that Cruz is NOT a native born son. I think under the law as interpreted by the courts until this date he is a native born son.
AviK
The fact that the free dictionary states that the land used as a military base is considered a form of territory doesn’t make it sovereign soil. In most cases it is leased for exclusive use by the military and the lessor has agreed that the lessee may govern what goes on withing the leased premises. This is quite different from sovereign soil.
In your reading of the section of Article 22 regarding entry by the host country: In many cases the US leases the embassy premises. The land is not owned by the US and cannot be US sovereign soil. Many countries do not allow foreigner to hold title to land in their own names.
The important point is that military bases, embassies and consulates are not sovereign US soil although they have special rights.
DasYochid…
The point you are missing is that primary elections are to elect delegates to the national political party conventions. While you may cast your primary vote for X, you are not voting for X. You are instructing your state party political convention to appoint/elect delegates to the national convention who pledge to vote for X on the first ballot.
Since state party rules vary, as do state election laws, the federal government doesn’t get to set rules for primary elections. Sometimes, the state supporters of a particular candidate don’t gather enough petition signatures to get X on the ballot. The federal government can’t tell states how many signatures are necessary.
The primary elections are state affairs, no federal official is being elected, in fact, no public office is being decided.
The states’ rights in this matter are sovereign under the 10th Amendment.
The fact that is doesn’t seem logical is not the issue.
MAYBE….if we ever amend the US Constitution to have direct election of the President, then we could have a primary process under federal rules.
Remember, you and no other elector has ever cast a vote in November for a candidate for US President. We vote for a members of the Electoral College tp be named later that will vote for the President. This is why we can end up with a President who lost the popular vote. The will of the poeple does not decide the Presidency in the USA.
Joseph…..
A suit that was dismissed has no bearing on the current anti-Cruz candidacy suits filed in state courts. Stare Decisis–the court has ruled…only is applied to cases where courts have made decisions and the decisions will be followed by other courts.
Furthermore, the question in the two candidates’ cases is substantially different.
In the Illinois suit re: Cruz, it is asked if the child of a US citizen mother residing full time in Canada at the time of birth is a native born citizen?
The question in McCain suits was: is the child of 2 US citizens, one an active duty military officer, born in the Panama Canal Zone, territory leased to the USA a native born citizen.
While somewhat similar in nature, in that ‘native born citizen’ has never been fully defined by the courts, the circumstances of birth are different. Military personnel do not always get to choose where they are deployed. Cruz’s mother left the USA by choice.
Personally I do not care if Cruz is on the primary ballots. CT does not allow crossover voting, and as I am not a registered Republican I could not vote for him in the CT primary (his name is on the ballor an d no suit has been filed to remove it).
DY……..
Who gets on a ballot in an individual state is a state law question, not a FEDERAL question.
The primary elections are state elections, not federal and the federal courts cannot impose their rules on such. That would violate the states rights guaranteed under the 10th Amendment to the US Constitution.
The States determine who can be on the ballot and who can vote.
In some states convicted felons never get to vote. Here in CT after a convicted felon has completed his/her prison time, probation and/or parole and made all ordered fine and/or restitution payments the vote may be restored. Some states never give the vote back, and a few let felons vote from prison.
In many states you must be a registered member of the political party to vote in its primary election (CT requires this). Other states have crossover elections which allow any registered voter to vote in a primary.
The current question being asked: is Cruz eligible to be on a particular state’s primary ballot MUST be answered by that state’s courts.
IF and ONLY IF the state court rules NO and Cruz claims the decision violates one of his US Constitutional rights could the appeal be heard in federal court and federal law applied.
For example if state X turns Cruz down for not being born on native soil, fine. But if it is claimed that it is because Cruz is of Canadian national origin, as opposed to just a foreign birth it would be cause for appeal to the federal courts. National origin is one of the constitutionally protected forms of discrimination.
AviK……….
and you are getting this education without paying the $600+ per credit hour the students in my law class pay.
Correcting misconceptions about the law is pro bono on my part. Since I don’t know you, or your real name and we are not in a live group where identities are known; correcting in public or embarrassing someone by calling them out on misstatement of facts is not an issue.
As for the idea that Embassies are US soil is is a very common one, repeatedly spread by the press and even well meaning (but incorrect) school teachers.
AviK
US Embassies and consulates abroad are NOT US Soil. You might want to read the Vienna Convention on Diplomatic Relations (1961) Articles 22 and 23.
The Vienna Convention sets out the rules for Embassies and the US is a party to it.
Article 22
1. The premises of the mission shall be inviolable. The agents of the receiving State may not enter them, except with the consent of the head of the mission.
2. The receiving State is under a special duty to take all appropriate steps to protect the premises of the mission against any intrusion or damage and to prevent any disturbance of the peace of the mission or impairment of its dignity.
3. The premises of the mission, their furnishings and other property thereon and the means of transport of the mission shall be immune from search, requisition, attachment or execution.
Article 23
1. The sending State and the head of the mission shall be exempt from all national, regional or municipal dues and taxes in respect of the premises of the mission, whether owned or leased, other than such as represent payment for specific services rendered.
There are a few phrases, all in Article 22, which have to do with mission sovereignty.
1. The premises of a mission shall be inviolable
Nobody can enter the mission without permission- this includes the host country
2. The receiving State is under a special duty to take all appropriate steps to protect the premises of the mission against any intrusion or damage and to prevent any disturbance of the peace of the mission or impairment of its dignity
If you visit the US Embassy, especially in more dangerous parts of the world, you will see the exterior of the mission being guarded by local nationals. The inside will have a marine detachment, but the outside will either be local police or military.
Similar to number one, unless the individual or party is asked to conduct any of the above, it is not allowed by a host country or any entity. The premise, just like the diplomat and their family, is awarded immunity.
If you are curious about what diplomatic immunity entails, you should read Articles 29-41.
Though the immunity can be violated, for the most part it is respected. Without such immunity, the life of a diplomatic would be more difficult during times of aggression within and between countries.
AviK
“There is now a suit on the matter but probably it will not be decided unless Cruz is elected as American courts do not rule on hypothetical matters”
The suit in Illinois was reinstated by the judge after its original dismissal.
You don’t know enough about the law to make such statements. You have most likely not read the actual lawsuit only news reports.
The lawsuit seeks to remove Cruz’s name from the Illinois primary ballot, making the claim he in not a natural born citizen.
This is not a ‘hypothetical’ question, but one that is ‘ripe’ for action.
A prospective suit at this time in FEDERAL court claiming that Cruz could not legally serve as President would likely be tossed for lack of ripeness. He is not the party nominee, nor has he been elected by the Electoral College.
The current question before the Illinois court could also be brought in other states that have Cruz’s name on the primary ballot. These are state law questions and a ruling in one state is not binding on other states.
It’s now 5 months since my last post in this thread.
Yesterday CT Secretary of State Denise Merrill announced the candidates who have qualified to be on the ballot for the Presidential primaries in Connecticut.
Democrat: Clinton, Sanders
Republican: Bush, Carson, Cruz, Kasich, Rubio and Trump.
The primary election opened to registered members of the parties ONLY will take place Tuesday April 26, Chol HaMoed Pesach.
I usually vote absentee, my shinuii will be to vote in person. I not only get to vote in the Democratic Primary, but will also be a delegate to our State Democratic Convention.
I have not yet made up my mind. I’d like to see which additional Republicans drop out of the race before deciding. Ideologically I am closer to Clinton. I have met both candidates personally, knowing Pres and Secy Clinton since their days at Yale Law School and Sanders since he was Mayor of Burlington, VT.
I will vote for whichever Democrat I consider to be a stronger candidate against the remaining Rs.
All in all, I’d prefer Bloomberg get into the race……….But it won’t happen.
oomis………….
Don’t know what kind of bread the OP was referring to, only mention is whole wheat flour.
I learned to bake in a commercial bakery back in 1976. We didn’t cover the dough balls, they went on boards on racks into proofing cabinets.
At home, after making and kneading the dough for bread and making the balls, I usually place them on a greased sheet pan and invert a large stainless steel mixing bowl over each ball. This allows for the dough to rise without touching or sticking to the cover.
SayIDidIt………
Try using some bamboo BBQ skewers (a pkg of 50 is about $1 in the supermarket). Cut to about 4-6 in lengths.
Puncturing the dough and not leaving the sticks in during the rise will cause the dough to seal up. In fact to help leave some airspace you can spray the sticks with veg oil (Pam type). Similarly you can use narrow diameter plastic drinking straws cut to 1/2 length.
FYI> The slashes you see on rye and other breads are made after the loaf is formed and risen to allow steam to escape during baking. If you slash before rising, it will just seal up during the rise (also know as proofing).
The aeration or puncturing the skin of the dough allows the rise to occur faster. It can be done with wooden matches, toothpicks etc.
The ‘risers’ also keep the towels or plastic wrap from stocking to the dough and holding back the expansion.
Queen……….
There is nothing to stop you calling your cleaning lady a maid. I remember when maids lived in, wore uniforms provided by the employer and provided services for the person, not just housework. I’m old enough to have experienced both and differentiate the titles.
At 8 I was responsible for my own laundry on an ongoing basis. What a treat summer camp was..they did the wash. Cooking was taught as a life skill. I cooked occasionally as a child, but mom usually had cooked food in the fridge if she had an evening meeting at school or the Board of Education.
Cooking skills were important while in college and law school. My college had kosher food available Mon-Friday only, and law school not at all, as a single living on own I was so thankful for my early training in the kitchen. In early adulthood, I ended up buying a kosher food establishment that was a good investment. During peak wedding season, I put my Saturday nights and Sundays in behind the stoves or doing prep work.
To this day, I do about 60% of the cooking in the house. My law office is attached to the home (separate outside entrance) and it is easy to slip away from my desk into the kitchen or laundry to put something in the oven or move a load of wash.
As for your comment about kids not washing clothing as often if they have to do their own:
Youngest daughter (19 today’s her birthday) is a laundry nut. Constantly doing wash. When my wife designed the new bathroom and dressing room between her’s and her other single sister’s bedroom, youngest insisted (and paid for it herself) that a stackable washer/dryer be installed for her use. No dragging laundry through the house to the laundry room, or chancing someone else using the machines when she wanted to do laundry.
OTOH, other single daughter tends to just raid youngest’s clothing supply and wear those. They are the same size and have similar clothing taste….and it’s done with permission.
Joseph………..
Shabbos is over. The adult children have gone out for the evening and the grandchildren spending the President’s Day weekend have been put to bed.
I have just put the Shabbos table linen in the wash. They will be dried folded and put away before I go to bed tonight.
My mother Z”L spent her adult life as a teacher and principal, When each of us reached 8 years old she taught us how to do laundry (and cook) and from then on we did our own. I do my wash, Mrs. CTLawyer does hers, and our children do their own when they happen to be here (only two single ones left and both are away at school).
I do the towels and table linens. The one extravagance is that we take bed linens to a local laundry that charges by the pound to launder and iron them. That costs us about $15 per week. Well worth it in my opinion.
BTW>>>we do not have a maid. We have a cleaning woman who comes in one morning per week for 4 hours, then she eats a lunch prepared for her and goes next door for two hours to clean my Mother in law’s home.
Neither my wife or I are above running a vacuum, sweeping a floor, changing a bed, taking out trash, etc.
Most of the time only my wife and I are in residence, so it’s not hard to keep up with the house and laundry.
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akuperma…………………
Don’t bother translating the discussion into Yiddish for me. This 5th generation born in America frum 60+ year old and is 6th generation children and 7th generation grandchildren don’t use Yiddish.
BTW>>>neither did any of my maternal line, even back in Germany prior to coming to NY in 1868.
and yes I went to Yeshiva in NY, my sons in NY and EY, grandsons too young, and we attended shiurim in Hebrew, English and Aramaic, not Yiddish.
Not all frum people are of eastern European lineage that speak, read, write Yiddish…or have any desire to do so.
Joseph,
One doesn’t need three, but in this case the driver/sofer and rebbi also served as the witnesses. The dayan from Brooklyn doesn’t take/use non-Chabad witnesses and he doesn’t have to say to someone local you are not acceptable to me.
The cost would not have been any cheaper if we needed a dayan and a sofer plus non=partisan witnesses.
Joesph…
A simple Get…where the beis din doesn’t have to travel to the clients out of town and both parties are present typically runs from $500-$800.
I recently brought a Chabad beis din from Brooklyn to CT for a client’s get. The wife was planning to remarry within the Chabad sphere, the couple had a civil divorce granted 5 years ago and had lived apart for 7 years. The dayan’s driver was also the sofer and a member of the tribunal and a cousin of the dayan, who is a long time rebbe in a local day school (a true Talmud Chocham with smicha) served as the 3rd member. We used a classroom at the day school as a neutral site. The fees were $1200 including travel and we made a $100 donation to the day school for use of the room.
As for my use of the word affiliated, it may have been a poor choice. Since 1994 BDA is an autonomous organization, not a branch of RCA. I think the affiliation refers to the fact that BDA’s dayanim are members of the RCA/UOJCA and those organizations hold by BDA decisions and refer cases there.
Joseph………
regarding fee structures………..
The Beth Din of America has set fees to maintain an ongoing organization with offices and full time employees.
This is quite different than Hareidi/Chasidic batei din comprised of part time Dayanim and witnesses gathered on the spot.
To save clients future aggravation I recommend BDA for gittin, as the records are stored in an ongoing concern, not some basement and I know if we need the records 30 years out so a child born of a second marriage can be married in EY or out of town, I can access the records. This peace of mind is worth the $200 the client might save on a get from a lesser known beis din.
Joseph….
The Beth Din of America is NOT affiliated with the RCA. It became an autonomous organization back in 1994. Many people still have this misconception.
Joseph……….
as a trust and family law attorney, any Jewish clients seeking a civil divorce are informed of the necessity of procuring a Get from a Beis Din in order to be able to remarry.
I have sent many to Batei Din for gittin and incorporated the get in the civil case record.
I don’t do a lot of contact work, except for my trust clients. But if there is a contract dispute and both parties are Jewish I do recommend a Beis Din before a civil trial. I have one family in particular, where I handle 5 generations of people who have trusts and beneficiaries who submit to the Beis Din when there are disputes concerning the trusts.
Joseph>>>
copied and pasted from the website of Beth Din of America in NYC:
FEES
Typically, a din torah case is heard by a panel of three dayanim (arbitrators) at the rate of $300 per hour per side ($600 per hour total). Cases involving amounts in controversy of less than $10,000 are typically heard by a single dayan at the rate of $150 per hour per side ($300 per hour total
As taught by the old Irish Spinster in my 6th grade English class (more than half a century ago): You can shut a window, you can shut a door, but you can’t shut up.
I have no idea of the circumstances of the OP’s friend.
Mrs. CTlawyer and I celebrated our 45th anniversary this year. We spent a day in NYC doing some of the things we’d done while dating all those years ago, and not since. Circle Line tour, Empire State Building Observation Deck and a trip to the Natural History Museum.
We did also make a shopping detour on 47th Street for a new bauble