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Queen, Golfer’s post of Rotterdam hadn’t shown on my screen when I posted.
as for >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>s Just hit the shift key and they are above the period on the same key. <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<are above the comma.
Queen,
I posted Amsterdam 3 days ago…long before golfer.
This post was Rotterdam, a different city in The Netherlands that begins with R
Following Reisha>>>>>>>>>>
Allentown, PA.
A branch of our family settled and opened a garment factory there in 1924.
LC
I’m not correcting you. My point was for general education of the CR. Many are NY centric.
Rotterdam..the Netherlands.
Where my great-great grandparents sailed from in 1868 for America
lesschumras
Marriage and divorce laws vary by state, they are not set by federal statutes.
As I’ve stated before I practice family law along with wills, trusts, estates.
A number of years ago, here in CT the decision was made that any civil marriage dissolved by the courts during the first year is deemed to have been annulled. No divorce decree is granted by the court.
Newark, NJ
Didn’t there used to be Jews there?
Mazal Tov.
and Mrs. CTLawyer won’t be offended that you claim to be the Best Bubby ever. She is known as Oma.
there’s a website that offers intro lessons in Aramaic. with free downloadable pdfs
Kent is for the town with the falls on the Housatonic river, not the cigarette
LOL land of lakes also known as Minnesota
Derby, CT
It used to have a shul…with basketball hoops in the auditorium
I cleaned it up for this forum……………..
Older brother had his mouth washed out with soap for the original words
Apushatayid………….
In the early days of the republic..New Haven and Hartford were co-capitals of CT. The legislature split its term. BUT for almost 200 years it’s Hartford.
Much to popa’s chagrin Yale wields little influence in state politics. It’s the big businesses in lower Fairfield county and Insurance and United Technologies near Hartford that pull the strings.
Since you said Hartford:
Denver, CO
Home of the highest Jewish community in the USA…not drugs, altitude
popa_bar_abba
There was a school chant to the tune of Battle Hymn of the Republic
Mine eyes have seen the glory of the closing of the school,
We have tortured every teacher.
We have broken every rule.
We are marching down the corridors to get the principal
Our troops go marching on.
almost 60 years ago when my older brother brought this ditty home. He then suffered the wrath of my mother who was a school principal at the time.
Edinburgh………..
Another castle for Queen Elizabeth…
BTW>>>>Yale is not a city, though it controls New Haven, NOT the state.
Growing up in New Haven as a townie, I detest Yale. That’s why I went to Univ of Pa…Ivy league in Philadelphia. 45 years ago there were far more kosher options in Phila than New Haven.
Albany, NY
Where they decide your state taxes (your’s not mine, I’m in CT)
Antwerp, Belgium
Where my diamond dealer learned his trade
following ProYidden
Amsterdam
Home to Anne Frank and family
So you talked about the non-family topics. Now it’s time for more personal likes/dislikes: Food, Music, the arts. Family, where you’d like to live in the future…etc.
By mid way through the 3rd date you should be able to discuss whether this should go further and arrange to meet families if you expect to continue
Joseph……..
I’ve posted that I am an elected official in a Connecticut community. I ran this past November. We are able to get a list from the Registrar of voters that gives name, address, age, phone, party affiliation AND whether or not you voted in the past 3 elections for that office (in person or by absentee ballot).
We use that information to target potential voters who actually vite, not just are registered.
NO:
4. What types of calls are not covered by the National Do Not Call Registry?
The do not call provisions do not cover calls from political organizations, charities, telephone surveyors, or companies with which a consumer has an existing business relationship.
This is from Federal Trade Commission National Do Not Call Registry website.
So, if that Yeshiva or organization is a tax exempt charity, or you have an existing relationship: you’ve donated in the , you went to school there 40 years ago, etc. They can call you legally.
This being a national election year, you may receive many annoying campaign calls…all legal.
Joseph………
My son hadn’t asked the girl to marry him yet, he wanted to meet her parents first.
He didn’t discuss these items, they bombarded him with their expectations.
If the potential in-laws wanted to discuss what would come from my pocket they should have been asking me, not telling my son what they expected.
@brotherofurs……….
Your feeling is not that unusual, voicing it in a frum forum is.
I am a lawyer who practices a lot of family law. Your expression is a regret often voiced by women coming to me seeking a divorce. They feel they married too young and didn’t sample what was out there. They were pressured to move quickly so a prime catch shouldn’t get away.
That said, there is no way you could date/meet every available young man on the shidduch circuit. BUT, you shouldn’t be forced to make a lifelong decision based on just a few samples.
It’s one thing to have buyer’s regret when you aren’t happy with a pair of shoes, a husband is much more difficult to return.
Happened to my son number 2……….
after about three months of dating in NY where both he and the young lady were studying:
HE FINALLY MET THE PARENTS.
Fifteen minutes with the potential in-laws was all it took to break it off. They immediately got busy telling with my son how much they expected me to pay towards the wedding and setting up the couple’s household. Wife and I had not met them.
Totally inappropriate, turned son right off, he couldn’t imagine being tethered to these people for the rest of his life.
I don’t know but my Spanish Onions are grown in Georgia.
dovrosenbaum……..
As I’ve stated I have 4 dogs. They are dogs, they are not people. Their only clothing are woven collars necessary to both hold their license and rabies tags and attach the leash if need be.
They are all rescues, not expensive purchases from puppy mill breeder.
That said, if they take ill, they receive appropriate medical care. One doesn’t just end a life because medical care costs money. Even if that life is canine, not human.
Expensive is a relative term. I don’t know what you earn, it’s none of my business. You don’t know what I earn, it’s none of your business, suffice it to say I would not have 4 dogs and their accompanying expenses if I could not easily afford it and all my other obligations are met.
dovrosenbaum………..
to put it bluntly, who are you to decide whether I should spend money on a veterinarian bill or have to give that same amount of money away to “serve the needs of the people?”
That sounds like the dogma of a totalitarian or Communist state.
What I earn is mine. I give far more than the biblical tithe in tzedaka. If it gives my family pleasure to have pets and maintain them in a healthy state, it is not for someone else to decide that ‘my money’ should have gone to meet needs of other people.
That attitude is no different than begrudging my wife a new dress for Pesach or suggesting we eat noodles instead of beef, because the additional cost could have been spent on the needs of other people.
As long as I make the money and am properly charitable, I am entitled to spend the rest as I see fit, as long as it is legal and moral.
Besides, Veterinarians are entitled to make a living. They have great expenses in their education and equipping a practice. Who are you to say they shouldn’t have a chance to recover the cost and provide for their families.
As long as I am not asking others for financial help for my family, you have no right to pass judgment on my spending.
Before Pesach, I am marrying off a daughter. I am not going into debt to do so. It may be a more lavish simcha than you think necessary. But it will provide parnassah for the venue, caterer/workers, orchestra, florist, baker, and other vendors. What’s more for every dollar spent on my daughter’s simcha 50 cents is being donated to a Kallah fund. I have no obligation to do so, I do it gladly.
Joseph………..
How wrong your observation is. I am the complete opposite of a pro-gun activist.
I’ll not get into such a debate on this board as I don’t hope to change minds and my mind won’t be changed either.
Joseph…………
It varies with the task.
If I do the work (senior partner) it is more expensive than if it is done by an associate or paralegal..
Most in office work for established clients is billed at $350 per hour. Trial work is generally $525 per hour (8 hour day minimums-as I have to clear my calendar and am at the beck and call of the judge).
None of this is for criminal work, which I don’t do. Some things are flat rate: adoption, divorce, wills, trusts, probate.
These rates are comparable for established (over age 50 lawyers) in my area…certainly less than NYC rates.
That said, it’s important to realize that billing rates don’t equal profit. All the overhead/expenses of the form have tgo come out of the revenue.
Many long time clients get preferential rates and we do a great deal of pro bono work as well.
I have not raised rates since 2010 and don’t expect to do so before I retire. My children who will take over the practice will decide what they’ll charge when they are the bosses.
The Queen……
It is not embedded in your DNA, it may have been drilled into your psyche by your parents, grandparents, teachers and other elders.
Attack animals have been used to control people of all kinds over the millenia. Dogs don’t persecute people, other people do, and they use assorted tools to aid in the task.I type this at my desk. My 8 year old Yorkie is lying in a bed on the desk next to the computer. My grandson is on the rug playing with two of our other dogs.
My brother in law, who has lost his sight in a 30 year battle with diabetes is training to walk with a seeing eye dog. We are all comfortable with dogs, all grew up with them as pets and have no embedded fear/loathing in our DNA.
Flatbusher……..
I don’t have an off the rack body.
If you truly feel that just adjusting length on an off the rack garment leaves you with the feeling that the garment hangs properly on your body, moves smoothly with your every movement and has no spots where it either hangs loosely or is a bit too clingy, then off the rack is fine.
If, however, you can afford it, and want to choose the fabric, colors, collar, fit, shoulder style, padding, the rise of the slacks, etc. and have a custom suit and shirts…the chances are you will not go back to off the rack.
The quality is such that they tend to last longer than off the rack and if you wear classic styles they will be in your clothing rotation for many years.
My tailor has all my measurements. Often I stop in only to pick fabrics. Sometimes, I buy fabrics when traveling and the tailor only provides labor.
These days I typically pay about $1200 for a 3 piece suit and $45 for long sleeves shirts (ordered by the 1/2 dozen) plus material. Interfacing, linings, buttons and trim are included in the labor price. All have my name embroidered inside the garment and shirts have my monogram on the sleeve cuff.
The midnight blue suit with a burgundy pinstripe I wore to a political event last night is about 10 years old. It looks as if it was made last month. It shows no wear and has held its shape beautifully. The pants are constructed with a 5 inch high gripper band to hold my shirt tails in place and have suspender buttons in the pants. I wore a white background shirt that had the same burgundy pinstripe as the suit. A burgundy toe with midnight blue emblems completed the outfit. This was appropriate for the occasion or court or seeing clients in my law office. As I’ve explained in the oast, when I was a young lawyer starting out, a wise mentor told me ‘only the judges wear black’ I wear midnight blue or charcoal gray to court. My Shabbos suits are black
RebYidd23
If you think that neckties are just a more grown up version of a bib you do not know the historical development of neckties and their decorations.
Neckties became a way for former military members to show their past association when wearing civilian dress. The diagonally striped ties are know as Regimental or Reps. The particular color combinations told others which regiment of the British army you had served in.
Similarly there are school ties and club ties. When the average prep school or Ivy League student or graduate was wearing a Navy Blue Wool Blazer, grey flannel slacks and a white shirt, the emblems on the navy tie told others which school he had attended or which fraternity he had joined.
After Yeshiva I attended an Ivy League University and law school. Those symbols on my ties were very useful in making business connections as a young lawyer. What today is seen by most as a fashion item started as a means of rank and identification.
Even to this day in better mens stores in the UK sales of striped ties are often restricted to former members of the particular regiment. I can remember 40 years ago wearing a striped tie I had bought in NY while on a business tripe to London. A retired miltary man who had heard my Yankee accent while observing the stripes on my tied took offense that I was wearing a tie without a tie to his regiment.
sefardi guy………..
Maybe his father or grandfather changed it, but he was born Sanders.
Flatbusher………..
Nothing about me is slim.
I have my shirts custom made for me, same with suits and slacks. I’ve done this since we left the clothing business in 1976. The initial cost is higher than off the rack, but they last far longer and are far more comfortable. It is not unusual for me to put on a dress shirt that was made 10 or 12 years ago. Granted I keep about 3 dozen shirts in my daily rotation.
flatbusher….
I wear 100% cotton shirts. I am blessed with a teen-aged daughter who finds ironing very relaxing.
I only wear silk ties. I don’t like the look or feel of man made materials. That said the silk tie also holds a knot better than polyester. I wear a tie that suits my mood and the occasion. Mostly dark colored, and sometimes I buy two of the same and have my hatter convert one to a matching hat band.
BTW>>>my great grandfather was a tie manufacturer, he set my grandfather (his SIL) up in the shirt business. When I was young we sold both lines in my father’s clothing stores. This was known as vertical integration. The government stopped oil companies and movie studios from doing this, but not the garment industry.
My weekday minyan is quite small so we tend to have regulars for each day of the week, unless someone has yahrzeit, is in sloshim or a visitor offered the amud.
That said I tend to daven for the amud on Tuesdays. This has only gone on since 2009 when my father Z”L was niftar. We have a family minhag that one doesn’t say even a reader’s kaddish while both parents are alive, I didn’t even daven for the amud on my Bar Mitzvah all those years ago.
For many years I lived in another CT city. The shul I belonged to was the result of a merger between Litvak (nusach Ashkenaz) and a Russian (Nusach Ari) shuls. The Litvak name went first but the shul davened Nusach Ari. I davened with my trusty old Tikun Meir Siddur–nusach Ashkenaz. For years the shammos tried to get me to daven for the amud and I always refused. He tried to sweeten the deal by saying I could daven my nusach. It never happened.
Now that middle daughter is to be wed soon and SIL will be in the neighborhood (working for me) I hope he’ll take over Tuesdays–he has a much better voice.
I’m under the impression that most ashkenasim don’t eat Rump steak in the US…so who needs a hashgacha?
Unlike Abba_S, I am a lawyer. I also grew up in the retail business and managed many of the stores owned by the family.
Which cashier gets relieved first is a management decision. It has nothing to do with seniority (in a non-union shop). The front end supervisor gets to decide who gets relieved and in what order.
You write that you worked a 7.5 hour shift and had a 30 minute lunch and 15 minute break.
You did not tell in which state you work. Labor laws vary by state. Here in CT the employer would have to grant you a 30 minute unpaid meal time after 5 hours of work. Other breaks, whether paid or unpaid are not required by law in an 8 hour shift. Breaks are negotiated between employer and employee. In most companies they tend to be standard by classification of employment and may be listed in an employee manual.
As for unpaid work time, that also varies by state. In CT an employee can not be required to clock in or out more than three minutes before the start of paid work or three minutes after work ends. Generally partial hours are divided in 10ths. If you handed in your till in the cash office and clocked out at 7 minutes past the hour, you’d be paid for 10 minutes. If you clocked out 3 minutes after the hour, you’d not be paid for the time. The 3 minute window is to make sure the employee is actually in position and ready to perform labor when the shift starts, not walking to a work station or putting on an apron, name tag, etc.
Other states may have different laws. That said, you are working in an unskilled job and are easily replaced. Call your state labor department and ask about the number of minutes you can work and legally not be paid. If the employer is in violation, find a way to bring it up in a casual conversation, such as you read on the intgernet that a company in X state was fined because its employees were working more than 5 minutes after their shift without being paid. You’d hate for this company to get caught doing the same thing and suffer penalties, when it could be corrected.
I think that a family is more comfortable when there is not a huge difference in socio-economic and education levels.
The new entrant to a family who comes from a lesser position should not have to feel uncomfortable about their circumstances or should their parents be forced to put on airs or go to expense they can not afford to keep up with the new in-laws. Also true, is that my child should not have to hide his/her wealth if marrying into a family of lesser means. If my son is the recipient of a large diamond that has come down thru the family, as well another jewels and sterling, etc. why shouldn’t his wife feel comfortable wearing and using them? She won’t if they are much bigger/better than those of her mother/sisters etc.
I don’t flaunt my money. My home is not the most expensive in the neighborhood. I don’t buy a new car every year. I don’t live above my means and give accordingly. BUT, no one should assume marriage is an automatic entree to my pocket.
This is not to say that I’d have a problem with a prospective SIL whose parents are of limited means. I would not expect him to go into great debt to put a ring on my daughter’s finger of same size and quality as her other sister wears. That said, he should not presume on a first date to negotiate his future support. If and only if there was interest on the part of my daughter and he passed the parent sniff test should this topic be broached.
I got a call from a rebbi at a yeshiva my 2nd son attended years ago. He told me that our family name was being circulated as a good catch because I had money, only 3 daughters and could easily afford to support a son-in-law and grandchildren. I found this offensive. The rebbi then said that he advised baal baatim such as myself to never buy a named space in the yeshiva…no brass placque on a classroom, etc., as that would make my children targets of wealth seekers, rather I should give anonymously.
I thanked him for his advice, but explained that my zaidy, Z”L taught me we had an obligation to show our name on donations to encorage those we know to make similar gifts. The rebbi replied: Make the donation in memory of or in honor of someone in the family and leave off the name of the donor from the placque.
Having 3 girls and 2 boys. Both boys married, one girl married, the second girl’s chassanah is set for before Pesach (3rd girl too young), that our girls rejected a second date more times than our sons.
It became blatantly obvious to our daughters that the dates had been led to believe that I was to be their meal ticket, something our daughters loathe.
This is not to say that I would not offer to support the couple for a period of time in the beginning of their marriage. BUT this is an offer for me to make, not a request/demand/condition to be laid out to a young lady on a first date.
Considering we have 4 dogs, it would not be a consideration in accepting an invitation.
We do tell invited guests that we have dogs and that they are very friendly and like to greet and play with visitors to our home.
We also warn that if you are allergic don’t visit as 2 of the dogs shed, the others have hair not fur.
We have a large fenced yard, and when we retire to the dining room, the dogs will be outside (weather permitting) or closed into the children’s den.
Here in the country, we’d be hard pressed to find non-dog owners, including the shul rabbi.
That being said, we also have a cat, but she lives in the master bedroom suite and doesn’t mix with guests.
We had one particular acquaintance who refused invitations for years based on the dogs, until last year when we had a week of very hot summer weather and she called my wife and asked if she could attend an all ladies swim party wife was hosting for charity. My wife told her only the one female dog would be in attendance.
nggo3
The Dewey reference is to show that we can have unexpected results
That is what may be strange in politics…there is no sure thing. Many a racehorse has stumbled approaching the finish line