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Separate sinks, counters, dishwashers, ovens, refrigerators
This is one time segregation is according to law
Geordie613….
Chevrolets of your childhood
“Ag pleez Deddy won’t you take us off to Durban
It’s only eight hours in the Chevro-lay
There’s spans of sea an’ sand an’ sun
And fish in the aquari-yum
That’s a lekker place for a holi-day”
Golfer’s memories are similar to my experience growing up and as a young married. Nobody sent store bought or packaged items except if there was a bottle of alcohol.
In 1990 I was shul president. The rabbi and I discussed the problem of receiving home baked items that we might not reliably eat. We got together with the president of the sisterhood and came up with a new program.
The Sundy 7-10 days before Purim was baking day at the shul Members brought in their ingredients and they were all checked and approved (or not) by the rabbi. All mixing was done with shul utensils in shul keilim. Baking was done on the shul’s sheet pans or disposable aluminum trays. After teh items were cooled each person would package tehm in polyfilm tape or tie them shut and a sticker would be affixed stating that these homemade goodies were made under the personal supervision of Rabbi xxxx and were Pas Yisroel and pareve or cholav Yisroel as marked.
We charge $18 per baker which went to the Matonos Evyonim Fund.
This system worked well for about 10 years until the shul building was sold. The new building did not have dairy ovens.
My BIL was a shul rav in Massachusetts and adoped this idea and it has been in place fopr 25 years.
Local police recognize vanity plates. In fact some towns provide the police with a list of office holder, board and commission members’ plates. The officers tend to be a bit more lenient with these. It is easier to recognize and remember a vanity plate such as CTL-ESQ (NOT MINE, made up for this post) than a sequence of 8 random numbers and letters.
The CT 100 club was founded about 40 years ago. 100 citizens pledged $100 per year to help support the families of state troopers wounded or killed in the line of duty. The members get a Bronze medallion that mounts on the car. Over the years membership has expanded and the yearly donation has gone up.
Does it support a good cause? Yes
Do officers sometime ignore minor infractions because there family might benefit if tragedy strikes? Possibly
The second is not why I belong. I originally joined after being asked to contribute towards the cost of hearing aids for an elderly police widow who recived a tiny pension. I thought it was a proper cause to support.
Joseph,
Keeping the CT license, registration and address equals far lower insurance premiums (especially when the cars are on my policy and I pay the invoice). No chance of NY points raising the premiums. Not one of the family has ever had a ticket here in CT. (The vanity plates and CT 100 Club Medallions help as well).
None of my immediate family lives in EY, but several of the extended family do.
One thing that two cousins did to help with housing costs when they were quite young was to find an elderly widow/widower still living alone in a large apartment that needed some live in help. In exchange for some of that assistance, they were able to get cheap rent in a large space.
One eventually wrote a contract to buy the apartment at a greatly reduced rate after the elderly person died (in consideration of the care given). The other inherited the 4 bedroom apartment from the deceased. The will stated that since her children could not be bothered caring for her for the last 12 years of her life that my niece and her husband/kids who shared their love and kindness deserved it. She deceased left each of her children 100 NIS so they could not claim they were left out of the will by mistake.
This is not a new concept, back in the early 1970s when I was in college this was a way that a number of my friends afforded Manhattan rent.
You need to be creative in your thinking to afford housing in a tight market. I just rented out an apartment in a duplex with an option to buy after one year. I’ll give the tenant $250 month credit at closing from her rent plus handle the closing so there is no legal fee.
Joseph,
I am well aware of this. That is why we never permitted our children to get NY licenses while at school in NY. As long as they come back to CT once every 30 days they can keep cars registered here and use CT driver’s licenses.
In general, NY has an attitude, they don’t like to share <VBG>
Not after the age of five
Takamamash…………….
Since you mentioned my name
I arrive in the synagogue dressed in a suit if it is a work day. I hang my suit jacket in the cloak room and put on my Talis before entering the minyan room. I find I am not comfortable with the one arm through a sleeve and the other hanging loose, jacket buttoned at the waist method. I have the talis on until I leave the minyan room and put my suit jacket back on in the cloak room.
I find nothing disrespectful in being garbed for prayer in a full sized talis.
On non-work non-Shabbos or Yuntif days, I may not be dressed in a suit. If I’m wearing a zip up jacket it also will be hung in the cloak room.
On Shabbos and Yuntif I wear my suit jacket under the talis with both arms through their respective sleeve.
BTW>>both my father and grandfather had the same method regarding their suit jackets. Why mistreat a quality garment by wearing it in a manner for which it was not made?
Lightbrite…….
I know the difference between a Pharmacist with a 6 year education and a Pharmacy Tech with a 2 year course (both must be licensed in CT). The pharmacy must post a sign with the name of the Pharmacist on duty during all opening hours (in CT).
I disagree that Pharmacists are medically trained. They have taken some courses that medical professionals take, but that is not being medically trained. They have far more courses in Chemistry than medicine.
I live in small town New England. The chain pharmacists are not serving non-English speakers. Many of the new hires from abroad attended Pharmacy school outside the USA and have been given provisional licenses because there is a shortage of pharmacists to staff the 24/7 chains.
There is no reason for a town of 20-30.000 people to have 4 24/7 chain pharmacies, service suffers. We have Walgreens, Rite-Aid, CVS at one intersection. None of them have operating consultation windows.
Last time I asked to speak to the Pharmacist at Walgreens I was told it would be a 2 hour wait.
I now use an independent pharmacy that only fills Rx and does not sell general merchandise.
lesschumras
“What menicL SS book did you go to? “
I have absolutely no ideas what this gibberish means.
That said in many states, a non-licensed professional can be charged for acting as if licensed in a profession.
A non-lawyer can be charged for giving legal advice for remuneration.
A pharmacist who diagnoses a medical condition, then sells a remedy can also be charged. It is rare, but on the books in some jurisdictions.
If you say to a pharmacist: “I have a head cold’ which over the counter medicine that you stock should I buy?” The pharmacist can make a suggestion.
If you tell the pharmacist that: “I’m stuffy, congested, have aches, chills and a fever.” and the pharmacist answers you have the flu, take X. The pharmacist has broken the law (in some jurisdictions).
Avi………..
“1. An American trial judge is more like a referee than a judge. The jury decides the verdict. the judge only relates the legal issues”
If this wasn’t the CR, I’d accuse you of watching too much television.
The vast majority of American trials are NOT jury trials. They are bench trials decided by a judge.
The right to a jury trial varies by jurisdiction but has minimum requirements such as severity of charge and penalty in a criminal case and the amount being sued for in a civil case.
Traffic, housing, divorce, custody, small claims actually make of the bulk of trials in most states and are not jury trials.
Even in jury trials, a judge can set aside the jury’s verdict.
The judge does not “relate” legal issues. The judge instructs the jury in the law when charging them before they deliberate. The attorneys are able to argue what they would like included in the jury charge, but only the judge has the authority to decide the words of the charge.
Lightbrite…………
Over the years I’ve seen the quality of pharmacists decline with the proliferation of chain pharmacies.
Very few are capable of making pills anymore. They use automated machines to dispense and count pills into bottles. The chains time how many they fill per hour. The ‘consulting’ windows have been done away with or are perpetually closed, and teenagers take your Rx slip and hand out filled ones.
The only slightly medical thing the registered pharmacist is now allowed to do is administer Flu, Shingles and Pneumonia injections to customers 18 years of age or older.
Many are not native and have a terrible command of the English language, gone are the days of the neighborhood independent pharmacy where the same person knew your medical history by medications dispensed and had a working relationship with your doctor and could help. Today the communication is all electronic and you don’t have pharmacists who remember you had a similar problem in the past and didn’t react well to a certain medicine and question the prescriber before filling an Rx.
Lilmod………….
If it’s purple, and not warm to the touch, then it often means you have stubbed, bruised your toe and have had some bleeding under the skin.
Saying this, looking at a big toe that is purple and has a broken nail from stubbing it on a piece of furniture in the middle of the night on Monday. I got up to let the dogs out and didn’t know wife and daughter had rearranged furniture in our sun room…didn’t put my glasses on.
I got my one and only speeding ticket 41 years ago…rushing Mrs. CTL to the hospital to give birth.
The officer was quite nasty, pulled me over, I explained why we were in a rush, he let me go, followed us to the hospital and then after Mrs. CTL was admitted handed me a ticket.
I called the local newspaper and they ran a story on this insensitive policeman. That afternoon, I got a call from the chief of police telling me the ticket had been cancelled.
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Youngest daughter got a speeding ticket in NY, near her college, last November. $300 fine. BUT since she has a CT driver’s license there can be no points assessed by NY and they don’t notify the insurance carrier for out of state drivers.
We took her car away for a month and she had to pay the fine from her own earnings.
Asking Pharmacist for medical advice is a NON-American thing. Very common in Europe, Middle East and South America, but here the Pharmacist could be brought up on charges for practicing medicine without a license,
Generally, a swollen toe/foot can be soaked in Epsom Salts and warm water to hold you until you can see a doctor. If you find it getting red/warm to the touch there is a good chance you have an infection and may need anti-biotic treatment…head for the Emergency Room or Walk-In clinic at once if it is red and warm.
Don’t take chances, see a medical professional, not a pill dispenser
yehudayona……….
I absolutely agree with you about 2017. Outside of Riverdale there are few frum Jews left in the Bronx.
My grandparents sold their colony in 1972. The land was developed for single family homes. That’s how I ended up with 2 Sifrei Torah.
Bungalow Colonies proliferated after WWII and the majority were Jewish, but NOT frum.
This was during the baby boom when small NYC apartments were overcrowded by young families with little space and no air conditioning.
My grandparents owned a bungalow colony near Loch Sheldrake and we often visited for a week in the summer in the 50s.
By the early 1960s most non-frum Jews no longer went to bungalow colonies, many had escaped crowded NYC apartments for a small suburban home with a patch a grass.
Also, in 1964, President Johnson singed the Civil Rights Act. Jews could not be legally kept out of beach and country clubs or hotels/resorts. There now were many choices for non-frum Jews to vacation. with the advent of cheap Jet travel the attraction of the Catskills died out for many.
Frum Jews took advantage of changing conditions and bought up failed bungalow colonies. Some became schools/Yeshivos. Others became condominiums/coops instead of profit making businesses.
BUT, the wife and kids still spend most of the time there without husband.father who still commutes from the city for Shabbos.
BTW, It’s not all about Brooklyn. My grandparents who owned the colony were from the Bronx, as were most of their renters.
WTP………….
Minced meat is a term I’ve only heard in UK and former possessions: Canada, Australia, South Africa.
In the US if you hear ‘mincemeat’ it’s one word and refers to chopped nuts used in goyishe winter holiday pies.
We don’t use ground/shopped chicken at all, but do use turkey regularly
WTP………..
a kindred soul, finally someone else who uses the term chopped meat, not ground beef.
I still have fond memories of my oma using a hochmesser in a wooden bowl to turn a piece of beef into chopped meat to make meatballs, or meatloaf. The texture was so different from the paste that passes for ground beef today.
iacisrmma………..
My post started “Let’s suppose…” it was just a hypothetical mentioning a MIL, not something that actually happened to us.
We do defrost meat in the sink, because our bigger dogs could reach it if it was on the counter. No one would wash dishes with detergent if there was meat in the sink. Dishes get a quick rinse and are placed right into the appropriate dishwasher (except on Shabbos or Yuntif and we’d not be defrosting raw meat then).
But, thanks for your advice, anyway.
and since January 20th I though Cheetos were falling from the sky
WTP……..
The potfiller is a long necked faucet that is attached to the wall to the left or right of the cooktop just beyond the exhaust hood. It is mounted to be lower than the hood. The faucet swings in and can fill pots on the burners closest to the side where it is mounted. Then if needed the pots can be slid across to other burners,
The control to turn on/off and amount of pressure is mounted on the wall below the faucet up-pipe. Typically it is a turn knob or X, as on an outside spigot. Since the pipe swings out from above the cooktop when you are not filling a pot it is not subject to direct contact by steam from cooking. It also keeps the controls cool by being outside the cooking area.
There is no need for any drains. We’ve used these for years in our home, and I had them in my commercial kitchens when I was in the catering business in the 1970s. Next time you fill a stockpot with 8 quarts of water to make pasta, notice how much lower the water level is after you cook the pasta. The food absorbs the water and you are lifting a pot with 25% less water to empty in the sink.
The only stove setups I’ve seen that have potfillers and drains surrounding the cooking rings are commercial wok ranges for Chinese restaurants. After cooking each dish, they swing the potfiller over the wok, run hot water, brush the wok and tip the water over the side into the drainage channel. This is not something that would be found in a home.
I know it is hard to visualize some of the things I post, but CR does not have the capability to copy and paste a picture into a post, not can I post a link to a photo.
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In terms of backup in the sinks, it’s not just about temperature (yad soledes bo).
Let’s suppose you have twin kosher sinks, one milchige and one fleishige. When leaving for work in the morning you place some frozen beef in the fleischige sink to defrost (intending to cook it when you come back mid afternoon). Your MIL (mine moved in 2 weeks ago) has her breakfast at 9 and washed her milchige cereal bowl, dumping the unfinished milk down the drain. It backs up the common waste pipe and covers the meat in the other sink. Temperature is less than 60 degrees F. You come home and find the meat covered in dried milk waste. Would you just wash it off and use it?
Many problems/aggravations are easy to avoid with a little advance planning and not great expense.
Lightbrite………..
95% of my wife’s clientele are not Jewish, and the few Jews are not Frum.
In the last 10 years she has not designed or built a single kitchen without twin dishwashers. We have had them for decades so as to have both milchige and fleischige, but most clients entertain and want one set for dishes and flatware and the other with racks for pots. pans, mixing bowls.
Separate sinks are featured in that there is a main sink in the island and another in the counter near the cooktop. This is where vegetables are often peeled and prepped just before cooking.
The best thing my wife started proposing in her plans about 25 years ago is a potfiller behind the cooktop. No more lifting heavy stockpots of water and carrying them to the stove to boil, cook soup, pasta, etc. You fill the pot with the solid ingredients, place it ion the burner swing the potfiller arm over the pot and turn on the tap. She figures that when doing a new kitchen or major renovation a potfiller can be added for less than $200 (labor and materials). As I’ve gotten older I appreciate not lifting 24 qt post opf water out of the sink and carrying them to the stove.
WTP……………
My suggestion was that if you are going to install two sinks spend the extra money (probably one hour plumber’s labor and $30 material) not to have a joint waste line, so that meat or dairy waste can’t back up into the other sink.
Also, most dishwashers drain through the garbage disposer and can back up into the sink, so if your dishwasher is going to be fleischige you don’t want it draining through the milchige sink.
Most people spending good money renovating a kitchen won’t think of these things, that’s why I’m offering the suggestions from experience.
The vast majority who post in the CR are in Metro NYC or EY they do not have the luxury of the space I have living in a small town. BUT that doesn’t mean I shouldn’t share what I’ve learned from experience.
When we started off as young married 45+ years ago, we had just the basics in a 2 1/2 room apartment. The kitchen was a 5′ galley with minimal features. We made it work. We also learned what to look for in each step up.
None of my children have homes the size of ours nor Pesach kitchens…especially since they all come to us for the entire Yuntif. Having a separate Pesach kitchen allows us to start cooking and freezing now, making life easier.
In 45 years, we’ve never gone to a hotel or resort for Yuntif, but plowed whatever money we could into our home to make Yuntif more enjoyable.
DassYochid
Mrs. CTL is a builder designer. Our home is her portfolio. Thus, it MUST contain the newest and most innovative things to show prospective customers.
We don’t live in an area with that many frum Jews, b ut many Italian Americans have 2 kitchens in their homes. One on a lower lever for cooler cooking in the summer.
I don’t consider most of our kitchen accoutrements to be luxuries as we cook from scratch. No prepared frozen food or takepout
Renovating or building from scratch:
Make sure that your multiple sinks have their drains plumbed separately. That way the milk you pour down the drain in the dairy sink can’t come up through the drain in the meat sink and cover meat dishes, etc.
Most plumbers will simply use one waste line fed by both sinks; spend the extra money and avoid problems.
We actually have three sinks. There are meat and dairy at opposite ends of a 12 foot island, and there is a pareve sink with disposal on a side counter used for fruits and vegetable prep.
Pesach is not an issue as we have a separate Pesach kitchen
Huju………….
It doesn’t matter if the actual caller gets a commission, charities are not subject to the no-call lists in the USA.
My father Z”L had a standard answer for telephone solicitors: “sorry this year’s budget has already been set, if you mail me something we’ll consider it for next fiscal year.” Almost nobody ever sent information. This way of saying no, let the caller down gently.
Life is easier for a misnagid
rebshidduch………….
NOT speaking for Lilmod, BUT as a family law attorney:
Divorced and widowed adults are considered single, many of them have children and/or grandchildren
Lilmod….
Unfortunately some people do call others Lady or boy to their faces. Sometimes they don’t even realize they are doing it.
For example: calling out to a waiter in a restaurant ‘garcon’
That’s merely the French word for boy. No one i know usesthe word Serveur
RebYidd23
Absolutely………………
For decades adult black males in America were called ‘boy.’
It was definitely racist. While adult males were not called ‘boy.’
I’m old enough to call or refer to 30 or 40 year old females as ‘girls.’ It’s not racist or sexist, just that I’m that mush older than them.
I’m sorry, but I have little or no sympathy for the poster. He previously announced that he flunked out of Law School and seemed to blame it on the professors, Now in the first class to be a paralegal, he is again finding fault with his instructor.
This school is not the only place to get a paralegal certificate.
In fact, if he doesn’t want to interact with ‘liberal’ professors in class the ABA maintains a list of approved for NY paralegal courses, many of which are available on line.
Not all law professors are liberal or apikorsim.
I have taught many a law school course as an adjunct professor in the past 30 years. I may be liberal compared to the poster with the long beard, BUT I am not an apikorus.
Yehudayona………….
The mens’ section in the sanctuary is not labeled or referred to as the Gentlemen’s section……
BUT the sign on the male rest room in shul often reads: ‘Gentlemen’
Lilmod…
BECAUSE…in the English language pecking order, the word ‘milords’ was dropped when addressing general audiences (which usually did not include nobility) so the speaker would start at the second word: ‘Ladies.’
The form of address was hundreds of years old….Ladies followed the Lords and then the landed gentry followed titled ladies. Wives of the landed gentry were included in the use of the word ladies.
Lilmod
You can see qualifications on the Mensa USA website.
SAT scores must be prior to January 1994
You have to be able to get your scores from ETS (Princeton) for submission.
There are branches in many countries including Israal…check Mensa’s .org website
Even if nothing Mensa does interests you, it is a good thing to be able to list on a resume when job seeking.
Lilmod….
That is because the original: “Milords, Ladies and Gentlemen” has been shortened in modern society as most people are not addressing the nobility when speaking to an audience.
Lilmod……..
It is like the National Honor Society or Phi Beta Kappa. It recognizes ability and achievement.
The local chapter in New Haven meets occasionally and sponsors speakers on academic subjects and promotes its members to volunteer as tutors for public school students.
Joseph,
An attorney must advocate for the best interests of his/her client.
Again, as I have repeatedly said: I do not do criminal work.
That said, a good attorney will NEVER ask his client accused of murder if he/she committed the act.
There is NO requirement that a defendant ever take the stand as a defense witness (and they are not generally called by the prosecution).
If a defendant, who the attorney knows will testify falsely (under oath) insists on taking the stand against the attorney’s advice, the attorney is required by the Ethics rules to inform the judge in advance of the testimony.
The client’s plea of guilty/not guilty at arraignment is NOT testimony under oath and the attorney has no obligation, in fact would be prohibited, to informing the arraignment judge that the accused is lying.
An arraignment is not the trial and the person on the bench setting bail or denying it is not the trier of fact in the criminal case.
Even if the defendant’s attorney knows the defendant has committed the crime, the attorney is obligated to provide the best defense possible for the client without violating the rules of ethics or suborning perjury. This generally means that all rules have been followed by the prosecution, evidence presented is proper and that all experts are qualified and their testimony cannot not be broken for accuracy. This can not only make a difference as to the outcome of the trial, but appeals, length of sentence, amounts of fines, etc.
Ever since Gideon v. Wainwright every criminal defendant in America is entitled to legal counsel. Hopefully this will not be destroyed by the new administration and his appointee(s) to the Supreme Court. I am not hopeful that this protection will last.
Joseph…………
Not unless you have attended in Philadelphia (where I attended University) or at Yale in New Haven (my hometown).
Lilmod………….
Mensa accepts many different tests for qualifications, they need not be IQ tests.
I’ve been a member since I was a junior in high school. Back then a score of 1300 or more on your SATs qualified you for membership.
I didn’t apply, my school sent a list of eligible students…it was a feather in their cap to have qualifying students.
Nowadays, you can qualify with a score of 95th percentile and above on the LSATs. My 3 attorney children were all admitted that way, as well as SIL #2
RebYidd23…………..
NO..it is not an attorney’s job to condone anything and everything.
We are ‘officers of the court’ and are not permitted to put on the stand a witness we know will not be telling the truth.
In fact if a client insists on testifying and we know that he/she will be committing perjury, we MUST meet with the judge in chambers and reveal that we have told the client not to testify falsely and that the testimony is being given over our objections.
BTW….here in CT a couple of years ago there was a Hareidi Attorney/Pulpit Rabbi who lost his law license and was fined hundreds of thousands of dollars for processing fraudulent loan documents. He didn’t commit the fraud, but he certified them to be true.
Joseph………….
Getting it wrong is falsifying a loan document.
Attorneys can’t condone this.
Joseph……………
Any student filling out a FAFSA form for school loans, Pell Grants, etc. is met with questions such as each parents level of education and degrees earned.
Joseph…..
No, one would not ask for the potential machatenester’s HS Diploma. You might ask the potential SIL/DIL where did your parents graduate?
Should the potential SIL/DIL have to dance around and reply: mom attended XYZ High School, as opposed to a truthful ‘mom didn’t graduate high school.’
May not seem important yo you, but mothers often help children with homework and I would want the mother of my grandchildren to be able to help with work though high school.
In our family’s case it is doubtful that our children/grandchildren would even have a first meeting with a potential mate whose parents did not have advanced degrees, never mind college and high school; but us being professionals who are part of the Hareidi world is not the norm.
Jhonny………………
You are sounding like a defiant teen. Nowhere in my post did I talk about someone not wanting YOU.
I spoke about the repercussions that might be felt by your children in the future.
In shidduchim, the parents’ backgrounds are often as important as those of the boy/girl. The boy/girl is young and unproven, the parents are grown and have a track record that is open to examination.
This is just a reality check, not finding fault with you and your present state.
Someday your children may have to fill out forms that ask for their parents’ levels of education. It may embarrass them to write that momma was a high school dropout.
Never mind, how potential machatunim might view this when considering your child in a shidduch. I would not think a family valued education highly if a 21st century parent didn’t at least have a high school diploma.
Yes, this is judgmental, but I’m being a realist.
You will not regret finishing your work and getting a diploma.
Lightbrite……….
“In other words, are they not putting business and comfort in front of family and integration of generations?”
It’s not an either or situation.
When I fly for business purposes and NEED to work on the plane it is not putting business and comfort ahead of family. It is being able to do the business that supports the family and provides for all the nice intergenerational things we do.
All those hours spent commuting to a trial in Florida while working on the plane paid for bringing all the children and grandchildren, nieces, nephews and their families in for 10 day summer holiday/family reunion at the CTL compound.
When I fly with my grandchildren we fly coach so as not to disturb business travelers in First Class who may have work to do.
I’m a dog lover, we currently have 4. But I am not thrilled by the extension of Jewish celebrations to those who could not be eligible.
I have a dear friend, whose 15 year old dog died Motzei Shabbos. On Monday, he posted a montage of pictures of the dog’s life. The pictures included the dog’s Bark Mitzvah which occurred at a small CT synagogue run by Chabad (Chabad took over a dying shul, 90% of the congregants are not frum). I did not find this amusing. It was in bad taste, similar to a Bar Mitzvah dinner I attended in 1965, when the family dog was dressed in a Tuxedo and brought into the hall to light a candle on the cake.
There is a time and place for dogs to mingle, I don’t believe it is in shul r a banquet hall.