Ex-CTLawyer

Our teachers didn’t issue pens, we were required to [provide them. I used a Waterman fountain pen (I still have it) a 9th birthday gift from my Zaidy…it had a 14K nib.
In 5th grade I had an annoying English teacher who made us write on yellow legal pads. I bought a bottle of Schaeffer Peacock Blue ink and my writing would appear green. She called my parenst and accused me of using green ink..against the rules. My father guaranteed I was using blue. After two months, we were using white paper.
I don’t use yellow legal pads in my practice, only white

BenK…………
I’m older, live OOT, my children are all older, my grandchildren attend day school OOT>>>BUT
I’ve been on the Board of Day Shools and Yeshivos for decades.

There are certain foods that they can receive as surplus from the US Dept of Agriculture to use for to feed students. NOT all students meet the Government requirements for ‘free lunch’ and the school would have to charge others.
The local day school all my kids went to switched to a catering company when it became cheaper than cooking in the school. The days of one bubbe manning the school kitchen are gone. Now with local health department inspections, schools required to have their staff graduates of a ServSafe program, salary and benefits for the employees, costs of kitchen equipment, washing equipment and plates, cutlery, etc. Government nutritional requirements on the ,eal served (whole grains, lo or no fat milk, veg and fruit servings. Problems that the Govt. surplus food may have a hechsherf that the school admin won’t use. We found it much cheaper to have a catering company bring in meals in disposable trays that simply need to be heated and everything gets tossed in the trash each day, no washing anything,

WTP
Many practices are continued for decades for no good reason, just because it’s easier to continue than learn a new routine.
Our area public schools introduce ink pens and cursive writing in the spring of 4th grade. By 78th grade the students will never use cursive again, and 90% of all assignments are done with a keyboard and submitted electronically.

For all you youngsters:
It has nothing to do with writing control, muscle development, dexterity, etc.

It goes back to the days before Ballpoint pens.
Little children could not be trusted to fill their fountain pens from the inkwells at the front of school desks. Old time desks had a cutout to hold the ink bottle. Children would make a mess with the ink. Girls’ long hair would be dipped in the ink by the child behind.
The lever on the fountain pen could turn the pen into a squirt gun to shoot ink at others.

Lastly, fountain pens were much more expensive than a pencil. That’s why a fountain fen was a traditional Bar Mitzvah gift in the USA through the 1950s.

When ballpoint pens first came out they were very expensive $20-40. By the early 1960s Bic was manufacturing their blue stick pens to sell for 19 cents in the US. No longer did people stop at the bank or Post Office and refill their fountain pens for free at the checkwriting stand.

Little kids shouldn’t carry penknives (pocket knives) to school to sharpen a quill tip on a pen.

Old habits die slowly and most of you and the teachers are far too young to remember these things and new reasons are invented.

Ask you bubbe or zaidy (if they are 75 or older about inkwells and filling fountain pens in school

Crisfield, MD
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Marydel, MD…..my oma’s name was Del
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Typo….Arietta is NH, not NY

My daughters and wife have no problem carrying a Kindle or iPad mini computer in their purses. I’m posting on my Kindle Fire right now.

shab29…………………….
This depends on the rules of the individual game/lottery
Many do NOT allow non-humans to collect prizes.
There was a case about 5 years ago when an individual donated the winning game-piece in a McDonald’s Monopoly promotion to a charity. The charity attempted to redeem and the piece was confiscated and no prize paid out, because the rules stated the prize had to be claimed by an individual.

Lightbrite…………
This is lifelong business and management consultant advise, not legal advice:
You are correct, it should be kept secret to avoid the vultures and scammers who will flock to you.
You should first speak to a professional.
That may be your estate (wills and trust), business or tax attorney, if you have one. NOT the lawyer in a general practice who closed your real estate or handled your car accident.
It might be your Tax Professional (CPA, CMA or other accountant who does your taxes). That Tax professional will be able to recommend a qualified lawyer to handle setting up a trust.
DO NOT Talk to a Certified Financial Planner or other commission salesperson (Insurance or Stock Brokers for example).

If you put the asset into a Trust there generally is no need for an LLC.

Some tax authorities (varies by state and/or country) and some Lottery Operators (Same variance) allow the Trust to collect the winning directly.
In 1992 I had one client win a $10 million state lottery. The state permitted Trusts to collect winnings (as opposed to a human individual).

“Those Frum schools that do that because of the parent clientele. It’s not ideal. It’s usually Kiruv types of schools!”

In my experience, it has nothing to do with ‘parent clientele.’ It has do do with the cost of opening/running a school in a small frum community.
It may not be your ‘ideal.’ but ideal for the particular community.
Most OOT communities don’t have Kiruv type of schools and Non-Kiruv type of schools. They have an orthodox day school, period. Many run by Chabad, others part of Torah Mesorah
The Day school in the New Haven area that is mixed gender in the primary grades has existed for almost 75 years. Their Girls High School for 50, BUT there have been 4 Boys high Schools in the past 50 years that have failed. Families want their little kids and girls at home, they are willing to send teen boys away for high school.

Welcome to Family Court and Custody battles:

Father seeks emergency custody of the daughters who are in the custodial custody of the mother.
Judge asks mother: “when was the last time your daughters were in school on a regular basis?”
Mother: “Your honor, the teachers have been on strike and we have no idea when they’ll return. The scholl was behind on payroll.”
Judge: Why haven’t you enrolled them elsewhere?
Mother: I can’t get them into another school midyear.
Father’s Attorney: “Your honor, that’s educational neglect” There’s plenty of room in the schools where the father lives. We seek immediate physical custody for the remainder of the school year.
Judge: Motion Granted, the minor children are to be delivered to the father’s custody and enrolled in his neighborhood school within 48 hours.’
Gavel Pounds, Mother cries, Father and attorney smile.
I have practiced family law for many decades, and scenes like this do happen. I also have had to defend parents against Dept of Children and Family actions to remove from the home children not attending school regularly.

It dies not show that religion changes. It shows that a particular college that has a religious affiliation changed its method of operation. Nothing in Church Canon changed and the religion does not mandate separation of the sexes in academia.

Chances are that the college:
#1 needed to compete for students, so became co-ed in order to survive
#2 wanted to apply for state and/or federal grants and could no longer discriminate based on gender and get the money

Your comment “compare that to Jewish Frumkeit” is not only wrong, but particularly condescending and mean. There are many Frum day schools that are mixed gender enrollment in the US

I doubt it. You only pay for a semester at a time, so when they announced the change you din’t have prepaid courses due you.

Direct quote from the college website: “Georgian Court University, is a Catholic co-ed university offering liberal arts college degree programs on campus and online from Lakewood, New Jersey.”

CO-ED means males and females..in court you could explain whatever you were trying to say, but the facts speak for themselves, the college announces that it is co-ed.

Then it is no longer all female.

“He doesn’t have to be your lawyer”

WOW…a criminal confesses to the prosecutor and under your theory the prosecutor could not testify.
Actually, he can. There is no atty/client privilege and the hearsay exception of admission against interest would apply to allow the testimony in.

I don’t practive criminal law, but having helped daughter and son in law study for the Bar exams last year I reviewed all kinds of thinbgs I haven’t dealt with in 30+ years

ZD…you don’t quite portray Atty/Client privilege accurately.
The lawyer MUST be your attorney for the privilege to attach. Just telling something to any member of the bar is NOT protected. If someone wants to have a specific legal discussion with me, I always say ‘give me a dollar as a retainer to establish confidentiality’
Also, the discussion must take place in privacy and cannot have anyone present except employees of the attorney or their is no expectation of privacy and the privilege does not attach. I have been know to send spouses , relatives and client’s employees from the office before speaking to a client.

Great question…………….
Mrs. CTL is 15 years older than her next younger sibling.
Youngest Ms. CTL is 9 years younger than next older sibling.
The 29 year old got a cell phone when she got a drivers license so that she could call for assistance if necessary. She had limited computer access and it was supervised.
Youngest Ms. CTL has had a cell phone since she was 8 for safety reasons. She spend great amounts of time on the computer for school. We fought with the principal when she was in 5th grade when her general studies teachers required students to follow them on Twitter. We did not want our child having a twitter account. Principal sided with the teacher, I called a meeting of the Board of Directors (just happen to be a member for 30 years). Board sided with us, Principal and teacher told to change plan or job. They changed their plan.
Daughter is in college now. She must submit all her work electronically. Many seminars take place via SKYPE. When classes are cancelled because of winter weather, professors will send assignments to be done via text or email.

We also have to face the fact that even if we don’t want children to watch TV, most shows are available on their computers. Laptops and internet access are a requirement of the day schools, not just public schools.

WTP…………..
Youngest Ms. CTL attends a Catholic College in a special BSRN program that has a specific forensic major…not offered elsewhere. The college has a 6 credit theology requirement for undergraduates. I discussed this with the college president before we allowed her attendance. They offer non-Catholics the option to take any 6 credits in the Philosophy department. Daughter took 6 credits in Jewish studies. Professor was a Rabbi, NOT a Catholic.
BTW>>>I grew up in New Haven, my parents and older siblings were from NY. I didn’t understand why so many of my Jewish friends had mothers who had graduated Albertus Magnus College. (My mother graduated Hunter College in 1940). Seems this was the only local college women could attend in the 1930s and 40s and get a BA or BS degree. Jewish students were exempt from religion classes. Yale was male only and the other local schools such as Quinnipiac were only 2 year schools back then. The state colleges were 2 year Normal Schools at that time. It all changed after WWII.

Not to worry, it doesn’t work:
My Grandfather’s Clock

My grandfather’s clock was too large for the shelf
So it stood ninety years on the floor
It was taller by half than the old man himself
Though it weighed not a pennyweight more
It was bought on the morn of the day that he was born
And was always his treasure and pride
But it stopped, short never to go again
When the old man died
Ninety years without slumbering
His life seconds numbering
It stopped, short never to go again
When the old man died
My grandfather said that of those he could hire
Not a servant so faithful he found
For it wasted no time and had but one desire
At the close of each week to be wound
And it kept in its place, not a frown upon its face
And its hands never hung by its side
But it stopped short, never to go again
When the old man died

Again the neighbor could not know that the incident was discussed in the confessional unless either the priest or confessor had breached the confidentiality…if so, no privilege exists.

If the confession was overheard from outside the confessional, the expectation of privacy was violaed and the confession would not be admissable.

Joseph…
If he neighbor had knowledge of the confession than the confidentiality would have already been breached and no privilege would apply

Everybody:

PLEASE do NOT confuse rules of Criminal Procedure and civil actions.

there is NO Clergy privilege in Civil trials.

From my long ago classes on Criminal Procedure:
“Rule 506 (Communications to Clergy ) of the Federal Rules of Evidence provides:

(a) Definitions. As used in this rule:
(1) A “clergyman” is a minister, priest, rabbi, or other similar functionary of a religious organization, or an individual reasonably believed so to be by the person consulting him.
(2) A communication is “confidential” if made privately and not intended for further disclosure except to other persons present in furtherance of the purpose of the communication.
(b) General rule of privilege. A person has a privilege to refuse to disclose and to prevent another from disclosing a confidential communication made by the person to a clergyman in his professional character as a spiritual adviser.
(c) Who may claim the privilege. The privilege may be claimed by the person, by his guardian or conservator, or by his personal representative if he is deceased. The clergyman may claim the privilege on behalf of the person. His authority so to do is presumed in the absence of evidence to the contrary.”

State Laws Vary………..
In twenty-five states, the clergyman–communicant statutory privilege does not clearly indicate who holds the privilege. In seventeen states, the penitent’s right to hold the privilege is clearly stated. In only six states, both a penitent and a member of the clergy are expressly allowed by the statute to hold the privilege.

Then why are everyone trying to keep up with the Joneses?

BTW>>>>Maternal great grandmother was born a Braun, turned down an offer of marriage from a Jones in 1896 and married a Schwarz. She was quite a colorful character who lived until she was 98. Jones died in the Spanish Flu epidemic of 1918 and great grandmother took in his orphan children and raised them as her own. Frum Yekke Joneses in early 20th century NYC. In the Vaterland the name had been Jonas. In America a “jona’ was considered to be cursed and bring bad luck, getting employment proved difficult and changing one letter solved the problem Jakob Jonas from Germany became Jacob Jones of New York.