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OOT we don’t get hung up over the politics of hecksherim. If the shul Rav was eating, the Mesader Kedushin (my BIL) was eating Joseph was eating. Kashrus HaMakom is an important concept. I believe that if Joseph did not trust the kashrus at the CTL compound he’d have stayed in NY.
There are logistical reasons why a burial may not be able to take place the same day that are out of control of the family/funeral director.
In some place the Funeral Director needs an official Death Certificate before the interment can occur. Local city and town halls don’t issue them after 4 or 4:30PM.
As was mentioned already there may be a delay from the society in approving the burial and notifying the cemetery that it is ok to bury the mais.
The deceased may owe money to the synagogue who owns the cemetery and they won’t allow an interment until the bill is paid in full.Here, OOT, there is generally only one Jewish Funeral home in each city. Sometimes they have more funerals than they can handle in a day and try to push them off.
There are synagogues where the rabbi’s contract says that only he may officiate at a burial in the synagogue’s cemetery. If he is not available the burial can also be delayed.
Lastly, and often the most important factor is weather. My mother A”H died at about 2 AM in a nursing facility. It was blizzard like weather. The funeral home could not retrieve her body until 4PM due to road conditions. The cemetery roads were not plowed until 2 PM the next day so the interment was 3:30 that afternoon.
@Joseph
Yes, I spotted you during the dinner when I was walking my daughter form table to table to greet the guests.
You were enjoying a rack of beef ribs that I had smoked in our own smokehouse along with roasted in the husk Silver Queen corn on the cob grown in our own vegetable garden. I saw the remains of ratatouille also made with our own vegetables on your plate. I don’t think you had yet tried the Biltong, but Geordie613 said it reminded him of the good old days in South Africa.
You apologized for not shaking hands, but they were sticky from the bbq sauce on the ribs. You did rave about my MIL’s cole slaw recipe.
I overheard your remark about how nice it was to attend a chasunah that served beef and not chicken. I guess you had not yet been to the serving station where the chicken shish-kebabs over coucous were being served. Sorry you had to rush back to NY. This morning’s breakfast included both lox and whitefish that were also smoked in our smokehouse.
We have a grandson’s Bar Mitzvah planned here during sukkos….we look forward to seeing you again. Maybe you’ll arrange a van and bring a few of our CR friends. After all, if you eat by me, I expect the rest except KJChusid will as well.The wedding was a success, I”H the marriage will be also.
All the guests departed last night and the cleanup will be complete this morning as they started removing tents at 7 AM.
Mrs. CTL, that very smart lady I am married to insisted that it was fine for us to have Shabbos guests prior to the chasunah, but everyone could stay in hotels last night. My next eldest brother and his wife are hosting breakfast today for those who stayed the night.We were extremely lucky with the weather, it was sunny and only in the low 70s with a nice breeze. As the evening wore on we lit fire pits to keep the guests comfortable.
This was the second of our 5 children to be married at our home and I would not trade the feeling for the most grand hotel or hall. We were in complete control with no one telling us what is or is not permitted under the contract or charging extra if the guests wanted to stay longer than anticipated.
Our neighbors were wonderful, small town America pitches in to help residents celebrate. The local fire house has a large parking lot 2 blocks away. 4 neighbor teen volunteered to shuttle guests’ cars to and from parking and refused payment or tips. We sent trays of food to the firehouse for those on duty. No one complained about the lights and music lasting into the night., One neighbor actually set off fireworks at 11PM to celebrate the newlyweds.Mrs. Plony>>>>no I am not worried that I’ll be identified. There is and will be no coverage in the typical simcha pages on line or in print. I don’t think there were a dozen guests from NY and they were family, not friends who’ll not speak about it, we value our privacy. The officiants were all close family members.
As for CR members, in the years I’ve been a member only once was I contacted, and it was by a moderator seeking legal/medical help here in CT. He apologized for contacting me via email. Even the email address I use for CR is a blind and not in my own name.
Mazel Tov…………….
We’ll be with you in spirit, sorry we can’t attend as we’ll be dealing with Shevah Brochos this week.
We’ll drink to your son and new DIL and your joy as wellI have been banished to my home office for a short time while hair and makeup sessions are going on and have a chance to check the computer.
Thank to everyone for their best wishes.
Tents, tables, chairs are set up. Flowers are next.
The pergola leading from our sliders to the swimming pool will be the Chuppah. 8 years of training the Wisteria to grow up the columns and hand wrapping it around the top lattice makes for a beautiful and functional chuppah and sukkah.
The chasson and his family are ensconced in MIL’s former house across the driveway. SIL hosted all the Shabbos guests for breakfast and minyan at her house just down the street. Our kitchens are going full blast, making trays and preparations. The BBQ pits have fires roaring to be reduced to coals by 1.Feeling joy and melancholy as the baby becomes a married woman today. B”H all the OOT relatives have arrived or are within a short drive (having stayed at my siblings’ homes for Shabbos), only our kids, spouses, grandchildren stayed here.
Mrs. CTL gave me the final counts, daughter got what she wanted about 250 people, 60% family, 30% friends, 5% neighbors, and 5% obligatory Judges, Attorneys, politicians. The obligatory guest will attend the chuppah, have a drink and a couple of appetizers and take off before meal speeches, dancing.
B”H Mrs. CTL has recovered from her terrible health ordeal last year and seems to have gained strength planning this event.
I don’t expect that I’ll be able to post again until tomorrow, but I’ll keep all you in mind, drink a glass to your help and encourage any of the singles to get moving, we have some really nice eligibles here in the CR
@DovidBT
My poetry has been written to/for my wife and daughters. I’d not feel comfortable posting them publicly@joseph
A rise does not mean the market likes the policies. It may be that war is expected and the companies in the DJI that benefit from military buildup are driving the increase.Like the anti-Viet Nam War button reads: ‘war is good business, invest your son’
Personally, I prefer Yards, feet and inches to meters.
BUT I learned decades ago to write in Iambic Pentameter
Big Deal……….
The Dow Jones hit a record high under another lousy Republican administration>>>>>Hoover, then lost 90% of its value and hit a record low and the US was plunged into the Great Depression.@lowerourtuition
I tend to interchange purchase and drinking age as the same. Many states have specific drinking age exceptions for parents proving certain alcohol to their own children in their own homes.
Sounding old, again…………
Back in the Viet Nam war era…the chant of young men subject to the draft was: “Old enough to die, old enough to vote.
So Congress passed and the states ratified a constitutional amendment lowering the voting age to 18. Then the cry went out: ‘Old enough to die, old enough to vote, old enough to drink’Many states such as Connecticut lowered the drinking age to 18. NY was already 18.
In a short period of time the number of automobile fatalities caused by teen-aged drunk drivers skyrocketed and there were calls to raise the drinking age. The draft and Viet Nam war had ended.
Only states can set drinking age, no national law would be constitutional, so Congress used the power of the budget. If a state did not raise its legal drinking age to 21, the federal government would withhold Federal highways funds from that state. Thus an almost universal 21 drinking age in the US.@lowermytuition11210
You did not argue or bash ‘gift slinging’ you simply stated what you did not receive and did not give.
People must understand that NO gift can be a must. There are traditions, period. I have constantly advocated on the CR that people should live within their means and not go into debt.
I have worked hard for what we have amassed. We have also been fortunate to inherit things, not money. I never would have gone out and bought Mrs. CTL a 5 carat diamond ring. However she wears a stone of that size that my grandfather received in settlement of a debt in the 1930s. Some day, I expect it will adorn a grandson’s or great grandson’s wife’s finger.
We’re making our last daughter’s chasunah Sunday. No wedding palace and $200 per plate meal. It will be in our gardens by her choice. The cooking and baking has been done in our kitchens.
We are not and have never been in competition with our friends and neighbors. I remember many decades ago an old camp friend of Mrs. CTL making a snide remark because our eldest baby didn’t have a Perego carriage, but a no name carriage. About 6 years later, they called asking for the name of a good bankruptcy attorney.
@Ubiquitin
Anthem Bluecare which is her Medicare and wraparound refused the order for DME made by #1 Internist, #2 Oncologist #3 Physical Therapist (paid for by Anthem Bluecare. They insist on the evaluation by the Gerentologist.
A wheelchair require specific face to face notes from the evaluating doctor, not just an Rx.None of the insurance pays for things such as shower chairs. The insurers will pay for 6 weeks of 1 hour per visit twice weekly home health aides. Once she is evaluated, she’ll get 9 hours oper day 7 days per week
Read the NYTIMES article I mentioned. 62 families of assorted Chassidus
Today’s New York Times website has a lengthy article about ‘Ultra Orthodox’ Jews leaving NYC for new homes. It features the 62 Hasidic families that have settled in Jersey City buying large homes in the $300,000 range. Worth reading as an asnwer to the OP’s question
@Joseph
I don’t think this SIL learned to be happy and enjoy finer things until her mother stopped interfering in SIL’s life. Her mother denigrated all the material things she could not afford and did not have.My OMA told all her grandsons that if they wanted to know if they would be happy with a prospective bride over the years of marriage the boys should take a good look at the girl’s mother and maternal grandmother to see what they’d be living with over the years. We do become our parents in many ways
as the house liberal, I don’t think anyone outside of law enforcement or active duty military in the US should have a gun.
Get a good alarm system with panic buttons, secure your doors and windows. We have 4 dogs, they bark like crazy when an unknown steps on the grass.
Our home is surrounded by motion detector spotlights (off on Shabbos and Yuntif).
We have a neighborhood watch.
The CTL compound is fully fenced and gated…necessary for carrying between the houses on Shabbos.
We don’t live in the city or a high crime area. We wouldn’t want to.@ubiquitin
I gave an example of a wait for a specialist by my MIL…she’s in her late 80s, on Medicare…that single payer system
The Gerontologists only serve senior citizens, so they all are single payer (Medicare) patients. Again in a 50 mile in-state radius, the earliest appointment available was 4 months out.This is a non-emergency room type visit. The delay is devastating. Without the evaluation, the secondary insurers will not authorize coverage by in-home health aides, durable medical equipment (walker, wheel chair, commode, etc). She can’t gain admittance to certain care facilities or day programs. Event the Town Senior Citizen transportation won’t serve her without the evaluation. Unfortunately, we watch her slide downhill every day. We have offered to pay for a number of these services/programs, but without the gerontologists evaluation there is no entry. (In terms of durable medical equipment, she is currently using items that belonged to my late mother A”H. They sat in our garage, because Goodwill won’t accept used DME.
@Joseph
You can wait a long time for a specialist in the USA, as wellMIL needs a complete evaluation by a gerontologist. Wife tried to arrange the appointment in early May. The soonest she could get an appointment within 50 miles (New Haven, Bridgeport, Stamford, Waterbury, Greenwich) was September 25
@yekke2,
I’ll probably be bashed for this or called elitist or wealthy or out of touch with most members of the CR, BUTI have found when people bash the gift ‘slinging’ it is because they do not have the means to do so.
When eldest brother got engaged, my future sister in law was vociferous about not liking sterling silver, a sentiment echoed over and over again by her mother. They were from simpler beginnings than us, as the parents were survivors with little formal education. When the kallah made the announcement, my mother told her: ‘in that case CTL and his future bride will get paternal grandparents’ sterling which is engraved with the family initial.’ SIL has seethed every yuntif at our home when she sees this on the dining table. For her 10th anniversary, My wife and AI bought her a set of sterling, trying to make peace. SIL also told my brother that she couldn’t have a diamond bigger than her married sister or mother. So she received a half carat stone while other brothers’ wives and Mrs. CTL got much larger stones (from the family yerusha). SIL never wears her ring, says rings bother her. Her daughters all got 2-3 carat stones when they were engaged, SIL had learned to enjoy better things during marriage.DY……………..
I’m afraid I can’t ask the mesader kedushin why he asked the question as he is no longer alive.
But he did ask it of all three of my sons.@Joseph
Every family has different traditions
My wife took our daughters to have their sheitels made and paid for them, not the chassan
My eldest brother’s wife made a gift of the lechter for each of our children who has married
Each of our sons gave their kallah a diamond ring, granted the diamonds were family pieces that came out of our vault, but the boys paid for the setting and any additional side stones.
The boys purchased the kallah’s wedding rings. In fact, the mesader kedushin specifically asked the boys if they had paid for the wedding ring with their own money.My sons already each had a shas long before they were engaged
Opa (my mother’s father A”H) bought each of my sons a talis when they became Bar Mitzvah. Because they followed my paternal Litvak tradition, they were packed away for use after marriage.
The kallah or her parents purchased Kittels for the boys.
Our daughters presented the chassan with a gold watch after receiving an engagement ring. These were watches that were family heirlooms.
It is our family’s tradition for the mother of the Chassan to present the kallah with a gold bangle bracelet for the engagement, and a long string of Pearls for the wedding.B”H we are blessed with a treasure trove of inherited jewelry, crystal and sterling and it has been our pleasure to give each of the five couples a nice share of the yerusha.
This coming Sunday, our youngest I”H will wed.
Her chassan has purchased the engagement ring. He was presented with the gold watch that belonged to my wife’s late father. My daughter went with him and bought him a kittel, but he paid for his own Tallis. He had a Shas before they met. His parents gave my daughter diamond earrings as an engagement gift. They are moving into my MIL’s house, as it sits empty since she moved in with us this winter. I don’t know if they’ll end up there permanently, that will be their decision.Going back to my great grandparents at the turn of the 20th Century in Brooklyn, it has been the custom of our family for the Kallah’s father to buy a set of furniture for the first apartment and to set the new SIL up in business. In my case, the Chassan and daughter will come work for the CTL firm. I hope that in 5-10 years when I retire the firm will be run capably by our children and spouses and eventually by our grandchildren.
Ryan can also be impeached
The Republican leadership in this country has committed many crimes and should be brought to trialPence has impeachable actions as well
Good Riddance, sorry he didn’t take Trump with him
People have different minhagim.
In my family we wear white kippot only for the Yomin Noraim. The exception is for the chassan on his wedding day (with its fast, similar to a Yom Kippur Katan).
Over the years, at weddings and B’nai Mitzvah I (and my father before me have amassed a large collection of kippot that are stamped inside with the name of the celebrant(s) and the date of the simcha.
On Pesach, when guests arrive to our seder, they may often find a kippah from their, or their father’s Bar Mitzvah/wedding attached to their place-card. It brings a smile to their faces as they don this special Kippah for the evening.@RebYidd23
I’ve worn eyeglasses for almost 60 years. I don’t consider myself as disabled.Eyeglasses are often worn as fashion accessories. Mrs. CTL has multiple pairs, in assorted colors and sizes to coordinate with her clothing.
My late mother A”H used a walker from the age of 91-94. It was a triangular wheeled variety. There was a snap on leather bag to hold her small needs. Just as she might choose a handbag to ear in Black, Brown, White to match her clothing and/or shoes, she had different color bags to snap on the walker, thus detracting from its ordinary look and making it part of her clothing/persona
@Joseph
Would you also allow consenting adults to have open heart surgery performed by a non-doctor?
Professionals have specific education, must pass licensing tests as well as character and fitness review before getting their license to practice law.Youngest ms CTL wore eyeglasses with clear non-prescription lenses in college and Law school. She found the professors took her more seriously than when she was just a ‘pretty face’…………….The studious/nerd look can also be helpful in job interviews for professional positions
Tort Reform is far better handled at state level than through Congressional action. The vast majority of Tort actions take place in state courts. Those brought to Federal court because the Plaintiffs and defendants live in different states are still tried by a Federal judge apply state law where the alleged wrong was committed.
Some state have tort limits. Massachusetts severely limits the amount a charitable institution may be sued for, which is why virtually every hospital in Massachusetts is a non-profit charitable institution.
AviK,,,,,,,,,,
Ladino added far fewer words to the vocabulary over the centuries than Yiddish. Most families who speak Ladino went to one country when exiled from Spain and remained there. They had little interaction with travelling Jews from other Sephardic lands who used the language as common communication.
The Jews of Ashkenaz moved in stages, east to Poland, then the Russian Empire. In the 1870s they started a westward migration to France, Belgium, England USA, Canada and South America (Australia and South Africa came later). Settling in poor immigrant areas such as the lower East Side (NYC) or the East End (London) Yiddish was a common language for native speakers of Polish, Russian, Estonian,Czech, etc. It had a large publishing presence for books, magazines and newspapers as well as Radio. This never happened with Ladino, so it stayed ‘more pure.’No Coke, Pepsi
@jakob
Is this good or bad news?
Answer: It depends
If you live in a state such as I do which has a well functioning state health exchange, it’s good news.
If you live in a state that doesn’t have a health exchange through which to buy coverage it is bad news.
If you only qualified for Medicaid after the ACA went into effect, it is good news. BTW>>>>before the ACA, many providers here on CT did not accept Medicaid. After ACA so many more people had Medicaid as their health coverage that acceptance became universal.@770Chabad
There is no such thing as ‘real Yiddish’
It is a language that picked up words as the people left Germany (ashkenaz) and moved east through Poland, The Baltic Sates and Russia. It picked up more word as the post 1871 waves of immigrants reached America.
Your Chasidische Yiddish is no more real than my Litvak Misnagid Yiddish.As my Oma (my maternal grandmother) on the German side used to say. “Yiddish is a gutter language, spoken by the peasants from the east” I don’t agree with the word peasant, as plenty of upper income and intellectuals spoke Yiddish in Vilna and elsewhere, But it really is a corrupted dialect of middle German, just as Ladino (used by the S’fardim) is a dialect of 1400s Spanish.
Unlike French, which has an official language institute which must approve new words, Yiddish is ever changing and evolving.
I can remember my Litvak Great Grandfather cringing when listening to someone who substituted ‘P’ for ‘B’…I remember him asking one man: Tell me are you Jewish or a Galitzianer?
My Yiddish was learned in morning public high school which I attended before Yeshiva from 1-9 PM. It was one of 12 foreign languages offered at the time. The teacher, also taught Hebrew, and World History. He was born in Yerushalayim in the the 1930s, Chasid, came to America when the Yishuv ended, married a Modern Orthodox woman and taught public school for 30 years to afford to send his kids to yeshiva. He didn’t thibk that the Yiddish spoken by the Chabad Rabbis at the local Day School was the ‘real Yiddish’ it was Americanized Yiddish, his was Israeli Yiddish..3 generation removed from Poland,
Yes, I wore cloth diapers, as did my eldest children, BUT diaper service was common then and cost only $2.50 per week, much less than disposables.
Today, outside large cities there are no diaper services. So one must add in the cost of laundry, buying machines, detergent or trips to the laundromat and feeding quarters into the machine. May not save much money@Jakob
No, the young couple with a car lease won’t have a $600 maintenance bill sneak up on them. Especially, since you have separately budgeted for oil changes which is the only regular maintenance item when you have a new car lease. The couple will not need a set of tires during the lease….
The things that pop up that need fixing with the exception of light bulbs and wiper blades will be under the manufacturer’s warranty. Some cars, even have bumper to bumper warranties.
My son leased a 2017 Hyundai Elantra for our eldest grandson: 36 months @$80 month plus taxes (sales and property in CT) total $115/month. 12,000 miles per year. Dealer through in all scheduled oil changes. All parts including bulbs and wipers are covered for the first year. The new vehicle warranty will outlast the lease.@Jakob
Your budget does not make sense.If the couple is paying $200 to lease a car, they WON’T be paying $100 in car maintenance. New car leases are cars under warranty for at least the first 24 months of the lease.
$4.15 per adult per day for food is ridiculously low for a kosher household.“Rich or poor, it’s nice to have money”
I’ve lived in wealth and in poverty as a child. 55 years ago my father’s business partners put the company into bankruptcy while my parents were in EY for 2 months. We went from a 6 figure income (at a time when a good middle class salary was $7,000 per year) to living in the $4,200 my mother made as a public school teacher.
The stress caused by the lack of money, dunning calls from business creditors, shunning by former business associates/friends, not going to summer camp, etc. caused lots of unhappiness.
My father got rid of his partners and started fresh. Mom and my older siblings worked in the store after school and at night. It took 5 years but B”H he rebuilt his business and income, had 7 stores and 200 employees. The end of collection calls and resuming activities, as well as mother being home after school, nights and summer certainly brought happiness back to my life.
As an adult, I’ve lived through up and down business cycles. My childhood taught me not to live beyond my means. Yes, I earn a very handsome living, but I value money and don’t waste it. We B”H live debt free. No mortgage, no student loans, no car loans. It gives Mrs. CTL and I great pleasure to support Jewish and community religious, cultural and educational institutions.
Gamanit………………………..
” Is anyone here on the CR (apart from CTLawyer) considering hosting a fancy party? ”
Atty. and Mrs. CTL will be hosting a chasunah for their youngest daughter the Sunday after the three weeks are over.
Will it be lavish?
Considering it’s an outdoor BBQ on our grounds I don’t think it will be as lavish as those in the Weddings halls or hotels of NYC.
Women will not be in long gowns, men will not be in formal wear.
I’m sure many will eat some of the BBQ with their fingers.
Yes, there will be a live band, not a DJ
Ample Beer, wine and booze will flow, but crystal, fine china and sterling flatware will be nowhere to be seen.What will be lavish is the love we have for our daughter and future son-in-law.
The entire guest list will be less than 225, none of those 700 person events like in Brooklyn, Monsey and Lakewood.
The nature of a BQQ is such that guests will go to buffet serving stations to choose their food, no white gloved French service at your seat.I have smoked and cured much of the meat/poultry myself in our backyard smokehouse. I’ll also be doing quite a bit of the cooking. Three good friends of mine who compete on the kosher BBQ circuit will be manning the fires that day. I’ve hired bartenders and service personnel through the union local. There is no caterer running the show. Mrs. CTL comes from a family of bakers. Retired great aunt and uncle are baking and decorating the wedding cake in our kitchens.
This is the affair my daughter wants, at home and relaxed. It will be done in good taste and not over the top.
Leftover food is being delivered to a local soup kitchen in Bridgeport to be served to those in need.Lavish? I don’t think so. I never heard a BBQ called fancy
@lightbrite
Opticians (who fill prescriptions written by Optometrists and Opthamologists) don’t like to re-lens frames because they don’t make profit on the sale of a new frame.
Opa was both an Optometrist and an Optician…he taught us to grind lenses when we were adolescents. Back then lenses were glass, not plastic. He taught us that you never should re-lens a frame more than 2 years old. By then it would have become so mis-shapen and unable to hold proper shape very long. The patient loses the benefits of the new lenses when they are not aligned correctly because of a frame that’s out of ‘true.’@Chaya13
” parent of a child who is imagining something is happening that really isn’t”
Take your head out of the sand!
The letter speaks of the son coming home ‘cut, bruised, scraped and with clothing ruined’
That’s not imaginationAppalachia is bigger than you might think, look at this list of cities, plenty with frum Yidden
“Within Appalachia, there are several areas of urban concentration, the largest being the Pittsburgh metropolitan area in Pennsylvania. In Alabama, the Greater Birmingham metropolitan area is the largest urban concentration followed by the Huntsville metropolitan area . In Tennessee, the Knoxville metropolitan area and the Chattanooga metropolitan area are the urban clusters.”@lowerouttuition11210
Typo..Sunday the 6th@Joseph
WRONG, AGAIN!Ongoing bullying can cause protracted impairment of emotional health…the language of the NY Statute.
STOP excusing bad behavior and start stopping bad behavior.
You may be a history teacher, but I’m a Family Law Attorney and certified Guardian ad Litem. If I represented a child and the school gave these repeated excuses, the school and staff would find themselves in court pronto. The cloak of a yeshiva being a private school is not an excuse for non-compliance with the law…and NY law makes every adult a mandated reporter…this is the broadest language in the nation.
@Joseph
Actually a school employee (private or public) whop does not report the abuse is breaking the law in NJ. NJDCF says that any person who does not report suspected abuse (bullying is abuse) is a ‘disorderly person.’NJ Statute on Child Abuse:
“9:6-8.9. ABUSED CHILD; CHILD ABUSE DEFINEDFor purposes of this act:
“Abused child” means a child under the age of 18 years whose parent, guardian, or other person having his custody and control:
a. Inflicts or allows to be inflicted upon such child physical injury by other than accidental means which causes or creates a substantial risk of death, or serious or protracted disfigurement, or protracted impairment of physical or emotional health or protracted loss or impairment of the function of any bodily organ;…”
School teachers have been deemed to have custody and control during the school year…they act in locus parentis.
BTW>>>>NY Statute does NOT exempt private school teachers from reporting abuse:
“new York
Professionals Required to Report
Soc. Serv. Law § 413
The following persons and officials are required to report:
• Physicians, physician assistants, surgeons, medical examiners, coroners, dentists, dental hygienists, osteopaths, optometrists,
chiropractors, podiatrists, residents, interns, psychologists, registered nurses, social workers, or emergency medical
technicians
• Licensed creative arts therapists, marriage and family therapists, mental health counselors, or psychoanalysts
• Hospital personnel or Christian Science practitioners
• School officials, including but not limited to, teachers, guidance counselors, school psychologists, school social workers, school nurses, or administrators….”The NY Statute does NOT read Public School ‘officials…teachers’, etc.
@Joseph
again, Take your NY blinders off.Lakewood is NOT in NY.
You claim to teach in the NY public schools ad therefore are a mandated reporter. I assume you’ve had some training. There is no reason that Yeshiva staff should also not be trained.
I don’t object to bochurim enjoying/relaxing at a BBQ and enjoying a cold beer during Bein Hazmanim. I’d much rather they do it then than sneak beer in the dorms (as we did in my day).
Youngest Ms.CTL’s wedding will be I”H August 4th, during Bein Hazmanim. By the couple’s request it will be a BBQ on the grounds of the CTL compound. I sure hope the bochurim who are friends and guests of the groom will chill and enjoy cold beer which will be flowing from the taps to go with the delicious BBQ being served.The staff and administration of the yeshiva are mandated reporters. IF the boy was bullied, cut, scraped, hit etc. They are battery to the person and the authorities and Child Protective services must be notified.
None of this boys will be boys nonsense is acceptable.
This is the same look away attitude that allowed child molestation to take place in the yeshivas, and day schools of the frum world.
It is the other boys who should be expelled@Joseph
I don’t think you mean “accepting facilities from discounting the list rate for the uninsured”
It is those facilities who take ‘ASSIGNMENT’ who may not discount for the uninsured.
Taking assignment means the provider agrees to take whatever payment Medicare authorizes for a particular procedure as payment in full and not bill the patient for additional money. There are providers who take payments from Medicare, but not assignment and expect the patient to pay the difference.Seniors who have opted for a replacement Medicare scheme (you see the booths set up in chain drug stores in the 4th quarter) are in for a rude awakening. They don’t have this protection.
MIL was sold a replacement Medicare plan by Anthem, told she’d have better prescription coverage and no increase over the Medicare premium she already pays.
Now, she is subject to a $400 twice per week co-pay for Chemo-theraphy. If she was still on straight Medicare, the hospital would have to accept the amount Medicare pays and she’d have no additional liability.
She cannot switch plans until December open enrollment period.