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Dating another poster would be quite hysterical although I am not sure I would actually admit to posting on here until a later date!
It really depends how well you know the boy from before or their family. I never dated anyone that I knew at all from my past but I have heard of some of they guys families before. I am from out of town and I like dating guys from the same city as me. Those are very easy first dates because you have lots in common to speak about.
Brainy, there is definitely a problem with our system. Learning is wonderful but there is a time and place for everything. The fact that everyone is expected to learn and looked down upon if they don’t is wrong. Also, there comes a time when a man has to support the family and sitting in learning while wonderful does not pay the bills.
I thought the text was ridiculous. At the end of the text its said now forward this to 12 ppl. I didn’t. I wonder what will happen to me now am I cold heartless person or will bad things start happening. All the emai forwards that say forward this to 12 ppl always come with a threat if you don’t or promise you good things if you do. Shame you can only fit 160 characters in a text now I’ll never know….
don’t worry hopefully she will get married soon and if she doesn’t she will slowly start growing up and maturing and the real world will kick in and she’ll stop saying when i get married…. in every other sentence.
One question I have about women not driving is that I find it funny that say you go to Macy’s or Lord and Taylor and find the chassidish women shopping and then you have the husbadn stuck in the store for hours doing nothing because he had to drive his wife.
in addition to seatbelts you can also need construction cones to block the table so when half the dinner is ready the kids can’t sit down and start eating theyll have to wait till all food is ready and mom is ready to serve
Most of out town cities have a Kollels, the paying ones may be hard to get into though. Chicago, Toronto, Cincinnati, Atlanta, Detroit, Savannah, Denver, Miami, LA and the list goes on.
If a guy wants to sit and learn he has to be realistic. Someone has to pay the bills. I have a brother who is learning and in shidduchim and my parents just said no to a girl who works 5 hours a day as a preschool assistant and her parents don’t have money. Realisticly speaking how is this girl who wants a learning boy expecting to support her family?
I use a battery operated toothbrush. It’s mainly but the brand is written in blue letters. What does that make me?
The reason why people have the the internet despite the rabbanim ban is because you can’t function in the year 2011 without it. Yes there is plenty of bad on it but in order to run a functional business you need it.
Tell the girl to go to school so she can support her learning husband.
why is getting a black coffee at mcdonalds any diff then getting a black coffee at starbucks or coffee bean…mcdonaldsd is the token “treif” place but practically why diff than any other coffee house without kosher certification
there should be some kind of coffee room shadchan here. would be hysterical to go out with another person who spends waaay to much time on here.
speaking of Monsey Trails did they merge with Lakewood or something cuz I’ve recently seen a lot of monsey tours buses doing the lkwd route
Sem is a wonderful year. It may be your only time to actually live in Israel so take advantage and try to see as much of the country as possible. Don’t just go to your aunt or old neighbor in Ramat Eshkol or Ramat Beit Shemesh evey week. If you are going with friends thats great but try to make new friends as soon as possible – don’t lean on your old ones as a security blanket. Have a good attititude and be flexible and you will have a great year!
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craziest thing i did all day was sit on the cr at 1155 at night when im all ready for bed already uh oh im a girl is tzinyus to say that im wearing pjs
broken telephone would be a good funny game if someone can figure out a way to play online…
best donuts are the soft yummy moist plain ones with glazed toppings. In sem in israel i found a place in the shuk that had donuts for jsut 2 shek a peice. i literally got like one a day and by the time chanukah came i was sick of dunuts.
It really depends what his past was. One of the most normal guys I dated was kicked out of high school and didn’t have the easiest teenage years in general. My parents looked into it and there was nothing super serious like drugs or anything and I said if a guy was an idiot when he was 16 I should hold it against him ten years later..people make mistakes and then grow up. If his past has some long lasting effects than that is a whole different story…..
A shadchan once told my friend “Oh you look different from what I remember you, I thought your hair was blonder, but don’t worry I’m sure the boy is looking for inner buety not outer and besides I’m sure you will wear some makeup on the date!”
If I let my secret out I would kill my ebay business
ootinny – congrats on ur new job. i hope u still have time to show face in the coffee room 🙂
adorable you beat me to it. i think coming to work was the nuttiest thing i did today.
I highly doubt anyone comes here soley for advice. I think ppl or at least myself come here for entertainment.
mcp what is your real issue here, is she culturally different, are you nervous that she will want to move back to her country and that is too far from your family or are you just simply having a hang up that you always thought you were going to end up with an American and this girl isnt.
ootinny I agree with you 100 percent. I have gained a lot these single years – though I do daven they end soon. I am obviously a lot more ready and mature than when I was 19. If I was meant to be single there is obviously a reason but if a 19 yr old feels read to start dating by all means start and its a huge bracha for shidduchim to just be quick and easy.
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ootinny – its actually a huge bracha to marry one of your first few guys. There is no comparing to past dates makes life so much easier. Also while yes IY”H I’ll get married soon and have a degree and a savings account which is more than a girl 19 20 21 can say and I went on trips with friends and had some good times but all that being said I think girls that get married young and don’t have to go through years of dating have a lot to be thankful for.
I think demanding pics from girls is really shallow. Only once a guy asked for it and I told the shadchan I will only give him a pic of me if he gives me one of him too. Its a two way street here!
Moderator 80 – your funny 🙂
Is this friend 19, 20ish cuz sometimes when people get married very young they are in la la land for the few months – maybe your friend just needs some time to adjust.
Hacham I have plenty of friends and have never come across a girl who wore the same thing for dates and weddings. Girls call wedding outfits weddings outfits for a reason – the very simple reason it is an outfit worn just for a wedding. For a boy clothing is more multi purpose (especially boys who are black and white). For a girl there are different outfits for different occasions and first date clothing is not same as wedding clothing.
mpc – u still never said what was casual. Did she come in a jean skirt and tshirt or a black skirt adn sweater? No one that I know dresses the same way for weddings as they do for a first date. I would consider myself Yeshivish and I wear regular Shabbos clothes on a first date but you have to keep in mind that one girls Shabbos is anothers girls weekday.
My younger brother just started shidduchim and he says his Rosh Yeshiva tells the boys not to go after rich girls. Even if their parents can give more the girls are used to more and the end result is that the boy ends up staying in learning for shorter because they need money to please wives. A more simple girl can make do with less and the boy can stay in learning for longer.
my fifth grade teacher used to say “Girls, I’m not fat I’m fluffy!”
A great website to help you lose weight is myfitnesspal.com. Basically you tell them your lifestyle, weight etc and how much you want to lose and how fast. It then tells you how many calories you need to eat a day to achieve that. You have to record everything you eat but its not so hard cuz there are tons of foods in their database already. The great thing about it is that you can still treat yourself to junk just then you have to be careful to stay under your aloted calories.
adorable I say just the opposite. Assuming the girl is a mature girl start right away. The younger you are the easier it is to start anew you are not so settled in your ways yet. I say to help the “age gap” issue have the boys start younger.
ootinny I agree with you completely married friends have to think of their single friends. Their husbands know the boy. Friends tell me all the time I’m thinking of you I’m trying bla bla bla but if you never asked me for my resume you couldn’t have tried to hard.
I have friends that the boys learned and the girls had simple jobs and neither side helped out and they managed just fine. Yes they didnt have fancy cars and go on fancy vacations but they managed.
ootinny – you have to know your kids and if they are at a good time to move. Yes there are kids off everywhere but if you move with kids over ten to Israel the odds your kids going off will be much greater than if you stay in America. Also there is something called hishtadlus. You can’t just do rash things and say o Hashem will help out. If you have a good job in America and have no means of supporting yourself in Israel stay in America and be self supportive instead of living off others in Israel.