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I’m with Sam2 and zahavasdad on this one. What makes it a Chillul Hashem? It’s a Kiddush Hashem and Pirsumei Nisa.
The Chuck Norris jokes examples that Feif Un and soleik are giving are clean. There are also many disgusting, inappropriate Chuck Norris jokes. And no, I will not give an example.
It sounds like you already know the answer to that question
Oh. I didn’t think of that. I was in such a rush because my stupid fairy godmother kept texting me that I was out past my curfew.
Yeah coffee. And I had to run all the way home from the ball with only one shoe. My feet are killing me!
nishtdayngesheft,
I was not using wikipedia to pasken a halacha. I was using the definition they gave to find out more about Wolfs question. I am not a posek nor am I pretending to be one.
*My favorites*
What’s red and not there? – no tomatoes
What is green, red, and goes 150 mph? – a frog in a blender
I am laughing so hard right now 🙂 What is wrong with me?
It depends on how you define the word “lying”.
According to Wikipedia-
“A lie (also called prevarication, falsehood) is a type of deception in the form of an untruthful statement, especially with the intention to deceive others.
To lie is to state something with disregard to the truth with the intention that people will accept the statement as truth.”
When you lip-synch in shul are you intending to deceive others?
Are you lip-synching so they will think you are singing or are you doing it for yourself?
Are you doing it with the intention that other people will accept it as the truth, in this case really singing?
I say no. If you are standing next to someone and you are lip-synching, they know you aren’t really singing. Would you try to make them think you are singing? No. You aren’t doing it with the intention that others will think you are actually singing. Do you really care if people know you aren’t singing? From your post, I get that you are doing it for yourself, to feel more involved.
Yeah, what exactly do you mean by “kedusha should go upwards”?
It’s the best time of the week again…Shabbos!! Have an amazing Shabbos everyone!!
This is funny in a very pathetic way.
IMHO, there is absolutely nothing wrong with Facebook. You can argue that people can end up doing stupid things and getting involved with people they shouldn’t be getting involved with, but you can say that about everything.
If someone wants to do the wrong thing, they will do it, regardless of whether they have Facebook or texting or not. A responsible, smart person would not do stupid things. A responsible, smart person would not accept a friend request from a stranger or some guy. and if they are stupid enough to do that, they deserve whatever happens to them and the reputation they will get. (Sorry,it really bothers me when people do stupid things so I tend to get worked up about it)
Just be smart and do the right thing and you will be fine. And if you can’t trust yourself then you have bigger problems than Facebook.
As to the whole Facebook- shidduch thing. I don’t think it should be a big deal.
I say they should split. But he should definitely get a good lawyer and fight for at least joint custody. Better 1 happy parent than 2 angry, sad ones. Don’t keep the marriage going for the kids if it’s really that bad, they’ll end up hurting them more than if they were to split.
cleverjewishoun- lol 🙂
Actually, I have to admit that I was also part of the group who had brought alcohol on our senior shabbaton. I just stuck with beer though and did not get drunk. It was irresponsible and immature and I really regretted it afterward. But alcohol is a big problem and not just with guys.
So my advice to you Baloochi is to leave the alcohol on the table but monitor it. Don’t offer them any.
Me and a friend (well, not really a friend) were once guests at a strangers house for Shabbos and my friend kept on downing glass after glass of wine. She ended up finishing an entire bottle and actually got drunk. It was not a pretty sight. (But she was the same girl who brought wine, beer and tequila on our high school shabbaton so her alcohol abuse issues started way before that) Needless to say, we were never invited back.
Moral of the story: …I guess the smart thing to do would be to not offer them alcohol but keep it on the table and if you see it getting out of hand, take it off the table.
And no, she is no longer my friend.
And usually, its not the thought that counts! I want a good present not just a card. But I’m just speaking for myself!
blabla- I am so sorry. I did not mean to hurt or offend you in any way. And I do know what you are going through. About 5 years ago I also suffered from depression. I was going through a really hard time in my life and I was really depressed. Baruch Hashem, I was able to move past those obstacles and now I am living life happily and healthy.
I am not trying to say that depression isn’t a real thing. Unfortunately, it is. But it is a term that is overused by the general public. People do go on depression medication for no valid reason. Chas V’shalom was I saying that depression isn’t a problem. I know firsthand that it is. And I do read your poems on the poetry thread. You are really talented. I wish you all the best and don’t worry, one day this will pass and you will be able to live life a happy person. Again, if I offended you, I’m sorry.
The term depression is way overused these days. Most of these women on meds are probably not clinically depressed. These days, one thing goes wrong and they are sad for a day or 2 and all of the sudden they are “depressed”. So they flip out and go on unnecessary medication.
But you realize that right now you’re expressing your opinion.
Okay then. So what right would you say ‘entitled’ is?
Entitled (in this case) is a natural right. No matter what the situation everyone is bound to have their own opinion and thats natural because everybody thinks a different way.
A fact is the truth. Something that happened or something that is. An opinion is your interpretation of the fact. They may all be valid but only the fact is true. If we disagree on what is true then that is our opinion which we are all entitled to. We can think that that is the fact but that is our opinion as well. Which is why we shouldn’t pretend to be right when we are basing our opinion on what we think. Because everybody thinks differently and therefore everybody has a different interpretation of the fact. Stubborn people or people who refuse to listen to what everybody else has to say believe that their opinion is fact.
And it’s definitely ok to express your opinion. Everybody does. I am doing it right now. But when it comes to something as serious as calling a certain hashkafa hellenism it should not be presented as a fact but rather an opinion. IMHO, it should not be said at all.
Popa- Like I said before, everybody’s entitled to his/hers own opinion
soleik- even is she knew it was out of line, it still hurts to be talked about in a negative way. And if ski was trying to work on her tznius, it was probably discouraging.
popa- I have no information nor do I have any idea what their hashkafos are. But this is a matter of opinion. So unless someone knows they are 100% right they have no business maligning them on a public forum. Because only God knows whats right in the end. This is not a discussion based on fact. It’s based on opinion which everyone is entitled to have and share. But unless you (well not you specifically, but e/o else) know your opinion is 100% right, which you don’t, don’t go pretending it’s fact.
Yet, the earliche men control themselves.”
mdd- Why are you comparing men and women? I’m not minimizing the fact that men have a huge yeitzer hara. I’m trying to say that you, as a male, cannot possibly understand the challenges we women have. I’m not pretending to understand the taivos men have.
My point is that it is not okay to judge people no matter what the situation. And if you do want to judge, keep it to yourself unless expressing your opinion will be constructive. Otherwise it’s Lashon hara.
“Well, that depends on what they hold, doesn’t it? “
Maybe, but not in this case. oomis is right.
oomis- shiviim panim latorah
mdd- What you are saying is exactly the point the OP is trying to make. You are the classic example of a judgemental person. Tznius is very hard. It’s all very nice that you think women should have self control but who are you to judge? You obviously don’t know how hard it is.
skiaddict is right. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion but some people have to learn to keep their mouths shut. It’s 100% Lashon Hara and in my opinion, worse then the breach of tznius. And it is not considered tochacha if you tell it to someone else.
So yes Vayeitzei, I would be surprised if someone told someone else about it. Well ok, I wouldn’t be surprised but I would be upset. It’s Lashon Hara. I think the main problem is that some people feel that their opinion is soooo important and that everybody cares. Well guess what? We don’t
old man- what’s muttar? For me to wear mens shirts sometimes for tznius reasons?
RABBAIM- you think it’s wrong to wear mens clothing for tznius purposes? (see my above post)
oom- The little things count. They show you what kind of guy he really is.
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/dating-etiquette
I have heard that some people prefer not to for tznius reasons. We see this in the Torah when Yaakov would travel with his family, his wives would travel in the back and when Eisav would travel his wives would go before him. So, how could it be that Eisav respects his wives more than Yaakov?
A medrash brings down that Yaakov Avinu was doing it out of respect for his wives. It’s not tznius for a man to walk behind a woman and watch her walk. So maybe some people feel that opening a door for a girl on a date (like a car door) is not tznius as he will watch the girl get out and walk before him…
Personally, I think its should be done and it’s rude not to.
Separate times will not prevent someone who wants to hang out with guys/girls from doing so. They will do it regardless. If you really want to prevent mingling, don’t cram 1000 teenage girls and 1000 teenage boys in the same area. You are just asking for trouble.
dunno- your theory is a tad backwards. No, very backwards.
If you verbally committed to doing a mitzvah (Is saying Tehillim a Mitzvah??) then it is a vow. But if you said Kol Nidrei on Yom Kippur (and you had in mind that it would be effecive for nullifying your future vows) then you are fine. However the Ramban (I think) says otherwise. He says that if you used the words I vow or I swear then it still counts as a vow and you would have to do Hataras Nedarim. If you specified that you would only do it on certain days then it’s only a vow for those verbally committed days.
If you did not verbally commit to doing it then it does not count unless you:
1)had in mind that you would do it and then you did it once.
2)did it 3 times in a row in which case it becomes a vow.
But if you said Kol Nidrei the above 2 points are not applicable
DISCLAIMER: I think the above is true but then again, I have no clue if I have my facts straight. Ask your LOR to be on the safe side.
bowwow- because it’s unsanitary. If you would tell your guests before that they were sleeping in the same sheets as 2 people before them, they would probably sleep on the floor.
bowwow- PLEASE tell me you’re joking.
stanleyc- it’s not only referring to a cop getting shot.It’s telling you to report anything suspicious looking like an abandoned bag or something like that.
Actually, I was once in Penn station and there was a backpack sitting there for like 15 minutes with no apparent owner. I went over to the nearest cop and told him about it. (It was right after the whole Times Square bombing scare so I was paranoid…) It ended up being nothing but you never know. And better safe than sorry, right?
zincase1- where exactly does it say that it’s assur??
aidel- it’s opening up as a new seminary called Bais Yaakov International. I could totally be making this up but I think it’s a traveling seminary.
lol goq- I would complain again but I feel bad… Thx mods 😉
On the topic of subtitles- mods can you please fix mine? I hate to complain but it drives me crazy! Can you fix ‘shoes’ and make it ‘shoe’? I was hoping you’d notice so i wouldn’t have to bother you but…
Thx in advance!!
littleapple- something to do with the oxygen. In the truck or glue bottle there is no oxygen. When the glue goes out of the bottle/truck, it reacts with the oxygen and bonds and hardens. So if you were to leave a bottle of glue open, eventually the entire bottle would turn solid.
(I might be making this up)
Wolf- It’s totally fine to eat at the same table with your nieces. I’m not a Rav so technically I can’t pasken but someone show me a source that says it’s not allowed. It all depends on what you feel comfortable with. If someone does not feel comfortable eating at the same table with teenage girls/boys, don’t. You obviously do feel comfortable, so go right ahead. It’s not a halacha. And you are not going to burn in hell because of it.
Hey Baal Habooze, This is my first time opening this thread…
Ummm… my story??
Well, once upon a time there was a girl named Cinderella. She joined a chat room one day and here she met a man called Prince Charming. They really liked each other and wanted to meet. The thing is that they didn’t know each others real identities. But then, Cinderella became a mod (not true) and got Charmings email address! The decided to meet and it turned out that Prince Charming was a creepy stalker. The End
Oh and I’ll have to ask my fairy godmother about the slippers. I never noticed that!!