My sister is in Bnos Yaakov in 11th grade. She loves it. She’s a typical teenager. Not boy or movie obsessed but does watch movies and probably will sometimes talk about guys with her friends. But not in an unhealthy way.

Look, you’re going to get a group of those girls anywhere. And they are not good for your spiritual health. So just pick your friends wisely, anywhere you go.

I wish you the best of luck in picking the right high school. Bnos yaakov is an excellent school though.

There is an Android app. You can’t access the coffee room on it though.

He’s currently learning full time but isn’t makpid on skirt length. I”m very serious

So what you’re saying is, he doesn’t care about halacha. Sounds like a lovely boy.

This strikes me as odd. People don’t apply the same leniencies to say, keeping Shabbos, as they do for tznius. I think that we spend a lot of time giving reasons why (and many of these reasons are garbage) that we forget that it is an obligation. Would you drive on Shabbos? No. Because in your head that’s non-negotiable. Same should go for tznius.

Jewish pride

Love for the Torah and other Jews

Happiness

Respect for Torah authority

Well I’m back on here after about a year so I probably don’t qualify.

Take a scenario with a mother and a young child. The kid is screaming because he doesn’t want to go to bed. The mother, after trying to reason with him, says, “You have to listen to me and go to bed, Hashem says so. ”

I get very very upset when I hear parents telling their kids things like this. Your child, at four years old, does not really care what Hashem wants while he’s having a tantrum. It’s going to make him resent Hashem if the parents use Him as an ‘excuse’.

Not exactly sure if it’s the same situation but it came to mind. I do agree with you on the Shabbos thing though.

Whatever he feels like doing. There’s no set standard.

Threads that ask a question that have a very simple answer that is answered in the first post but go on forever. Those are annoying.

Wickedness? Aren’t we being a tad melodramatic?

Any way you look at it, the earlier the better.

Not for everyone.

Because they live immoral lives.

That is not necessarily true. What about someone who wants to focus on their career for a while? What about someone who doesn’t feel emotionally ready to get married?

I just feel that the pressure to get married straight from seminary or college isn’t healthy for everyone.

Aha. But isn’t it better to see women in the distance than to see them up close? The glasses should be the other way around. Just saying. So it was a stupid joke that doesn’t make sense.

Sleep as much as you can and cook and bake in between. Baking really helps for some reason.

I was going to say what smartcookie said. There are some people out there who are so hung up on their horrible childhood experiences that they bring it up in every conversation and blame all of their misfortunes on it.

From what I know of you Goq, you are a very normal person and this doesn’t apply to you. But what prompted her to say this? I am not saying that she was right because what she said was stupid, but do you always blame everything on your childhood? Are you hung up on what happened to you? Are you letting your childhood get in the way of you having a happy life? She was wrong to say that but I’m just wondering aloud…

I think it’s appalling how people actually believe that preaching and threatening will do any good. Especially with the delicate and largely misunderstood topic of tznius. You have to be so careful with every single thing you say because teenagers especially are so ready to take what you say in the wrong way.

This school needs some serious talking to, if it is true that they did indeed send this story out.

Did you eat them, or throw them at your wife?

Well, I don’t have a wife to throw it at so I just ate it. But I think you may need help if you don’t like cheesecake. Why don’t you write a letter to yourself?

Dear Popa Bar Abby,

There’s leftover cheesecake that I really want to eat. Should I? If yes, should I have the mocha or the Oreo one?

Sincerely,

Really wants to eat cheesecake but doesn’t know if she should

Mine is in a month and a bit!

I listened to this speech and I have to say I agree with what Rabbi Wallertein was saying. His main point- to get of the internet was the moral of the story. Any experienced, computer savvy person can hack into your email or Facebook account and get all your information without ‘friending’ you first. You dont have to talk to a stranger for them to find out your personal information.

What you are saying is extremely true and I agree with you 100%. But the Internet is an extremely dangerous place even if you ‘don’t talk to strangers’.

I once Googled someone- not a prospective shidduch, and found alot of things that she probably would not have wanted anyone to see. Chats she had, pictures she didn’t know were public… It wasn’t very good. But I got what I wanted…

I think it’s okay to Google someone. It’s stalkery to make a fake Facebook account to friend someone you want information on. There is a difference.

Aha. I’m trying to figure out what that implies…

“Nachlas, BYA, BJJ, Machon Raaya, Bnos Sarah, Bnos Chava etc, are all what I would consider BY, but not Yeshivish.”

Ummm… no.

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Hey, Did some look, where in the rules does it say I can’t get help?

Sincerely,

Cleaner Lid.

I could spend a very long tine refuting each one of balbustas ridiculous statements but it looks like OneOfMany is doing a fine job on her own.