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ICOT: Firstly, welcome back. You were missed.
Thanks for the honourable mention elsewhere. I don’t remember what I wrote, but your posts are invariably thoughtful and well thought through.
I agree with your OP entirely.
I consider the harassment which is taking place to be competely unwarranted and unjust. A suspicion should be worked through in private until solid proof has been found either way.
Yes, the CR has to protect its trusting youth, but that can be done in a more positive way.
The CR is no longer the cosy, friendly place I discovered 18 months ago. That’s a shame.
bh18: You, too, are a hero for your positive acceptance of difficult situation. I’m sure both your sons’ unique behaviour is a reflection of yours.
Popa: I don’t get you
Your story of Rav Yaakov makes the point that chinuch is about deciding on the appropriate behaviour for different ages. This is an obvious principle.
I wouldn’t discipline, say, a five year old for loud, impolite comments about the lady crossing the street, nor a six year old for knocking down a light fixture while playing with a broomstick, etc, etc, etc (I use ‘survival’ techniques for those, not ‘chinuch’ techniques)
In my experience, your specific application of this principle is incorrect. ‘Talking dirty’ is usual for a 3-4 year old, but not a 7 year old.
Where has ICOT gone?
freshness on the main page should go by time of approval, not time, not time posted
no, they don’t brainwash. They teach Torah-true hashkofos.
True, some girls may come out brainwashed, but that is their fault.
Mrs Chritique: you mean Manchester, don’t you?
i went to old Gateshead before the new one opened. I have warm memories of a wonderful seminary. I hear both are very solid though they are different. You need to find out which suits you more.
popa: “I think once nuns are married, they aren’t nuns anymore, and are allowed to totally dump their bad or good habits. “
*like*
OP: are these own habits or that of a spouse?
own bad habits can always be changed, though it needs hard work.
as for trying to change a spouse – it’s a touchy topic.
I’m often in Meah Shearim, without seeing anything untoward. I’ve more than once noticed trouser-clad (female) tourists sauntering through the area – though they are rare – without anyone doing or saying anything to them.
It’s obviously a group of minority extremists
my grandma used to say that she was too lazy to leave things for tomorrow.
expat: wanderingchana
joseph again: Droid (I cheated)
How about: Informative member of the CR
and a difficult one: Mr 80
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42, look at posting history.
AYC is a sensitive poster, always pleasant and positive.
tahini, as a fellow Britisher, I appreciate what you write.
I think it reflects a worldwide malady – the inability to accept another’s viewpoint. Here, you are exposed to a far wider set of people than you would meet in a typical Sunday stroll around the lake, hence more disagreement.
Personally, I cannot understand the strange desire to convince someone to believe as I do. I would much rather be told that my ‘argument has validity’, than ‘you’re right, you’re right, I’m changing orientation NOW’
wade through this. there are fifteen pages of it:
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/screen-names/page/14
am yisrael chai: what did you do to deserve that?
tahini succinctly said it all
where does Gog u Mogog come into all this?
Poppa: “That makes no sense. You can always get remarried, but you can’t make leftovers into fresh food.”
You have obviously never worked in a restaurant
s-h mum: when my son was 6, he had the same problem. I would put him to sleep at around 7.30-8, which I thought was right for his age. He would sometimes lie awake for over an hour without falling asleep. I pushed his bedtime off until 8:30 and he fell asleep far quicker.
I could see that a later bedtime was ok for him, since he woke up on time in the morning and wasn’t tired during the day.
Even now, at age 9, he falls asleep late. I give him an mp3 with something interesting to listen to and that helps.
mommamia22: your bedtime description sounds very familiar.
I find that I need to get two things right: winding them down and the order of bedtime. Only you know your children and their individual needs.
For example, I found that one of my boys needs winding down and plenty of sleep. If I give in and allow him to play ‘just a bit more’ because he’s playing nicely, then he will fall asleep late.
He also needs more sleep than his younger brother. So i put him to sleep first, and send his younger brother out of the room to play until he’s asleep.
Another child needs less than average sleep. If he goes to bed too early, then he is unable to fall asleep, even when his usual bedtime hour arrives.
Putting two children to sleep in the same room *never* works for me. I try to stagger bedtimes or, if it’s getting late, put them to sleep in separate rooms.
am yisrael chai: I like your suggestion!
kapusata: same here.
Popa said: “If chup is not Joseph, then I really am Mod 80!”
and now he has a Mod 80 subtitle.
we can therefore deduct …
Or can we?
If he’s Joseph then he really has cheapened his punctuation & style. I didn’t think he would do that, even on purpose.
squeak!
kindly restrain yourself 🙂
Each of us here has actually become a moderator, but we try to make sure the other posters don’t realise.
We just haven’t worked out that everyone else is a mod too.
Many posters lurk for a while before posting.
So Chup could be very familiar with all the regulars without being known to them. So don’t lets start with the Josephing again.
Chup: when you write a post, it doesn’t appear until it has been approved by a mod. You’ll only see it if you are logged in.
welldressed007: We got the Dodi reference.
Good joke, but I agree with Squeak that it isn’t in the best Elul taste.
Tahini: I like your point.
a corrected or uncorrected strabismus
Had surgery as a child years ago, but was only partially successful So I guess you could call it both corrected and uncorrected.
Can’t answer much about the surgery since it was way back then.
I believe current surgery is more precise.
Smick: when you start a thread and then try to add to it before it’s gone through,you incorrectly get a ‘thread closed’ message.
That’s a tech glitch, don’t take it personally.
I’m pro vaccinations for serious illnesses – measles, polio, [smallpox], etc.
However, mass vaccinations at a young age for everything including an ingrown toenail is ridiculous.
I’m convinced that the reason for vaccinations for all the relatively minor illnesses is financial, not medical. Sitting out childhood diseases naturally, with 2-3 weeks per child, staggered, would mean too many lost work days for working mothers.
(My personal opinion. I’m prepared to be convinced otherwise.)
Thank you, mod 80.
I do find the general kollel-bashing fashion upsetting.
Particularly since I see the low standard of living kollel families are content to live with here [Israel].
Yeah, there may be exceptions who are ‘living it up’, but why not focus on the majority.
gavra’s five-state idea has more chance than the three-state one.
I can’t believe these large plastic glasses are being worn voluntarily.
I still have a twenty-year old pair of those that I keep to remember how ridiculous I looked. I had no choice, though, because all the free ones were like that. I ran full tilt to contact lenses as soon as I could and didn’t look back.
ronsr: are they worn internally or externally!?
Flatbushmom: Two things occur to me, though they may not apply to your son:
1) A child wanting to be accepted socially can’t afford to be arrive at school unkempt. Make sure he has his haircut, looks neat and presentable, etc. A minor thing, perhaps, but important.
2) Is he in the correct class for his age? My son was the youngest of his class. We kept him down a year since we felt it was best for him. I noticed that his social standing changed from fair to excellent.
nope. Can’t smell anything 🙂
Same thing happens to me and to others. Don’t take it personally. There are so many new threads popping up to the top of the list that old ones fall into oblivion.
(Check my profile, for example. It lists the threads I replied to. Many have no further replies and, of those that do, most were not to me. )
Continue posting and watch as you get more and more replies to your posts.
chofetzchaim: read the small print. They never actually guaranteed anything
Same as MP, MG and YT above. I love the English language, but never studied grammar past high school level. I would appreciate any corrections (with a short grammar lesson, please) to my posts.
shein: you probably didn’t mean it that way, but that wasn’t ‘shein’
coffee addict: There is a coffeeaddict in another thread. Is that the you?
Mr Gruberfield: “according to that reason, women would need to wear some kind of wire frame to push their shirts away from their body so that the shirt doesn’t ‘outline’ it.
Also their sleaves would need to billow out several inches, so as not to accentuate their arms. “
Not so. The halochos of covering the upper and lower part of the body are different. Upper part must be covered, but outline need not be hidden.
Oomis: I think culottes are forbidden because of poretz geder – they are too similar to pants.
There was a story going ’round in Israel some time ago. Roughly went like this:
A driver lost his way and was about to enter (unknowingly) a dangerous Arab village. Suddenly four holy looking people dressed in white appeared to direct them, thus saving their lives.
They went to a mekubal (don’t remember who) who told them that three were Avraham, Yitzchak and Yaakov. The fourth, he refused to reveal.
Sounds good, doesn’t it.
The story was being told over on a bus and the driver laughed. He had invented the story with a friend and they had had a bet to see how long it would take the story to get told back to them.
AYC – I dont get it either
if you want to get rid of your subtitle, why don’t you create a new user name AYC II or something similar?
This subtitle business is getting quite ridiculous
am yisrael chai
what’s with your subtitle?
cutie: change nickname
Bar Shattya: congrats on the subtitle. Wonderful!
haleivi: I think recognizing style is more reliable than knowing IPs.
i was a lurker at the time, but was surprised when the ruffruffs got blocked, being they were very evidently a distinct personality. Unless someone is *very* good at it, I don’t think he can keep up multiple user name with different natures. A person is what he is.
“Hey mods how could you go and change my username, it’s one thing to change my subtitle but my username…..????? “
Cutie: you can change your username (not subtitle) yourself:
<http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/wp-admin/profile.php?updated=true&wp_http_referer>
click on your name at top left (where it says ‘welcome quark2’) to view your profile. You’ll see both there.