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If it was the aveil who set up the introduction, it is perfectly proper to offer a handshake and sholom aleichem. The aveil will feel comforted by this action, and on the flip side may otherwise feel ignored.
In most cases, tznius issues (as well as other modern behavior in a family) generally corrects itself when the family reaches the milestone of shidduchin or when trying to have children accepted into the better schools.
“So too with music. Halacha dictates that we should not make weddings not cut hair and refrain from things that cause us enjoyment and make us happy.”
You mean “and refrain from things that cause us” …to dance with gusto; as opposed to repeatedly putting one foot in front of the other.
Today, we lead such miserable nervous lives and many need music to alleviate misery and thereby enable them to come closer to Hashem because you can’t serve Hashem without being happy ..Ivdu es hashem b’simcha.
Igrot Moshe (1:166). But holds not to use his heter during s’fira.
DaasY: do you have a direct shulchan aruch source that music is prohibited during s’fira? Where is it?
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cherrybim: You have brought some background to this matter. R’Moshe zz’l believed that music is ossur all year round (see some of his teshuvos) and only reluctanlty acquiesced to the kulos of today.Hence, R’Moshe zz’l felt that during sefirah we should assert the halacha of all year round. And, if you read the teshuvos on music and sefirah ,it becomes even clearer that R’Moshe zz’l felt thast this was an extension of all year round halacha.
However, as a large part of klal yisroel is “meikel”on music all year round, it becomes much more difficult to prohibit music during sefirah. It seems that the “tsibbur’ accepted an issur for live performances but many groups are “meikel”‘ on recorded music, such as Chabad, mentioned by yourself, Rab Hutner zz’l and his talmidim and even R”moshe zz’l himself who allowed chazanut on sefirah.
This approach would at least give the Issur of music during sefirah some substance, which it doesn’t have now.
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I can trace my lineage back to Avrohom Avinu.
Some poskim hold that any type of music which comes through a music player (phone, radio, computer, etc.) is assur, even a capella, because the device becomes a kli zemer for the music.
Others may hold that all music is mutter, even during s’firah, due to Rav Moshe’s heter to listen to music all year long which, m’iker hadin he holds, is assur.
M’ikar Hadin, O’Connor would have been counted for a minyan and receive an aliyah. I have a friend, Houlihan, in the same situation. He has more midos tovos than most frum yidden I know.
How is the food?
If attending means getting shishi and the aufruf kiddush includes p’tcha, a herring bar and top drawer bourbon, my minhag is to attend and make l’chaims with all the future relatives and friends. If the kiddush is the just cake and soda type, my minhag is to pass.
We cannot add onto the original g’zeiras which chazal instituted hundreds of years ago and is now a minhag to askenazik Jews. That is why Reb Moshe held that peanuts were not kitniyos, nor is potato starch; both unknown to the askenazik poskim during the kitniyos g’zeira era. And that is why poskim don’t proclaim additional chumras on the kitnios g’zeira and ban quinoa because afterall it’s Pesach.
You never responded to yes-its-me after he/she provided you with an answer to your challenge:
yes-its-me – let it suffice that many poskey zmanainu hold that ANYONE who watches movies is called a porutz in hilchos yichud and cannot be a shomer with regarding them.
WIY – Never heard that one before. Sounds wild. Care to throw out some names
yes-its-me – see sevet halevi vol 5 siman 202
As with Reb Moshe, Rabbi Kronglass soared beyond the title of Rav and in his lifetime was addressed and was known as Rebbe to his talmidim and simply as Reb Dovid to others.
The cold water getting cooked indirectly is also “Lo neecha lo”
In addition to turning off the themostat, shut off the cold water intake of the water boiler tank to resolve the bishul issue.
Rav Ruderman zt’l, the Rosh yeshiva of Ner Yisroel did not generally paskin but would refer shailos to Reb Dovid Kronglass zt’l.
truthsharer1 – “I have heard of people leaving a faucet running with a tiny trickle of hot water to allow normal usage on Shabbos, but I don’t like that loophole, you are still causing more cold water to heat up as soon as you turn on your faucets.”
Rav Nachman Bulman zt’l had the hot water going over Shabbos as per your post.
She needed a private spot to put on her t’filin.
DY, so what is your Rav for?
“Also beware of ignorantly labeling something a modern day chumrah when it’s not.”
That’s what your Rav is for.
“If an ehrlich person chooses a posek based on competence rather than how meikil the posek is,”
Beware also of choosing a posek based not on competence but rather on modern day chumros.
Start with your Rebbe’s son, if he is in the parsha.
If your son needs your permission; he’s not ready.
CH – Please don’t play us for fools. Avi weiss doesn’t come to the toenails of any Rabbonim in Riverdale and he wasn’t the greatest lamdin in RJJ either.
As far as the numbers game goes, you certainly know that there are many variables that make statistics lie; such as:
Even if we take HIR at their word concerning the 500 dues paying families; the size of an HIR family is far smaller than that of the Riverdale shuls and institutions you list. There are a lot of dues paying singles attached to HIR who are counted as families. And the percentage of shul attendance and learning at these other Riverdale shuls is far greater than the dues payers at HIR.
I think more attention is focused on the family by protests and boycott actions. You better be very certain that you are on solid footing before sounding off.
You can calls him Johnson.
lol – 29
To list a few: g’neivas daas; g’neivas z’man; chillul Hashem; v’nishmartem m’od l’nafshoseichem; deeno d’malchuso.
If chas v’shalom an accident happens as a result or worse, you can include a lot more.
Every time that drivers do not use an arrow signal when turning or changing lanes, they are committing several aveiros as a result.
There ought to be a ban.
147’s new Rabbi gave a 1/2 hour themed discourse about how connected are Thanksgiving & Chanukah.
I wonder why my Rav didn’t darshin on this connection.
It’s highly unlikely that previous g’dolim celebrated Thanksgiving sh’chal bo Channukah with turkey.
Assur to have turkey on Thanksgiving at a seudas mitzva, certainly when it is the main dish.
Good chap, and on the yar tzeit week.
“shower women with empowerment to fight”.
Oh no!
You were doing good until that line.
What have you got against tall women?
“Because its always the women who insist on the divorce.”
Because these women don’t want to be married to a jerk forever.
How can a person avoid suffering? Easy; you don’t live forever.
How about a support group for all the divorced women whose ex-husband deadbeats and in-laws don’t pay a cent toward agreed child support or tuitions yet demand and receive custody/visitation. Three cheers to these women and to those yeshivas who are understanding.
If he’s too bored in Brooklyn, try Manhattan.
It’s ok, but make the bracha slowly and loud.
I’d love to have my phone in leather.
Playing ping-pong on Shabbos? The question has been asked back and forth.
You live outside the eruv? Oh my goodness! I would jump off the roof.
The child can convert when reaching adulthood.
“The turkey has the Simanim of a Kosher bird.”
Actually, it’s pretty difficult to peel the membrane off the turkey gizzard (pupik); whereas one sign of a kosher bird is that the inside membrane comes off easily.
“there are still those today who don’t eat turkey.”
Not because turkey is treif, but because of minhag. if they held that turkey was treif, these people would not in another’s home or restaurant since the turkey would make everything treif(other food and keilim).
Anyone know a good contractor?
“This is not a proper Torah haskafa.”
It is, proof in T’nach. Sometimes Torah rules are overridden for the sake of peace with other nations.
“Would this be an issue of hana’a from basar v’chalav?”
Do you drink milk or eat products containing milk; the milk comes a cow which is meat, and isn’t this basar v’chalav?
The legal benefits of legitimately married individuals are protected by extending to these perverts the benefits of married couples as well.
Legitimately married couples are a minority in the United States and eventually we would lose whatever opportunities are currently available to us. This way we have a much larger population who want to preserve government benefits which help our community.
Yiden generally benefit from “piggybacking” off the laws that are meant to protect other Americans, as most of the population could care less about Anti Semitism.
Also our yeshivas and families benefit from regulations meant for others as even our own, liberal Jews who make up the majority of the USA Jewish population, are the biggest advocates of church-state separation and have spent many $millions trying to repeal government rules which benefit our community and fight against vouchers for religious schools.
There is no way that we will stop them, so let’s be cordial so when we are in need; i.e., Israel, Rubashkin, etc., there is a better chance that they will of help.
Sam2 – You hit the nail on the head. This would apply to most Yiden today.
Also, the Monsey chicken guy was somewhat of a lamdin; he must have also held like the shita that kosher birds do not require sh’chitah.
“M’deoraisa, chicken is Pareve”
Many yidin today were not m’kabel this g’zeira d’rabanon which not only means to them that chicken is pareve but also that chicken does not require sh’chitah.