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“and rashi there even says that the posuk is refering to going to theaters like the goyim and places of sports and the likes.”
“Going to the Theater is Assur ONLY because its IN PUBLIC”
If that were the way we paskin today, we would have to ban many Jewish frum concerts and events which are held in theaters and sporting arenas; i.e., siyum hashas, chazanus concerts, YBC, MBC, graduation ceremonies, etc.
Some young families are moving back in with their parents in order to save up for a home purchase; rent, utilities, food, etc. add up. As long as there is enough (seperate) room, it can be great for all involved.
BaalHabooze: Good Ones!
Aishes Chayil: I heard a much longer version of that story (from my Rov); thanks, it’s great.
It’s ok as long as phones are turned off in shul/yeshiva/bais medrash.
Jokes are necessary because marriage is wonderful but tough and in order for it to be successful, you need to work at it every day. Just like you must be b’simcha in order to be a frum Yid; so to with marriage, you need a sense of humor.
“Another message to the chasan: Do you know the two most important words in marriage?? Yes, Dear!!!”
Or, I always have the last word; “Yes Dear”.
Why is marriage like taking a hot bath?
Once you get used to it, it’s not so hot.
There are kosher bakeries that are open on Shabbos; the g’mara and shulchan aruch discuss this and sets forth halachos concerning the items that are baked on Shabbos. Chazal were not concerned about the items being kosher worthy; just that bread baked on shabbos by a Yid is always forbidden because of k’nas and you need to wait a certain amount of time after shabbos is over before eating the goy’s shabbos baked items.
“but halachicly if it was aser y r there gedolim that smoke”
The answer is simple. They became addicted to nicotine before they became g’dolim. G’dolim are human and not malachim. No one ever became a gadol and started smoking.
The question is why did all the yeshivas of years ago permit smoking? It was because it was out of control and could not be stopped; with a high pecentage of the hanhola and bais medrish hooked.
Unfortunately, many of these brilliant rosh yeshivas and rabbeim left wives, children, grandchilren and talmidim way too soon and suffered terribly.
“I have heard In the name of many gedolim that smoking the first time is aser. But after that first time is muter”
Right, the same goes for cocaine use, gambling, and inappropriate behavior; once you’re hooked, it’s all mutter.
“someone singing gemara at a rate of at least a blatt a minute (based on the freqency of turning pages).”
I too frequently turn g’mara pages very quickly when chazaring and using an Artscroll which only focuses on several lines of g’mara per page. Havei dan l’caf z’chus…
“Um. How did he pay? Where was his wallet? Or at least his change from the sale?”
Kashe oif a maiseh. Ask the 7/11 clerk for details; the police did.
“Q:Do I even need to think about tuition when buying a home? Do I need to think about future kids/expenses?”
If I had thought so long and hard about buying a house and worried about tuition, I’d never have a big house. Hashem wants you to have a large home and to fill it up with children and to pay tuitions; so why are you thinking so much, leave it up to Him to figure out how it will happen. And it will happen if you make the first move.
It may seem hard, but it’s not up to you to make these cheshbonos when you’re doing the right thing. Some things, especially the cost of maintaining a frum lifestyle don’t make sense on paper; but Hashem comes through.
There were litvaks in BP before the chasidim.
As we all know, while in halacha there are many things which while you can technically find a loop hole and get around a sin, you are, nonetheless, bringing yourself to a very low madrega and mida.
For instance, you may not have to return the change overage to a ben neichar, but you should, for the reason just mentioned.
Same thing with entitlements; it used to be a shanda to take, and for good reason. Now, we are just like all the chalerias. Whatever happened to making your shabbos meal like a weekday’s to prevent taking a handout and creating a chillul Hashem?
“No bickering, bad-mouthing etc.”
And boring.
So we dun l’cuf z’chus. Case closed.
There were about 100,000 Jews serving in the German army during World War I; many of them received the Iron Cross as military honors. The Iron Cross associated with World War II is totally different and is anti-semitic. The old man in the painting may be wearing an Iron cross which he earned for bravery in battle.
Every time we have a seminary thread here, the soon to be high school graduates seem to lack basic spelling and writing skills; why is this?
beets me.
What about the zchus to wear an elter-elter-zeida’s underwear?
“klal yisroel is noheig not to sell chametz gamur”
Rav Moshe disagrees. In response to this question, he said, “what else do you sell, if not the chometz”.
Most sites do not list personal items,i.e. mouthwash; toothpaste, this year but kosherquest.org/Passover-2012 does.
Great Site:
kosherquest.org/Passover-2012.pdf
Rabbi Eliezer Eidlitz-Kosher Information Bureau
Only your actual chometz. The chometz that may be stuck to your keilim are made batul.
“Why would you want to wash out the sweat and tears that you expended in tefilla?”
I change my underwear even if they get sweaty during tefilla. I don’t give it a second thought, no matter how holy they are.
“My shabbos talis is a 30-ish year old Munkaczer Turkish, and very yellow, but I would not give it up for any white new thing. It was woven on the oily clacking looms when they were still on Division St.”
Thirty years ago, the Munkaczer talis shop was on 13 Ave. and 38th Street, the weaving was done in the back room. I also miss them. My Munkaczer talis is 40 years old and still strong as ever. It’s yellowish but always clean and pressed because I love that talis.
yitzchokm, if you use any product that isn’t produced, in your own kitchen from scratch; that is mishing.
Everyone mishes to some degree today.
Unless you are paid up with your own children’s tuition bills; it it assur to give money to another yeshiva, especially to help with their tuition. Your achreiyus is to first pay your yeshiva and rabbeim and take care of your responsibility before you take care of another’s.
Another better idea: after going to minyan and learning a few hours, the bochrim should be home helping their mother with pesach preparations so that she will not be a rag at the sedar table; that would be the biggest mitzva rabbah, taking precedence above everything else.
“I have a better idea.”
I also have a better idea. How about sending kids home Bein Hazmanim to learn. I encountered one shul/bais medresh in Flatbush on Avenue J and 18th which is packed with bochrim learning Bein Hazmanim. What a Kiddush Hashem!!
“Ban IT!!! Ban it from all frum homes. It is a major time killler and tool of the Yetzer Hora!! Hefsed schara outweighs its benefits. Stop the bleeding!”
Sounds like you are giving reasons for banning the Coffee Room.
Those who don’t eat g’brochts also don’t eat in the succah on sh’mini atzeres; so much for your chumras.
If a fellow had to pay for all the services a wife provides, it would cost him over $100,000 a year. Good deal I would say. So it’s the woman, the shmata, who generally has had enough of da bum and calls it quits.
“Many are machmir and dont eat Gebrokst because its a chshash chometz.”
The same chashash exists on the last day of pesach too; so much for this “chumra” shtus.
In addition to the white shirt policy, chofetz chaim has instituted another standard: chofetz chaim will no longer accept bochrim into the high school who are not above the average; this applies even to boys who are currently in chofetz chaim’s own elementary school. This means that the lower level class for each grade will be cut and its students rejected from the yeshiva.
No, I can quit anytime; I’ve done it many times.
Scotch tastes like medicine, yach. Good bourbon is a holy mashke and takes your t’filos right up to shomayim; try a shot before davening.
The same heter that male doctors have to be involved, albeit medically, with women when today female doctors are available.
avhaben, I am a good cook; now that is.
Before marriage; YES.
After marriage, NO.
Holding hands with one’s wife in private may take one to the highest levels of kedusha.
I don’t trust any of them. Dear is very decent but he had so much mud flung at him by them and unzere. I glad he’s out of the garbage heap so that he can be respected by all.
Remember, frum values are in the minority and we will never get our agenda approved. Our history has always been to support someone who is electable; not someone who is running for Rosh Yeshiva…and in the back-room deals, our program makes some gains.
“and its in the siddur”.
I like saying Al Tira because I put it to Carlbach’s tune under my breath.
And who says both (or any) Kale Erech Apayims during the week before taking out the Torah?
“Whether a fluffy squirrel who runs away…”
Hashem gave fluffy tails to rats to make them cute and called them squirrels.
BTGuy, I see you beat me to it.
For that matter, beware of any animal that may seem harmless; animals are animals and will do harm to humans given the opportunity.
I give blood five times a year and have done this for the past 20 years and b’h have never needed it. Besides benefiting other Yidden and humankind, Bikor Cholim benefits financially from my gift.
“Ester refused the makeup and was the pretty one anyway.”
That was part of the nes, remember. B’derech ha’teva, Esther was not supposed to have been chosen without make-up. So if you girls want to rely on a miracle, go ahead and look unappealing and see how far that gets you.
Then how come I know Gerrer couples who are miserable; are you a Gerrer couple?
“Gerrer couples are very happy with their marriage, and their divorce rate is likely far lower than the complainers.”
The divorce rate does not prove a happy marriage; ask any abused married woman. Where ya gonna go?
Women should always look their best for husbands. This mother was right on the money. If a girl does not take care of herself before marriage and certainly when meeting a prospective mother-in-law; she will not care to make herself attractive to her husband down the road.
This reminds me of the fellow who was training his donkey to get by with less food each day and one day as this fellow was about to achieve his goal of having the donkey get by with no food at all, the donkey drops dead of starvation.
There’s no mitzvah for the average person to train himself to do without something that is required for normal people; i.e. affection between married couples in private, which is shown in our Torah. And it’s not fair to the spouse. At the end, something’s got to give.
“but for a husband and wife to hold hands albeit only at home is contrary to kedusha and tehara.”
Silly.
“If its moitzie shabbos for you , you say good woch, if it’s shabbos for you you say good shabbos”
I think it’s the other way around: The fellow going home from an earlier maariv should say to the one who is going to shul “have a good Shabbos” since it’s still Shabbos for him. On the other hand, this fellow who is going to shul to maariv, should wish the fellow who is going home “have a good week” since Shabbos is over for him.