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actually, that IS a good point. check mate then 🙂
and,
MAZEL TOV!

lol, everybody seems to be confirming my point about the virtual becoming a reality. After all, you all virtually know her!

My opinion, if anyone cares…
First off, I wish a hearty mazel tov to the kallah and the chosson and families involved.
Now, It is my belief that we have become weak minded when we feel the need to throw random Mazel Tovs to a person we never met, and we dont even know if they actually exist (in the form portrayed anyway).
Of course we do this (as I have above) to share and encourage in this persons simcha. And that IS a beautiful thing. However, there is another angle to this. What lunacy is it to have a bunch of random people who dont know one another congratulate each other in a way that you have no idea who is congratulating you?
Would someone stop a random person in the street and say “hey i’m engaged”? I daresay most people would consider this outside the realm of normal behavior. So why is it different to post such on an anonymous group chat of people you have no idea?
As evidence to this, look at the type of ridiculous comments that followed not long after. My point is, this is only possible in a world where the virtual has become the reality and socially becomes off.
Now to be clear. To the kallah who posted it, I am not criticizing you at all. You presumably posted it in a spurt of “i want to shout it to the world” feeling which IS, absolutely normal. My point is, that in a healthy world people would see that and say “wow, thats one excited kallah” and go on, because the venue isnt apropos. (akin to a person who just got their long awaited direct deposit from their boss while waiting in the bank and then shouting “yes”). Only in a world where people take the virtual as reality and their feelings would possibly be hurt by anonymous strangers not responding would the reaction of my fellow coffee room ‘posters’ have to post as they did. And for that, we cry.
[please make sure you understand what i’m getting at before you respond in indignant fury, thank you]

This is something i’ve heard too, that if you mispronounce a word the “tefilos arent niskabel”, is there a makor for this? Specifically a word that has no significant structural change? and therefore its intent can still be surmised?

Billywee. lonely people who have a lack of tznius dont get invited to my table, ones loneliness does give them a free pass on any mitzvos.
That said. This is a HUGE oversimplification, maybe your wife like ‘forward’ people, but your comments’ wording implied that divorced women are to forward, that generalization is simply untrue. And you probably didnt even mean that.

Unfortunately, There is ALWAYS a fallout on innocent people when a criminal gets penalized. A bank robber who was a staunch family man. A father who beat the parent of his sons bully. A person who has an alchohol problem but is the kindest and most endearing husband. A hedge fund manager who, under pressure, becomes a ponzi schemer. All people who broke laws and their punishment adversley affects those who love them.
In fact, if we looked at the broader picture of the effect of incarceration on that persons inner circle, we would never condemn anyone to prison, after all What wrong did the 5 yr old child of a mugger do to warrant not seeing his daddy for the rest of his childhood?! (this is in fact one of the points made that HKB”H is the dayan tzedek as apposed to basar v’dom)
Yet for society to flourish we at times have to look away from the mans inner circle and punish the criminal for his crimes. That is the only way to function, everyone understands that. And so, the children being separated? that is something that the criminal, in our case the illegal infiltrator, will have on their conscious for the rest of their life. But law is law.

Dunno if this matters to anyone but i’ll say my piece anyway.
Geirim have a hard time, the torah explicitly states this by warning us to be extra sensitive to them. So for a geir, the first ingredient for success is to have a little thick skin. Not that they should or their not good people, but that it will be something they need from unintentional, and unfortunately, sometimes, intentional callousness.
Second, Geirim are “k’sapachas” to yisroel, there are two opposite reasons for this, both true. 1- When a Ger becomes an exemplary Yid, There is R”L a tayna on those who dont match up. “even a ger… what about you”? This was the Pshat of the famous ger Tzedek Avraham ben Avraham, contemporary to the GR”A.
2- Unfortunately there are those who attempt to join the tribe but never really relinquish the “ways of their fathers”. These end up being a modern day “eruv rav” and can cause untold harm to the yiddesh community.
All that aside, Bottom line, I value and cherish a Ger, I look up to them, respect them, and would try to make things as smooth as possible for a Ger/Giyores i meet. @LostSpark, hope that helped!

There are a few good points already referenced above. in short
1. No one has any claim on anyone elses money, as long as their obligations were paid, the rest is their right to use as they see fit. Whether they used it properly or not is non of anyone elses business.
2. there may be validity in supporting a candidate who is good for jews. (whether trump is or isnt is irrelevant to this discussion. if they think he is then it very well may be their duty to support him)

@ meno, being that the responsibility of the police are to protect the citizenry, the appropriate response would be to inform her of the law and just move on, there doesnt have to be a brouhaha for every minor infraction. Furthermore, you write you’d be ok with with being ticketed for not walking in the crosswalk if thats the law. Lets be clear, the law is composed to have a textual standard for upholding those things that are correct and just, not to become the be all and end all. thats why we have times where laws are overturned or amended. When that law is applied legally but in a spirit of entrapment, for citizens who are otherwise law abiding, you now have “ivus hadin” perversion of the law.
On a personal note, you say you’d be ok with being ticketed if it was the law, it is commendable on your part to act with sacrifice in the name of upholding the rule of law even when unjustly targeted, yet that would not preclude others and those in power from being responsible to stand up for justice.
Also, lets reiterate the main point, infortunately, the secularists in israel are so hateful of the orthodox, that they cannot be trusted to execute fair justice, the woman being arrested rightfully felt that she was being accosted by thugs, not reprimanded for an infraction, and her fears are confirmed by the cops violence, all for a simple matter which was blown up for no reason.

theres something called legal harassment, would you be ok for being ticketed for not crossing in the crosswalk? then having to identify yourself like in nazi germany?

actually,there is no discrepancy whatsoever between genders so obviously there are exactly the same number of male female participants, to think that women are any more sane than men and would shy away from pointless online trolling is misogynist and hateful.
with emotion,
chaim,
non-gender, since heck, theres no difference anyway
#rebbetzin greentoes