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Hey what happened to my post?
CSParticipantSorry op and Dovidbt. I spent some time yesterday writing up my favorite sources and how to/I apply, and it wasn’t posted I don’t know why :(. Still hoping this can get resolved as its quite a shame it didn’t come through when to the best of my knowledge, I didn’t break any rules
CSParticipantOh yay I love this topic, one of my passions as I experience many variations of this dilemma on a pretty constant basis, and I’ve learned allot about it. Will try to write up something tomorrow bln if you’re interested 🙂
CSParticipant“It probably wont be such a shock since if we see whoever Moshiach is fighting a physical war and leading us we will probably know who it is and be able to point out”zehu Moshiach”! But ya it would definitely be exciting ; )”
Yes or no. Dovid Hamelech fought many years before the whole klal Yisrael accepted him. Also if the wars end up being fought on a spiritual realm then that could also be a surprise factor. Either way it definitely will be exciting and I’m so sick of waiting!!
“shlucha-you still didnt answer any of the questions…”
Yeah I’m not into pointless arguing or wasting time trying to hash things out with someone who’s mind is made up on the topic to begin with…forgive me if my assessment of you is wrong. I love exchanging ideas, and information, all Torah viewpoints. I don’t like needless arguing. I’ve already contributed allot to threads that discuss this sort of thing. It’s nice to just be able to post as a person a thought that occurred to me without
Every controversial topic being brought in needlessly. As a person I comment on threads I find relevant or interesting. Those include women, moshiach and any other Torah discussion I find relevant enough to me personally to comment on.CSParticipantIcemelter I didn’t say anything about the Rebbe you did. I responded to one poster who said theres no such thing as coming a second time with the Rashi and my own thoughts based on history that however moshiach is gonna come that’s will probably be some major shock element and we should expect the unexpected. That’s all. Not interested in debating about the Rebbe back and forth because that’s not anything worth arguing about as it isn’t the main point.
CSParticipantAlso I was reading the kitov book our history on how David was despised by his own family and city because his own father and brothers thought he was a mamzer so they treated him badly and then everyone else did too. It was quite a shock to the family when he was anointed let alone the country’s reaction when he became king. I guess that’s why it took him so long to establish his kingship. If there was such a shock factor when it came to just the ancestor of moshiach, imagine how it’ll be by moshiach himself.
CSParticipantI recently saw a fascinating rashi, last one in Daniel that says moshiach will be revealed, then will be concealed and then we’ll be revealed again. Apparently it’s not the only place either… So yeah sounds strange because we usually associate that with a false religion but its there in our sources
CSParticipant2 ideas that worked when I was in camp.
1) Have a daily davening raffle for the girls who davened beautifully (raffles can be given out after davening to avoid disruption of kavana) and the winner gets a spiritual prize (otherwise it looks like ice cream is better than davening…) we got Rebbe pictures – so whoever is the Gadol in your group / a Sefer… Works very well for turning the peer pressure the other way.
2) for more long lasting change, can combine with a brief davening thought / story before davening every day.
Good luck!! What can be accomplished in the 24 hour environment of camp can be more powerful than the entire school year for many children!
July 4, 2018 9:20 pm at 9:20 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1552496CSParticipant“But the Rebbe also “saw” that Moshiach was coming miyad mamash…”
That was the Rebbe’s fervent wish. By every farbrengen. And he did say we are the generation of the Geula. And the world is ready for it etc. As stated above and why he still isn’t hear *repeat*
In any case Im not looking to prove how great the Rebbe is our the nevuos he said that came true – and story after story of that, and Rebbe stories of today, because it seems people are touchy about it. So if you don’t like it don’t make me go there. This thread was just to discuss the state of the world especially in light of the amazing recent developments of just this year, but even the past few decades… That should be pareve and touch off few nerves so let’s just stick to that
July 4, 2018 9:18 pm at 9:18 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1552494CSParticipant“And we know he was a tzaddik who was omniscient because he told us. Got it.”
DY that’s so untrue its just obnoxious. And I have respect for you because you’re usually better than that…
July 4, 2018 8:50 pm at 8:50 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1552493CSParticipant“We don’t demand things from Hashem.”
The mitzvah of pesach sheni disproves that. They were rewarded for demanding lama nigara?
July 4, 2018 6:44 pm at 6:44 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1552431CSParticipantA nice story that illustrates:
In the town of lubavitch, there was a simple innkeeper. One day he came to the Rebbe Maharash for a Bracha, as he didn’t have enough guests coming by and so he didn’t have enough money for his family.
The Rebbe told him that he should prepare for a bunch of guests who are going to come for Shabbos.
The man went and borrowed money to buy lots of ingredients to make allot of food for the expected guests.
Friday comes and no guests.Afternoon came and still no guests. In desperation, the innkeeper ran to the Rebbe Maharash.
He found the Rebbe standing on his porch from the second floor. Looking up he exclaimed, “Rebbe, I borrowed allot of money and there are no guests!”
The Rebbe Maharash told him not to worry, the guests were coming.
He went home. Candle lighting came. Just after licht bentchen a bunch of people arrived and banged on his door, desperate for a place to stay for Shabbos as they had come so late.
They were happily surprised to see that a accommodations were already in place.
Being a simple villager the innkeeper wondered aloud to one of the chassidim, ” how did the Rebbe know they were coming?” He thought a bit and then came up with an answer.
“The Rebbe was standing higher so he saw further.”
Chassidim appreciated the simplicity of the villager and derived much enjoyment from the unintended meaning of the villagers statement.
The Rebbe stands higher so he sees further…
July 4, 2018 5:45 pm at 5:45 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1552426CSParticipantDY it wasn’t a nice thought. Tzaddikim can see things in the spiritual realms as clearly as we can see things here, if not clearer…
July 4, 2018 4:07 pm at 4:07 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1552389CSParticipantIcemelter
I’ve seen online that people misunderstand what lubavitchers mean when they say things like let’s live Geula now, or the world is in a state of Geula, and think they mean cvs to change halacha. So I was just clarifying what we mean so no one should misunderstand. I didn’t open the thread for just that post, once that was clear the point was to discuss on many levels and perspectives how the world is a much more ready place for the Geula now, than it was in the past…
July 4, 2018 4:06 pm at 4:06 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1552388CSParticipantRso
“The only fault I find in your most recent post is that “moshiach has to come”. It’s true of course that he has to come because Hashem has promised as much, but he doesn’t “have” to come because people have decided that he does, which I believe is what you and other lubavitchers believe.”Hashem wants us to cry out for the Geula. It’s not a great thing were in golus – not at all!! We’re exiled from Hashem’s Presence, the world doesn’t recognise Hashem to the extent it could, and when moshiach comes the world will function at its very best as everything will be used to serve Hashem. We just want the Geula already. Chazal established that we should ask for the Geula many times in every tefilla, not only once a day. Not only should we ask for whenever Hashem wants but we should ask Hashem to speed it up – meheira satzmiach….
The Rebbeim were just telling us where the world is holding as far as being ready for the Geula goes… But the Frierdiker Rebbe, he said if we immediately do teshuva then Geula will come immediately… And that we have the buttons to polish (like the last task in the army when getting ready for the generals inspection) ie a little bit of avoda was left on the world scale.
By the 90s, the Rebbe told us the world is all ready for the Geula, everything that was needed has been accomplished, and the only thing he could think of why were still in golus is because it has to come from us! The normal regular people have to want moshiach and get the Shechina out of golus. So it’s up to us. Not the tzaddikim.they did their part.
July 4, 2018 4:05 pm at 4:05 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1552383CSParticipant@rso by hashgacha protis, today’s daily moshiach thought is the Rebbe answering your question… So I’ll let it speak for itself
*#617*
*Now is Now!*
The main emphasis of today is to bring about the geulah — by increasing in all activities that will bring it “Now”!
However there are those who will come along and claim that since the Previous Rebbe disseminated his call of “Immediate redemption” so many years ago and Mashiach still has not come, (they claim) his words “immediate” are not so immediate?! And they present this argument with gusto!
The truth is, that when He said “immediate repentance — immediate redemption,” he meant it! His intention was to bring the redemption immediately. But because of our transgressions we were not worthy. Therefore the Rebbe again proclaimed the same call, always stressing the immediacy of his pleas. Similarly, we too, today fully mean our call of “Moshiach Now! – Geulah is imminent”
As long as Moshiach is not here, it is incumbent upon us, to cry out to Hashem with a demand for the complete Geulah – Now!*Geulah is imminent! We must demand it “NOW”!*
על פי שיחת שבת פרשת פנחס מבה”ח מנ”א תשמ”ה
CSParticipant“According to “Hasidism,” however, Shapiro “agreed with many of the critiques of Hasidism as a movement that lost its original spirit and animating mysticism, becoming instead a rigid social framework devoid of any vitality.”
It seems Satmar has a similar line “Nishtakcha Toras haBaal Shem Tov.”.
The Rebbe completely disagreed and its not applicable to Chabad which is more of an mystical ideology than anything else…
CSParticipantPro results and situation
July 3, 2018 4:01 pm at 4:01 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1551807CSParticipantJust to comment this thread was not about Chabad meshichists – that’s already a thread. This one was about how the world is ready for the Geula – and all input is welcome, not just Chabad. There are also amazing technological advancements that make the seemingly crazy Geula prophesies now look natural and normal – we haven’t even touched that yet.
Regarding dy and rso I’ll just leave it at that as I don’t want to really give any answers how it could make sense. Id rather just say this is not an ok situation and moshiach has to come and when he does we can ask him out Eliyahu hanavi all the questions. Then we’ll get real answers with the benefit of hindsight, and we’ll know they’re the real answers and not just some chassidims speculation.
July 1, 2018 9:21 am at 9:21 am in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1549717CSParticipantJune 29, 2018 9:12 am at 9:12 am in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1549269CSParticipantI apologise it seems I overlooked your post.
“Over 25 years is a long time to wait for the “immediate redemption” as the Lubavitcher Rebbe used to say “now”! How much Yiddishe suffering has there been in those years?”
Agreed. No one is happy about it. The Rebbe told us in 1992 that he’s done all he can and now it’s up to us, the regular people, to bring moshiach by learning about it so we truly yearn for it on our own and not just to make the Rebbe happy. Apparently this temporary descent was in order to make this possible as people weren’t willing to think and make it their own when they could just look to the Rebbe the whole time…
“That is not only poppycock but it is a terrible thing to say! Chazal tell us that HKBH “planted” tsaddikim in each generation. To make that generalisation because you are a lubavitcher and you haven’t been clever enough to appoint a successor insults the entire Torah world, its Rabbonim and its tsaddikim
I am mocheh, and I would expect others to be mocheh
too!”No offence meant. We haven’t appointed another Rebbe because we still have our work cut out for us from the current Rebbe, and we still connect and get guidance, difficult as it may be.
There is a general lack of the kind of leadership and tzaddikim of yore- even during the Rebbe’s days there was a lack of tzaddikim with no yetzer hara. The focus now is on the regular people to do the right thing. I don’t think there is a big uproar because you find the comment made many times on this forum that our leadership isn’t what it used to be, and I was just repeating this sentiment.
CSParticipantThe uyghurs (if I’m spelling right) say that one a year these tall people with luminous faces who aren’t Muslim come there top trade. But they refuse to say much at all and only talk about their trading needs and then they leave. And in the same area there is a constant noise but they don’t know where its from.
CSParticipantYeah Joseph and they think it’s located near kashgar in China near the town on nisa according to the information they’ve gathered from the sefarim and their travels… It was fascinating reading up on them.
June 28, 2018 2:27 pm at 2:27 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1549012CSParticipant@joseph Yeah that’s a whole other topic. But apparently the bnei Moshe have kept the mesora all the way back to Moshe rabbeinu with smicha etc. and they will only be discovered in ikvasa dimeshicha
CSParticipant@yehudatzvi this is regarding?
June 28, 2018 8:02 am at 8:02 am in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1548761CSParticipant@avik ok I stand corrected. I should have elaborated one of the main reasons the US has not wanted to touch jerusalem was so that it wouldn’t lead to any rebuilding of the BHMK… Also the reason the tunnels thought to lead to the Aron are closed off… So it’s really a bigger deal than simply recognising EY
June 28, 2018 7:57 am at 7:57 am in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1548757CSParticipantJune 28, 2018 7:56 am at 7:56 am in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1548756CSParticipant@DY I guess I’ll try one more time. The good and bad is polarised. At the same time the bad is surface level and weak with no legitimate justification. And it’s being defeated.
@NC you’re right. When you write short you risk being misunderstood. Especially when its controversial. When you write long people will skim…what’s better?
June 27, 2018 7:15 pm at 7:15 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1548567CSParticipantAlso if you read the whole post (ik they’re long) then you’d see my point is that even this external weak evil is being defeated now. This year.
Added note to the polarising of good and evil:
Today you literally choose good or evil. In the past any choice was typically mixed. Like the Czar vs. Napoleon. Even In philosophy, atheism had what was back then food for thought with aristotle and science. Now people become bit frum due to negative emotions. Not substantial ideological issues as it used to be.Here’s the extended axes:
Killing of unborn + killing of deformed +killing of elderly + support for anarchy + no objective morals + radical Islam + liberals+ disrespect of other opinions + violence + support for Palestine
Vs.
Protecting all life+support for law and order +G-d given morals +respect civil debate + support for Israel
June 27, 2018 7:12 pm at 7:12 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1548551CSParticipantYes it’s both. Better in a deeper sense while the garbage today is surface level.
Actually that’s one of the reasons moshiach is called a metzora. If I remember correctly, its because the skin disease of tzaraas is external and reflects that the evil of the world that moshiach comes to will be surface level only.
We see this clearly. All the evil today is very weak. Two examples: liberals resort to labeling and name calling because they have no coherent arguments that can withstand challenge in an honest intellectual discussion.
Anti Israel claims are not even based on truth (where it could look valid) but on twisted facts and outright lies.
June 27, 2018 4:57 pm at 4:57 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1547605CSParticipantPoint 2) Another sign of the Geula as you may have hinted, is that throughout golus, good and evil were mixed and our job, through Torah and Mitzvos was to separate the good from evil.
However, right before Geula, it is foretold that good and evil will polarize and become black and white. This way it will be absolutely clear who is on the side of evil and who good.
We definitely see that today. The most unlikely of alliances such as radical liberals and sharia islam have come together. So on one hand you have:
Radical Islam+Liberals (ie toeiva, abortion, mis-education etc.)+anti Israel vs. Conservative values+pro Israel
And good is winning. It’s astounding what has happened in just the past year. I forgot to mention the virtual defeat of ISIS btw.
Another connected point is that there are some world qualities described that they will occur right before the Geula, but we can choose whether to live it in a positive or negative way.
Such as: In the gemara it says “Chutzpa yasge…” Chutzpah will rise, children will rise against their parents etc.
Now we definitely see this in the world today in a negative sense but we also see it in a positive sense.
Such as young people telling older people they should grow in their yiddishkeit. Girls encouraging their mothers to dress tznius. Young people speaking up to create positive change in schools or in places where previously they would have been quiet in the face of authority- even if the authority was wrong.
June 27, 2018 4:55 pm at 4:55 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1547553CSParticipantcont’
“This is very reassuring to British Jews whose chinuch is threatened by the new liberal norms, by the sweeping moral change in the western countries where wrong has become right, and right is vilified as wrong.
Where anything goes, and those who protest the change in long-accepted status quos are considered evil. if anything, one can argue that we are getting farther from that ideal, and that is davka a sign of mashiach, when the world and its values turn upside-down.”Valid point, and 2 points in return:
1) The night is darkest before dawn. Spiritually, the forces of evil give their last ditch attempt and get most desperate when they see their time is up. Looking back at the world the past twenty years this is clearly apparent.
There were tremendous downfalls of evil in inexplicable miraculous yet natural ways that definitely pointed to the fact that we are entering a Geula reality.
Examples include the downfall of the Iron Curtain (which as you know was a major force against Yiddishkeit) in 1991, so quickly and unexpectedly, and without any blood spilled. That is really crazy when you think about it.
Also the Gulf War where Sadaam Hussein rained missiles down on Israel and miraculously, no one died from being hit by a missile. Then one missile hit a US army base, and 40-60 soldiers died (forget the exact number). So they were no toys.
The commitment of the US and Russia to stop producing nuclear weapons, and that nations should divert the extra money spent on producing these weapons to fund aid and food for poorer nations. This fulfilled the ideal of the nevuah of the nations turning their swords to plowshares…
All the above took place in 1991-1992, and the Rebbe pointed out all these as signs of the coming of the geula.
Then the world seemed to be plunged into darkness. The darkness before dawn.
From the euphoria of expecting the Geula at any moment, Chabad was greeted with gimmel Tammuz. It seems in general there is a lack of the kind of Torah leadership that existed all the years, although we have Rabbanim today, its not the same…
On a world level, the Oslo Accords took place, intifadas, Gush Katif… and finally 8 years of Obama who pushed the opposite of Kedusha in moral values, against Israel, and pushed for the liberals to control everything.
But now, things are swinging back in an extraordinary way speedy way, ever since Trump’s election. One klipa after another is being demolished- from the #metoo movement which shows that the destruction of modesty and family values has failed to protect women,
The moving of the embassy to Jerusalem- the start of the nations recognizing EY belongs to us.
The Iran deal being torn up.
The gains for abortion and toeiva are being reversed.
North Korea is coming around.
And all within a single year and a half.
So yes, there was a last desperate push for darkness, but it seems its time is up. And it’s interesting to see the changes being led by Edom themselves- ie the world is being cleansed.
The situation in the UK is a result of the push from the last 8 years. America is already swinging in another direction. I’m sure the UK will come around too. Until then we daven and work with askanim, but the world is coming around.
Point two in next post:)
June 27, 2018 4:22 pm at 4:22 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1547474CSParticipant@wtp
It seems the common denominator between everything you are saying is that we still have a ways to go until we get to the ultimate of good which will occur by the Geula. I agree with you, and I said that as well in my original post. As we are still in golus there are still issues, but the overall world trend has turned more towards the Geula. Now to respond further:
“Perhaps that is how it is viewed by the US and western countries, but the US is not the whole world. Does not apply to ISIS, Syria, Iran, Russia, N Korea.”
If you’ve looked at the news recently, ISIS is pretty much defeated, Syria is an unnatural situation which should have ended ages ago and had turned into more of a proxy war which no one really wants. It does seem to fit the bill of Gog uMagog. Russia is playing carefully to avoid provoking war with America and Israel. They have their interests in the region which is why theyre involved in Syria, but they aren’t trigger happy, they are trying to avoid all out conflict.
Iran represents the last klipa of golus, as spoken of in Daniel’s dream- the last force of golus is the ideology of Yishmael. But even they seem headed for defeat as I am sure we will see soon. North Korea is coming into line as well.
“Sure, that is why Trump needs to impose tariffs, why China steals intellectual property, why Europe was so eager for the sanctions on Iran to end so they could trade there..etc. Ok, maybe there is a new trend in kids’ board games to follow a cooperative rather than competitive model, but the real world has a ways to go to that end.”
“Yes, in western countries today’s poor have more than the poor of the shtetle in Eastern Europe, but there are plenty of families who don’t have meat and chicken in their fridges, whose electricity get turned off when they don’t pay their bills…”As said before, we are still not in a full state of Geula where things will be the best they can be. Were in twilight zone- the last moments of golus and the beginning of Geula reality- so things are much better than the past and will continue to improve.
As far as competition- do you not see in the general workplace the atmosphere has shifted from domination and intimidation to cooperation and team membership? WeWorks is part of this new fad, as is many companies taking their employees on paid retreats to encourage this atmosphere… Its not only in kid’s games.
TBC
CSParticipantMulling it further, it seems to me based on what I’ve learned that there is the basic level of Kedusha and then the higher level. The basic level is pure separation. The higher level is where the separation creates unity, and the fusing of G-dliness with the world. Most or all of the original examples are based on these lines. Sometimes it is necessary to start with the basic level, or even keeping it as a base when moving on to the higher level, but it is good to be aware that the ultimate is when the separation of kedusha leads to unity, peace and pleasantness, as it says about Torah, “Diracheha darchei noam vchol nisivoseha shalom.”
June 27, 2018 4:13 pm at 4:13 pm in reply to: What does it say if the Umos haolom like our music? #1547728CSParticipantIt depends who. I looked up this shulem lemmer and listened to two of his songs, tniyaleh and a bit of the amar reb yosi, and they were both very earnest and eidel. I am a bit disappointed that he has agreed to sing non Jewish songs instead of insisting on singing yiddishe taam type of songs only which they can market in the name of diversity if they like, but that’s my thoughts.
It is a dangerous path to take to start compromising ones standards and bowing to secular norms, even within halacha, as bh it seems he has his Rabbanim he follows,and hopefully he’ll come to that conclusion and stronger geon Yaakov himself.
As far as the rock discussion etc. We had a presentation on music in seminary and it seems that Jewish music takes the current musical trend but infuses it with kedusha, thus elevating the style of music.
In not talking about singers who take non Jewish songs and put some tehillim to that – I think it’s a disgrace as the tune comes from the soul and inspirations of the composer and that’s not a match…
Rather for example, sephardi music has a definite different flavour to it than German ashkenazi Zemiros in line with the different music cultures of their respective countries.
But tellingly, the Arab music tends to go down with a depressing tone, whereas sephardi music is uplifting, filed with the joy of being connected to Hashem.
German music is cold and unfeeling whereas the Jewish music is permeated with an aidelkeit – submission to Hashem’s Will.
With the rock – we can say that the goishe rock is filed with immorality, while proper Jewish beaty music is infused with energy, koach and leaves one with the feeling that we can overcome our obstacles…
June 27, 2018 2:16 pm at 2:16 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1547426CSParticipantIt’s nice to see the feedback and interesting points brought up! Thanks everyone:) To respond:
@DovidBT: Yes we should live with this reality, and that is one way of living with it. For me, I take it slightly different. For me, the mindset is that once Moshiach comes, free choice will be gone as we will all see Hashem and the game of struggle to choose the good will be over. So today may be the last chance I have to make a positive difference in this world that helps it it a more Geula’dike kind of place. In fact, this is one of the reasons that I chose to go on shlichus: I wasn’t sure how I would cope far away from my family and friends, in a different country and culture. But then I reminded myself that Moshiach will definitely be here soon, and maybe even before I leave on shlichus, and I can get the credit for being willing to go and spend my life there, even though it won’t be necessary…I also learned that when the Geula finally comes, Moshiach himself will thank every Yid personally for their part in helping transform the world into a G-dly place. So my mentality is that today could be my last day to make a difference and what am I doing to change the world in my own surroundings?
CSParticipantThis brings to mind another story of the Rebbe where a couple came to him, and the husband complained that the wife doesn’t respect or listen to him. The Rebbe asked him, “Why should she listen to you?” The husband indignantly responded, “Because I’m the head of the home!” The Rebbe told the husband that that’s not how it works. First, he needs to act like a good husband and head of the home should. If he does that, she will be happy to listen to his opinions and advice.
CSParticipantTrue my personal examples or the way the world has changed today are not in the sources, although I would like to think they are examples of the sources. I would be curious to hear which examples you think are not in line? The sources definitely do discuss a shift towards femininity in the era of Moshiach, and The Rebbe worked hard to help that happen within the frum world even before the feminist movement took place.
In some ways, halacha does reflect that shift in reality as well. For example, in the times of the Rambam, in certain Arab countries, if the husband beat his wife to try to bring her into line as a last resort, so they wouldn’t have to resort to divorce, under certain conditions, he could have been justified. Today, if a husband would beat his wife in a world which has progressed to the point where even goyim see the use of force in general as undesirable, and wife beating as an absolute evil, the wife would immediately be supported by Rabbanim to get a divorce, no matter what his excuse, as today, husbands are expected to lead the home by earning it, not forcing it.
I can give another halachic kind of example if desired but I don’t want to go on unnecessarily.
CSParticipantRecently, I read about Amir Dromi and his search for the Bnei Moshe in China, along with Rav Chinegal. I was surprised when I saw the last update is 2012. Does anyone know any more updates? It’s such a shame as it seemed they were making great progress and had already heard reports of the Bnei Moshe and whereabouts they are located…
CSParticipantNo its not though. See the source printed above, and the Lubavitcher Rebbe pushed for true feminine expression in many ways. I could share stories.
Granted since we’re still in golus, the feminine movement has allot of garbage mixed in, such as suggesting women should act like men, or women should embarrass/ dominate men. But that’s not real femininity. That’s women acting like men have been.
However there definitely has also been a positive shift for appreciating feminine qualities in the world.
CSParticipantFor example, in 1964, Dov Zlotnick ran a gemara shiur for the men in the neighbourhood. He told the Rebbe about his shiur shiur. The Rebbe asked what the women do. He said they prepare the seudas shlishis. The Rebbe said it’s not good enough. So from then on, he taught his wife the material and she taught it to the women.
This isn’t to say the women told the men to make their own meal. They still prepared the seuda AND got to have their own shiur as well.
Another example: as quoted elsewhere, the gemara says that a kosher wife does the will of her husband. The Rebbe pointed out that that’s fine and good when he husband wants good things. But what if the husbands desires aren’t in line with Torah? In that case, the gemara means osa – the woman has the power to create the desire of the husband. In a feminine nurturing encouraging way, they can change the husband to want what Hashem wants.
One more for now: a chosson and kalla came to the Rebbe wondering if they should do the minhag of the chosson stepping on the kallas foot at the entrance to the yichud room to symbolise vhu yimshol bach.
The Rebbe told them he shouldn’t because if he acts like a proper husband, she will happily allow him to head the home, and if he doesn’t, stepping on her foot is not going to help…
CSParticipantand that’s how the world ran- on a paradigm of domination. Doing Torah and Mitzvos wasn’t natural to the worldly environment- it imposed G-dliness on a seemingly unG-dly world.
Nationalism meant who was going to conquer and subjugate the most nations. etc.
The world is different today. It is much closer to the Geula paradigm than the golus one. Of course one can still choose to live in a golus mentality, but that is simply unfortunate.
The question now changes to instead of who should dominate? to which the answer is the man, to Why do we need to dominate?
I can respect the fact that my husband is better at decision making, and leave that up to him, and my husband can want to term me as a co director in our shlichus, because he recognizes that my role in the marriage and raising the children, (in addition to the few programs I run) bring as many people closer to Yiddishkeit, as the communal and shul events.
Ie we can respect the different gender roles without one dominating the other.
Of course this is still a very delicate balance today and we can’t live this reality fully until Moshiach comes-
for example, women can’t sing in public because men still have a yetzer hara, until Hashem removes it by the Geula,but allot of progress can be made towards living in a Geula mindframe. And its a different life.
CSParticipantWhat I mean by the fact that its a good thing for men too:
Going back to the beginning of creation – the sun and moon- who represent Mashpia and mekabel- were created equal. The reason why the moon was told to make herself smaller was because of the claim that two kings can’t share the same crown. Someones gotta be boss. So the mekabel become the one dominated and Hashem made it up to get by giving her a bunch of gifts, culminating with a monthly apology for making her smaller as she really should be equal.
In the world between men and women it played out that someone has to be the boss. Otherwise the other one will be. Now it’s better for men and women that men are the boss. Because otherwise, if the woman dominates, the man feels worthless and they don’t have a happy home. Also the man is better suited to lead the home because he is better at making logic based decisions, whereas women are influenced more by emotion. So if someone has to be boss, its the man.
CSParticipantFor example it used to be because of golus reality that everyone wanted to have boys more than girls because they were celebrated and appreciated more and their qualities were needed more, both physically and spiritually, in a golus world. So there are special tefillos the mothers would say to daven they should have a ben zachar.
Now that feminine qualities are appreciated and needed more both physically and spiritually, many couples want a girl just as much as a boy. Some even more. Yet we still say more brachos when we have a boy because that’s the established minhag and we can’t just change it because we feel different.
CSParticipantHalachic changes – many have to wait. Attitude changes could and should change today. That’s a positive thing. To be explained iyh
CSParticipantNow what about feminine qualities?
So it used to be feminine qualities were appreciated within the home – and not celebrated in the world at meagre large whereas today, the world really appreciates feminine qualities.
For example the quality of competition vs cooperation. In the past women were valued for their quality of cooperation because it allowed their husbands to dominate at home and thus there was peace in the home and less conflict.
Today the world at large – even the business world appreciates cooperation. Everything is about teammanship. The boss now tries to build a pleasant work environment where everyone is esteemed for the role they play, instead of intimidating everyone and showing who’s boss.
Even cooking is very popular.
Anyhow that’s my thoughts for now. I think I’ve gone on long enough 🙂
CSParticipantSo now some practical examples – my thoughts. As the world is in a state today ready to receive the Geula any moment, the world has shifted to a much more Geula oriented state than golus state in mentality. I’m thinking of elaborating this in another thread.
As far as women are concerned here’s some examples:
The world has massively changed. It used to be that people had to slave and work really hard just to survive. Much of it was manual labor where women were useless.So women were a liability. They often couldn’t support themselves and the men had to support them. Of course the women worked just as hard in the house and having the children but the first priority was survival, which I think explains why in the unfortunate case of divorce, everything belonged to the man – because he was doing the essential primary work without which they both couldn’t survive.
Since modernization which lessened much of the manual labor and to the point that today people don’t work too survive, but to have a good income, good food, etc quality, women can be self sufficient and aren’t a liability anymore. In fact single women earn more than single men in the same field in some cases.
So today when a woman gets married, she isn’t a burden to take on, and her husband is her master, rather she is giving up her earning capacity which could’ve rivalled her husband for the sake of building a family – where she won’t be as competent to work when pregnant and with household responsibilities etc. So as a mother and wife, today she is seem as an equal, not a subordinate.
CSParticipant2 brochos we make by the wedding reflect the shift that is to occur (and is already occurring):
In meheira yishoma we say that hopefully, with the coming of moshiach, we will soon hear in the streets, the voice of the chosson and the voice of the kalla!! In golus the kalla, woman, Malchus doesn’t have a voice she just receives. We see this by the chuppa where the husband says harei at, and the kalla is silent. But by moshiachs times the feminine will have their own voice.
Another example in the wedding brochos is that in one we say mesameach chosson vkalla. Who causes the groom and bride to rejoice. This refers to golus where the husband is happy and then makes his wife happy. She receives the happiness from him.
But another brocho says mesameach chosson im hakalla. Where they are both put on the same plane. There will be a feminine happiness that isn’t dependent on the masculine. This will be by Geula.
CSParticipantAgreed Joseph. Now to what I was referring to, in the source above it brings how women differ by golus and Geula and the reason:
Everything here is a reflection on the spiritual realms above. Women reflect the spiritual aspect of Malchus (as does the moon btw which is why we are so connected to rosh chodesh), and men reflect their source of the other six active sefiros- chessed- yesod aka zeir anpin.
Malchus receives from zeir anpin and brings that down to the next level.
So too women receive support from men physically, financially emotionally etc and in turn nurture the next level – their children.
However zeir anpin receives from its mother – Malchus of the world above which is nurturing him.
When moshiach comes this higher aspect of Malchus will be revealed.
Tbc. And will get practical in two posts iyh
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