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Cest la vieMember
SYNAGOGUE SEATING REQUEST FORM FOR THE HIGH HOLIDAYS
During the last holiday season, many members expressed concern
over the seating arrangements. In order for us to place you in a seat which will best suit you, we ask you to complete the following questionnaire and return it to the synagogue office as soon as possible.
1. I would prefer to sit in the… (Check one:)
___ Talking section
___ No talking section
2. If talking, which category do you prefer?
___ Stock market
___ Sports
___ Medicine
___ General gossip
___ Specific gossip (choose:)
___ The rabbi
___ The cantor
___ The cantor’s voice
___ The cantor’s significant other
___ Real estate prices
___ Fashion news
___ What others are wearing
___ Why they look awful
___ Your neighbors
___ Your relatives
___ Your neighbors’ relatives
___ Shul politics
___ Who’s having marital issues
3. Which of the following would you like to be near for free professional advice?
__ Doctor
__ Dentist
__ Nutritionist
__ Psychiatrist
__ Child psychiatrist
__ Podiatrist
__ Chiropractor
__ Personal trainer
__ Stockbroker
__ Accountant
__ Lawyer
__ Criminal
__ Civil
__ Real estate agent
__ Architect
__ Plumber
__ Buyer (Specify store:_______________________ )
__ Golf pro [tentative; we’re still trying to find a Jewish One]
4. I want a seat located (Indicate order of priority:)
__ On the aisle
__ Near the exit
__ Near the window
__ In Aruba
__ Near the bathroom
__ Near my in-laws
__ As far away from my in-laws as possible
__ As far away from my former in-laws as possible
__ Near the pulpit
__ Near the Kiddush table
__ Near single men
__ Near available women
__ Where no one on the bimah can see/hear me talking during services
__ Where no one will notice me sleeping during services
__ Where I can sleep during the rabbi’s sermon
5. (Orthodox only.) I would like a seat where:
__ I can see my spouse over the mechitza
__ I cannot see my spouse over the mechitza
__ I can see my friend’s spouse over the mechitza
__ My spouse cannot see me looking at my friend’s spouse over the mechitza
6. Please do not place me anywhere near the following people:
(Limit of six; if you require more space, you may wish to consider joining another congregation.)
_________________________
_________________________
_________________________
_________________________
_________________________
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Your name:_________________________________
Building fund pledge:
$________________________
Thank you and we will try to accommodate your request for a truly meaningful holiday experience.
Cest la vieMemberThank you artchill. That is a beautiful idea. I know that my parents support Masbia, but I don’t think they’ve ever been there. I’ve wanted to go there myself. That would be a good way to help her see my point.
But I can’t say my concern is only about the money. I want my mother to be happy, and to be happy for me.
Cest la vieMemberThank you cherrybim.
Cest la vieMemberEven superheroes bleed sometimes.
Cest la vieMembercherrybim, I see my mother almost every day (baruch Hashem). I try my best to dress in a way that will make her happy, but it never seems to be enough. I would love to shop the way she wants me to, I’d love to wear a different designer label every single day, but I simply can’t afford it.
The day that I started this thread I had been out shopping with my mother. I was showing her different bags, asking her opinion on them (she likes when I do that, although we have different tastes). She didn’t like any of them, and asked why I don’t buy a normal bag already. We left without me buying one. Out of kibud av veim I didn’t make a big deal out of it at all. I accepted her opinion and did as she wanted me to. The next day she bought me a Prada. Of course I’m thrilled with the gift, and I have tremendous gratitude, but it makes me feel bad to take my parents’ money. And really, my point is, I don’t want her to think that I need these things to be happy.
Cest la vieMemberNY Mom, I’m just saying that some people don’t take first aid courses because they don’t want to think about being in an emergency situation. It’s frightening. But that doesn’t mean they aren’t careful or take safety precautions. And I’m not justifying them either. I have taken first aid and CPR courses and read up on health and safety. I’m just bringing up another reason why people don’t do these things.
Cest la vieMemberHow can you tell when you need to upgrade your level of emunah and bitochon? Your nervous system gives you feedback. View anxiety and nervousness as a message, “Time to elevate your level of emunah and bitochon.” Don’t become upset about this. That’s not very helpful. Rather, be appreciative of the feedback. The message you are receiving is immensely valuable.
(From Rabbi Pliskin’s book, Serenity, p.92)
(copied from aish.com)
Cest la vieMemberI think people don’t like to think about bad things happening to their loved ones. They want to block out the possibility. They take precautions to stay safe, but remain optimistic that no one will get hurt.
Cest la vieMemberwow! you guys are amazing at this!
Cest la vieMembermazca, a mother doesn’t want to see her children lacking anything, but sometimes the children don’t realize or feel like they’re lacking something until their mother makes a comment about it.
It also makes the child feel inferior, as if the child has failed to live up to the parent’s expectations.
Cest la vieMemberNY Mom, wow, amen and thank you! May you and your family have a shana tova too!
Cest la vieMemberThank you all for your replies. All great posts!
I guess I never did explain to her directly that I don’t need those luxuries to be happy. I just figured it’s obvious that I’m happy without them. I feel better about this now. You’ve helped me see that she’s just being concerned about me. I had always felt that it was my inability to impress her, but now I realize that isn’t it at all. She just wants to see me have the nice things I grew up with because she loves me.
Thank you again for wonderful advice!
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