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  • in reply to: A Humorous Item #1173617
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    SYNAGOGUE SEATING REQUEST FORM FOR THE HIGH HOLIDAYS

    During the last holiday season, many members expressed concern

    over the seating arrangements. In order for us to place you in a seat which will best suit you, we ask you to complete the following questionnaire and return it to the synagogue office as soon as possible.

    1. I would prefer to sit in the… (Check one:)

    ___ Talking section

    ___ No talking section

    2. If talking, which category do you prefer?

    ___ Stock market

    ___ Sports

    ___ Medicine

    ___ General gossip

    ___ Specific gossip (choose:)

    ___ The rabbi

    ___ The cantor

    ___ The cantor’s voice

    ___ The cantor’s significant other

    ___ Real estate prices

    ___ Fashion news

    ___ What others are wearing

    ___ Why they look awful

    ___ Your neighbors

    ___ Your relatives

    ___ Your neighbors’ relatives

    ___ Shul politics

    ___ Who’s having marital issues

    3. Which of the following would you like to be near for free professional advice?

    __ Doctor

    __ Dentist

    __ Nutritionist

    __ Psychiatrist

    __ Child psychiatrist

    __ Podiatrist

    __ Chiropractor

    __ Personal trainer

    __ Stockbroker

    __ Accountant

    __ Lawyer

    __ Criminal

    __ Civil

    __ Real estate agent

    __ Architect

    __ Plumber

    __ Buyer (Specify store:_______________________ )

    __ Golf pro [tentative; we’re still trying to find a Jewish One]

    4. I want a seat located (Indicate order of priority:)

    __ On the aisle

    __ Near the exit

    __ Near the window

    __ In Aruba

    __ Near the bathroom

    __ Near my in-laws

    __ As far away from my in-laws as possible

    __ As far away from my former in-laws as possible

    __ Near the pulpit

    __ Near the Kiddush table

    __ Near single men

    __ Near available women

    __ Where no one on the bimah can see/hear me talking during services

    __ Where no one will notice me sleeping during services

    __ Where I can sleep during the rabbi’s sermon

    5. (Orthodox only.) I would like a seat where:

    __ I can see my spouse over the mechitza

    __ I cannot see my spouse over the mechitza

    __ I can see my friend’s spouse over the mechitza

    __ My spouse cannot see me looking at my friend’s spouse over the mechitza

    6. Please do not place me anywhere near the following people:

    (Limit of six; if you require more space, you may wish to consider joining another congregation.)

    _________________________

    _________________________

    _________________________

    _________________________

    _________________________

    _________________________

    Your name:_________________________________

    Building fund pledge:

    $________________________

    Thank you and we will try to accommodate your request for a truly meaningful holiday experience.

    in reply to: Poor Daughter #659031
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    Thank you artchill. That is a beautiful idea. I know that my parents support Masbia, but I don’t think they’ve ever been there. I’ve wanted to go there myself. That would be a good way to help her see my point.

    But I can’t say my concern is only about the money. I want my mother to be happy, and to be happy for me.

    in reply to: Poor Daughter #659029
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    Thank you cherrybim.

    in reply to: A Humorous Item #1173613
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    Even superheroes bleed sometimes.

    in reply to: Poor Daughter #659027
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    cherrybim, I see my mother almost every day (baruch Hashem). I try my best to dress in a way that will make her happy, but it never seems to be enough. I would love to shop the way she wants me to, I’d love to wear a different designer label every single day, but I simply can’t afford it.

    The day that I started this thread I had been out shopping with my mother. I was showing her different bags, asking her opinion on them (she likes when I do that, although we have different tastes). She didn’t like any of them, and asked why I don’t buy a normal bag already. We left without me buying one. Out of kibud av veim I didn’t make a big deal out of it at all. I accepted her opinion and did as she wanted me to. The next day she bought me a Prada. Of course I’m thrilled with the gift, and I have tremendous gratitude, but it makes me feel bad to take my parents’ money. And really, my point is, I don’t want her to think that I need these things to be happy.

    in reply to: Child Safety Laws #670335
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    NY Mom, I’m just saying that some people don’t take first aid courses because they don’t want to think about being in an emergency situation. It’s frightening. But that doesn’t mean they aren’t careful or take safety precautions. And I’m not justifying them either. I have taken first aid and CPR courses and read up on health and safety. I’m just bringing up another reason why people don’t do these things.

    in reply to: Let’s Work Together On 1 Middah #665768
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    How can you tell when you need to upgrade your level of emunah and bitochon? Your nervous system gives you feedback. View anxiety and nervousness as a message, “Time to elevate your level of emunah and bitochon.” Don’t become upset about this. That’s not very helpful. Rather, be appreciative of the feedback. The message you are receiving is immensely valuable.

    (From Rabbi Pliskin’s book, Serenity, p.92)

    (copied from aish.com)

    in reply to: Child Safety Laws #670333
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    I think people don’t like to think about bad things happening to their loved ones. They want to block out the possibility. They take precautions to stay safe, but remain optimistic that no one will get hurt.

    in reply to: Fun Words #923610
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    wow! you guys are amazing at this!

    in reply to: Poor Daughter #659025
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    mazca, a mother doesn’t want to see her children lacking anything, but sometimes the children don’t realize or feel like they’re lacking something until their mother makes a comment about it.

    It also makes the child feel inferior, as if the child has failed to live up to the parent’s expectations.

    in reply to: Poor Daughter #659022
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    NY Mom, wow, amen and thank you! May you and your family have a shana tova too!

    in reply to: Poor Daughter #659020
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    Thank you all for your replies. All great posts!

    I guess I never did explain to her directly that I don’t need those luxuries to be happy. I just figured it’s obvious that I’m happy without them. I feel better about this now. You’ve helped me see that she’s just being concerned about me. I had always felt that it was my inability to impress her, but now I realize that isn’t it at all. She just wants to see me have the nice things I grew up with because she loves me.

    Thank you again for wonderful advice!

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