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Dunno, not if non-immediate family are present or can hear you.
Home. Just be disciplined.
kgh, that is incorrect. The Ashkenazic havara is more closely aligned with the original than Sephardic.
Good point. I used to not spend a lot on dates to shake off any shallow girls.
Wolf – it is the same in reverse. I am proud of the affect of my beautiful upbringing that would never have been if not for my zaidas and bubbes.
Don’t you want your children to be proud to have you as a father?
Areis, and if the person holding the line doesnt announce to those behind her she will soon be getting a wagon full of groceriesp, you would agree it is wrong?
Wolf – will you be proud of grandchildren’s achievments that you had no direct part in?
If so, why beget others taking pride in their grandparents who directly or indirectly contributed to who they are?
I lived in flatbush before I got married and found my shidduch there, as well as have dated many BT’s from there. Flatbush has a large and thriving single BT community that is unparalleled anywhere outside of Eretz Yisroel.
I think there is a 9 month halacha on getting remarried after a previous marriage. Perhaps I am mistaken.
It’s wrong.
9 months.
The guy’s gotta pay for the whole thing anyways, so why worry?
Oomis, if he told you about the DUI, would it be then less problematic?
Good goyim? An oxymoron if there ever was one.
Yes, dump him if it really truly was a lie. No dont tell the shadchan the exact reason.
Ideally the system would self correct so that if one year the age gap was tilted one way, the next year it would tilt back. This would be accomplished if all age bias was eliminated.
popa: Your self-correction/tilting back idea is almost saying the same thing I said in option “B”, in different words.
Similarly it says, if someone is stringent like Bais Shammai for Kriyas Shma, as opposed to following Bais Hillel’s lenient opinion, he is an apikorus since we reject Bais Shammai’s opinion and pasken like Bais Hillel.
Mathematically the only way you could ever eliminate the age gap so that you have enough potential grooms for every unmarried woman, is if either a) every shidduch is between a boy and girl of exactly the same age or b) the average age gap of shidduchim is zero – meaning an equal number of older boys marry younger girls as the number of older girls marry younger boys (by average age.)
Barring one of those two scenerios, you will always have an age gap that results in not enough boys for all the girls to get married. This is true even if the average age gap is reduced to one or two years.
This is the hard and sad mathematics of this. And I don’t see either scenario as realistic. We can reduce the age gap, meaning it will be less of an issue, and more women will be able to get married. But it could never be eliminated (without the unrealistic scenarios or reinstitution of polygamy) and there will always be an oversupply of girls.
Forget all else. Perhaps you should stop with the goy for shalom bayis reasons, even if not for all the other reasons.
What prompted the Baal Shem Tov to form Chassidus (from his perspective)? I understand it may have been due to the great general dislusionment stemming from the Shabsai Tzvi saga.
Where can you get it for 75 or less in Brooklyn or vicinity?
Dear MikeHall: I very much have “stepped foot on a college campus or took any classes.” Indeed I have spent years on them. And earned a degree in them. And I know of what I speak. And I forgot to add rampant anti-semitism.
A big statement indeed. And a very accurate one.
I dont know much about YU and Touro, but Universities and Colleges (and their professors and student bodies) today are breeding grounds of atheism, secularism, militantism, anachorism, and rampant sexual immorality.
SingleP, that’s why I recommend Flatbush.
I think in EY the legal age is 16.
But how can it ever be enforced on boys? If they don’t pay (because they don’t need the shadchanim), the shadchanim still need the boys to set girls up with.
cantoresq: Why don’t you establish this fund/organization?
If guys have more dates then they can handle, as it is, how will you convince them to pay someone to find them a date?
memo, if you are female you usually don’t get to pick where to go. At best, you might be offered a few pre selected choices. So how does a list help you?
If she is in shidduchim, I think Flatbush is THE place to live. At least if she wants the best shot at getting dates.
rage, $73,000 for a job (and without college even) is not good enough for a Jew?
hss: it would have the effect of people disassociating and no longer socializing with her, until she follows Beis Din’s orders. A seruv is more than shul and aliyos.
All states have an exemption for religious purposes.
cantoresq, in my scenerio Beis Din would exclusively use halacha to make all its determinations, including asset dispersal and custody decisions.
This is dangerous territory you are treading on.
Can’t the two parents go to court as a formality and say “Mr. Judge, we the two parents have agreed to the follow ing custody arrangement: Parent A will have physical custody, while Parent B can visit whenever.” — And specify to the court whatever custody arrangements were agreed to and set by Beis Din in accordance with the halacha of who has custody.
They don’t even have to explain why they agreed to that custody arrangement, i.e. from a beis din decision or simply an agreement between the parents, but rather ask the court to formally formalize such custody arrangement.
This way the issue can legally be resolved halachicly. Obviously both parents would have to cooperate with this for it to work through the court. And if one went around it, they would effectively be going against Beis Din and need to suffer the requisite (i.e. seruv etc) consequences.
KEEP THE KIDS OFF THE INTERNET. IT IS LIKE A KID WITH AN UZI SEMI AUTOMATIC.
Nothing else comes anywhere close to Middos.
The ads even on the cartoon channels have not tzniusdik women. And the hosts are no better on something even like the food channel.
The sea split for a long time while thousands of Jews walked through it on dry sea, after Moshe hit the water. As soon as the last Jew crossed the sea flooded the Egyptians.
That isn’t a rational belief. If you believe the splitting the sea narative as relayed in the Torah, then you are not a rationalist.
Going to college is a very controversial thing in the Torah world. Many even litvish gedolim were very against it.