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The mekosheish eitzim was such in instance. He was mechaleil Shabbat in order to establish the authority of Beth Din to act in such an instance.
What’s there to say? It’s a bad situation. The ending will be even worse.
Include me out.
If the right people were to be selected to participate, it could prove informative. But I question the point of such an exercise. Would not each side merely be preaching to their respective choirs?
I usually read/learn for 2-3 hours on a long Shabbos afternoon. But I should qualify my statement. The learning/reading usually occurs outside with me laying in a lounge chair, with a pitcher of something cold and sour and a book/sefer. The content of the Sefer may vary, but the books are virtually all Jewish history.
I sleep, I visit with friends, I learn, I read. Most valuable, I spend some time with my wife just talking.
It’s a very powerful and moving eulogy and statement of real religious belief. I especially liked his call for increased internecine unity. At a time like this, such messages are very powerful.
He made a conscious decision to kill the child. He’s admitted as much. Based on what’s reported of his confession, he knew what he did was wrong when he did it, and was not under any sort of cognitive misapprehension which gives rise to an insanity defense. If New York had a working death penalty statute, this case would cry out for that sentence. As to the Tookie Williams problem, this is why Halacha mandates execution the same day as the verdict, so as to not allow the creation of such dilemmas.
Death is too good for the troglodyte cretin who did this.
I told my kids the truth, that someone kidnapped the boy and killed him; that there are some bad people in the world who do horrible things. I reminded them again, that even in our suburban cul de sac, where we know every car that passes, and are friendly with all our neighbors, they can never get into anyone’s car unless I or my wife specifically gives them permission. And I told them to pray for this little boy’s neshama because he will be comforted by it, and that the only antidote to evil is goodness.
I switched from leather to knit for the simple reason that the knit yarmulke sits better on my balding pate.
Four years ago I paid a mohel $500.00. but he did not have a set fee. $500.00 seemed appropriate as he was amazing, especially after the Bris. The bris was on a Friday morning. Shabbat afternoon he walked to our house to check on him, as there had been some health issues with my son when he was born and the bris had been pushed off for a week. the boy was running a slight fever that day. Lo and behold, the mohel appeared at our door motzei Shabbat and again on Sunday morning to check the wound and make sure there wasn’t anything he could do. In retrospect, $500.00 seems a little low in fact.
If I remember, I put out my flag. We always have a barbecue. Nothing like good food, good beer and good friends to celebrate our freedom.
Why, did they only allow “slightly older” girls to serve refreshments?
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I didn’t say “slightly older girls” I said “unmarried girls.”
Daas Yochid
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The men went to learn and in the middle of the night, unmarried girls would gather to serve refreshments, giving eligible bachelors an opportunity to acquaint themselves with prospective shidduchim.
… and making it very difficult for the men to concentrate on their learning
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Not every distraction is necessarily a bad thing; especially if it leads to successful matches.
Although probably retrograde in many precincts, there used to be a very sweet practice among the Yekkes on Shavuot night. The men went to learn and in the middle of the night, unmarried girls would gather to serve refreshments, giving eligible bachelors an opportunity to acquaint themselves with prospective shidduchim.
The myth that R. Marcus Jastrow was a reform rabbis is simply not true. He actually was a powerful force in American Jewry for tradition. He was eventually ousted by his congregation because he was too traditional and they preferred Reform. During his farewell sermon, he chastised them over this. Many innovations Jastrow allowed in his synagogue have become ubiquitous in American Orthodox synagogues, like men and woman sitting separately on the same level (i.e. no balcony) and giving a sermon in the vernacular. Although he did allow an organ to played by a non-Jew on Shabbat and Yom Tov, it was based on the notion of “shvut d’shvut b’makom mitzvah,” an idea promulgated by the Hungarian Neologue movement. I think the reason Jastrow is assumed to be Reform is due to his joining with Isaac Mayer Wise for a brief period. But he quickly disassociated himself upon the promulgation of the Pittsburgh Platform. Instead Jastrow joined with Rabbi H. Pereira Mendes in founding the Jewish Theological Seminary, which at that time was to be an Orthodox institution. Persoanlly, I’m convinced that he has a huge and ongoing and increasing s’char in Olam Habah. He shares in the merit of the talmud Torah of every Jew who uses his dictionary in learning Torah. Yehi chelki ito,
“The mileage marker is 2 miles or greater. When I lived in Monsey, I got busing to school that was less than a mile. They could raise the requirements to match the state mandate.”
Imagine the scene at Maple & 306 every morning as hundreds of kids try to cross the street to get to school on foot, while the carpools and other drivers try to get across as well. It’s a recipe for children to get run over.
Actually he lives in New Hempstead and is running for Wieder’s seat.
I believe he is a cantor and a lawyer
No matter how high a wall one builds, there will always be a ladder even higher. If the ladder breaks, there will be a shovel readily available.
The original poster is in an all too typical, if not spoken about situation. It’s always the husband who is the aggressor in a divorce. Wives are equally capable of tremendous nastiness. This man needs many things. But a top priority needs to be a competent attorney who can help him navigate through the system. Yes it can be costly, and yes it’s also both time consuming and emotionally draining. But there really is no choice in the matter. Get yourself a good lawyer (which means someone you trust) and hatzlocha rabbah.
While I am always ready to learn, I do not always enjoy being taught-Sir Winston Churchill.
Derech, I’m sure you mother is a wise and noble Eim b’Yisrael. But there ain’t no way I’m going a whole Pesach without kneidlach, especially my wife’s, which are light like clouds, and matzah brei.
Who eats their cell phone?
One has to spend money to make money. Money spent on education tends to create the opportunity to obtain a higher income job.
Anything by Tom Wolfe is worth reading, as is anything by Kurt Vonnegut. Other great fiction writers of the 20th century are Norman Mailer, Saul Bellow, And Cynthia Ozick. For less highbrow, but quality reading, look at Scott Turow, Leon Uris, and James Michinner. Among non-American authors, I very much enjoyed reading Thomas Mann’s Joseph series and his Budenbrooks. Stefan Zweig’s anthology of historic short stories was great. A.J. Cronin’s The Citadel and A Pocketful of Rye were good reads. Leon Feuchtwanger’s biography of Benjamin Franklin (the title escapes me) was excellent. And of course, there is Erich Maria Remarque’s A Time to Love and a Time to Die (which is far better than his All Quiet on the Western Front) and Arc Du Triomphe. Another great book, is In Cold Blood by Truman Capote. It’s rather nice to remember the old days when I read fiction.
I’m a kohen. If that is the only reason one can have for giving me any sort of kavod, I’m in big trouble.
I find your comment uninformed, ignorant-sounding, & an insult! :/
Precisely my feelings about Carlebach davenings.
Daas Yochid, why not?
To those who consider nussach a mere anachronism worthy of consignment to ash heaps of history, answer this question: Are you similarly nonchalant and glib about trop? Why not? Whither goest nussach ultimately goes trop.
this should be no surprise, I’m aqainst any form of davening that transgresses the rules of nussach. The Carlebach style of devotion falls into that category. Moreover, it’s peurile.
Keep it groomed and combed, and it makes no difference how much hair you have left. And indeed, growing a little van dyke on my chin does give me some fun patchkeing every few days when I trim it. But losing my hair did bring one big change to my life. I now NEVER leave the house without a hat, no matter the weather. In the winter my head gets very cold, and in the summer, well a sunburned head is extremely painful.
I wouldn’t allow my son to be in such a choir for the simple reason that the cost/benefit ratio is too small. For all the time and money spent rehearsing, traveling, and performing, at the end of the day, a boy gets very little out of the experience. the Jewish choirs teach the boys nothing about music. They do not learn to read notes, are not taught anything of music history, theory, harmony or even about traditional Jewish music. From an educational perspective, they are a complete waste of time. Additionally, from what I understand there are huge costs (i.e. travel costs and costumes and other fees) associated with these enterprises.
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Dan Marek in New York on W. 101st St.
On the subject of Yissocher/Zevulun, can a non-Jew really participate in such a relationship?
mdd, it should be surprise that my formulation of da’as Torah and its limits are far different that yours. Be that as it may, I fully support the Yissocher/Zevulun relationship when the parties enter into it voluntarily.
Avram did your hypothetial yungerman start out in Kollel relying on obtaining the benefits, or anticipating going on them at some point in the future?
Avram in MD, I would have no such objection. But I would also expect the janitor in your hypothetical, to look for ways to get off of public assistance.
To all of you who nustify taking food stamps and other benefits based on the first Mishne in Peah, consider this: Talmud Torah can also be a mitzvah habah b’aveirah. Learing Torah can also manifest itself as navel birshut haTorah. Funny how no one EVER thinks about Talmud Torah in those terms.
@mw13: For a long time I’ve harbored the irrational fantasy of winning the Megamillions jackpot. Call me a kid at heart, but it’s a fantasy of mine. In every scenario that I imagine my life were I to win, it includes me working. Perhaps not as a lawyer, but I would certainly continue to work in some fashion. I may decide to go back to school, but it would be do something else as a job, like teaching. As to retirement, it’s the reward for work done during one’s life. But I well recall an old kibbutznik I once met. He was then 83 years old and still awoke at 5:00 a.m., went to the first minyan on the kibbutz and was in the fields by 7:00 a.m. I asked him if he wasn’t tired of it all already, didn’t he want to rest? His response was: “Nishan bakever, harbeh yoter mimah shetzarich” we’ll all sleep more than we need to in the grave. An interesting perspective. Personally, I greatly admire those retirees who devote themselves to volunterrin work. And indeed working if far more important that learning, at least for the overwhelming majority of people. It’s a mistaken ideology to say otherwise.
MW13, it’s a matter of values. And while my citations are subject to other interpretations, the point I wanted to make is that in G-d’s natural order, after Adam comitted original sin, is that one works to earn his living. DH’s comparisson of this issue of milah is simply ludicrous. The Torah comands milah. It does not require us to sponge of government benefits to learn Torah. Additionally, remember one crucial thing. If the Orthodox community wishes to be beholden to government in this fashion, it will, invariably have to make moral compromises. What would the frum velt do in an election wherein the candidate who support a increase in benefits also supports gay marriage, while the more traditional minded one wants to cut the fat? Whatever the community decies to do, it involved compromise of values. I prefer to avoid the devil’s bargain.
Oh monarch in Israel, you have your values, and I have mine.
I don’t know if one should or need not be embarrassed to take food stamps or other forms of government relief. But I know for sure that I would be embarrassed, ashamed, depressed and mortified if I were ever, Heaven forbid, so reduced to the point of needing such things. Moreover, I would be feel like a horrible Jew; one who does not fulfill the basic injunctions of “b’zeiat apecha tochal lechem” and “Yegiah kapecha ki tochal, ashrecha v’tov lach.” I would do everything in my power to avoid taking it, and if, G-d forbid, there was no other choice, I would literally kill myself working to get out such a demoralizing inhuman rut. Other may feel differently, but that’s how I was raised.
Respect is not an entitlement. It is earned.
Are there any connotations attached to denim shirts? How about denim underwear?
“The apparel oft bespeaks the man.”
People, you all ignore the obvious. The primary cause for divorce, indeed the cause for ALL divorces is. . .marriage. Were people to not marry, there would be no divorce.
Never lie to children or decieve them. Tell then you are going away for a week. If they know what to expect, kids can be very resilient.
My truest love is chazzanut, but there is no market for it int he Orthodox world. But if I could do it again, I would explore academic Jewish studies. I would have made a good professor and writer, I think. I love law, but at 41 my passions are elsewhere.
Why would it be anyone’s business except the parties to the marriage?