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  • August 4, 2014 3:02 am at 3:02 am in reply to: Social anxiety #1033747
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    I am so sorry that you feel that you are not allowed to express yourself when only one of your posts is deleted. It has nothing to do with you or your disabilities. Every person has had some ideas that are okay, and some that aren’t, but it is important just to say to yourself, “I guess that topic isn’t good for klal yisroel right now. Nu, so I will go talk about something else.”

    Everything else you wrote has been posted and posters have been very supportive. They care about you and what you have to say. There is no reason for you to cut yourself off from them just because we have moderation on this site. I hope you will reconsider.

    August 3, 2014 4:25 pm at 4:25 pm in reply to: Social anxiety #1033744
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    Well apparently, every single topic or comment I posted was at once deleted. So an anonymous chat room such as the coffee room is biased in sync with the general public in terms of people with disabilities.

    I am very sorry you feel that way when, in fact, almost every one of your posts went through. Only three posts, which were really one post that you tried three times, were deleted because of the topic which had nothing at all to do with disabilities.

    August 1, 2014 5:01 pm at 5:01 pm in reply to: Social anxiety #1033741
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    Business1- thanks for the compliment but in reality the general public doesn’t like to let people with disabilites’s opinions count.

    August 1, 2014 2:43 pm at 2:43 pm in reply to: Social anxiety #1033738
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    Yeah me too, sounds like no one wants to read my topics, since they removed two of my topics from the coffee room. So that means that everyone thinks I am not intelligent/stupid.

    August 1, 2014 1:10 am at 1:10 am in reply to: Social anxiety #1033732
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    I know what you are feeling as I too don’t have any friends. However the only time I really talk to guys is when they ask me to do a favor for them. Why not offer a guy who you trying to be friends with, help with something if he needs it? That is a start towards maintaining a friendship. Ask business1 for advice on how to do it he is more equipped to tell you what to do.

    But I gotta tell you be careful on how often you agree to do a favor for them. Since I did it way too many times, and by the time I realized that they were just taking advantage of me, the friendship was already over for good.

    August 1, 2014 12:58 am at 12:58 am in reply to: Friendless #1057172
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    Patur Aval Assur- Can you please provide a translation for the quote? In the future, please include a translation if you post a pasuk or similar. Thanks

    July 28, 2014 4:20 am at 4:20 am in reply to: Shul politics #1024457
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    We all know that the person who is financing the shul, is the really the one who decides who gets to be on the board. He is the power behind the throne or in reality “the power behind the board”! He just tells the people privately who to vote for.

    July 27, 2014 7:14 pm at 7:14 pm in reply to: Friendless #1057169
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    Patur Aval Assur_ can you please provide a translation for that quote you used?

    July 25, 2014 4:14 am at 4:14 am in reply to: Social anxiety #1033726
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    Keep climbing- Just want to let you know that I know exactly what you are going through as I am going through the same things as you are now experiencing. The only difference is that I was born deaf (but now I can hear normally), so life is way harder for me unlike you.

    I also don’t get why our lives has to be this way, I always wish that I can disappear and start again, learning from the mistakes I made in this lifetime. But I do know from rabbis I have spoken to, that Hashem has a mission for each of us, our lifestyle tailored to carry out the tafkid assigned to us.

    Be Strong.

    Together, with faith,unity, and true friendship we can declare to our Commander-in Chief “Mission Accomplished!” and be rewarded with the arrival of Moshiach, and for the world to be united in REAL friendships. The kind of friends that we can always count on!

    I am rooting for you! If you think that you don’t have any friends, bear in mind you DO have a friend (me) since I know what you are going through as I am personally.

    July 24, 2014 12:54 am at 12:54 am in reply to: Friendless #1057165
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    MyTurnAtBat- I agree 100% that school can be a torture chamber, my school years was a complete torture chamber for me.

    Is there any way I can contact the mods??!!

    Write a post beginning with “FOR MOD READ ONLY”.

    July 22, 2014 1:18 am at 1:18 am in reply to: Friendless #1057155
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    rob1234- Haven’t heard from you since you posted. I am interested in knowing how you cope with issues since you were profoundly deaf as I am. Can a Mod pass on your email address to me ( or mine to you) so we can talk about our being deaf that is impacting our lives.

    July 17, 2014 2:04 am at 2:04 am in reply to: Toll Road #1023644
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    True, it is not illegal to use this method to avoid paying the toll. I am asking this from an Halachic standpoint. i would think it would be considered gezel daas( tricking minds or whatever this concept is) as by going onto a toll road, is like agreeing to pay the state to use this road and by diverting to the last exit before the toll plaza to avoid paying.

    I think that is problematic according to Halacha. I am sure there are other issues in Halacha from this method. Maybe one of the memebers who is really knowledgeable in halacha and Gemara can enlighten us if I am correct in this halachic question.

    July 15, 2014 10:02 pm at 10:02 pm in reply to: Friendless #1057154
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    Can anyone help me understand, why my parents are so against me having friends two-three years younger then I am??

    July 15, 2014 9:41 pm at 9:41 pm in reply to: Friendless #1057153
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    The Goq: I am always discriminated against my hearing. however I have learned that it is better not to report the discrimination and abuse to the proper authorities, otherwise, you’ll get into alot of trouble for reporting.

    July 15, 2014 6:30 pm at 6:30 pm in reply to: Friendless #1057150
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    Fiance- She doesn’t have legal power over me. At the start of some meetings, she reminds me of what the law requires her to do if I tell her certain stuff.

    July 15, 2014 3:43 pm at 3:43 pm in reply to: Friendless #1057145
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    business1- It seems like we pretty much have the same issues, probably mine more serious then yours. This “close friend”, i trusted him with personal stuff, and I discovered he went ahead and told people my personal stuff. So, it’s very difficult to trust. Yes, you are right I am very helpless as I realize that at this point there is no way of having friends as the “close friend” who dropped me a few days ago has a lot of influence over the guys and ordered them to keep their distance from me.

    Jewishfeminist02- I trust this therapist it took me years to find one that i felt comfortable with, however there are certain issues, I can not trust her with. Simple as that. She is forbidden by law to talk to my parents without my permission in any case.

    Shopping613- I am no longer in school. My situation is way more complex then you think. They make fun of my personality, they say I have an … personality ( I am not going to say the word they used) I always keep making the same mistakes, since I have a good heart and dont like saying no to people for favors. They caught on that I was gullible and used me as a one way friendship despite of all the favors I did for them.

    July 15, 2014 4:06 am at 4:06 am in reply to: Friendless #1057138
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    business1- I have a feeling that you are in my age range otherwise you wouldn’t say that 3 of your “friends” dropped you this year. Yes, people are impossible, I wonder why nothing ever go right for me, friends etc…. I always keeping making the same awful mistakes since i so badly do not want to lose a friendship. I guess Hashem has decreed that I have friendless and a very hard life.

    July 15, 2014 3:03 am at 3:03 am in reply to: Friendless #1057136
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    rebyidd23- What do you mean by online social networking?

    OURtorah- Thank you for your words of support. I try not to let myself to define me as C.I Boy but nevertheless, I know it is fruitless to as everyone doesn’t seem to respect me for who I am. For the past two decades of my life, every friendship I developed- was broken up either by the person himself or by other people trying to ruin my life. i tried to do things I know I can do, but the guys start berating and making my life miserable. I finally stopped playing sports etc…

    Speaking about tafkid, I don’t even know what God wants from me. AS a result of what’s been going I am not as frum as I used to be when I was younger.

    July 15, 2014 12:56 am at 12:56 am in reply to: Friendless #1057133
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    Thanks everyone for your posts. I apologize for the delay in replying as I was traveling all day.

    Bussiness1: in reply to your questions

    1) I identify myself as such since I know that I was born deaf and will be forever have trouble socially no matter how I can hear, and talk like a normal person. ( I don’t communicate via sign language)

    2) Most of my life, my diet consists of just mainly peanut butter and bread for breakfast, lunch and supper. I know it is not normal but I guess it is because my taste buds are much stronger then normal people have and as such can’t handle regular food. I have nutritional supplements that makes up for the nutrition that my body is missing.

    3) Yes, due to events that has happened to me, I have learned not to really trust anyone, so I am not as frum as I was before.

    The Goq: I do trust my therapist to a certain degree however I cannot talk to her about some issues as she has power legally to ruin my life. ( I hate when people have so much power that they don’t realize that the I want to have a say in the matter and to believe me instead of automatically listening to people way older then me).

    rob1234: I also relay on lipreading for communication. I agree with you that reading that book is not the correct method at this point. I would love if I can contact you privately since I know we both probably went thru situations in our lives that we don’t want the general public to know. Thanks!

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