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Mazel Tov to Shtusim on the engagement of his daughter!!
try groupme- not all parties need to have the app or even a smart phone- they get it as a text (so they have to be able to get incoming texts) but from your end its over internet/data
mikomos.com
*someone 😛
DY- I am very well aware of that. BUT if you get down to the actual detail about what you learn in school- that’s pretty much it. At least in typical bais Yaakovs where they don’t teach gemara. That’s pretty much all a girl learns is the HALACHIC reasoning- there are lots of obvious reasons- this is just the one that tends to be taught is halacha.
Correct me if I’m wrong but isn’t the whole point of marriage for boy’s so that they can fulfill the mitzvah of Piru’urivu? Pretty sure that that mitzvah doesn’t apply to girls.
ALWAYS- you never know what you can find out. Always Google, check Facebook, Instagram, twitter, LinkedIn (but make sure your not logged in :O) etc.
You’d be surprised what you can learn about a person
The only thing stalkerish is if you are signed in to linked in (they can see you checked them out) or you make/use a face account to request them if they are on private- that is taking it to far.
Ariele- incorrect. according to the article there is no shidduch CRISIS but there is a shidduch CATASTROPHE
As a “petite” girl in shidduchim I think if a girl is short she has every right to say no because of a guys height (same way a tall guy might say no because the girl is too short)
I’m 5″! I have every right to say no to a guy whos shorter than that- granted- if I’m wearing heels and hes only a little shorter then its another story- but its still all about comfort- and a girl has a right to say no to something she isn’t comfortable with. Guys can say no because of looks but girls can’t say no because of height? come on. talk about double standards.
Don’t know what seminary you all went to- but the one I did attend actually stressed that learner are NOT for everyone- and that you have to know yourself well, and what you can handle and that you are NOT any less or different for wanting a working guy- and that it takes everyone to make the world work. And yes, I went to a good regular bais yaakov seminary- maybe we just need more like this one- but they do exist
Shidduch crisis on this thread already- 4 girls to 2 guys…
(Not that I think it’s a crisis- it’s more of a pandemic than anything else)
I agree with sem613- don’t know where you are looking for girls- but we are here and that is what alot of us are looking for…
Also, most girls don’t understand that it has to do with age- if a guy who is 21/22 and is working and has been since they were 20/21- is different then a guy who is 23, has a set Seder, and works/ in college- alot of people don’t differentiate based on age (which they should) and just give a blanket learner/earner etc.
Adam3 and friend in Flatbush- keep looking- girls who get that do exist
first of all- it’s kinda hard to get caught with phone nowadays… its really easy to pretend you are texting or taking a picture of a friend etc.. and second of all- no i would not mind… i would prob be flattered ( i can not say for sure as i have not yet experienced this- that i am aware of)
Now that many esteemed members of the CR have resurfaced- Dare I bring this thread (of yesteryear/the way the cr used to be) back?
My question is for both Genders-
Is it “Normal” or “appropriate” for a girl to DISCREETLY snap a picture of a boy she might be interested in- say at a wedding- so that she may find out his name, age etc… and the same when it comes to a guy interested in a girl…
thanks the-art-of-moi… haven’t been on here in a while- or I wouldv’e responded to Trust789 🙂
trust 789- check last weeks yated- they had an ad in there for open houses 🙂 its a great place- but no need to repeat myself- lol hope you enjoy!!
writersoul- VERY real, I’ve seen it quite a few times… I even have a pic of it 🙂
Port-a-potty company: we’re #1 at picking up #2 😀
“G-d only grows things until they’re perfect… some of us didn’t take as long as others!!!”
I have the same problem! try Teen Boutique in Boro Park! (or for skirts, try junie junior)
I’m not saying I agree with it, I am merely supplying the readers of the CR with the schools official view on the matter, as opposed to only what they are being told by the politicians
All Brooklyn College students just received this letter:
Dear students, faculty, and staff,
Each semester, student clubs, academic departments, and other groups on our campus host events and invite speakers on a broad range of topics. At times, the issues discussed may be challenging and the points of view expressed may be controversial.
Next week, Students for Justice in Palestine is hosting two speakers who will discuss their views on the BDS movement, which calls for boycott, divestment, and sanctions against Israel. The event is co-sponsored by several campus and community organizations, including the political science department.
As an institution of higher education, it is incumbent upon us to uphold the tenets of academic freedom and allow our students and faculty to engage in dialogue and debate on topics they may choose, even those with which members of our campus and broader community may vehemently disagree. As your president, I consistently have demonstrated my commitment to these principles so that our college community may consider complex issues and points of view across the political and cultural spectrum.
Unfortunately, some may believe that our steadfast commitment to free speech signals an institutional endorsement of a particular point of view. Nothing could be further from the truth. Brooklyn College does not endorse the views of the speakers visiting our campus next week, just as it has not endorsed those of previous visitors to our campus with opposing views. We do, however, uphold their right to speak, and the rights of our students and faculty to attend, listen, and fully debate. We also encourage our students and faculty to explore these issues from multiple viewpoints and in a variety of forums so that no single perspective serves as the sole source of information or basis for consideration.
In addition, as I have said on several occasions, our college community values mutual respect and civil discourse. We ask all students, faculty, staff, and guests on our campus to conduct themselves accordingly so that Brooklyn College continues to be a learning environment where all may discuss and debate issues of importance to our world.
Sincerely,
Karen L. Gould
So it happens to be I didn’t start college right away.. but loads of other girls did and were fine!!!! and its not like smack in middle b/c the way colleges work is by semester, so as long as you are there to start the semester you are starting with e/o else
1) not at all!!!! 2)What do you define jappy as? some are, some aren’t like most schools….. and 3)my year the girls consisted of Lakewood (mostly bais kaila), Flatbush, BP, FarRockaway, Baltimore, Monsey…. and 1 person from detroit…… but they are not “close minded, Brooklyn types….” do you get what i mean? if not ill try to explain it a little better
Bump!
Mischiefmaker- hope this helps
mischiefmaker: 1st of all it is an AMAZING experience!!! The girls are all pretty typical, not modern but not crazy yeshivish either, more the “middle” of the road, but some can be a little more yeshivish etc then others. You come home towards the end of January, which is a great time to start college or find a job if you want because the work field is not inundated with young girls needing jobs. (but that’s not the reason why I went)You adjust pretty quickly, by the end of the first week almost everyone was fine, while all our friends in other seminaries were all just getting adjusted. and we did not feel like we were leaving in middle of something, we really felt like we got everything we possibly could have. They get the best teachers, they got the top teachers from almost every seminary, and the program itself is really great. Let’s put it this way, I didn’t go because it was a half year, I went because of the program itself and I feel that I got exactly what I went for. The teachers and administration were all warm, open, understanding, and caring. We seriously felt that we could talk to them about anything. 🙂 hope this helped!
Darchei has starting Monday. TAG and TAGHS will have as soon as their generators arrive, and the cleanup is finished, hopefully that will be monday.
Mischiefmaker- I know about a lot of those sems…. but lahav is my specialty 🙂 ….. if you have any questions I’ll be glad to answer them…. good luck
staff-wise, nageela is pretty much well rounded. i would not generalize and say that the staff is yeshivish per say, some are and some aren’t. You can get almost anything, sports counsler, lifeguard, arts n craft, waitress etc…
I agree with your view on Girl Zone, many people don’t go because of that. And yes, your right about the ra ra type. from what you’re saying naagela seems to be the one for you!! 🙂 i suggest that you apply as soon as possible though, (especially if you haven’t done jep before) people who have done jep before have a slightly easier time getting in and with the whole experience. GOOD LUCK 🙂
So I myself never went, but a lot my friends did and LOVED every minute of it. I can also tell you that a lot of my other friends went to GirlZone and LOVED every minute of that. but both camps provide two very different experiences. While Negila can be more “chilled” they do have crazy fun activities that everyone including specialties get involved in (paint fight anyone?)and there is no way you can NOT be involved with the kids in some way. While in the Zone, everything is always hopping; they are very into their activities. They have kickboxing, bumper-boats etc.In addition, if you are not a counsler, or directly involved with the campers in anyway then it is very possible to not be involved with the kids at all, (except your torahmate). All in all, they are both great places trying to show these kids yiddeshkite. They might have different approaches but they accomplish the same goal. Also in both camps you must be the age of “just back from sem” or older. Good luck and i hope this helped.
The_cool-jew: we need one with correct grammar AND interesting content. Right now the ones that you listed only fall under one or the other , not both.
Contrary to popular belief, Summer peach is not kosher! in fact about 2 years ago they came out about it not being kosher, because many people assumed all snapple is kosher!
in general, it would always be wise to check the hashgachos on everything, wherever you go, because it might be manufactured slightly differently in everyplace.
hope this helped 🙂
shopping/yentingyenta- I am writing this from memory so feel free to correct it.. I regret not saving my booklet with the songs…
and yenting- I meant about 2 girls hand in hand, the shabbos song, the mincha song….. (i dont remember the shachris song…..)
The sun will soon go down
the day will soon be through
theres so much to accomplish still
theres so much more to do
so join us as we lift up our voices
for when we pray our neshama rejoices
lets focus on the meaning
and then we can daven the tefillah of mincha again
we pause along the way
_________________
recharge our ________, uplift our souls
as joyfully we pray
so join us as we lift up our eyes
and our heart felt tefillos are sent to the skys
let us focus on the meaning and then we can daven the tefillah of mincha again
shopping- yup, I believe this was Tzivi’s 3rd year, maybe 4th
Yentingyenta and Shopping613- yes they sing BOTH of those songs….. and Beth is STILL there, she was just not there for like a year or two….. those two songs are from the first few years of raninu….
and although the song was WRITTEN that way…. we had a few changes that made it fit a little better…
Shopping – that’s the 1! I know my lev bais yaakov campers knew it from school….. their teacher taught it to them… hope it helps you find it…
Oh that one…. I remember it I just can’t remember all the words, and I can’t find my paper with it…… it was such a pretty song…..
Shopping- Raninu? 😉 tell me which song and ill write it out, I know all of them by heart…. lol….
I am…… ME!!!!! 🙂 sry….. couldn’t resist!
wait!!! yeshiva bochurim don’t wear colored shirts???? since when???? the definition of a yeshiva bochur is a boy who is in yeshiva. that’s it!!!! they wear white in yeshiva because thats the dress code- and they have yeshiva all the time and barely have off so why should they change for those few hours???? whose to say that once they are out of yeshiva they will still be wearing white shirts??? oh! so then they are not a YESHIVA bochur…. so this is all basic stereotyping…… before you judge- remember 2 things 1) people change.. this happened YEARS ago…. they were young and immature then… maybe they grew up!!! and 2)you are stereotyping…. even if they do wear only white shirts whose to say that the people who did this would even think or care about whether or not they are frummer then someone who is wearing a colored shirt….. YOU are doing exactly what they SUPPOSEDLY are doing… YOU are saying that they are not in fact frummer at all.. etc… and you are generalizing as much as the next guy…
sorry if this sounds mean or anything… it isn’t meant to be… assumptions, stereotyping, and generalization are my biggest pet peeves.
basic nutrition…. evaluate what you are eating….. it’s nutrients etc…. and how much of it you need or is excess….. there are apps that help…. and all those other diets might work…. but you don’t want to be on it your entire life and unless you slowly ease off of it while keeping a healthy (nutritional) and balanced life style you will keep the weight off instead of gaining it all back…. also you CAN do this on your own.. with the helps of google, books, and 1 of the many apps… BUT paying a nutritionist is an added incentive because then your mindset is “i paid already, i have to do this…” and they act as policeman… you have to answer to someone, it can even be a friend.. do it together and then you both will push each other….
Interjection- it actually happened- my brother knows some of the guys…..
“coffee addict
Once killed a Troll with his bare hands
mbachur…you have kids! Aren’t you “married bachur”?
1. I only have 1 kid
2. As stated before I chose this screen name for my ebay acct when I was in mestivta.
3. “married” and “bachur” don’t match (once youre married youre a Yungerman”
am I the only one that’s confused? i guess coffee addict and mbachur are one in the same. how did he change his screenname
when soda is illegal…..
oh, wait. that actually might happen….. 😉
I don’t know about any other place but the sem I went to did not brainwash us at all. while they did say that someone learning for a long time is great and amazing- they also STRESSED that it is not for everyone, you have to know yourself. They constantly said that not everyone is cut out for that life, if you are that’s good for you if not that’s good for you too! as long as it’s what is right for you. they also stressed YOU ARE NOT HIS MASGIACH!!!a lot of girls expect their husbands to learn learn learn, they don’t realize that there is a time to chill- that they are not there to make sure he learns, but to encourage him, otherwise you end up with a lot of built up resentment on both sides. Also a lot of us want guys who WANT to learn, there are plenty of guys learning now that are just doing it for shidduchim, I personally would rather someone who is in school/but has a seder/ chavrusa at some point during the day rather then have someone who is just in yeshivah for shidduchim. but I’m just one girl….. but i know quite a few of my friends feel the same way…..
cr shidduch idea!!!!! curiosity and LiveandLearn!!!! (or one of her friends!)
My teachers name is mrs….. she has another name too but I just call her plain old mrs….. I love junie b jones!
Says me- thank you! That’s exactly wat I was trying for in the last poem- I kinda just started with the first word- and did the word association game to continue through it-
It is a work in progress- it’s something new I’m trying out, please tell me what you think. All constructive criticism will be taken!!!:
Reading,
Calm;
Serene,
Relaxing.
Book,
New world;
Unexplored.
Waiting.
Page turner,
Fun;
Adventurous,
Suspenseful.
Library,
Home;
Quiet,
Safe haven.
Thoughts,
Escape;
Spread,
Lost.
Mind,
Concentration;
Logic,
Gears.
Control,
Order;
Exact,
Perfect.
Head,
Charge;
Boss,
Leader.
Group,
Together;
Connected,
Joined.
Friends,
Helpful;
Care,
There.
Family,
Sacrifice;
Together,
Strong.
Written in Junior High:
A group of girls; all together as one,
Oh great! Oh no! My life is done!
One in the center with the rest all around,
Who is that girl, they all surround?
That is the most popular girl in school,
She thinks she is very cool.
She is the QUEEN; Bee, some might add,
She starts and ends every fad.
Out of their ponies a single hair does not fall.
They are all too perfect; too superlative you might say,
They were not created that way.
Oh for goodness sake!
These girls will never be your friend,
Those ice cold stares,
Those frosty glares.