thanks everyone for your replies. Many of you assumed correctly that my BIL is a very nice guy. My sister seems really happy and he has a shiur also every day. About my parents, I cannpt tell them what to say or not to say. I especially can’t take my sisters side because that will make them disappointed (and maybe angry)in me too. I also don’t want to be disrespectful.

I guess it just bothers me seeing my parents go crazy. I mean, it’s hard for me bec. ppl talk about it and its weird. But I guess I wish they would be proud of him for doing wahts right for him. and for my sister supporting him. It hurts me that they are acting this way.

Now I’m getting all confused. I mean, its a little scary to think that my parents would react this way if it was me. I guess I feel a little resentful to them.I was thinking about this last night and I don’t want to marry someone who my parents will respect only as long as he lives like they want. Uch, whatever. I still have time to think abt that. Sorry. guess I’m just trying to sort out my feelings. Weird, bec i always thought the cr shoud not be for venting.