btdater

PBA-

1. Learn some middos, insulting other peoples learning abilities and an entire kashrus organization is inappropriate.

2. Even if you are correct, and the OU is questionable, going in the coffee room to vent is not the proper venue. I see you say that you called the OU, very nice, but did you speak with your own Rav before labeling the largest kashrus organization in the world treif? Have you ever met anyone affiliated with the OU? I have met several of the rabbeim and asked my questions to them directly, I didn’t hide behind a phone and talk to whoever mans the phones.

” People who wait 1 or 3 are not concerned with those rishonoim, and are merely being machmir within the opinion that you just need to bench and wash again.”

Do me a favor why don’t you go to washington heights, clap on the bima of breurs and tell them that their all over on the aveira of baser vchalov. Then while your at it, why don’t you stop by lakewood yeshiva and tell them the same thing, since Im sure you know they don’t wait a full six hours,

I am no talmid chacham, but one thing i am good at is spotting sincerity. PBA you lack it. You claim to be such a yeira shamayim but you spend your time attacking other Jews in the coffee room. Do me a favor instead of responding this and insulting me by calling me a moron or something, talk to your rabbi or open a sefer and learning something. I know ill be learning for you.

I dont think personality is throwing darts all the time. Im just saying some people are louder than others, some are more reserved etc.

as for funny questions asked about me:

Caller: Is he frum

Reference: I dont know are you frum?

Caller: what do you mean, I live in Lakewood?

Reference: So you can be left wing lakewood medium lakewood

I think the caller got the point.

Another time a caller asked if I was holy. Holy is not a word i use to describe many people, and probably nobody under the age of 60.

Of course what I love is when the girls ask, so you think hes for me?

My reference always responds – I dont know you.

The herem still applies, it was renewed.

That being said, lemme get this straight, a guy dates and dates and dates, never finding a girl he clicks with. After going on countless numbers of dates he finally meets one he likes and she agrees to marry him.

They get married and he thinks he left the horrors of shidduch dating behind him, but no. He has to do it all over again.

Only this time instead of giving references for himself and his family, he has to give references for his wife and her family.

If you think people asked a lot of questions before, now youd never get them off the phone

aside from the stupid questions, don’t people realize it is gezel zman?

I remember one such girl called my reference, spoke for half an hour with him and then agreed to go out with me. I turned her down in about 10 seconds because she lived a few states away and for some other reasons. She didnt bother to ask my reference once during the half hour conversation if I would travel for a date.

Another person once called and spoke to my reference for half an hour after which the girl wouldnt go out with me. I guess she liked my reference more than me.

Apparently it is also common to not give your name when you are calling about someone. That’s just rude. It’s one thing not to give the girls name but if you are asking someone to talk to you show some derech eretz and give your name

i agree with simcha man. I’m not a dentist, I dont enjoy pulling teeth on dates.

I understand some people are quiet but on a date i someone asks you a question you have to open up. A good idea might be to buy a book of questions, this is useful for talkative people as well because everyone has awkward pauses and certain questions can give you a great insight into someone.

im thin as a rail and i love cake. how come no one ever offers me any on dates?

I used to work with a single girl who was also in the parsha. Against my better judgment we became friendly and occasionally we would text each other. I realized I kinda liked her but we were past the shadchan stage so I would have to ask her out myself. I was all prepared to ask her out the next day when she texts me the question “do you like me,?” Im shocked by her bluntness and forthrightness so I try to dodge the question to no avail but eventually I say yes. She replies that it wasn’t such a tough question and we say goodnight.

The next day I figured she would be different at work. Either very excited to see me or extremely awkward, but she was neither. I’m quite perplexed so I figure I just have to ask her after work how she feels.

I ask her and she is absolutely stunned that I am asking her. Now I’m even more confused so I remind her that she asked me if I liked her last night.

Now she’s confused, she has no memory of asking me any such question.

So you probably are thinking her friend or sibling was using her phone- NOPE.

Turns out she was taking medication for insomnia. Some of the side effects of her medication were hallucinations and amnesia. She was basically hallucinating when she originally asked me if I liked her and she had total amnesia about the incident.

We went out 1 time and unfortunately I’m still single but Baruch Hashem it didnt work out with her.