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I work in health care & have worked in Psychiatry.

Yes, there are children who have ADHD & need medication. However, ADHD is vastly overdiagnosed, and many children are started on stimulant medications that they do not need.

There are other things you have to look for. If a child is not getting enough sleep (should be 10 hours for a younger child), they will have symptoms that are identical to ADHD & hard even for psychiatrists (who don’t have the time!) to distinguish from actual ADHD. Electronics use in children also causes many of these symptoms.

I suggest waiting and seeing if behavioral approaches work before rushing to put the child on medication.

When my brother was 7, the school wanted him on medication & my parents said no. The school had to find another way to manage his behavior. Which they did, and after a few years, he was doing just fine & learning well.

I love Trump

Really hope he wins

“It is mind boggling to me how completely devoid of historical knowledge Liberal Jews seem to be.

the Jewish people have thousands of years of experience in exile. We have been kicked out of one country after another. for the last couple of hundred years we have been fortunate enough to find refuge and prosperity in this “Medinah shel Chesed”

@Ben Levi: You are right.

Liberal Jews have unfortunately been pulled apart from the Torah, and most have zero knowledge of their religion. They are in desperate need of kiruv. They need at least to have some exposure to Judaism.

“The second those freedoms are compromised.
We are all in danger.
We are a minute minority.
Do you really think that Liberals will stand up and defend our right to teach Chumash the way we wish?
Do you really think they do not find ideas in the Torah to be contrary to their belief system?

Do you really think the heads of the BLM movement who have expressed their intent to destroy the nuclear family to respect out family way of life?

The only thing that differentiates the USA from most of the Arab world where a Jew cannot live.”

Absolutely. Liberals (mostly non Jews) are haters of religion in general, they feel that our way of life is wrong. They would LOVE to outlaw our religious freedoms. In fact, they are everywhere fighting to remove religious freedoms. They even have a problem with the 10 Commandments being posted in schools. They attack the institution of marriage, child-bearing, and normal families. They view all religions as “oppressive”. They are haters of Hashem. They love to publish hate speech about observant Jews.

You’re right, we need to fight to protect all freedoms of expression and freedoms of religion because these anarchist mobs will easily outlaw our way of life and then we can no longer worship freely.

@commonsaychel: Because when people in the frum community say something unkind to a BT or to Ger, or make them feel uncomfortable enough to leave the community, then this person harbors ill will, starts spreading lashon hara about the frum community. Bad press leads to diminished clout.

I think we all have to look at ourselves, as well as others in the community, and see how they treat people. Sometimes kids ask questions in school, they are made to feel bad for asking questions, they go OTD and spread lashon hara abuot the community.

I think treating everyone with kindness is key.

Second point—Obviously the more of us there are, the more clout we have. More numbers= more clout. More kiruv is needed to expand numbers (and retain people, retaining is so important)

It’s worth a shot

Hatzlacha!

jdf007: ” “The rest of the Jewish world has no clout either. I think about this, especially as today as my former secular university is going to give a humanitarian award to a very outspoken anti-semite. Why should it be just the frum world, why not all Jews???
I think it’s because in 3 or so generations, there’s no one to transmit values, culture or “religion” to them anymore. It’s one thing to have a parent or grandparent from the old country. But someone who is 15 or 30 today, who doesn’t go to Chabad and keeps to theirself?
I heard a Rabbi say that if all of this was lost in just 2 generations, imagine how easy it would be to get it back in 2!” ”

@jdf007
You’re right. The secular Jews lose all their “Jewishness” whether religion, culture, nationality, any attachment within 2 generations, because there’s no one to transmit values, culture or religion to them anymore. They are Jews too, like us, and sadly they are just completely lost without Torah, Hashem, or any values. They look for “meaning” in life and look for a place to belong. Many are scared to look to their own religion. They look at the goyim and other crazy religions. They join other crazy religions. They join “causes” like BLM, or other leftist factions in order to feel like they belong somewhere.

This is why kiruv is so, so important. And not just bringing Jews in, but keeping them happy in our communities. We need to make an effort to be especially kind to BT, children of BT, grandchildren of BT. Don’t talk about the fact that “someone’s parents are BT” forget it, who cares. We need to be especially kind to gerim and children of gerim, etc. Don’t make them feel uncomfortable. Don’t say things that might hurt their feelings. Because it leads to people leaving the community, hating the community, and spreading ill will about the community. They then write books, TV shows, movies about it and it is not good for any of us.

As a young mother with young children, I am extremely worried about the cultural rot and degradation of Western civilization that is occurring in the US. I am scared for my children. I daven to Hashem to make this craziness stop, make the country go back to normal.

I am scared for my children. The biggest danger is the Internet. There is so much garbage on the Internet, horrible things that corrupt and destroy young minds. Horrible lies all over. Anyone can write anything on the internet. Not only convincing people to go OTD, but convincing people to commit sins, to become criminals and drug users. The Internet is full of lies that pollute the young. Even if they go to good Jewish schools, who are their friends? As parents, we have to watch them closely. The children who go to public schools are basically being brainwashed by leftists who convince them that sins are good and moral degradation is good.

Right now, they are too young but I plan to keep them off the Internet for as long as possible, ideally until 16 years old or older, and even then, with limited and filtered use. There are applications that allow parents to see everything their child sees on the internet, which I plan to use. But I will keep them from having a smart phone, and off the internet completely until 16. They can have a simple phone without any internet.

The Democratic Party are becoming fascists. They are removing anything that they disagree with. Anything that doesn’t fit their agenda. “Anti-Fa” supposedly anti-fascist, is actually fascist. It’s fascist vs fascist.

In the past few weeks, they have destroyed countless people, their lives and their livlihoods. They got rid of Gone with the Wind.
Next, they will burn books. They will burn films. Just as the Nazis burned Jewish books, the Democrats will burn the books of so-called “racists”.

The problem is that currently, its hard to find actual racists, so they attack people who have committed some minor offense 20 years ago.

I’m an enthusiastic Trump supporter, and will vote for Trump this year. I’m registered Independent so I can vote in either primary.

I think it actually makes sense for us to elect frum Democratic candidates, particularly in Democratic districts. How did the horrible Ilhan Omar and horrible Rashida Tlaib get elected without any experience? They ran unopposed, in districts that are completely Democrat. The Democratic party wanted to showcase “Diversity” by electing Muslim females, regardless of who they were and whether they were qualified for the job.

We need more frum Jews in Congress. We need to run them in areas where they can easily win, unopposed. Especially in the Democrat party, because we need to shift them away from their ridiculous Progressive nonsense.

@m1994
You will find your bashert, trust in Hashem. Don’t be discouraged, take it one day at a time and focus now on Shidduchim.

Some suggestions:
1) You are 26. The older you get, the more difficult it will be to find your bashert. The younger you are, the best chances you have. Right now, forget all the other things going on in your life, and focus on your goal. Shidduchim. This is the time.
What age did you start Shidduchim? 18 is a good age to start.

2) Focus on your appearance right now.
When you go on dates, put effort into your appearance.

3) Expand your network, as mentioned above. Add BTs, geirim, older, out of towners, etc. Be open-minded.

4) Do you talk too much on dates and dominate the conversation?
I’m a woman. Sometimes we talk too much. We don’t let the gentleman talk. On dates, make sure you are not talking too much. Don’t interrupt. Let him talk about himself. Don’t Lead the Conversation. Let your date lead the conversation. This advice goes to all girls. This is so important. Let him ask questions about you. Dont ask (as many) questions yourself. Don’t appear too Eager or too Desperate. Let him lead the conversation. Let him show interest. Be quiet, be demure. Wait until the 3rd date to open up a bit, but still not overly too much. Keep it together.

5) Don’t complain or be negative on dates. That’s not fun for anyone. Don’t talk about your personal problems. This goes for both boys and girls.

***most importantly, daven to Hashem. Pour your heart out to him. Ask for help. Daven for a shidduch. Ask people to daven on your behalf. You will be a kallah, you will be an imma. Trust in Hashem.

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This corona is going to Be here a long time, doesn’t make sense to stop dating and wait forever

@CTL

Personally, I feel that the whole idea of delaying marriage until you’re “ready” or “feel ready” or “done with education” or have “enough” money (how much is enough exactly?) is the influence of goyisher culture creeping into ours. It’s best to marry as early as possible, for many reasons.

1) The younger you are, the easier to make a shidduch
2) Easier to have children, less fertility related issues which occur with age, and start to increase especially after age 25.
3) You have more energy for raising young children when you are younger. And if you start having children when young, then have more when you’re older, the older children help out with the younger ones.
4) Shalom Bayis. When you are younger, you can more easily change your habits to make a marriage work easier. I’m talking about the little things/habits that can annoy a spouse. The older you get, the more you become set in your ways, and harder to accomodate the differences with your spouse. Easier for a younger couple who grow together.
5) Research shows that those who marry younger are happier

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For many years now, the lab workers at the Wuhan Laboratory have been taking the experimental animals from the lab (the animals who are sick, etc because they are being used for experiments), and they have been selling those animals as food at the wet market to make extra money.

There’s a major lack of oversight at Chinese labs, factories and all over China which is why their products are cheap and basically garbage. So these lab workers are easily able to smuggle the lab animals out and sell them as food.

I would look into Project Makom. They have helped many frum Jews who have gone OTD to come back.

I’m seeing patients first hand. This is extremely dangerous. Please take this seriously. Stay at home. Don’t touch anyone. Don’t go anywhere. Too many dying. It is heartbreaking.

I’m a physician.
Coronavirus is 30 times more deadly than the flu. We are getting reports of increased risks to young people as well. Mortality is increasing.
The only way to stop this is to stay at home. Stay at home. Don’t go anywhere. Don’t touch anyone.

If you daven with a minyan, you need to keep a 6 foot distance between you and others, and dont touch anyone. Clean surfaces with disinfectant. This virus is very deadly and dangerous. We must take it seriously. Now.

KlugerYid: I couldnt agree more.

The difference between Trump and a Democrat like Sanders is that the Democrats are trying to change society into a morally depraved society in which Noahide laws arent followed, sodomy is encouraged and abortion is encouraged. these people want to teach children that sodomy is a good thing, they want to promote it. California even passed some kind of meshugah law in which they start teaching kindergarten children in public schools about “transgender”. I know we don’t send our children to public schools, but do we really want all children in society to be taught about this kind of garbage in schools? is that the kind of society we want? Trump may be morally terrible himself as a person, but he actually supports laws that make society a better place for everyone. Which is whats good for yidden and for everyone else as well.

i think buttigieg is the weakest because hes got no chance of winning against trump

Yang recently said “all Palestinians should have the right to return”

We can’t support him

I keep the plastic bags and reuse them to throw away baby’s poopy diapers
They sell fancy “diaper genie” bags but thats a waste of money, i just reuse the plastic bags from the store

Even if my children are the only ones in class without a smart phone, thats fine. They can bother me all they want, they know I am a strict mother and I don’t budge. I will buy them a phone when they are 14/15, but it will be a phone that can call/text only, no internet. As a mother, my job is to protect them, teach them to follow halakha, do mitzvos…not to be their buddy or friend.

I do not plan on letting my children use IPads or Iphones or any kind of “smart phone” device until they are 18. If you put filters, they WILL get around them.

Smart phones and internet are very dangerous for children. I am a pediatrician. I have seen what these devices do to children. I’m not just talking about yiddishe kinder, but all children. Smart phone use is directly linked with increased rates of depression, anxiety, and suicide in children. Not to mention increased risk of going OTD. The prefrontal cortex is not developed until early 20’s, and this is the part of the brain that Hashem made for judgement and making good decisions. Adult and teen brains work differently. Adults think with the prefrontal cortex, the brain’s rational part. Teens process information with the amygdala which is the emotional part. The CEO’s at Google and facebook do not let their own children use these devices.

I plan on giving my children simple phones that can make phone calls and text messages. No internet. The dangers are too great.

I am voting for Trump

however, I am just curious—-which of the Democratic nominees is best for Israel?
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