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bptParticipant
I know its a small consolation, but the problem is probably not you; its more that likely the guys.
If you are like most 21 y/o girls, you probably have a decent job, and have some $$$ set aside, as you have been working a year or two.
Contrast with the 23-24 y/o boy, who is just waking up to and looking for direction.
Sorry. We as a society have failed young women like you.
bptParticipant“If someone goes into labor during the siyum”
Good point. So let me ask you this: What will happen if the husband (of the woman in labor at the siyum) has a panic attack (due to the fact, that there is a good chance the arrival of his newly arriving child is being watched by 80,000 cheering fans), and panic-sticken husband insists on travelling to the hospital with the Ezras Nushim bus (that’s what an ambulance is called by the Hot squad). And in transit, HE is in sudden need of 1st responder help)…. will the EzNu team fly ito action, or will they call for the Hot Squad?
And we are worried about a $250k mechitza? This is way bigger!
bptParticipantI considered that. But since I have not bought the book (I’m waiting for the library to get a copy) I’m not sure how I will put your advise to use.
Not to worry, though. I think I’ll sink my hooks into the “mechitza and the Siyum” story. That seems to be the next big thing. I see a tie-in to the “Ezras Nushim” story, and want to get in on the action early.
bptParticipantWhen Purim is on Friday, its one of the best kabbolas shabbos tefillas I experience. The inner-carelbach in me bubbles to the surface, and happiness reigns supreme!
Too bad its only one day in the US, and only on occasion.
Oh well, lishanah haba…..!
bptParticipantI’m too unremarkable to be the subject of a stare. But if I were to be stared at, I would imaging the feeling would be a mixture of humilty and gratitude.
(followed by a bow and kisses blown to my audience!)
bptParticipantTerra chips (close 2nd is taco chips)
bptParticipant” How about a summary for those of us who didn’t? “
He runs a minyan that welcomes people who do not feel at home in conventional minyanim. Lots of singing, lots of food, and you can daven as much or as little as you can at the moment. Teens feel especially at ease with him, because he shows them true affection
In many cases, its the only place they experience this, so they flock to him like children.
I know two of his chevrah. Hardened dudes, lots of pain. After a week on the mean streets of NYC, coming to R’ Jungreis is like stepping into Gan Eden
bptParticipantThank you for seeing me on such short notice, Dr. Feif.
At issue this month is: the whole world (ok, not the WHOLE world, but the slice I focus on during my time on-line) seems totalty wrapped up in the D. Feldman saga (as evidenced from the 600+ posts the story has clocked so far) yet I thought it was time to drop the story, and let it fade away (much in the way Gitty from KJ did).
Am I a wrong for not keeping this on the front burner? Am I just too short-sighted to see the larger picture here?
bptParticipant” covered in my above budget. “
Then, I would say, you fall in the category of “doing ok”. If nothing else, you can at least see the bigger picture, and that, in many cases, if 1/2 the battle.
bptParticipantAs far as “the back of the bus”, I would say that the woman who is willing to sit still for 4-5 hours of speeches, does not want to be front and center in a mixed venue. The mechitza is something they want.
bptParticipant” $100 tickets….there are even higher priced tickets “
True. But there are lots of $18 tickets (like the one I bought) and many more that will be sold at a steep discount (like the ones for camps, schools, ect)
$4 mil is reasonable estimate. 5 on the outside.
bptParticipant“extra money…in case it’s needed on an immediate basis”
True. I consider this a part of the “budget”, and you are right for pointing it out. Unexpected expenses (new fridge, transmission repair, dental work) is a reality of running a household.
Advance planning can help avoid a lot of the angst
bptParticipantIs the mechitza necessary? Perhaps not.
But if it makes the women who attend more comfortable, its something that should be provided. They make plenty of sacrafices for the advancement of torah, and $250k is a small price to pay to make them feel appreciated.
And, Zahavasdad – You made a type-o. At $50, its a $4 million venue. Agudah is not doing this for the $$$ .
bptParticipantNumbers don’t tell the real story.
If you make more than your expenses, you are ok, no matter how much you make.
If you make less than your expenses, you are in deep trouble.
bptParticipantI read it. One of the photos were taken Lag Baomer (I was there, so I recognize it). To see how he interacts with his boys, is to see true ahavas yisroel.
Pass by his shul on Friday night, and you can hear it for yourself.
bptParticipantWow, do I feel for you. Pressure can break even the most optimistic person.
Still, if you can reach out, you can get help, so all is not lost.
My take? Here it is:
Help around the house – This is priority # 1. Whatever you can do to help things run smooth, will pay you back 10 fold.
Tuition – You can most likely get a payment plan so you can stay afloat.
Therapist – This, I think is something you can live without. You give the impression of someone with a real game plan, but with a landslide to deal with. There are so many self-help books out there (both on-line and in print) that you can probably work this out on your own.
Therapists will hold your hand, but (from my experience) never let you go.
You can beat this on your own.
bptParticipantComment removed by poster. (I had enough heat this month for a mis-spoken comment)
bptParticipantKleinfeld. You deserve nothing less.
February 22, 2012 10:26 pm at 10:26 pm in reply to: What country besides US and UK are you from? #853533bptParticipantThere are countries besides the US and UK?
bptParticipantGood morning, Dorothy…. you’re not in Kansas anymore
bptParticipantDepends what color your getting applied.
Pink = yes.
Red = uh, no comment
February 21, 2012 11:34 pm at 11:34 pm in reply to: Shidduch segulah � One I have not seen before #858639bptParticipantI can’t promise for this year. 2011 had purim on a Sunday, so I was able to stay up real late Shabbos night, and daven later on Purim day (to finish all 150).
I’ll try, but its a longshot
bptParticipant” quite Smart “
Not really. I thought, Google confirmed.
bptParticipant” some yeshiva bochurim are very into genes “
And won’t it be hilarious when they tell the shadchan they are looking for someone with good genes.. and she arrives after shevah brachos with a wardrobe full of denim!
(I know I’d find that funny!)
February 21, 2012 10:39 pm at 10:39 pm in reply to: Apropriate for older girls t o dress up??? #896944bptParticipant“cheerleader costume”
Gimme a Y !
Gimme a W !
Gimme a N !
What’s that spell??!!
Yeshiva World, Yeshiva World… Go, Yeshiva World!
bptParticipant” Sorry about that, Chief. “
I thought this sounded familar. Oomis, was this just an expression, or am I right and you are quoting Maxwell?
bptParticipantGive the impression to be in cahoots with other CR members / have multiple screen names, and you should see results in few minutes.
If that fails, use it as a platform to call other CR members nasty names (I mean, why pass up a good opportunity?)
bptParticipantits a good question, just with one spelling mistake:
G-E-N-E-S, not jeans. And its not just black / white; its height, eye color, hair texture, sports ability, ect.
bptParticipantBe smart; give her someone esle’s screen name (someone with a mild mannerism, no waves, nothing out of the box)
That way, you’re safe, and she’s at ease.
(but if she’s anything like my mommy, she already has you pegged, and is just messing with your head, asking you for the screen name)
February 21, 2012 7:16 pm at 7:16 pm in reply to: Apropriate for older girls t o dress up??? #896940bptParticipant” It could lead to texting… “
I know that joke, IS. (it could lead to dancing…)
Very funny!
bptParticipant” Sorry i find these jokes to be offensive. “
I agree. This has no place in the CR. It should be removed.
bptParticipant“There are barely any ‘real oberlenders’ left- all their kids wear shtreimel.”
Oh, do you have it down pat. Walk into Vien on 50th st (either bldg) and you can count on one hand the number of down-brim hats, and neckties.
February 16, 2012 5:06 pm at 5:06 pm in reply to: Who wants to hear my wacky dream from last night? #851733bptParticipant“decipher this”
Easy. You went to the <edited> site by mistake, where everything is sugar and spice, and nobody fights. (Thats what good bloggers are made of 🙂
Now, wake up, Brit! There are issues to be fought and argued over!
bptParticipant“NOT cheered up.”
That’s because you did not see all the fan mail we sent you.
bptParticipant” whether Yiddish is (still) a true Jewish language “
As long as there are gedolim who still speak it, I’d say its still a language that is distinctly Yiddish. And by the same token, English, when used to convey a Torah concept, is also (in a manner of speaking) a “Yiddish” language. This was the approach of R’ Yaakov Culi, in his M’eam Loez, so I would imagine it applies to the language spoken today, whatever it may be.
As far as feeling uncomfortable in the presence of a conversation when the language is one not understood by all present, that’s how I feel when I hear fluent Ivrit. If they want to include me, we either switch to Yiddish (Yerushalmis speak it) or English (most everyone else speaks that)
For the handful of folks that speak neither, we struggle along in my loshon koidesh / piecemeal Ivrit.
The point is, communication. Sometimes its easy, sometimes not as easy. But we get the job done, because we have a common objective.
Of course, I don’t have the same opinion about the Yiddish spoken in the Yiddish Theater, or by “Yiddish-ists”
bptParticipantmach LIO kes
mach LOI kes
machlokes
machloket
Tomato, tomahto, regardless how you pronounce it, its the same thing.
But to create a post about strife? Its your perogative, but I’d focus on ideas of how to build bridges, not barriers.
bptParticipant” do you understand Yiddish? “
From the OP’s choice of spelling,”mach LIO kes” (as opposed to mach LO kes), I’d say Yiddish speaking is a pretty sure thing for the OP.
bptParticipant“a machloikes-inducing language”
And Yiddish leads the pack in this race? Ahead of English and Ivrit?
Can you prove this, or is it just your impression?
bptParticipantOh, that kind of politics. I thought this was about Ms. Bachman, Ms. Clinton, Ms. Obmama.
Sorry. My bad.
bptParticipantGee. And here I thought it was all about us. Go figure :/
bptParticipantOh, come on. Whats the worst that will happen? You’ll get EDITED? Or pounced on by some rowdy CR members?
That’s what brightens our day here. Out with it, Brit!
bptParticipantTo be fair (even though, I’m an opponent of excessive makeup) properly applied makeup will make a pretty face, prettier.
But true beauty is in the attitude. I’m not saying a unibrow and ragged nails can be overcome by a cheerful smile, but to say,”I can’t go out, because my face is not made up”, that’s also uncalled for.
Funniest of all? When my wife puts on makeup/ eyeliner to go to the gym. And its an all woman facility!
February 13, 2012 10:16 pm at 10:16 pm in reply to: wouldnt it be great if israel attackes Iran on Purim #851340bptParticipantIt’ll be great, if we can wipe them out on the 1st volley. If not, it might not be so great.
I’d rather see this handled without a war. Y’know, like some internal revolution? Or a sudden computer shutdown?
That way, we get our problem solved without any collateral damage.
bptParticipant” weird flavors. “
No such thing. In fact, that’s what makes Terra Chips so special If I wanted taco or BBQ, I’d reach for one of the runner-ups.
But do tell, is it the Amazing Savings on Ave M or the one on McDonald?
bptParticipant” Terra Chips at Amazing Savings ..for $1.29 “
The family size bags? Or the single serving ones?
The TJ bag I’m talking about is the big one (where your arm can fit in to reach the bottom)
“the more you eat the more you get.” = Good one!
” Anything they make rocks! ”
Rocks? Wow, that some Bubby!
bptParticipant“Yes, I know that means that I’m a horrible parent.”
No, but it most likely means you live somewhere besides BP or Willy.
bptParticipant” our nosh habits “
Terra chips (or in this case, the off brand) and good soy ice cream is NOT “nosh”.
Its as important to your well being as oxygen. Or gummy bears.
Man, WIY, you need to chill and flex more often!
bptParticipantPay it. In the end, it goes back to the community in the form of HUD. If you fight it, you’re (in a way) stealing from momon hekdish!
bptParticipantI’ll vouch for Wolf. I’ve seen his siddur and his seform shank. This man is OK (green meatballs and all)
February 10, 2012 7:56 pm at 7:56 pm in reply to: Memoir called "Unorthodox" and its effect on us #868507bptParticipant“She is not dating him…Eating a crabcake, ect..”
Has / will.. You’re splitting hairs, ZD, and you know it. The outfit she chose for her interview tells you who she’s courting.
Eating traif may not make someone a shiksa. But doing so, and being proud of it, sure tells you where they are holding.
(but I loved the line, ” I keep a kosher home”, and keep shabbos when my son is around”)
Yeah, she really has this Judaism thing under control.
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