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Of marriageable age…
As in 15? 18? 20? And I forgot if you’ve noted it in a prior post; what gender are you?
Trust me, you ain’t seen nuthin yet. Don’t believe me? Ask a married friend or sibling if its as easy as it looks.
“And that’s me “being real.”
And you’re how old?
“another mock name and with a subtitle too”
No, this was intentional. Check the poppa=Mod80 and GS4 thread for the full story.
Gosh, I had no idea I was this policed!
Yeah. Check the GS4 and the Poppa=Mod-80 threads for the story behind it
You mean the name switch? No, I was serious. I thought it was really rude of me to take that name as my own.
Think of it; inadvertently, I was the cause of making people call me “totty” with a capitol T.
That title only belongs to the person who is truly you father or your Avinu Shebashomayim.
It was time for a reality check, so bpt it is. Its still my defining persona, but for the general public, it needed to come down a notch.
Believe me, when anyone says any of those phrases, you can be sure they REALLY do care, and to them its a big deal. This is just a backhanded way of taking the wind out of your sails, instead of trying to make a case of their own.
Don’t fall for it.. keep fighting!
Have her try this:
#&%$@!*&%
It really packs a wallop, when said with the right tone of voice. And everyone knows you mean business
Did I miss something?
“Lets be real here and not smart alecky”
I see your point, but agree with ImaOfThree. I don’t think the article was real; it was just to make charedim / chassidim look bad.
So rather than address it in a serious manner, some of us chose humor.
But for the record, I do not think 15 (or anything teen, for that matter, boy or girl) is marraige materiel
* Do a cost/benefit anaylsis, to see if its really worth it
* Think: Would I do this if ____ were here with me?
A good example of cost / benefit was learnt on the stairclimber. It takes a mere 2 minutes to gobble down a danish and milkshake (say.. 1500 calories?)
It takes 20 minutes of really hard work to burn a measly 200 calories!
So.. considering how much time / effort it takes to wipe your slate clean, is it really worth the 2-5 fleeting minutes enjoyment of an averah?
OK, now that lunch is done, let’s see what I came up with:
Making a true friend is very similar to defining a true friend. Once you’ve defined one, you can see how many you have, and go about getting new ones (you can never have too many friends)
I’ve always thought of three ways to measure a true friend, but a new one just came to mind, from an article I read by Rabbi Twersky.
1) A true friend is the one you call when you’re stranded on the highway at 2:00am and you know that he (or she, depending on who you are) will be ready to help or come get you, if that’s what it takes. You don’t have to wonder if you’re asking too much; you just know who to call, and help is there for you. It might be all you need is a sypathetic ear, but when you need someone, that’s who you call.
2) A true friend is one that you ask, “what’s wrong” before they ask for help. You don’t need to be asked; you can tell from their face / voice that they need to unload, and you telling them that you’re there for them is a sign of a true friend
3) A true friend is the one that, while / after getting help from them, you walk away with the feeling that YOU did THEM a favor (and not the other way around)
4) A true friend is someone who does not mislead you into thinking that you’ve acheived all you can, and thereby stunt your true potential. A true friend is supportive of your goals and aspirations, and helps you get to where you want to go. Be it ruchnius, gashmius, carrear, whatever. A real friend helps you go higher, and is happy for you when you reach your goals.
(This is from Rabbi Twersky’s article)
And if this sounds like a reciepe for a good spouse, its because all of the above is true of that arena as well. (just that you’re of opposite gender)
” so is there a mazel tov? “
Not yet. From the way things look now,we’re still 18 months (give or take) away from anything significant. But when there is, the CR will be sure to find out!
That said, I really hope to hear from you (and all the other in-parsha singles) much sooner!
“stop claiming representation of all the good folks in Bedford-Stuyvesant”
Oh, no. I think you’re doing a fine job so far. The only piece of the puzzle I’m still stumped on is whether Bed-Stuy is a nod to your Williamsburg roots, or Crown Heights locale.
(Unless, you’re a brotha, from a different tribe, which I somehow doubt)
Here is fine (in fact, I prefer it to be done here, as you’ll soon see)
I would like to have my name changed from BP Totty to bpt (lower case)
It just occured to me a few days ago, that its rather presumptuous of me to take the title BP Totty (Capitalized, no less), when there are thousands of other fathers in BP.
(I’d still like to keep my existing password, though)
Done
Thanks, Bed-Stuy.
This one takes some thinking, so let me tackle it during lunch.
Regardless of who you really are, can one of you check into an e-mail I sent to the “contact us” at YWN yesterday?
It was concerning changing my screen name.
(I tried sending it to [email protected] but that kept bouncing back)
They can also finally move up from hi-risers to furnature that befits their new status……
Simmons Bunk Beds!
Thanks, Daas, for the seal of authenticty.
Used to; don’t anymore. (Shidduchim, you understand)
Unless Dockers count as jeans
“she has inappropriate friends, we cant be friends.
she, unwilling to change, said ok.
do you think i acted appropriately?”
Yes, you did. She made the move to put a wedge between the two of you. Even after you offer to get her back on track, she says no.
That’s not a friend. That’s a 50 lb weight, chained to your ankle. It’ll sink you both.
Get out while you can, but make it clear that she is always welcome back, if she comes clean
“I’m still 21”
That’s what I suspected all along.
Ok, now lets get back to our 15 year old chosson / kallah:
* For the honeymoon, we can send them to Great Adventures.. and they can ride on the “big” roller-coaster!
* For the sake of sholom bayis, they can take turns choosing which flavor of SuperSnacks to buy for recess
My generation called the grandparents Babby ____ and Babby ______ (same went for the one zeidy that we had, even though there was only one zeidy)
My kids simply refer to their grandparents as Babby and Zeidy even though there were sets of both (only a pair and a babby left now).
I’ll insist that my grandchildren (I’H) call me Zeidi ____, as the person I’m named after never lived to hear the name Zeidi from anyone. Its the least I can do for him
“BP Totty got it right”
No, I’m not a Novi. But I do have a rolodex full of friends, just like the one you described.
Fight? Like cats a dogs. Argue? Like we’re about to draw a line in the sand. But pals till the end. And each of us would crawl across broken glass to help one another.
“3 kids by 21?! “
Maybe she had triplets at 21?
Maybe she had them at 20, 22 and 24, but is still “forever 21”?
(not that we’d assume anything else than now and forever 21, Best Ima; we’re just talking theoreticaly..)
I’d talk about what you’ve been doing in the past 2 years. Not “who have you been dating”.
Travel experiences, schooling, carrear advancement, ect. That will show growth and maturity. Each of you remember the “old” selves; focus on your “new” selves
“care must be paid to cleaning the teeth and the braces”
Keep wishing. Lucky is the parent whose teen remebers to brush at all.
We’re gonna ask little Mrs Kallah to brush dilligent each month?
” maternity uniorm “
That’s funny!
I’m not done yet:
* The bridal registry = American Girl and Scribbles
* During sheva brachos, they can go apply for YouthCore
* Instead of newly leased car, they can get his/hers inline skates
* Rabbonim will need to address if braces are a chatzita
” this is the type of relationship that you shud never make!! “
I think what Winny 1 meant is, no matter how many ups and downs / rough spots you hit, you’re still friends.
p.s. – When we start a “What does it take to make a friendship” thread”, please let me know. I’ve got more to say on that topic than I do on the current one.
Eclipse –
Please reassure your new inductee that, despite the business the CR gave the folks in yesterdays “traif pizza” thread, we really are not pitbulls. They picked a fight and we fought back.
Ask the new member to introduce themselves as Eclipse’s guest, and we’ll roll out the welcome wagon!
Then again, if they do marry at 15, they could study for the Regents together!
Plus, they would each have a whole slew of excuses as to why they are late / could not complete assignments / are wearing what they are wearing, ect.
I’d not heard about this letter (hoax or not) but I did read the “I have a dream” speech in the prospect park skating rink.
Its a very eloquent speech and if nothing else, it should be taught, so kids can see how one can take an idea and truly bring it to life
(Not that yiddishkeit is short on well written pieces, but if you need to teach something secular, I suppose MLK is as good a choice as any)
” 8th Avenue “
Are you kidding? 8th ave? Now I really think you’re making things up. 8th ave has’nt seen a “dominicks” (or anything not Oriental or Halal) in years.
Give it up, Flatbush. Besides, the kids should be home from school any minute now. No sense in letting them catch you on the computer.
Never heard of this, and I’ve heard plenty.
Besides, I can’t even think of where in BP could you find a non-kosher pizza place. That, and for about $10 you can by the frozen stuff.
No, I think this a total red herring
I always thought it was because people feel like they were being measured in terms of “you’re X old, and that’s all you have to show for it?”
My take? The smallest among us have already accomplished greater milestones (learning, commitment to yiddiskeit, chesed, ect) than the the average nocri can expect to achieve in a lifetime.
We have nothing to be ashamed of, considering our scorecard.
Very funny!
People, what’s with the “goyish” names? Stam a goy?, And yesterday’s Shaigetz? Its your choice, but realy… is that how you see yourself?
Oomis –
I know its off topic, but you MUST go over to the joke thread, and scroll up a day or so, till you get to the “1st, 2nd, 3rd” list. I read it yesterday, and its right up you alley (I found myself relating to almost every one on the list, to some degree or another)
” Babylon editing sane and kosher views to fit their motive. “
So? There are plenty of sites that will welcome whatever it is you’re trying to post. The Mods don’t feel (based on what they see and read from other members) that your views fit the YWN mold.
Besides, this is the CR, not some Washington think tank. We like simple things (shidduchim, cc cookie recepies, latest nail polish colors.. y’know..things that matter!)
Sorry, I feel your fustration, but YNW is a private party, and is subject to house rules. We all play by them, and its pretty much evenly applied (at least from what I can see)
“first time I’ve ever seen someone refer to Boro Park as “out of town”
I’m thinking global. Besides, Goq could be from LA or Lakewood (or even Flatbush), and that would make BP a foreign country.
And not to worry, Goq. My table is THE place to be at a kiddush. If you’re not there for davening, you’re bound to gravitate towards it once the party starts.
I’m safe. Who would want to hijack me?
And Sac, while you’re basking in the aura of fame, take your trophy off the mantle and scratch out the word “dubious” becuase the comment you made on the “house keeping” thread was a real winner. (the one about doing things yourself to build a relationship).
That kind of attitude is what will get you engaged and keep you happily married. In fact, consider keeping it handy, so you can hand it over in exchange for the ring.
The question is, Torah is a matter of the mind, not the hands. Yet there are many places that link torah and hands. Why?
I rarely have a problem, as I rarely run afoul of the “content filter”.
On the occasions when I do, I just move along. Its their sandbox, and I’m here because I like the company that the “moderated” site attracts.
If I wanted “anything goes” there’s no shortage of places to go.
” LET IT GO and live a wonderful life with your bashert. “
I would only add, let it go, and have you and chosson read some of the other threads. There is much to be gained from reading the combined knowlege that is to be found here.
If “out of town” means BP, and you happen to land in our shul, you won’t have a problem. We make it our business to seat all newcomers (and we have the space to accomodate, so it not at someone else’s expense or inconvenience)
” fully equiped with all sort of stuff in life. “
I wish. But you do pick up something along the way, after you’ve done the mileage I have (and this can be said for most of the senior CR members..I just have a knack for putting it in written form)
Kugel and mashkeh? –
Hmm… barring a kiddush, mashkeh only comes out on Friday nite, so timing may be a bit tricky.
Not that I’m looking to chase guests, but where did this comment fit in this thread? Did I miss something?
If anything, I’ve seen where couples start to “look alike” after a number of years, but I always attributed that to facial expressions they pick up from looking at each other for so long.
They don’t really look alike, but the mannerisims, stances start to overlap, so there’s a sense of “similarity”
But for the absence of this to be a deal breaker?
Puleeze!
Oh, and you can keep the award.. chances are, you’ll earn it for something else!
Semantics, but I know what you meant in either case. I spend a great deal of time in Willi and CH (BP is no rayeh; we’re the melting pot / launching pad for people who are still undecided)
And for what its worth, I must have some CH in my blood, as I feel more at home there than anywhere else. If only I could get used to the yiddish with the non-Galitzaneh accent!