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“I’m good at thing that need precision work or patience”
Wow, are we polar opposites. I bake oat bran muffins. From taking the ing. out of the fridge/cabintes to washing/drying the mixing bowl and putting the stuff away, under 20 minutes.
And in much of those 20, the goods are in the oven. And I get 12 of them for the effort.
Minis (or the amuses) take how long?
“name that tune thread”
I was going to say Ray Charles (did’nt bother googling it, that’s how sure I was).
But I’ll bet you’re right.
True story:
Someone called my wife for info about a girl, (Just so happens, I knew the caller and the young lady in question as well.)
Basic info, all the relevant details, then she askes, “is she a Heimisher girl?” To which my wife says, “what do you mean by Heimish?”
Caller says, (I kid you not):
“Is she the type to only serve chicken soup on Friday night, or would she serve vegetable soup as well”
And we wonder why we have a shidduch crisis.
“but some may take losing a limb over losing a child. “
Every parent worth the air they breathe would do this.
Yes, I meant the pain of 2 similiar experiences. Loss of life is not an “emotional” one. Its an irreplacable one.
And I could never put myself in someone elses shoes on emotional pain. All I meant is, I think (hope?) I could bounce back from an emotional setback easier than from a physical one, because of how I look at life as a whole.
I’ve touched bottom several times (in both the personal and professional arena) and instead of throwing in the towel, I took stock, recovered and tried again, all the while, making sure not to repeat the same mistakes twice.
Cut to the chase, Yoyo.
Ask them how much $$$ they are offering. Then ask for 20% more, just to see if they’re serious.
(its the only answer that’s appropriate to the question)
Unless, the talk is along the lines of “you need to start acting like a young adult, becuase sooner than you think, you’ll be in shidduchim”
But real shidduch talk? At 16?
Gimmie a break.
Love to.
What’s your BMI? (if you don’t know it, you can get it on the web).
Once you know that, you’ll know if you need to lose 10 lbs or 110 lbs (or something in between)
I post something as bland as boiled chicken, and I got 2 people after me?
Tough crowd, this CR.
I want my mommy!!
# 4 –
Tell them to stop looking, as I’ve got the only woman out there with “alleh malles”, and she’s not available at any price.
Ok, serious. Have them look up “Johnny Lingo’s 8 cow wife”, and they’ll see how to find what they seek.
If they can’t understand the story, they’re not ready to date
I hope this pastes right (its from Devorim 30:19)
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As nuts as it sounds, I think I could overcome an emotional whack sooner than a physical one. If someone were to lose a limb, that’s not growing back.
If someone loses an emotional battle (scars and all) a good friend can get you back on your feet much faster that Phys. Rehab. can from an accident.
Like things physical, staying in shape emotionaly (reading positive things, thinking positive thoughts, ect) can help prevent damage from occuring in the first place.
” does your family consist of girls only?? “
Not sure where this was coming from Shimmel, but here what I meant.
People who enjoy cooking are usually married because:
Women – they love to patchkeh, the more complicated the reciepe, the better.
Men – its so much safer to just cook the way you like it, rather than navagate the minefield you’ll surely be walking into if you try to suggest a change.
Which is not to say, men can’t cook real good food, but its not a passion, its a means to an end
Singles (boys in particular), on the other hand, just eat what can be made in as short a time possible (or they’re eating by someone else).
Hence the guess that 1Day is married. There are always exceptions, and I guess 1Day is one of them.
“after 34 years of marriage, my husband STILL opens the door for me. “
I take great pride in treating my wife like the royalty she is, but Oomis, your husband takes the cake.
I’m having boiled chicken for lunch today. How’s that for non-confrontational?
Ok, now that I’ve done my part, lets see what else is out there in the CR.
” I actually enjoy cooking “
Then you must be married, right?
“pitchers and catchers aren’t too far away!).”
Never thought of it that way, but now that you mention it, it also means the cycling season is right around the corner!
Whoopee!
“oy va voiy”
Nain, OneDay, dus iz tzi Hingarish.
Lomer blaben mit “Gevald!”
Maskim?
I’ll head over to Mom to watch it, if my kids want to. Otherwise, I’ll Google the commercials on Monday (as that’s all I really find interesting)
Maybe you’re part of the sandwich generation, so you’re remembering actually doing something, when you had a free moment (or lapse in judgment).
From what I hear, the boys live like royalty (ok, the royal stable is probably closer to the truth).
Funny thing is, I’m told that sem girls are expected to help the hostess, bring a gift, entertain the kids, ect.
Try getting that from a boy doin’ his 12 in EY.
Sorry.. I’m too busy chasing the “perfect people” award
I wanted see what I’m missing to reach the upper ranks.
But from what I’m reading, it looks like I’m not that far off.
” Aleh alei”? Gutenyu
1Day, oooh hust de mir git g’chapt. Eech hub nisht g’hert dem ois-zug “G-tinu” zait main Babbe’s yohrin. In mir reddin k’mat 12 uhr t’urik.
(yoh, ze iz g’vain a Lutvak, but I can’t change history)
“When I was in the dorm in yeshiva”
“When” is the key word, Feif. In my days, we did all sorts of things like this too.
Today’s crowd? They order in from Esti Hanna and Jerusalem Steakhouse (or whatever the EY equivalent is). Highly doubtful the majority is cooking).
Yossi –
This one, I gotta do in English.
The only way to really learn the lingo is to hang out with Yiddish speakers. And in today’s market, that means Chassidim. The rest of us speak it, but not enough for you to really pick up all the nuances.
Forget online, forget Rosseta Stone. Wanna speak like a brotha’? Make yourself at home in the sheeble. Give it 6 months to a year, and you’re in.
using the expression “you know”
Perhaps you were in the car with Matisyahu?
“EXACTLY what i needed to hear”
make no mistake, we all need to hear it.
Funny thing is, I had this typed up a week ago, so I guess timing is everything.
“tzu”
Zeist! S’haibt shoin uhn. Tzi.. TZI … TZI!
Saphirre, m’stameh, zent eir a balbateshe shtain’dle. (get it.. Sapphire = Shtain’dle)
Obber TZU?
Vey iz mir!
” Can I come over for some Herring and mashke? “
Any time / any shul. Look for the table where the action is at, and that’s where you’ll find me. And the invitation is open to one and all, young and old alike.
Um, almost anyone. For the skirt-wearers, your table is upstairs, loaded with cut up fruits and veggies made specially for you!
” goat on water skies “
WHAT does this mean?
I’m pretty much ok with slang/ teen / code words when spoken, but only amongst your own peer group.
Seeing people write in text-hand drives me nuts. I know at some point in time, people paid per charachter, but those days are gone, so can we please stop with the abbreviations?
Git morgen. Mir hub’n shoin g’hat etlecheh threads in Yiddish, in es g’doet 5 seconds biz mir veren tzekrigt tommer alleh alai Yiddish iz ungenemen, odder nor Galizianer.
In tommer mir darfen soivel zahn litvisheh Yiddish, ver ich zeier nervaiz!
“Oneg Shabbos herring”
Yes, I had that one too, but forgot what’s inside. We’ve still got 3-4 varieties to try before going back for doubles
“a healthy kiddush”
You make a good point, and one which I’m a fan of. Still, the “bad” stuff is what makes a kiddush, and its also why the fatty heart-stoppers are served in small portions. Think the serving size of mashkeh. No one is saying its as healthy as milk or OJ, but no one’s saying you need 8-10 oz per day.
As far as the melaveh malkah menu, that’s why Sunday (spent outdoors, hopefully!) follows Shabbos. Its how you pay down the bill you ran up over the weekend.
Life is good… enjoy it!
“I am doing so unbelievably well that I feel like I’m ready to move onto the next stage in life”
Does your healthcare professional feel the same way? If so, consider making one of the dates a joint visit. If he can handle that, you know you’ve got a winner. If he hears the clean bill of health from a pro (as opposed to a panicky parent) he’ll know how to handle the situation.
As far as your not being able to believe that anyone will accept you as is, don’t be so sure. If he’s the one, he’ll believe in you
OK, 2 months dormant is long enough. Here’s the latest installment:
His basic premise is as follows: true happiness for a human being lies in growth and reaching goals. He quotes Rav S.R. Hirsch; Sameach (happiness) and tzomeach (growth) are almost identical words, because the two are so closely linked to one another.
To illustrate his point, Rabbi Twerski uses two examples:
Lobsters are soft and squishy, yet have a hard, rigid shell. So what happens when the lobster grows to the point that they outgrow their shell? They shed them, and grow a new, larger one. And when they outgrow that one, they grow a new, larger one, until they reach full size.
His other example is the salmon. Hatched in a river, the salmon swims downstream and into the ocean. After spending a fixed amount of time there, they swim back upstream to the same spot in the river they were born in, and lay eggs to hatch the next batch of salmon.
Swimming upstream is very hard. And no one could blame the salmon if after trying their hardest, they made it 75% of the way back, and then gave up.
So keep trying and keep growing!
” I liked the wasabi. “
Whew! I was afraid I was the only adventurous one.
“popping a Prozac whenever your’re having a bad hair day”
Is that the trick? And to think, my Mrs invests $100s of Benji’s in trips to the shaitelmacher.
Too bad she’s not wise to the new way of problem solving
Are you sure the boy (and his family) have done 100% full disclosure of their past? And just how big a “mental health issue” are we talking? Was it medication to calm your nerves during a challenging stage in life? Or is it medication that you need to be on daily?
Sad to say, the world we live in is a pretty small one, so if its something that was really over the top, chances are the shadchan, his parents, or he himself already know, so don’t let it eat you up.
That said, by the time you see “the question” on the horizion, be sure you tell him. Nothing sinks a ship faster than withholding info from your spouse (to be)
The problem is, 1Day, you’re expecting objectivity in a marketplace that awards the most points for things that mean the least.
In looking back 10-20 years, people see things for what they truly are, but right out of the gate, its almost impossible.
I can relate to much of what you said, but I’ve got hindsight to rely on.
Still, its refreshing to hear this attitude from someone else! Don’t let up. Keep on sounding the voice of reason and people will get the message. If there is one thing I’ve learnt from the CR, its this:
Many people see your message and many get it.. even if they don’t comment.
Oh, all you women / girls…back to your side of the mechitza!
I mean, its not like we’re talking about a cream cake or miniature.
We’re talkin’ herring!
” just add-ons of the original “
Thats like saying a Acura is just a dressed up Accord.
No. The new flavors of herring are way better than the originals. In fact, I;m considering having a “herring station” at my kids’ kabbolas ponim, right along side the Sushi platter.
It makes as big a “raash” at my house as which dip to make that week. My kids are in charge of picking the flavor, and we debate the new arrival as compared to the previous week’s choice.
Try getting THAT sort of excitement out of matjes or shtigletz
I cannot believe that no one hear has noted the “new” herring flavors:
Wasabi
Honey Mustard
Danish (its a mix of herring and lox, with a great sauce)
There about 6-7 flavors to try. Schawartz’s makes them, Pomegranite carries a line up.
Am I the only fan?
A blatt away from finishing Taanis.
Thinking about Sanhedren as the next one to try
How old a boy? And how yeshivish do you want?
There are places for all levels and ages. Most camps have a website (or at least, clips to be seen on YouTube) so a look at the crowd will give you a better idea of what’s a good match.
I’d name a few, but the CR’s done enough fighting over the “how yeshivish” yardstick, so I’d prefer not to go down that road again
I was thinking a “sister to sister” event, but your ideas sound like a lot of fun too!
” Rabbi and Mrs.Gartenhaus from Boro Park. “
I don’t know Mrs, but Rabbi Gartenhaus is a real tzadik. I know someone very close to him, and he tells me of the chesed this man is involved in, its unreal.
It comes as no surprise that they would be involved with “situation shidduchim”
Its just like him, to go where the work is, and not necessarily where the glory is.
Rikki –
By the way, I hope you’re still reading this thread, becuase as you can see from the banter, “going off the derech” while nothing to sneeze at, does not mean a burial for your brother.
We all have our weak moments, and bouncing back from a hard fall only makes us tougher and more scratch-proof for the next go around.
Have your brother read what we’ve posted (and also look up a thread called cognative disonance, which aslo has a bunchof well written stuff on this topic).
We’re here to have fun, but we’re also here to help!
FYI – I have a friend who coined a new phrase to describe CBTs (he’s in kiruv, so its an insider’s joke)
Its FFB / TAB (frum from birth, took a break)
I guess even professionals need to keep their job liveley!
“Scents are 200% related to memories!”
Wow, Eclipse, its scary how well you have me pegged.
To this day (and we’re talking since the mid 80’s) if I catch a whiff of Lauren (the red bottle, with the gold cap) I think of someone who used to wear it.
So much so, that I won’t let my wife wear it.
“for their Mesivta program”
Are you saying this is camp is tied to Ruach Chayim in Bklyn?
Oh. Is there a difference? Unless:
* One means: frum as a child, went off, and then came back
* The other means: born to non-frum parents, raised not frum, then took root as an adult.
Or are they just another was of saying the same thing?
” You just need to get better at sewing. “
Great line!